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Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Passionate1(m): 9:51pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
How much do you spend on food every month? |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by duality(m): 9:51pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
ThinkSmarter: One of the few reasonable post on the topic. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by AuroraB(f): 9:52pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Collinsaik:He's not seeing the bigger picture Na him food matters most to him for now. Calling his in-laws poor 3 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by mastermaestro(m): 9:53pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Raxxye: How did it get to this point? What methods have you tried out to change her attitude towards you? Was she always like this? Let's talk. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by baby124: 9:53pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Na so poor people de behave. Dem no get chills, they will clean you out thinking you are plucking money from a tree. That’s how some used to come to our house, when food is done if we no rush go chop, they will eat everything and leave scraps for even my parent. Come de look you like beans. People should learn to make personal gardens and plant little things. You can be poor with money, but with food, if you have small space to farm small things, you should be able to provide at least 60% of your meals. Instead of being a burden. When you buy land and building your house,leave small space for a garden. We don’t know tomorrow. Let the parents be responsible for their 9 or 8 children. Better warn your wife. You are a young man with a young marriage, you did not sign up for this. 3 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by generalwo(m): 9:53pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Ninobraw:....... Bros I no go blame you for your actions but for once out yourself in your wife's shoes..... Just imagine she wrote such a thing about you or was telling her friend about your family in this manner and you overheard her, how will it make you feel..... I'm not saying what they are doing is justified but common, calling them names all because they come to your place to eat is inhuman..... Na this same food other people dey throw way because them no see who chop am...... They are down today doesn't mean they will stay down forever..... You may need their help someday....... I suggest you talk to your wife about your concerns like a real man..... Thank God you said she's supportive, which means she'll most likely be understanding too....... Sit her down, make it look like you're seeking her advice..... Tell her your concerns and let her know the issue is draining you psychologically. .... No be quarrel, no be fight...... If e easy for them, them for no dey come your house come chop....... Calling them gluttons and battalions or whatever doesn't make sense....... And do be honest with you, I am disappointed at you..... Because of food bros u say you Don tire for marriage? What happened to for better for worse? When you were dating her, didn't you know her parents were not wealthy and that something of this nature can occur? Men sha... 5 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by victokafor(m): 9:54pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Where do you stay?.... |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Kylekent59: 9:56pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
The best advise is for you to have a conversation with your wife. Tell her that you ain't comfortable with her siblings coming to feed their bellies in your house. Be specific and talk with boldness. A man should face his problems and tackle it, not run away from it. If you relocate, one of them might come to stay permanently in your house. 3 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by klbakare(m): 9:56pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
okoroemeka: My oga, you are farmer and food has never been a problem for farmers |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by descarado: 9:57pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
MrMcJay:You are a very practical person I have forgotten what I wanted to type 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Raph82(m): 9:58pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
It's pathetic though, but u need to seat ur wife down and talk it out. U're a man, u both need to sit on a round table & solve the issue. Let her see things from ur perspective. Let her know that u're more concerned about better things to have with money than blowing it on food alone. Let her know that u're not too young to start ur own building project now. U too can start planning for a better tomorrow starting from today. God forbid, if the two of u lose ur job today, will they still come around to eat like hungry goat? 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by generalwo(m): 9:58pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
airminem:. Bros that one you smoked this evening, is it from osogbo or cotonou? 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Passionate1(m): 9:58pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Relocate to Daura or sambisa forest. . |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by WINDSOW(m): 9:58pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
stupidmod3:From your statement, you LL be fuckiingly stingy that air cannot breath through your ✊. Imagine, your last sentence... |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Obiorahpcfg: 9:59pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Oh boy! Let the truth be told. Is like your wife contributes to 75 % of her salary to the family upkeep. I know your type. But anyway just sit her down and explain things to here. Relocate! Relocate!!! No be with money? Or are you relocating to sambisa forest? 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by generalwo(m): 10:00pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
psalmuel76:....... The op never see chon chin....i was earning 13k per month and accommodated my ex and 4 of her siblings for almost a year..... That one na babe o... Not even wife.....we all go dey alright lass lass 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Emeka71(m): 10:00pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Asquare84:Divorce her. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by stupidmod3: 10:01pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
WINDSOW:lol keep imagining, nah u get ur thought |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by pawn89(m): 10:01pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
You are lamenting because your in-laws are coming over and snack on your food ? So much that it makes you " tired " of your 2yr old marriage with JUST 1 child ? The problem is clearly with you, the approach and your choice of words says alot more about you than the " buffoons " you've called your in-laws. When you marry a lady, you essentially have 3 families; your immediate ( wife and kids), your own family and your wife's family and as a man you should be able to carefully and with sensitivity navigate them all. You see a challenge and instead of rising to and above it, you've chosen to laments, threatening thunder and brimstone, fuming with anger and frustrations. You should strive harder and to even think your wife is bringing in money and supportive; the fact that you can't find a middle ground with your in-laws is a betrayal on its own. Do not allow the devil take hold of your home and rob you of your marriage. Speak to your wife ( NEVER ask her to tell her family not to come visit ), both of you understand the financial status of the home and can find a way to solve what you perceived as a big problem without insulting your in-laws and making your wife feels useless 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by generalwo(m): 10:01pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
okoroemeka:...... Bros God bless you..... If no be say my ticket cut today, I for ask for your account number make I send you N200........ U too much 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Nobody: 10:02pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Cutehector: Her other siblings go dey disturb your other siblings Lol. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by authority2006(m): 10:03pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
okoroemeka: I guess you didn't understand the write up. Coming to his house is not the problem here but the frequency and the numbers. If you did understand his point and decided to respond like this and play down his predicament just because your in-laws too used to come to your house, you didn't do justice to his situation. We all have in-laws that come to visit us or even spend holidays with us but may be it can't be compared with his. Even rich people can't tolerate it. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by generalwo(m): 10:04pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Bigger123:..... Instead of moving with his family, why not use the money open a small business for one of the family members to cater for the feeding of the rest..... That way, 2 problems solved.... Everyone is happy 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by okewumi: 10:06pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Talk to your wife and also mind your language when passing the message. I understand you but you still have to be careful. Your tone looks as if you do their family a favour by marrying their daughter whereas l don't think they sell her to you. Handle it with care 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Ynix(m): 10:07pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Xenry: Move far away to another location that will be expensive to visit |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Petyr1: 10:08pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Asquare84:this marriage thing is scary o 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by authority2006(m): 10:09pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
generalwo: Hehe, different responses. If some people are throwing food away because they don't have people who will help them eat it, does that mean Op should work himself to death or leave from hands to mouth just because he has battalions of hungry in-laws? And For better for worse, really? Nigeria is hard already, and for a young couple with one kid to be feeding 8 in laws join together, that's too much burden! 4 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by nkem1992: 10:10pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Eya |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by nkem1992: 10:10pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Is your wife from Imo State? Those people are parasitic in nature, imagine my neighbor housing three of his wife's relatives.... 4 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Yankee101: 10:10pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
duality: If you cannot afford to open your house to feed a few extra mouths it's poverty my guy Even in some Nigerian farming villages you can still walk in unannounced and get fed 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Cruziero75: 10:11pm On Jun 13, 2021 |
Anichebe but why? HONESTFACT101: |
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