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| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Kobojunkie: 11:49pm On Sep 06, 2021 |
Tadeknkeepcalm:Low-self esteem is a symptom of mental illness.  Low confidence levels is also a sign of mental stress. |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Nobody: 12:02am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:My God. So if headache is a symptom of cancer it means everyone and anyone who has headaches have cancer? Replace the keywords and think deeply of what you are saying or simply go to bed. |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by 2braithe: 12:09am On Sep 07, 2021 |
slawormiir: Person wey no get money fit dey do all these things? 1 Like |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by iamkeem: 12:14am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Solofresh2: I hope this well help. Try to read more topics about life generally. From entertainment, sports, politics, lifestyles and current affairs etc. This will give you a lot of engagements with people. During conversation with people always state the facts this will boast people confident in you and invariably increase your own confident and remove the shyness... 1 Like |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by obinna58(m): 12:17am On Sep 07, 2021 |
DropsMic: You're toxic and evil 1 Like |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Demigod22: 12:22am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Yes, there are books about how to build self confidence, and when you chat with people or go out with people and join them in doing great stuff together like executing projects and other tasks, you can get self confidence from such experience. |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by BigYash: 12:22am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Lattop:If he try colos join the one he dey so,na kolo na  Personally op Highness no fit save you o,I have been there before.. When I was reading, I had to go check d Monica again. Highness didn't help me over come it.. Colos cruise na witch Op Leave what people think about you,and do what makes you happy. Then you should start putting yourself first,before any other person. If person insult you insult back,no level. If person do you bad,challenge am. Don't always think of what people will say,just do your thing without looking face. Infact just be doing opposite of what you've been doing that you feel its not right. No mind people mouth or actions o. Cux if you do ,they will talk. You no do at all o,they will talk. So just start doing your thing from now on. Only things that gives you peace of mind and happiness inside and outside. Shalom.3 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by wildikeman(m): 12:30am On Sep 07, 2021 |
slawormiir: Omo ita.... Op don't listen to this street urchin o. There are other ways... Agbero is not the way 4 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by wildikeman(m): 12:35am On Sep 07, 2021 |
DropsMic: Did he tell you he masturbates? Abi you have a problem with reading to understand? He said it is due to the fact that his parents dont usually allow him outside to experience life. Mingling with his peer will of course become a challenge. Visit a psychiatrist or psychotherapist to evaluate yourself op. There is a way they instill your self awareness so that you can build yourself. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Polynek(m): 12:40am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Dix is not a problem to me, well individual difference de shaa |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by mastermaestro(m): 12:44am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Janosky: I have faced exactly what the dude is currently going through. I mean the diffidence part of it. Too much reading has a way of disconnecting one from real people. Reading is good for learning, but certainly not for solving shyness and confidence issues. Dude needs to go out and mingle with real people. The most shy and depressed people are actually those who spend most of their time reading endlessly. Books cure ignorance. But books don't improve social life. In fact, the more you read, the more introverted you become. The more separated you are from your real surrounding. You guys should just leave book matter out of this unless you want to plunge the young man further into his miserable solitary living. Mind you I still love reading, but now with commonsense. Let him go out and explore his world! Now is not the time for any book! He needs practical face to face interactions! He doesn't need some book illusions! Enough of this isolated living! 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by jackyraw09: 12:44am On Sep 07, 2021 |
goodheart02: +1. That boy acts all knowing and shit but the few times He posted pictures of himself/his “niggarrrs” they still look like they need help lol 1 Like |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by kingtinnie(m): 12:45am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Get tipsy when you need to do things that need confidence |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Kobojunkie: 12:50am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Tadeknkeepcalm:I think you had better consult the dictionary here to better understand what a symptom really is.... symp·tomWhen headache is listed as one of the many symptoms of a particular cancer, you are to look for other existence of other symptoms on the patient that also point towards that very particular cancer before proceeding with test and maybe treatment. You don't simply conclude with just the one, and you also don't rule it out either - you look for more information Back to low confidence, unlike introversion which is a personality orientation, results from stress. |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Kobojunkie: 12:54am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Demigod22:Did you read what the OP typed at all? He indicates that he is struggling with something deeply mental? May be I should instead ask what it is you have read from any of these self confidence books that has helped you in this area? |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by emekanairaland(m): 1:08am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Solofresh2:Man!! Look at your write-up very closely. Now! tell me what you see.... I see some deep lyrics for your hit song. Sing about your real life experiences but don't stop there, tell your audience how you stood up stronger after falling in your song. That's the real shit your fans want to listen to. No forget to add this advice to your that lyrics oh. 5 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Vaiki(m): 1:15am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Solofresh2:Writing one song isn't enough unless you guarantee it's going to be a hit. So you really need to do more in your music journey. What's this thing about being shy? Trust me you are still very young and can make a difference in the next few years if only you set a direction and get to work. Suicide is never an option as success is only for the brave...if you can think suicide why not think of dangerous living like becoming a drug courier to a kingpin? And if you succeed then good.but if you die? Better than suicide. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Humanoid01(m): 1:32am On Sep 07, 2021 |
saasala:Prayer nor dey work for you nor mean say e nor dey work for others. Instead make you ask the person how e take dey do am, you dey there dey call am nonsense. How e wan take work for you when your mind nor dey in the first place? 1 Like |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Humanoid01(m): 1:43am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:You and other people in your sect always talk like you're programmed to talk a certain way. You keep repeating the same thing you read from a particular verse and form a doctrine from it. It's like you're all wired with the same drive, and you can't think for yourself. What kind of deception is that? 1 Like |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by VULCAN(m): 2:10am On Sep 07, 2021 |
And you wey no dey pray- Have all your problems disappeared? You lack logical thinking. Wake up! saasala: |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by VULCAN(m): 2:15am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Expressing yourself by writing in a faceless forum is the lowest form of expression. It requires little or no courage because the people cannot see you, nor can you see them. If they insult you and you can't bear it then you abandon the forum and move on. IRL you can't abandon your school, job or family so easily. Also to comprehend what you read you may need to read it more than once. The OP said he cannot speak up IRL so I wonder why you are confused. Mekailo: 3 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Nobody: 2:16am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Hello bro, you're within the age bracket where lack of confidence rears its ugly head. For most of us, it was indulgence in secondary School politics, been in SRC that helped boosted our confidence. At 21, you should be in the 2nd year in university, but since you are not I want to categorically tell you that "shyness" is a natural phenomenon, the first fears that grips you before standing to talk to an audience is the fear of having or lacking what to say, then the fear of having a well articulated form of presenting what you want to say. But bro, do you know that once you confront this fear and stands to have the audience, that fear leaves you, you can only experience voice breakings when you lack words (though this happens within your age bracket) Confront your own fear, we all carry this cross 6 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Kobojunkie: 2:20am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Humanoid01:My programming happens to be of Jesus Christ, so arable to you prove that you are not here the one decieved? |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by bonetalk(m): 2:37am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Palazee:I hope you don't take an advice like this one serious.... I think, you really need to start socializing and meet with good friends, this will help you overcome your challenges.. socializing helps a lot, u need to also believe in yourself.... Don't shift blame on your predicament, be responsible for yourself and everything that happens to you, otherwise the situation will never change.... Bible says we aren't given the spirit of fear but of love , power and sound mind, always use this as your prayer point, join a group in your church and be active in church activities. Love yourself and believe in yourself 4 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by mbugame: 2:42am On Sep 07, 2021 |
As a man weed n alcohol can help u 2 reason well. Bt don,t form it as bad habbit |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Olosu0353(f): 2:46am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Come to my Adult Educational Center where we train people on four language skills in listening, reading, writing and speaking.
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| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by BRATISLAVA: 3:59am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Humanoid01: Which sect is that? |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by 1billi(m): 4:10am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Go smoke some SK like 2 rap u go dey ok |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by mekusmanuel(f): 4:11am On Sep 07, 2021 |
I fully understand your pain. I'm also working on myself as regards that. My input is that you have to make friends with people who are real. People who are blunt and exposed. Another, always try to talk with at least 2 or 3 strangers in a week. Don't overlook the power of communication. It gives you insight on things you shouldn't know 3 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by miclef86(m): 4:13am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Let me say a very big congratulations to you for identifying your problems cause that's the major or first step in solving such problem. The first and foremost thing you need to know is self-determination. Be determined to make yourself better, the world/society doesn't care of what you're going through. You alone can make your better, decide not to look down on yourself or look inferior, admit the fact that no one is perfect. Here's what I want you to do... Stop the blaming game, your parents have Bleep up already, it's up to you to make yourself better now... Learn how to say No to some of their demands, you can only do that when you have a target or goals, make sure your goals comes first before any other things. Secondly, get out of your comfort zone...go to places where there are much gathering, places like mall, bar and events centre since you said you love music. Lastly, read books n watch YouTube videos on how to boost self esteem and follow some practical steps. That's all I have to say bro 4 Likes |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by seunayantokun(m): 4:29am On Sep 07, 2021 |
A self that is not expressed will die. Those who are expressing themselves don't die but realise thier desires. There is no reason for personality-killing shyness unless there is a demonic burden placed on you. If the latter is your case, please turn it to Jesus Christ. Take up His Lordship over your life and you will be set free. First step, surrender to Him as your Saviour if you have not done so. Don't compare yourself to anybody neither fear their comments or criticism on this. Also, start expressing yourself. And, the best way to start is to start now. Don't commit unreasonable suicide, start now. You will soon realise you are far better than many others. |
| Re: I Find It Hard Expressing Myself And It Is Killing Me by Babastrong(m): 4:30am On Sep 07, 2021 |
The way i learned it the kids that do not want to fight in school yard always leave with black eyes. |
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