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|3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by PERVENCHE(m): 5:24pm On Apr 02|
With all due respect, I have changed names and some too familiar details about myself out of respect for my wife to be. I know she likes to catch cruise on nairaland.
My name is Friday (of course not my real name) I am from the middle-belt. So please save your tribalism with all those una Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa insults. I met Grace(my wife to be) few years ago. It was love at 1st sight. She was everything and is still everything I had hoped a woman should be. There is this crass about her that makes her effortlessly better than any lady around her. My type in the true sense of the word. Tall, busty, curvy, sassy, elegant, personable and above all, she has a graceful soul. From the 1st date to this day, I still pinch my self like.. What in God's green earth is a beauty like her doing with a shrek like me.
But then, true perfection is always a utopia. Grace in all her graceful demeanour and aura, has a flaw; Indecision! More so, blind trust seems to be her albatross. (I swear she can even take Lai Muhammad's word to the bank) Though, I still love her; flaws and all. Her complete or should I say blind trust for me and Abigail became one of the reasons Abigail(her younger sister) has become an unending chapter in our relationship. Even though the blame of what happened squarely falls on me.
Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl. Just five years younger than Grace. One who expect them at least to be close and be like Asaba and Onisha but then...they are the direct opposite of each other. While Grace is the introverted shy person, Abigail is quite the extrovert and likes to make friends for Africa. It is only fair to believe their formative time in secondary school played a part in their output towards life. Grace likes to conform like most day school students. Abigail on the other hand, is the boarding school nightmare all parents hope not to experience: the deviant.
Through the 1st years we dated, Abigail was in secondary school and was never in the picture. For some odd or strange reason, Grace was not ready to fully commit. Not that I blame her or something. At 23, Most girls her age are like Alice in wonderland; they crush on celebrities and Chase childhood dreams and fantasies. The vile ones, if truth be told...tend to live out their hoė phase. At 28, I was already grounded to know what I wanted and it was Grace and marriage. Sometimes, you do all you can do but then life has a way of throwing in a curveball. More over, "No be say because I wan chop egg I go begin dey worship chicken." Sensing her shakara, I pulled the hand brakes on us and walked out of the relationship.
***2 years later***
Fortunately or unfortunately after letting go, Grace became incensed and started to want me back. I hardly do any social media at this point. Pride won't let her call me, so there was no way to send coded messages on whatsapp status to me. Being the introvert that she is and the all trusting graceful Grace, she started to send Abigil over to my place to bridge the gap. In just over two years, Abigail had changed and developed into a sexy hippie bohemian. Not that I fancy her in any erotic way or something. It's just that in our contemporary naija society where mostly everyone conforms, it is hard not to notice a bohemian.
Knowing I would do no better than Grace even with a million dollars and in a hundred years of searching, I mended fences with Grace and our relationship became stronger than ever. Over time, Abigail became a bridge between us. At first, Grace would send her over to run errands for her. After a while, it became a second nature for her to come over and fidget with my electronics. Courtesy demands you be nice to your in-laws to be and so I was nice to Abigail.
Abigail's posturing over time made it difficult for me to say no to her especially during them Nengi and Laycon days in the house. She was a fan of big brother lockdown. And would always ask for my keys to watch the silly show for she was equally as silly to be gushing over that vanity fair. Grace seems not have any issues with her coming over and I also did not for I was hardly home and God knows the sub was kinda wasting away.
There are some things in life that are not planned. They just happen! My boss at work then tested positive for Covid and we were all asked to quarantine at home. Grace still had to go to work while Abigail was always free because of the ASSU strike. Suddenly, I started to be alone with Abigail. She would come over "for big brother" around 9am and leave around 7pm in time to beat her curfew at home. It was awkward staying all day with Abigail. Grace too predictable, only comes over on Sunday. For some strange reasons, on Sundays, Abigail will never show up.
There were times, and I am sure it could just be my imagination, that she enjoyed teasing me. She would come dressed like a sister Mary Amaka from home but after a while, she would take her bath and transform into a Kardashian. Wearing skimpy cloths and heavy make-up. I tried to give her her space. I was in quarantine and therefore, had practically no where to go. I am basically the type that don't flock with co-workers and I hardly keep any friends except for Grace. I am not one to be neighbourly with my neighbours so I was stuck with Abigail all day. Humans are social animals and we tend to gravitate towards each other especially when we are alone with someone. Gradually, she won me over and I started to watch the big brother show with her. While she was rooting for Nengi after her Erica left, I was simply for Neo for he had my height. And the bond between us grew. God knows I had no vile motives and evil intentions. It is hard not to enjoy Abigail's company for she is a smart, gleeful and witty girl. While I do all the talking with Grace, Abigail on the other hand does all the talking with me and it was a welcome change.
*** D Day ***
It became obvious Abigail was not telling the truth at home. She would pick their calls and tell them she was in her female friend's house. And in the spirit of our new found big brother bond. We kept the secret. On this faithful day, it had rained all day and Nepa had struck and the plug in my generator was no good. The rain had brought with it a cool breeze and some magical thunder. Seemingly, we could not watch our show so I took a blanket because of the cold and buried my attention on my PC (laptop) re-watching season 5 of the game of thrones.
Naively, Abigail joined me and entered the blanket with me. I use the word 'naive' because I honestly do not want to qualify her as a minx. And I know she does not see me as a Justine Bieber of a crystal ball for her to be drooling at. While in that warm blanket watching the movies in such compromising position, One thing led to another and alot of that one thing opened up her Pandora's box and I... I ate the most forbidden fruit there ever was. There is no telling how wonderful making love to her was at the heat of the moment and there's no shame in the world that equates to the shame that immediately dwell and still dwells in my soul shortly after even to this day. There's a lot to blame our mistake and betrayal on. Could it just be the moment? the weather? the chemistry? the devil? (laughs) my opportunistic habit? Her feminine warmth in such close proximity? my placing a hand on her thigh and meeting no resistance? My foggy mind and grown erection? Her racing and panting heart? Her feisty zeal and deviant nature? My libido? Hers? My morals? Buhari? Herdsmen? IPOB? Sunday Igbahor? Dstv and big brother? NEPA? Game of thrones? Was she after all really a minx? In all fairness, she is just a little naive girl that does not deserve to be pilloried for my betrayal. As the adult, I should have known better and acted a lot better.
Climbing down from our lustful climax, we both knew immediately what we had done, the gravity and the implications it could have on not just us, but grace and the whole family. In the most contrite way possible, we apologized to ourselves and vowed never to repeat it again. We felt it would be better not to tell Grace or anyone and we agreed Abigail would stop coming over. I started to avoid Abigail at all cost. I did not just release cum after my despicable act with Abigail, I released every thing good in me and every form of happiness. I felt much less of a man and wished I had died as a child or better still was aborted.
I hardly could face Grace after. The more I try to ghost her, the more she held on tightly. It became awkward visiting their family house for I was not comfortable around them trusting and accepting me. Not for the fear that they would find out...just my conscience eating me up. I stayed away and made peace with my gross mistake. For over six to seven months. I did my penance and nothing happened with Abigail. I know I am in a better place now to make sane decisions about cheating. To give something back to Grace, I have vowed never to sleep with anyone till die. We know how cheating amongst married men is common these days. I no call Adekule Gold name oh!
Me and Grace are set to marry on the 17th of this April. The thing is...Abigail is her chief bridesmaid and preparation demands I see her most times. She still has a look in her eyes...dunno what to make of it. A look of blackmail? Of you could still hit it if you want? We have unfinished business kinda look? You should be paying a bride price for two look? I die inside every time I see Grace happy she again got us back to talking terms because of the wedding. Ignorance is truly bliss.
I have doubts going through with this wedding. Folks may laugh and say I chickened out because of the inflation and money, others might blame Grace. It may ruin Grace for ever. How do I do this knowing Abigail will always be family?
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by MejiLoyon(m): 5:25pm On Apr 02|
For those that won't read
He nack him wife to be sister.
That's all O.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by lilvicky68(m): 5:26pm On Apr 02|
Your problem too long I no fit read am..
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by DoubleBliss(f): 5:29pm On Apr 02|
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Bornsinner7: 5:31pm On Apr 02|
Baba you need to pay me for reading this.. even that year for school lecturer handout no long like this..
And to those who patiently perused through this literalistic piece.. you are the hope of Africa..
Back to the matter!
The whole thing just look like a dobed piece or perhaps the op is just showcasing his writing skill..
Well since you've tasted the coochie of your beloved wife to be sister and you're feeling guilt.. why not confess your sins and be free again
Tell grace what has happened and make her understand that it was just a one time thing that you will forever regret.. that way you are saving your relationship and freeing yourself from bondage.. Abigail will be family again when you confess your sins
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by etrange: 5:41pm On Apr 02|
And he started by telling us his wife's flaws (one of which is that she trusts him o). Meanwhile, he's the bad egg here.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Kaylet: 5:42pm On Apr 02|
The long and short is you chop sister but we don't know about Grace.
Just that night won't have caused the chopping. One of you must have envisaged it before.
It's hard to tell the Grace but you must. So both of you can assist each you, I mean you and Grace.
|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Ginaz(f): 5:51pm On Apr 02|
Just pretend to forget , the truth will do nothing to help you at this point.
Stay away from your bride's sister ,that's all.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by danietohbadt(m): 5:53pm On Apr 02|
Omo X 1,000,000
Cold na bastard
Your third leg has done a nice job.
I love your write up, it shows you're obviously well read, if it's not fictional.
However, it's so painful to read all that has happened.
Whatever decision you take now is a Two-edged sword. It'll hurt at both ends.
I won't advice you call off the wedding tho.
But, you need to know this, Grace didn't deserve what you did to her.
You messed up man.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by GeneralPula: 5:53pm On Apr 02|
Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl.
Lol, as I see this, I don already predict ham for mind say nah fvck matter
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by ifytrik(m): 5:54pm On Apr 02|
Yeeee! The simple truth for this mata wey you yarn so be say you be bad guy, you bad pass bado, na only badest fit bad pass you and you no deserve grace at all. As for the wedding, b4 you cancel am put youself on grace shoe and tell us how you go feel if na you your fiance bang your j sister finish come still concel una wedding, abeg we don taya to de read suicidal news for nairaland so jejely respect yourself wed her to avoid story wey go touch heart o, i no won type r i p untop fine girl head again abeg
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Duplexxx: 5:54pm On Apr 02|
I don't like reading long stories
Sorry i can't help
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by chatinent(m): 5:57pm On Apr 02|
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Nobody: 5:57pm On Apr 02|
Marriage is not for the confused...
Many people are not ready for marriage.
Many people carry lies into marriage..
Many people suffer the consequences of their actions in marriage.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Peace081: 5:58pm On Apr 02|
Why didn't u rush to informed us when you were about to commit the sin?
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by bigpicture001: 6:06pm On Apr 02|
This is not a problem na...it gas already haponed long time ago,you guyz regretted it and never repeated it...
Abeg just move on and stop being too emotional joor. You be man abeg!
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by padi94(m): 6:08pm On Apr 02|
|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Warlord2014(m): 6:10pm On Apr 02|
PERVENCHE:She trusted you enough to the point that she feels her kidney could be save in ur hands...but u betrayed her trust.
It is good to have a conscious conscience , because that is the only way we can know when we are wrong ,your conscience is very potent and alive hence it is normal to be hunted by guilt.
Na just fornicate u fornicate, you no kill person.... now you have only one thing to do, don't ever break her trust again ...
Carry on with the marriage.... don't be a weak man.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by ngoziwrites(f): 6:22pm On Apr 02|
I just weak! The manipulation!
|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by ngoziwrites(f): 6:27pm On Apr 02|
This is a secret that you carry with you to the grave.
How do you expect her to live with the fact that you slept with her sis? That's going to be one hell of a marriage.
Don't just stand there and start looking into her sister's eyes. Have a confrontation with her, tell her you are sorry all over again and it will never happen again. Ask for forgiveness.
She is definitely not happy with you and maybe wants u or wants more or whatever, you have got to change how she feels about you if you truly want peace and want to avoid future threats.
Talk to her, apologize and tell her you love and will treat her sister right.
You need to apologise again before the wedding.
Don't even let her discover that weakness, she could use that to threaten you later. Just be man enough!
Plus, how can u say her weakness is that she trusted you? You are the bad person here, not her.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by KidDarkness(m): 6:30pm On Apr 02|
I'm certain you both enjoyed the lustful climax. Let's not kid ourselves, it will still happen again. Deep down you know the right decision to make
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Alphajunkee: 6:33pm On Apr 02|
Saying the truth is not going to help matters it's just going to make it worse. If u had confessed since it would have been easier at least to know if she would forgive u and continue or not and u move on with your life but saying anything now is just foolish. Finding a girl that fits ur spec would be hard so hold on to the one u got. Just avoid the younger sister and her crase and you should be okay
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by zagorakis(m): 6:35pm On Apr 02|
Readers are leaders remember
Readers are leaders remember
|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by luminouz(m): 6:35pm On Apr 02|
Since you are a Shrek, what else do you want us to advice you on?
You already said you don't deserve her na
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Michelle55: 6:36pm On Apr 02|
All this big big grammar on top say you knack ya wife younger sister?
The choice to confess or hoard the truth solely lies with you, when you were busy adding genitals and subtracting clothes we weren't there to play referee.
Carry ya cross nwanne! The kain wahala wey toto and preeq go cause for this country eh I never see.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by iRepNaija1: 6:36pm On Apr 02|
OP, you should let Grace go honestly. Things like this just don't happen. You wrote a whole novel explaining the lead-up to how you slept with your fiancee's sister. And the excuses you come up with to try and rationalize it, haba. OP, you had options:
1) Go to a friend's house
2) Ask Abigail to leave your house
3) Tell Abigail you're not home
4) Don't answer the door
5) Tell Grace to kindly ask her sister not to visit as often
6) You didn't need to share a blanket with her
7) You didn't need to put your hand on her thigh
You wanted it to happen. You wanted to sleep with Abigail ever since you noticed her body had developed. You had so many choices and you chose this path. If you're going to take responsibility, at least own it properly.
The point of being in a relationship and/or marriage is that you make the active choice of forsaking others for the person you have chosen. You avoid compromising situations like this. OP, you even said that you can't do any better than Grace and you still put what you have with her at risk. And what's worse, you are trying to blame her by saying she's too trusting. For goodness' sake, Abigail is Grace's sister, her flesh and blood. Who else in this life is she supposed to trust?
You're not providing any benefit to Grace but not telling her. You're just trying to protect yourself from the fallout and the cheating you committed. Someone who was willing to leave his then-girlfriend because she was allegedly doing shakara but you're forcing her to stay with you after you fûcked her sister. Nonsense.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by NobleDeSage001: 6:38pm On Apr 02|
My mind is telling me that this is a made up story. The accuracy of narration and the flawless expression is just too good.
Meanwhile, at about the time BBNaija lockdown happened, the case of Sunday Igbogho had not happened.
OP, you couldn't have been having sex with Abigail during BBNaija lockdown that happened last year and be thing about Sunday Igbogho that happened this year.
Fictional story, but you are a good story teller.
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by merieam16(f): 6:38pm On Apr 02|
MejiLoyon:Tankz man.. u just saved us from dat epistle lolz
|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by valentineuwakwe(m): 6:49pm On Apr 02|
Dont start wat you can't finish......just open up n tell Grace
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|Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Cerebellum: 7:01pm On Apr 02|
I can swear on BUbu'S left ear that OP will still knack his fiance sis cochie
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