Tzar:
I do, because I experienced true bliss while it lasted for a few years. But the truth is that 70% of couples (especially in Nigeria) don’t get that ‘bubblyhome’. At a point, they hate each others guts & don’t look forward to going home.
I watch a lot of my ‘married’ male & female’ friends & colleagues live a sad miserable life & that makes me not miss my time married. Most of these people are very successful & have successful partners. Some even start using their kids against one another. Both parties cheat at every opportunity.
For me, marriage may be suitable later in life, when my age & that of my kids willl require me to want long term companionship & I will then look for a partner who falls in the same category.
For now, the torture I experienced being married is still very real to me.

Torture? Thats serious. So its true having a successful partner ain't d main ingredient to a happy marriage then. Thats cool

Klass99:
So, my question is this - if you insist you are happy and not lonely as a bachelor, you have a good life or live a good life, why is it so hard for you people to accept or believe that, it is the same for single women as well?

Ofcourse it is the same for women.

It seems, from your retort, that you pay too much attention to the not-single-by-choice bachelors out there who are mostly lonely and blame their frustrations on the other gender. You do them a great disservice when you give them so much attention. People like that are better off ignored so they can can more time ruminating and finding a better outlet for their frustrations.

Klass99:
The assumption in your post is so erroneous and your take/analysis so off point and inaccurate. I don't have the time nor energy to begin debate it or argue back and forth.

At least be willing the error you claim is in my analysis.

Kobojunkie:
So you are of the mind that bachelors are all selfish beings who isolate themselves from humanity in some way?

Nothing wrong with a bachelor adopting kids and raising them as his own. After all he/she is not heartless and has love to give to those who need it.

You need to read what I wrote and what you wrote again.

Loneliness means only you socially isolated. You don't anybody to stay with you.

That's the very essence of the topic.

dfrost:

You need to read what I wrote and what you wrote again.

Loneliness means only you socially isolated.

I read what you wrote clear. You assume that the reason people chose to adopt or have kids is primarily because they are racked with loneliness, am I not mistaken here?

Kobojunkie:
I read what you wrote clear. You assume that the reason people chose to adopt or have kids is primarily because they are racked with loneliness, am I not mistaken here?

At the bolded, not at all.

Kobo let's reason this matter again. With clear heads.

The op was clear in his speech. No wife at home, no children. He was clear on what the loneliness meant to him at that time.

dfrost:

At the bolded, not at all.

Kobo let's reason this matter again. With clear heads.

The op was clear in his speech. No wife at home, no children. He was clear on what the loneliness meant to him at that time.

Are we then to assume that a man who has a wife without kids is lonely then since the Op's idea of loneliness suggests absence of both wife and kids?

We know what loneliness means to the Op but the thread has been about explaining to him and others like him that he cannot generalize in even such things.

By the way, loneliness does not mean isolation either since some folks like to and have roommates even as bachelors. Loneliness has to do with ones mental state, and not one's environmental situation. It is possible to be alone and not be lonely. Also possible to be lonely even when I a crowd.

My dear it was real mental torture. Thinking about it alone makes me shudder.
For real, financial or career success doesn’t determine marital bliss. The matrix for hapiness in marriage is too complex. Luck, background, training, God, money, patience, understanding, creativity, sexual prowess, child bearing and other endless factors can trigger marital bliss or torture. So how can anyone manage the cocktail?
I tell the few who get the right partners who complements them to NEVER mock those who don’t. It is not by your power, the universe was just merciful & good to you.

AutoChick4U:
Torture? Thats serious. So its true having a successful partner ain't d main ingredient to a happy marriage then. Thats cool

Tzar:
My dear it was real mental torture. Thinking about it alone makes me shudder.
For real, financial or career success doesn’t determine marital bliss. The matrix for hapiness in marriage is too complex. Luck, background, training, God, money, patience, understanding, creativity, sexual prowess, child bearing and other endless factors can trigger marital bliss or torture. So how can anyone manage the cocktail?
I tell the few who get the right partners who complements them to NEVER mock those who don’t. It is not by your power, the universe was just merciful & good to you.

Well, I pray for a good man who won't stress me.

Dybala11:

What of the older spinsters too?

We are here

ahnie:

Jesus!!!

Wetin I do nau....I just come greet them.

I love your ideology.

Oblongata:

I beg to differ sir!

Merely seeing friends/family that are married then Bachelors know what they are missing.

I have a very close friend who is a 43 year old bachelor and he has turned my kids to his kids...

Dude calls me way ahead of time to discuss how he would celebrate my kid’s birthday (without asking for his help o)

We (Me and wife) tried hooking him up a lot of times but he was very choosy. The last girl we hooked him up with (That appeared to be perfect. 24 year old Young lawyer Who just finished law college) he said she had incision at her back and that was it...

He confided in me sometime ago that he envies me a lot, and that he knows something is missing in his life, which is having a family.

Reason he had been treating my family like his.

Truth is: Bachelor’s know they are lonely, and they miss having a family.

Your friend is just telling u wat you want to hear. Deep down he isn't ready that's y he gave that incision excuse. What you see as envy could be pity from his own end. Our society makes us feel marriage is the next stage once you get a good paying job or when u r old enough, but marriage isn't for everyone neither is having kids.
In my case I want to marry and have kids but bringing kids to this Nigeria system feels like I brought them to the world to suffer.

Tzar:
My dear it was real mental torture. Thinking about it alone makes me shudder.
For real, financial or career success doesn’t determine marital bliss. The matrix for hapiness in marriage is too complex. Luck, background, training, God, money, patience, understanding, creativity, sexual prowess, child bearing and other endless factors can trigger marital bliss or torture. So how can anyone manage the cocktail?
I tell the few who get the right partners who complements them to NEVER mock those who don’t. It is not by your power, the universe was just merciful & good to you.

omo my brother ehn, I was just having this conversation with a colleague of mine over the weekend and he was complementing his newly wedded wife of how good she was and how lucky he was.. of a truth, she's really quite a good woman from the times they courted. I was quick to point out these points you mentioned above that mother luck shone on him.. he should be grateful. People like us never even fit see reasonable girlfriend not to talk of the one weh we go wife sef... Make all of them just getat abeg

redcliff:
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Hahahhahahaha

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright ....

You said older bachelor


You must be a real niggar

Braa make them vassa your boy small thing make man take sub for bombing na
Our fellow amigos nor dey try for us these days oh
Man dey fish just on e own
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First bank
I go too dodorima for you oh

seanjy4konji:
May God forbid the spirit that will make you listen to OP and go and marry when you know there is no way to feed them at the moment...

I watch ,movies,i drink beer,i take long walks,i go shopping,i take quiet drives,i listen to music,I wear jerseys and go to a pub and socialise with goldberg,i watch aljazeera,i welcome ruth and we have sex,,,,we go out and eat fish pepper soup,i go to site ad see how far work has gone,i come back and browse nairaland,i make calls to loved ones and drink some beer,i book a hotel in far away place ad get a hook up and use few days?i eat and drink, i abuse Buhari....i make some money?i buy more clothes and new wrist watchI host friends and girlfriends we gist and play ludo....i am happy...


Its not a must to have family to be happy....i have a family and we dont live together and i am still happy..when i feel bored at home>i dress up?call my shanapoos and we go have fun...

Kalas.

you be snr man no lie. very normal lifestyle.

na that ruth own make me laugh very normal happenin


You fit call ruth for me*smiles*

Kobojunkie:
I don't get it.... should a "lonely" spinster latch onto any available male that comes her way or what?

You folks need to get your heads probably screwed on right. Just cause a person is lonely does not mean the person no longer has standards.

Na standards make some of us dey single, and I have very narrow standards. First, if a girl is not very tall, I can't even look at her and see a sexual partner. Same thing if she is not slim. Then there is the Genotype thing. If she is not AA, I no follow o, cos as you see me so, I no dey like wear okpu agha (helmet). Once a while I meet girls that meets all these xteristics, moment she discovered she is my spec, she begins to misbehave, and then I send her back from whence she came from.

Malawian:

Na standards make some of us dey single, and I have very narrow standards. First, if a girl is not very tall, I can't even look at her and see a sexual partner. Same thing if she is not slim. Then there is the Genotype thing. If she is not AA, I no follow o, cos as you see me so, I no dey like wear okpu agha (helmet). Once a while I meet girls that meets all these xteristics, moment she discovered she is my spec, she begins to misbehave, and then I send her back from whence she came from.

The same way you have standards, spinsters also have standards so you attempting to denigrate them only reveals more to them why you are not of their standard.

Cc magicminister

You gotta type it out so I don’t get banned. Lemme know when done so I take it down

Awinneralways:
Cc magicminister

You gotta type it out so I don’t get banned. Lemme know when done so I take it down

Done

enemyofprogress:
Let me ear from vickyrotex, fatymore, funjosh, ajepako, notoriousbabe, myynd44, bola146, funkebabee, folake4u na dem be the full time singles on nairaland

Eleregbe

Abiababe:

We are here

No big deal really, whatever rocks your boat jor so far it doesn't harm others.

enemyofprogress:
Let me ear from vickyrotex, fatymore, funjosh, ajepako, notoriousbabe, myynd44, bola146, funkebabee, folake4u na dem be the full time singles on nairaland

Thanks for the mention.

LastProphet:


Nothing is missing is because of the low IQ society we blacks live in, travel out once to a developed country and you will start to understand that you are not only here to give birth to offsprings as pastors that fail WAEC want to make everyone believe. Stop watching upper iweka movies made by half baked graduates

LMAO!

You no get joy

LastProphet:


Nothing is missing is because of the low IQ society we blacks live in, travel out once to a developed country and you will start to understand that you are not only here to give birth to offsprings as pastors that fail WAEC want to make everyone believe. Stop watching upper iweka movies made by half baked graduates

Dayum
This was a sucker punch

RodgersAkpafu:

Dayum
This was a sucker punch

Hahahaha

@don4real18
Hi brother
I saw in a thread that you can track a phone number
I was duped of 1.7 million naira by a travel agent
I need help to track her.

GMPH:
@don4real18
Hi brother
I saw in a thread that you can track a phone number
I was duped of 1.7 million naira by a travel agent
I need help to track her.

Have you tried reaching out to the police and where exactly are you located?

debbydams:
I'm not in my best mood tonight..u won

kaiiiii..so u dont enjoy annnnnalsex??
U definitely my kinda woman coz I can make u lovvvit & I can help u twice..I swaar

Malawian:

Na standards make some of us dey single, and I have very narrow standards. First, if a girl is not very tall, I can't even look at her and see a sexual partner. Same thing if she is not slim. Then there is the Genotype thing. If she is not AA, I no follow o, cos as you see me so, I no dey like wear okpu agha (helmet). Once a while I meet girls that meets all these xteristics, moment she discovered she is my spec, she begins to misbehave, and then I send her back from whence she came from.

Hey man. Who are thou? You just described me.

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