So because women expect everything already in the guy's house and life, they've forgotten dowry is the set of things she and her people bring to start the union. Again men do not reject a thing, I grew up to hear my mum tell me about the pots, small and big, pistol and ladies machine she came to my dad's house with.These days, they call dowry another thing and we still pay bride price. Dowry is for u and ur people and we pay the bride price to rope us in.Nobody is happy proposing any more.

Ring can lost, but if the feelings are strong, the marriage will last even without ring


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So because women expect everything already in the guy's house and life, they've  forgotten dowry is the set of things she and her people bring to start the union. Again men do not reject a thing, I grew up to hear my mum tell me about the pots, small and big pistol and ladies machine she came to my dad's house with.These days, they call dowry another thing and we still pay bride price. Dowry is for u and your people and we pay the bride price to rope us in.Nobody is happy proposing any more.

WOOOOOW!!!! Abeg no be pistol, na  pestle. Pistol ke? i was expecting to see "pistol and ladies machine gun" right there! 

What if the ring he proposed with is not her finger size or to her taste?

naijangel7:

WOOOOOW!!!! Abeg no be pistol, na  pestle. Pistol ke? i was expecting to see "pistol and ladies machine gun" right there! 

S & M to make sure he doesn't beat you up

Forget this ring stuff. The other day a guy tried proposing putting a ring in a cup of ice cream but bad enuf the girl swallowed the ring. cuases too much anxiety. marry who u want to marry and forget these protocol.

jennykadry:

What if the ring he proposed with is not her finger size or to her taste?

Then they can take it back and change it to her size and taste. people do that everyday and the sellers understand that too. the ring is only symbolic to show that the proposal was well thought-out and no be secondary school love. It doesn't even have to be an expensive ring, it's just symbolic.

sirwebs:

S & M to make sure  he doesn't beat you up

S & W, you mean? LOL

rokiatu:

honestly I would be terribly disappointed if a man propose to me without a ring.
I know that marriage is not about the ring blah blah blah but the ring and the proposal go hand in hand.


P.S I would still marry my current bf if he propose without a ring.

Good for you then.  Not aware of any African culture where the engagement ring, or wedding ring, is a tradition, so who cares about a ring.  A fabulous wedding does not signify a fabulous marriage; and do you really need a ring to remind you you have a husband or wife at home waiting for you. lol  

We won't kill ourselves with this copy-foju of Oyinbo people sha.  

To the guy who keeps proposing and losing his engagement rings, if you're gonna practice the western culture, better read up on it first.  In some cases the ring should be returned, and in some cases, not.  So, be prepared next time.  Especially if you're the one breaking off the engagement.  

When you propose to girl with a ring that means you are "Technically" automatically engaged on the scene if she say's yes.

But, in Nigeria , if @poster is a "Nigerian" like many of us, you do not get engaged without your parents consent, this still apply to spanish and italian girls from what i heard.

How can a girl accept a ring in this country, when her family never evaluate meet the guy .

Is it, true our girl now think they kinda Americans, Rings are for engagement parties and wedding's not when a man ask a girl to marry him.

[color=#990000][/color] Well, the hype about the ring might not be unfounded, especially in this time & age when some (if not many) have become players. He could as well propose to 50 different girls without a ring, his proposing to you would make no difference. Though it would make you wonder if he probably asked someone the same question before coming to you, maybe a game of 'whoever accepts will be the one'. That's where the ring comes into play. BECAUSE NO REASONABLE MAN will want to propose to and give different girls ring at the same time. Cos giving of ring will be sacred to them too. I GUESS BEFORE A RESPECTABLE GUY WILL THINK OF BUYING A RING AT ALL, HE MUST HAVE BEEN SURE HE WAS READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP, AND THAT SHE WAS THE WOMAN HE WANTED. So, YES, it does play a significant role. At least for her to know that it has gone from play to a very serious business. And YES also, it DOES NOT mean a stable marriage or anything. But it's good to call what is sacred sacred, and do it with class. Give it distinction & the honour it deserves. By the way, any rifraff could propose to anyone anytime.

am a guy but i think is inappropriate to proposed with no ring.

Depends on the man. If your word is your bond, then you don't need it. But do carry on.

interesting topic

@topic
any need? Coz there are many young girls here with rubber bag marriages without a ring, staying and having sex with a man everyday. So it doesnt matter lol.

suwailad:

@topic
any need? Coz there are many young girls here with rubber bag marriages without a ring, staying and having sex with a man everyday. So it doesnt matter lol.

We're talking about those that understand the meaning of relationship and marriage, not jokers.

naijangel7:

Then they can take it back and change it to her size and taste. people do that everyday and the sellers understand that too. the ring is only symbolic to show that the proposal was well thought-out and no be secondary school love. It doesn't even have to be an expensive ring, it's just symbolic.

ROTFLMAO, who told you sellers always understand? It is no news that even playboys propose with rings to their-hard-to-get-gf's just to get underneath her skirts, what will you call that? Hit-and-run-symbolic-I- will-not-die-for-you-loff?

Ring or no ring most important thing is that there is understanding.

Wot if SHE said 'NO' wit a reasonable 'EXCUSE'. Wot wil hapoon 2d 'RING'?
Itz berra 2be sure she wil accept b4 u aproach her wit a ring 2 avoid 'EELA'
#justsaying

Sike:

Wot if SHE said 'NO' wit a reasonable 'EXCUSE'. Wot wil hapoon 2d 'RING'?
Itz berra 2be sure she wil accept b4 u aproach her wit a ring 2 avoid 'EELA'
#justsaying

My friend bought an expensive ring, flew from the UK to Nigeria to propose to his gf. Unknown to him, she had been seeing someone else and she said NO (he didn't find out about the 'someone else' until the next year).
As soon as she said No, he went back to the UK and threw the ring into the Thames river

^ He could have gone back to the store he bought the ring from and told them he wanted to return it, (but thats assuming they have one of those cash back deals) otherwise he could have just pawned it off. . . or saved it for his next girl.

Proposing with or without ring is secondary to actual feelings,
If the guy is right,mood is ok,feelings is genuine and unflinching,ring is Secondary,

naijangel7:

Then they can take it back and change it to her size and taste. people do that everyday and the sellers understand that too. the ring is only symbolic to show that the proposal was well thought-out and no be secondary school love. It doesn't even have to be an expensive ring, it's just symbolic.



S & W, you mean? LOL

While it is true, you can return the ring if its the wrong size, some ladies believe dat as a serious guy you should know the size of her ring and at the same time you are not supposed to ask her cos its supposed to be a surprise.

Ladies, how do we know the size of your ring if we cant ask you and u don't wear any we can steal to find out.
   

texazzpete:

My friend bought an expensive ring, flew from the UK to Nigeria to propose to his gf. Unknown to him, she had been seeing someone else and she said NO (he didn't find out about the 'someone else' until the next year).
As soon as she said No, he went back to the UK and threw the ring into the Thames river 

chxta?

Initially I  thought this whole proposing to a girl with a ring is actually sacred as some people have said (and a tiny part of me still believe that). But I have seen certain things to make me believe that ring or no ring your woman will accept to marry you, no questions asked.

For those saying that a ring is sacred, what will you then say of  a woman who punned her WEDDING RING cos she just wanted to get back at her husband for what he did.

In my own case I was not the cause of the break up, yet she refused to return my ring. And the funny thing about the other girls that didn't accept my proposal is that they are still seeing me and still having se.x with me, even when I have made it clear that refusal to accept my proposal means that the relationship is technically over.

I just can't understand women, and I'm not trying to.

Initially I thought this whole proposing to a girl with a ring is actually sacred as some people have said (and a tiny part of me still believe that). But I have seen certain things to make me believe that ring or no ring your woman will accept to marry you, no questions asked.

For those saying that a ring is sacred, what will you then say of a woman who punned her WEDDING RING cos she just wanted to get back at her husband for what he did.

In my own case I not was the cause of the break up, yet she refused to return my ring. And the funny thing about the other girls that didn't accept my proposal is that they are still seeing me and still having se.x with me, even when I have made it clear that refusal to accept my proposal means that the relationship is technically over.

I just can't understand women, and I'm not trying to.

i wouldnt know cos am happily single.but come to think of it,engagement is not our thing,therefore,i doesnt really matter.LET'S BE REAL[b][/b]

Some churches dat dont do jewellry dont do rings as well, some ppl therefore get married wiv a bible not a ring. In essence, its not the ring that matters, itz just a symbol of union. I'll definitely like to be proposed to wiv a ring buh doesnt mean i'd say no if d guy proposes without 1, itz sumfin u culd get 2geda @ nytym jo, wat matters most is dat he wants to marry me, n if i wanna marry him aswell

are you serious

congregation of gays. Just look at them

jennykadry:

ROTFLMAO, who told you sellers always understand? It is no news that even playboys propose with rings to their-hard-to-get-gf's just to get underneath her skirts, what will you call that? Hit-and-run-symbolic-I- will-not-die-for-you-loff?

And when it's without a ring he's not a playboy? what's your point? And even marriages break up, so if the sellers don't understand, that one na normal. Nothing new.

eliyahu:

While it is true, you can return the ring if its the wrong size, some ladies believe dat as a serious guy you should know the size of her ring and at the same time you are not supposed to ask her cos its supposed to be a surprise.

Ladies, how do we know the size of your ring if we cant ask you and u don't wear any we can steal to find out.
   

Yes, it's more beautiful as a surprise. More romantic. As for the size, if she dosn't have other rings you could "steal", u can playfully hold her hand up to yours in a relaxed moment and use style and play play to determine her engagement finger size in comparison to any of your own fingers then when you're shopping for the ring, test the ring on that finger of yours that matches hers.