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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Amarahly(f): 7:18pm On Apr 02, 2021
MejiLoyon:
For those that won't read
Chop highlights

He nack him wife to be sister.

That's all O.


smiley smiley smiley Thanks for the info...

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by tosaino95(m): 7:39pm On Apr 02, 2021
One thing i love most above me is that no matter the condition i do say unsayable.
baba say wetin happened and be free.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Nobody: 7:45pm On Apr 02, 2021
Omo this thread long pass river Congo grin op na wole Soyinka go help you read am grin

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Nobody: 8:07pm On Apr 02, 2021
I wonder what you are still doing around that family, you are about to create a generational problems between two sisters because you couldn't control your randy dick,the best and only thing to do is to cancel that wedding and totally cut off from that family. From your write up one could deduced you will continue sleeping with her and you ain't even truly remorseful else you won't have the eyes to notice how she was still gazing at you yen yen yen.Having said that,remorseful or not please stay very far away from that family and it will save future discord, hatred,envy,jealousy and what have you. Please cancel that devilish wedding now and run very far away from that family. mtchewwe

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Nobody: 8:13pm On Apr 02, 2021
Bornsinner7:
Baba you need to pay me for reading this.. even that year for school lecturer handout no long like this..

And to those who patiently perused through this literalistic piece.. you are the hope of Africa..

Back to the matter!
The whole thing just look like a doped piece or perhaps the op is just showcasing his writing skill..

Well since you've tasted the coochie of your beloved wife to be sister and you're feeling guilt.. why not confess your sins and be free again

Tell grace what has happened and make her understand that it was just a one time thing that you will forever regret.. that way you are saving your relationship and freeing yourself from bondage.. Abigail will be family again when you confess your sins
So you are advising he should confess and still go ahead with the wedding, now I agree to the saying that men are shallow thinkers with little wisdom, easier said than done,the battle shall be between those two sisters while Mr randy dick will now be forming reconciliation master and its a never end battle that will linger on.Let him just go very far away from that family with his randy dick there's no other best solution to it

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Nobody: 8:18pm On Apr 02, 2021
fake story,check ops previous topic and was even taking him serious

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Yusufisraelj(m): 8:41pm On Apr 02, 2021
Ginaz:
Just pretend to forget , the truth will do nothing to help you at this point.

Stay away from your bride's sister ,that's all.

Like seriously, if your guy does that you'll be glad for him to tell you he forgot? For 7 good months?

I don't think so.


@PERVENCHE

Tell grace what happened and live with the consequences of the nuclear fall out, the fall out will be like that of the Tsar Bomba nuclear bomb.

You might break the family apart, you may not, but this is serious betrayal on your part, it's something you have to live with. But you waited too long, you should have told her before now, 7months and you are getting cold feet now!

Mehn you no try.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Elmaaq: 8:43pm On Apr 02, 2021
Ginaz:
Just pretend to forget , the truth will do nothing to help you at this point.

Stay away from your bride's sister ,that's all.

Coming from a lady I'm surprised
Wouldn't you want to know before the marriage

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Hydronium(m): 9:01pm On Apr 02, 2021
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.
The next best time to plant it is now. Essentially, you should've told her before now.

My advice: do not save the news. But make sure to engage the services of wise & trusted mentors who can help you midwife and preserve the process.

The repercussion now is lighter than the future consequences. Trust me.


P.S. One challenge of our generation is lack of accountability.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Akuruoulo(m): 9:04pm On Apr 02, 2021
MejiLoyon:
For those that won't read Chop highlights
He nack him wife to be sister.
That's all O.
That guy dey tribal already. Thanks for the summarization
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by gameboy727(m): 9:20pm On Apr 02, 2021
OP, I have no advice for you. I just love the way you write. It's captivating.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Chimeluv(f): 9:22pm On Apr 02, 2021
Tales by Moonlight angry

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by dochenaj: 9:39pm On Apr 02, 2021
No one ends up having sex mistakenly or in the heat of the moment. There must be some mental planning long before it happens.

I don't understand how sex comes so easy to you people? It must be because sex is no much different from a handshake to you lot.

So when someone who cheats on their spouse "mistakenly" or "accidentally" claim they will never do such again, I know it is a blatant lie.

Flee fornication.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by HonourableUche(m): 9:46pm On Apr 02, 2021
PERVENCHE:
*NOTE
With all due respect, I have changed names and some too familiar details about myself out of respect for my wife to be. I know she likes to catch cruise on nairaland.

My name is Friday (of course not my real name) I am from the middle-belt. So please save your tribalism with all those una Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa insults. I met Grace(my wife to be) few years ago. It was love at 1st sight. She was everything and is still everything I had hoped a woman should be. There is this crass about her that makes her effortlessly better than any lady around her. My type in the true sense of the word. Tall, busty, curvy, sassy, elegant, personable and above all, she has a graceful soul. From the 1st date to this day, I still pinch my self like.. What in God's green earth is a beauty like her doing with a shrek like me.

But then, true perfection is always a utopia. Grace in all her graceful demeanour and aura, has a flaw; Indecision! More so, blind trust seems to be her albatross. (I swear she can even take Lai Muhammad's word to the bank) Though, I still love her; flaws and all. Her complete or should I say blind trust for me and Abigail became one of the reasons Abigail(her younger sister) has become an unending chapter in our relationship. Even though the blame of what happened squarely falls on me.

Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl. Just five years younger than Grace. One who expect them at least to be close and be like Asaba and Onisha but then...they are the direct opposite of each other. While Grace is the introverted shy person, Abigail is quite the extrovert and likes to make friends for Africa. It is only fair to believe their formative time in secondary school played a part in their output towards life. Grace likes to conform like most day school students. Abigail on the other hand, is the boarding school nightmare all parents hope not to experience: the deviant.

Through the 1st years we dated, Abigail was in secondary school and was never in the picture. For some odd or strange reason, Grace was not ready to fully commit. Not that I blame her or something. At 23, Most girls her age are like Alice in wonderland; they crush on celebrities and Chase childhood dreams and fantasies. The vile ones, if truth be told...tend to live out their hoė phase. At 28, I was already grounded to know what I wanted and it was Grace and marriage. Sometimes, you do all you can do but then life has a way of throwing in a curveball. More over, "No be say because I wan chop egg I go begin dey worship chicken." Sensing her shakara, I pulled the hand brakes on us and walked out of the relationship.

***2 years later***
Fortunately or unfortunately after letting go, Grace became incensed and started to want me back. I hardly do any social media at this point. Pride won't let her call me, so there was no way to send coded messages on whatsapp status to me. Being the introvert that she is and the all trusting graceful Grace, she started to send Abigil over to my place to bridge the gap. In just over two years, Abigail had changed and developed into a sexy hippie bohemian. Not that I fancy her in any erotic way or something. It's just that in our contemporary naija society where mostly everyone conforms, it is hard not to notice a bohemian.

Knowing I would do no better than Grace even with a million dollars and in a hundred years of searching, I mended fences with Grace and our relationship became stronger than ever. Over time, Abigail became a bridge between us. At first, Grace would send her over to run errands for her. After a while, it became a second nature for her to come over and fidget with my electronics. Courtesy demands you be nice to your in-laws to be and so I was nice to Abigail.

Abigail's posturing over time made it difficult for me to say no to her especially during them Nengi and Laycon days in the house. She was a fan of big brother lockdown. And would always ask for my keys to watch the silly show for she was equally as silly to be gushing over that vanity fair. Grace seems not have any issues with her coming over and I also did not for I was hardly home and God knows the sub was kinda wasting away.

There are some things in life that are not planned. They just happen! My boss at work then tested positive for Covid and we were all asked to quarantine at home. Grace still had to go to work while Abigail was always free because of the ASSU strike. Suddenly, I started to be alone with Abigail. She would come over "for big brother" around 9am and leave around 7pm in time to beat her curfew at home. It was awkward staying all day with Abigail. Grace too predictable, only comes over on Sunday. For some strange reasons, on Sundays, Abigail will never show up.

There were times, and I am sure it could just be my imagination, that she enjoyed teasing me. She would come dressed like a sister Mary Amaka from home but after a while, she would take her bath and transform into a Kardashian. Wearing skimpy cloths and heavy make-up. I tried to give her her space. I was in quarantine and therefore, had practically no where to go. I am basically the type that don't flock with co-workers and I hardly keep any friends except for Grace. I am not one to be neighbourly with my neighbours so I was stuck with Abigail all day. Humans are social animals and we tend to gravitate towards each other especially when we are alone with someone. Gradually, she won me over and I started to watch the big brother show with her. While she was rooting for Nengi after her Erica left, I was simply for Neo for he had my height. And the bond between us grew. God knows I had no vile motives and evil intentions. It is hard not to enjoy Abigail's company for she is a smart, gleeful and witty girl. While I do all the talking with Grace, Abigail on the other hand does all the talking with me and it was a welcome change.

*** D Day ***
It became obvious Abigail was not telling the truth at home. She would pick their calls and tell them she was in her female friend's house. And in the spirit of our new found big brother bond. We kept the secret. On this faithful day, it had rained all day and Nepa had struck and the plug in my generator was no good. The rain had brought with it a cool breeze and some magical thunder. Seemingly, we could not watch our show so I took a blanket because of the cold and buried my attention on my PC (laptop) re-watching season 5 of the game of thrones.

Naively, Abigail joined me and entered the blanket with me. I use the word 'naive' because I honestly do not want to qualify her as a minx. And I know she does not see me as a Justine Bieber of a crystal ball for her to be drooling at. While in that warm blanket watching the movies in such compromising position, One thing led to another and alot of that one thing opened up her Pandora's box and I... I ate the most forbidden fruit there ever was. There is no telling how wonderful making love to her was at the heat of the moment and there's no shame in the world that equates to the shame that immediately dwell and still dwells in my soul shortly after even to this day. There's a lot to blame our mistake and betrayal on. Could it just be the moment? the weather? the chemistry? the devil? (laughs) my opportunistic habit? Her feminine warmth in such close proximity? my placing a hand on her thigh and meeting no resistance? My foggy mind and grown erection? Her racing and panting heart? Her feisty zeal and deviant nature? My libido? Hers? My morals? Buhari? Herdsmen? IPOB? Sunday Igbahor? Dstv and big brother? NEPA? Game of thrones? Was she after all really a minx? In all fairness, she is just a little naive girl that does not deserve to be pilloried for my betrayal. As the adult, I should have known better and acted a lot better.

Climbing down from our lustful climax, we both knew immediately what we had done, the gravity and the implications it could have on not just us, but grace and the whole family. In the most contrite way possible, we apologized to ourselves and vowed never to repeat it again. We felt it would be better not to tell Grace or anyone and we agreed Abigail would stop coming over. I started to avoid Abigail at all cost. I did not just release cum after my despicable act with Abigail, I released every thing good in me and every form of happiness. I felt much less of a man and wished I had died as a child or better still was aborted.

I hardly could face Grace after. The more I try to ghost her, the more she held on tightly. It became awkward visiting their family house for I was not comfortable around them trusting and accepting me. Not for the fear that they would find out...just my conscience eating me up. I stayed away and made peace with my gross mistake. For over six to seven months. I did my penance and nothing happened with Abigail. I know I am in a better place now to make sane decisions about cheating. To give something back to Grace, I have vowed never to sleep with anyone till die. We know how cheating amongst married men is common these days. I no call Adekule Gold name oh!

Me and Grace are set to marry on the 17th of this April. The thing is...Abigail is her chief bridesmaid and preparation demands I see her most times. She still has a look in her eyes...dunno what to make of it. A look of blackmail? Of you could still hit it if you want? We have unfinished business kinda look? You should be paying a bride price for two look? I die inside every time I see Grace happy she again got us back to talking terms because of the wedding. Ignorance is truly bliss.

I have doubts going through with this wedding. Folks may laugh and say I chickened out because of the inflation and money, others might blame Grace. It may ruin Grace for ever. How do I do this knowing Abigail will always be family?






It was a lengthy write up. But I must commend your use of English. I feel you should go ahead with the marriage. Ask for other people's opinion. Then after marriage tell your wife what happened and promise never to do such again. Good luck.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Vulcanheph(m): 10:15pm On Apr 02, 2021
MejiLoyon:
For those that won't read
Chop highlights

He nack him wife to be sister.

That's all O.
GBAM!!!
You have said it all !!!!

gringringrin

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Vulcanheph(m): 10:16pm On Apr 02, 2021
HonourableUche:
It was a lengthy write up. But I must commend your use of English. I feel you should go ahead with the marriage. Ask for other people's opinion. Then after marriage tell your wife what happened and promise never to do such again. Good luck.
That was the same advice I wanted to give him.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by adaugo59216: 10:26pm On Apr 02, 2021
:For those that won't read
Chop highlights
He nack him wife to be sister.
That's all O.Tankz man.. u just saved us from dat epistle lolz
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Everester: 10:39pm On Apr 02, 2021
HonourableUche:
It was a lengthy write up. But I must commend your use of English. I feel you should go ahead with the marriage. Ask for other people's opinion. Then after marriage tell your wife what happened and promise never to do such again. Good luck.
Guiding and counseling is not ur thing jare,
After marriage,are u kidding me?

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Skullano(m): 10:51pm On Apr 02, 2021
Like seriously eeh, how do some people sleep at night self?.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by frank202012: 10:59pm On Apr 02, 2021
all this long epistle and you didnt tell us in detials how u knack the girl?
but when did igboho come to light?
what is one thing let to another?

the write up is a beautiful nonsense,the vaseline gang re disapointed.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by HonourableUche(m): 11:09pm On Apr 02, 2021
Everester:

Guiding and counseling is not ur thing jare,
After marriage,are u kidding me?
It depends on what you mean. I do not think he can live with the guilt all his life. He has to open up. Yes after marriage even if it is many years after.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Nobody: 12:37am On Apr 03, 2021
Rubbish!

So long a post. Just to tell us you cheated on your fiancee, you had to waste someones time with all that literary terms ish.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Shellsploit: 2:08am On Apr 03, 2021
I just dey read Op post and the same time dey check my dictionary for some english wey him drop for the thread... Smh vehemently!

Which one be "sexy hippie bohemian"

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Duplexxx: 2:29am On Apr 03, 2021
grin



zagorakis:




Readers are leaders remember grin



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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Jimmyubah2: 5:29am On Apr 03, 2021
Another James Hardley Chase.
Immediately I saw Sunday Igboho, IPOD, Buhari etc.... I stopped reading.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by flyingdutchman(m): 7:57am On Apr 03, 2021
You WILL most definitely chop Abigail again, or there would be war. Better find something tell grace to cancel the wedding. Since you like penance, tell her you are gay. That you have been lying to her for years.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by AmuAwusa: 8:09am On Apr 03, 2021
NobleDeSage001:
My mind is telling me that this is a made up story. The accuracy of narration and the flawless expression is just too good.

Meanwhile, at about the time BBNaija lockdown happened, the case of Sunday Igbogho had not happened.
OP, you couldn't have been having sex with Abigail during BBNaija lockdown that happened last year and be thing about Sunday Igbogho that happened this year.

Fictional story, but you are a good story teller.

Read again.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Nobody: 8:20am On Apr 03, 2021
O.p....you are a very good writer,I must commend..... your choice of words got me stuck to your epistle to the end......am really impressed.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Twelfthman: 9:33am On Apr 03, 2021
grin

Oga you be cruise,
If grace truly like to catch cruise on nairaland she should be able to figure it out and crush you.

I know u just dey test your writing skill and u are good at it. Kudos

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by judetov2(m): 10:15am On Apr 03, 2021
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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by nlandgrandfada(m): 10:31am On Apr 03, 2021
I love your story.... I really enjoyed it.You are really good at writing...

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by chikevictor(m): 10:49am On Apr 03, 2021
Go ahead with your wedding, I don't see any reason for you to cancel it but just make sure you keep the secret to yourself. Everybody makes mistakes in life, your own is not the worst. Finally confess your sins to God and move on with your life. I come in peace.

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