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I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 10:57am On May 27, 2021
I created a thread 5 months ago to seek for advise about my relationship. In case you missed the earlier thread ;
https://www.nairaland.com/6322014/im-confused-should-still-continue

I listened to all the advises you gave me on that thread. I quit the relationship even though it's really tough but I told myself that it's better to cry now than to postpone it because the red flags are so glaring . The man came to Nigeria 3 weeks ago and they got wed last week saturday . Thanks everyone I really appreciate.

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by ElexObi1: 11:09am On May 27, 2021
It is well.
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Ishilove: 11:11am On May 27, 2021
So last last she married her ancestor.

Good luck to her.

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by ewaski(m): 11:12am On May 27, 2021
grin
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Nonexisting: 11:26am On May 27, 2021
You should be happy that you dodged a bullet. Welcome to the club of "fucck'n'go aka fucklationship" and I hope you don't go back to simpism by entering into another relation. Go carry olosho and celebrate your freedom brother, you deserve it. If you don't have money to carry one, come to our olosho thread and we will gladly contribute money for you. Cheers brother man.

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 11:39am On May 27, 2021
Ishilove:
So last last she married her ancestor.

Good luck to her.
Yes ,she married her ancestor grin
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 11:40am On May 27, 2021
Nonexisting:
You should be happy that you dodged a bullet. Welcome to the club of "fucck'n'go aka fucklationship" and I hope you don't go back to simpism by entering into another relation. Go carry olosho and celebrate your freedom brother, you deserve it. If you don't have money to carry one, come to our olosho thread and we will gladly contribute money for you. Cheers brother man.
Thanks I appreciate
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by chelseaboi(m): 11:43am On May 27, 2021
U want her to lose America passport..dollars etc bcus of love..
How far,u didn't gain any dollars from them...
We advised you on what to do..
Now,u lost the girl..
U didn't gain dollars...
U lost a communication line,that would have helped you maybe in future..
U lost money and time bcuz,it is obvious that you have been her backbone for the past 2 and half yrs..

U know deep down,that u lost this game.
Dnt let ur guards down..bro
Another guy's ex or even current girlfriend is readily available for u..
U can marry now.avoid delays to avoid losing ur bae to a richer guy..
Everybae ambition is to marry a rich guy..
Nig is hard..

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 11:53am On May 27, 2021
chelseaboi:
U want her to lose America passport..dollars etc bcus of love..
How far,u didn't gain any dollars from them...
We advised you on what to do..
Now,u lost the girl..
U didn't gain dollars...
U lost a communication line,that would have helped you maybe in future..
U lost money and time bcuz,it is obvious that you have been her backbone for the past 2 and half yrs..

U know deep down,that u lost this game.
Dnt let ur guards down..bro
Another guy's ex or even current girlfriend is readily available for u..
U can marry now.avoid delays to avoid losing ur bae to a richer guy..
Everybae ambition is to marry a rich guy..
Nig is hard..
I didn't lose anything brother man . I'm not doing bad either

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Ishilove: 12:09pm On May 27, 2021
Mowaconfused:

Thanks I appreciate
You appreciate someone advising you to sleep with public toilets and carry?

Opoor
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 12:37pm On May 27, 2021
Ishilove:

You appreciate someone advising you to sleep with public toilets and carry?

Opoor
Lol, I appreciate his advice doesn't mean I will do it na.

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Michelle55: 1:34pm On May 27, 2021
E shock me sha! There's nothing wrong in getting married to an older guy but the problem I have with her is the lying part.
Why lie when she knows she doesn't see a future with you? She could have spared you the heart break a long time ago when she discovered she preferred the abroad based man.
Well, you dodged a bullet. Trust me, you will be fine okay.

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Nobody: 3:08pm On May 27, 2021
How old is she?
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by ExpertEDITOR: 3:42pm On May 27, 2021
This is the problem when we preach redpill. Most simple men think redguys are angry guys (I won't say some ain't tho). But the basis of redpill is to expose you to game and make you a better man while relating with women without hating them.

Op, to be real with you, you lost this game. It might not seem like a game to you but to every girl, relationship is a game especially when the honeymoon period in relationship is over.

Subconsciously, she will continue to test and measure you against her potential sexmates... It is natural. That doesn't meant she is worst than other females. As a matter of fact, most ladies you quoted on ur former thread will do worst if given a chance like that. Women are very pragmatic and selfish than men. They take decisions as it comes notwithstanding how u feel about it. They don't really care as long as it serves their objectives and that of their immediate family.

Now, don't wish that girl bad. She did what she did in her best interests. You only lost cos you are not game. I understand you may like to be straight with women, but I assure you, being straight is the best way to always lose with women cos they are always playing games.

You said you were not doing bad for yourself, but still, I think you should have p1mped that girl and get whatever you want (connections, money or travel deals). She won't feel used as long as she thinks you allow her. It would have been a win win on both sides.

Lastly, women are not the angels you wish they are..... They are smart and dangerous and you have to be just like them or even better to win while with them.

Count your loss. Wish her well (you can even send her a best wishes message to open that communication line back).

Then going forward always play your game right, that is the only way to win!

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by ExpertEDITOR: 3:44pm On May 27, 2021
Michelle55:
E shock me sha! There's nothing wrong in getting married to an older guy but the problem I have with her is the lying part.
Why lie when she knows she doesn't see a future with you? She could have spared you the heart break a long time ago when she discovered she preferred the abroad based man.
Well, you dodged a bullet. Trust me, you will be fine okay.
She did what 99.9999% women would have done in her shoes. Stop trying to look like u re better than her kind.

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by ExpertEDITOR: 3:47pm On May 27, 2021
Mowaconfused:

Yes ,she married her ancestor grin
See lemme tell you the basic truth, assuming ishilove was ur ex girl mentor.... Trust me, she would have advise she left you herself. Ignore her trying to pretend to feel what you feel. Inside of her, she is happy the girl made a right choice.
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Ishilove: 3:55pm On May 27, 2021
ExpertEDITOR:

See lemme tell you the basic truth, assuming ishilove was ur ex girl mentor.... Trust me, she would have advise she left you herself. Ignore her trying to pretend to feel what you feel. Inside of her, she is happy the girl made a right choice.
Noticed and ignored
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by ExpertEDITOR: 3:58pm On May 27, 2021
Ishilove:

Noticed and ignored
You have to quote me to show that... IQ is really a thing.
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by chelseaboi(m): 4:05pm On May 27, 2021
No man is too old for a lady...there is nothing like marrying an ancestor as far as ladies re concerned.

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Michelle55: 4:52pm On May 27, 2021
ExpertEDITOR:

She did what 99.9999% women would have done in her shoes. Stop trying to look like u re better than her kind.
Guess you read my message through your anus before, now try reading it correctly. FYI, I never said I was better than anybody, heck I'm worse than your exes put together and I'm unapologetic about it grin oya go kee yasef now! Dem no dey tell deaf man say war don start, perhaps next time you should try avoiding the likes of me for your peace of mind

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 5:00pm On May 27, 2021
ayomikuolatunji:
How old is she?
25
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Frenzy01(m): 5:12pm On May 27, 2021
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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 5:56pm On May 27, 2021
ExpertEDITOR:
This is the problem when we preach redpill. Most simple men think redguys are angry guys (I won't say some ain't tho). But the basis of redpill is to expose you to game and make you a better man while relating with women without hating them.

Op, to be real with you, you lost this game. It might not seem like a game to you but to every girl, relationship is a game especially when the honeymoon period in relationship is over.

Subconsciously, she will continue to test and measure you against her potential sexmates... It is natural. That doesn't meant she is worst than other females. As a matter of fact, most ladies you quoted on ur former thread will do worst if given a chance like that. Women are very pragmatic and selfish than men. They take decisions as it comes notwithstanding how u feel about it. They don't really care as long as it serves their objectives and that of their immediate family.

Now, don't wish that girl bad. She did what she did in her best interests. You only lost cos you are not game. I understand you may like to be straight with women, but I assure you, being straight is the best way to always lose with women cos they are always playing games.

You said you were not doing bad for yourself, but still, I think you should have p1mped that girl and get whatever you want (connections, money or travel deals). She won't feel used as long as she thinks you allow her. It would have been a win win on both sides.

Lastly, women are not the angels you wish they are..... They are smart and dangerous and you have to be just like them or even better to win while with them.

Count your loss. Wish her well (you can even send her a best wishes message to open that communication line back).

Then going forward always play your game right, that is the only way to win!
Well, you're right though I didn't feel like I lose anything maybe because I'm so straight and I don't really like depending on anyone . I cut her off myself and she still try to reach me by proxy . Even the day the man enter Naija she let me know . I can still do all these things you listed up there if i really want to . She once said we can still be seeing when the man left but I'm not really into that .

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Cerebellum: 6:12pm On May 27, 2021
Nonexisting:
You should be happy that you dodged a bullet. Welcome to the club of "fucck'n'go aka fucklationship" and I hope you don't go back to simpism by entering into another relation. Go carry olosho and celebrate your freedom brother, you deserve it. If you don't have money to carry one, come to our olosho thread and we will gladly contribute money for you. Cheers brother man.

Chai!


Lol...lol

Bro I swear on my Ex left chest say you no normal finishgrin
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by 1F30M4(f): 6:27pm On May 27, 2021
It must've been tough.. May take some more time to heal but you will be fine

What if you hadn't found out everything & you had continued with the relationship, she would've probably fed you more & more lies(so as not to hurt you lol), strung you along the whole time & one day drop the bombshell on you.. She was "playing" him til he started pulling some strings, they both knew what they wanted.. Her family was very much aware, it was indeed very pleasing to them.. Nothing new, he only just came back for his beloved after expressing his love for her as well as her family when he was in the abroad.
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Nobody: 7:01pm On May 27, 2021
The day you enter a relationship that's the day you should start preparing for a heartbreak.
Brace yourself
Because all of us go chop the breakfast
Enjoy the moment. If you both end up together you're one of the luckiest few.
I said what I said
Ehen now.

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 7:20pm On May 27, 2021
1F30M4:
It must've been tough.. May take some more time to heal but you will be fine

What if you hadn't found out everything & you had continued with the relationship, she would've probably fed you more & more lies(so as not to hurt you lol), strung you along the whole time & one day drop the bombshell on you.. She was "playing" him til he started pulling some strings, they both knew what they wanted.. Her family was very much aware, it was indeed very pleasing to them.. Nothing new, he only just came back for his beloved after expressing his love for her as well as her family when he was in the abroad.
Were you there ? That was what she told me when i asked her that ,"what if I didn't find out myself ?
She came back begging but i never listen ,thanks to the harsh advices ya'll gave me on that previous thread . She want to use me to pass time till her beloved got back from abroad .
Women ehn ! I've learnt my lessons though
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by ExpertEDITOR: 7:36pm On May 27, 2021
Mowaconfused:

Well, you're right though I didn't feel like I lose anything maybe because I'm so straight and I don't really like depending on anyone . I cut her off myself and she still try to reach me by proxy . Even the day the man enter Naija she let me know . I can still do all these things you listed up there if i really want to . She once said we can still be seeing when the man left but I'm not really into that .
Good. Since you said u lose nothing. Just be cool with the babe. Shit happens, this na jungle and every body deh try lookout for him head... She did what was best for her.
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 7:58pm On May 27, 2021
ExpertEDITOR:

Good. Since you said u lose nothing. Just be cool with the babe. Shit happens, this na jungle and every body deh try lookout for him head... She did what was best for her.
Everybody was trying to lookout for him head ,really?
I had nothing when i met this girl and she stay with me through those hard times . Things change for good , you know I can also left her then and go for ladies that match my new standard since everybody dey try lookout for him head but i didn't do that . I did all what we prayed when were struggling ,I kept all my promises. I even told her mom that I'm ready to do introduction but she said her daughter is still young for that ,this was like 6 months ago .

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by ExpertEDITOR: 8:09pm On May 27, 2021
Mowaconfused:

Everybody was trying to lookout for him head ,really?
I had nothing when i met this girl and she stay with me through those hard times . Things change for good , you know I can also left her then and go for ladies that match my new standard since everybody dey try lookout for him head but i didn't do that . I did all what we prayed when were struggling ,I kept all my promises. I even told her mom that I'm ready to do introduction but she said her daughter is still young for that ,this was like 6 months ago .
The bolded is why men without game will always lose with women. Men by default know what loyalty means... Women don't.

And for her mummy that said her daughter is too young for introduction. She knows what she is doing... Less than a year, same daughter did wedding.

Brother move on... Life happens

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Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by Mowaconfused: 8:30pm On May 27, 2021
ExpertEDITOR:

The bolded is why men without game will always lose with women. Men by default know what loyalty means... Women don't.

And for her mummy that said her daughter is too young for introduction. She knows what she is doing... Less than a year, same daughter did wedding.

Brother move on... Life happens
I moved already . Thanks for the bitter truth
Re: I'm Confused, Should I Still Continue With This Relationship (modified) by kepstone: 8:52pm On May 27, 2021
Just move on... Same thing happened to me 3 years ago and d mum was encouraging her to leave me. She is not ur wife, just count the loss and move d abroad guy no know d nonsense him marry out for house. Let him loose his money he will see d true colour. To trust woman dey hard me...

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