Barrister026:


Yes, I love to know the truth, but am still in law school (200 level) what if it turns out complicated.

Originalsly:

It's the same.way your father wants to know the truth. If you are his son....then he will have rest and peace of mind. If you're not .... trust for your mother goes out the door for both you and your father. Why would you be hiding from the truth?

mt77:
Why are you afraid of the outcome? There is nothing new under the sun. After all there are orphans who still amounted to something in their lifetime ,despite the circumstances they found themselves. God is your strength. If the worst happens, it's no fault of yours. You are even lucky you are already on a defined path of life-studying law. Somehow you will still make it if you're focused.
Let God be your strength. Trust in him and you will not fail but make it.

rex21:


He just created a fictitious story bro

greatiyk4u:
It's obvious the man is wealthy and giving the OP the best life can offer and that's exactly what he is scared of losing especially now that he is totally dependent on the man.


Solution

Codedly inform your mom of the man's plan of doing DNA, ask her if you should accept or reject the offer

Her answer will guide your decision, if she advises you reject it, then accept to go to the hospital with him and once DNA test is mentioned, blackmail him with quarrel accusing him of suspecting your mom and leave back to school in anger

Find way to dupe him of some reasonable cash that can see you through school and refuse going back home again till you graduate then need dependent to move your mom and siblings away from the man.

Tankio

Barrister026:


Yes, I love to know the truth, but am still in law school (200 level) what if it turns out complicated.

greatiyk4u:


E go work on you sharperly Mr smart guy.

marttye:
this DNA test facilities that being set everywhere now is no good thing for marriage s right now.

think of it deeply.

oldtruth:
Honestly, DNA is good. Let me share with you what happened last week. The guy's first son was not his own but the second born belongs to him. When the wife was confronted, she confessed the first born belong to the guy best friend while the present pregnancy she is carrying belongs to the guy's dad.

cyrilamx:
Any union built on lies was never a marriage. It is better it collapses.

Barrister026:
My dad called me on the phone 2 days ago asking if I be coming home for the holiday, which is unlikely of him, because I just left home not quite long and he hardly call. (I school within our state, studying law)..... while we were on the call he mentioned about the Dr appointment. (We normally do routine check-up every 2 months )

Throwing the question to me if I even know my blood group. (I replied, no)
At FIRST I thought it's just a normal question.

Am 21yrs old, eldest among 3 siblings and I think my dad has something planned out, he's an Internet freak even more than I, he's actively online on twitter, facebook, and seeing all the uproars about DNA test here and there on Nairaland, I think he's going to ask me to come to the hospital with him disguising it as me Knowing my blood group (for a DNA test.)

The thing here is am scared, because all my life I have seen people saying never to trust a woman (I love my mom, but still am scared)

What if it's a DNA test (which I strongly believe it is)
What if it's turns out complicated
Would he still accept me? Or abandon me to myself.
So many thoughts running through my head, they are reasons for that.

He's black, I am fair (though my mum says I took his father complexion)


Pls help me...am thinking to stay back in school or go home This evening.
Am confused.

MufasaLion:


Yes, it would only if he ain't the biological son of the supposed father but however, he shouldn't let it destroy his life because he's got a great future ahead.

His parent(s)' wrong decision is not a reason enough to let him be crushed! I'm sure that man is financially stable and also the OP might be of good behavior so it's possible he get support from the man if he's to be chased away which I doubt.

We all have one thing or the other that is crushing us emotionally and mentally but we're trying to fight it. He should brace up because people have had worse and they are still liviing and shooting for the stars!

His mom is the one that's gonna bear the brunt in many ways because she caused it.

murphyibiam15:

You're not been practical help, what if he's not the biological child of his father and the man decides not to train him anymore? Do you think the boy doesn't know why he's scared. Nawa for una oo

KillamanJoe:
There is nothing to be scared for jare. Abi you dont want to know if he is your father too?

Kobojunkie:
How does this, Yeye story, console a man whose life is about to be turned upside down for Pete's sake?

Most of you yammering don't know what it means to put yourselves in anger person's shoes, do you?

LOVEGINO:
@21 u don't know ur blood group. U be mess

Tickles001:


For you to be afraid shows you have ample doubt he's your dad.

Just allow him do the test and don't in anyway try to discourage him.

If it turns out you're not his. Have a man to man conversation with him and tell him you still want to belong with him. Reassure him you would always be as much of a son as his own child could be.

Make it very evident that you're mad at your mom for holding up such high level of betrayal for over 20yrs. The big mistake you will make is to side your mom, or try to defend her, or try to advocate for softer punishment. Allow and support him in any way he wants to punish your mom.

Afterwards. When things get cooler, you can talk to your dad to possibly forgive your mom.
You stand ten times more chance reconciling and saving your family, than a thousand village elders. But for you to wield this power, you must totally support your dad in the disagreement that will come up and show zero support for your mom.

That is if you are not his

oldtruth:

Who is this junkie? How is his life being affected? Has he been confirmed negative? His dad deserves to know the truth.

Don't you ever in your miserable life quote me again!!!

MufasaLion:


I'm being practical. Read my posts again and assimilate.

oldtruth:


Who is this junkie? How is his life being affected? Has he been confirmed negative? His dad deserves to know the truth.

Don't you ever in your miserable life quote me again!!!

greatiyk4u:
It's obvious the man is wealthy and giving the OP the best life can offer and that's exactly what he is scared of losing especially now that he is totally dependent on the man.


Solution

Codedly inform your mom of the man's plan of doing DNA, ask her if you should accept or reject the offer

Her answer will guide your decision, if she advises you reject it, then accept to go to the hospital with him and once DNA test is mentioned, blackmail him with quarrel accusing him of suspecting your mom and leave back to school in anger

Find way to dupe him of some reasonable cash that can see you through school and refuse going back home again till you graduate then need dependent to move your mom and siblings away from the man.

Tankio

murphyibiam15:

Sorry you're not

JovialJune:
Hehehehe, I'll be on the lookout for "m" monikers, let's see if they will be bold enough to bitch about since this one is a grown ass adult, of which his momma was born in the time past, and not females of these days.

JovialJune:
Hehehehe, I'll be on the lookout for "m" monikers, let's see if they will be bold enough to bitch about since this one is a grown ass adult, of which his momma was born in the time past, and not females of these days.

MufasaLion:


I'm not interested in you getting my point as long as he got it.

Barrister026:
My dad called me on the phone 2 days ago asking if I be coming home for the holiday, which is unlikely of him, because I just left home not quite long and he hardly call. (I school within our state, studying law)..... while we were on the call he mentioned about the Dr appointment. (We normally do routine check-up every 2 months )

Throwing the question to me if I even know my blood group. (I replied, no)
At FIRST I thought it's just a normal question.

Am 21yrs old, eldest among 3 siblings and I think my dad has something planned out, he's an Internet freak even more than I, he's actively online on twitter, facebook, and seeing all the uproars about DNA test here and there on Nairaland, I think he's going to ask me to come to the hospital with him disguising it as me Knowing my blood group (for a DNA test.)

The thing here is am scared, because all my life I have seen people saying never to trust a woman (I love my mom, but still am scared)

What if it's a DNA test (which I strongly believe it is)
What if it's turns out complicated
Would he still accept me? Or abandon me to myself.
So many thoughts running through my head, they are reasons for that.

He's black, I am fair (though my mum says I took his father complexion)


Pls help me...am thinking to stay back in school or go home This evening.
Am confused.

murphyibiam15:

He didn't get it as well, it's obvious you're typing rubbish, can't you see his reaction lol

JovialJune:
Hehehehe, I'll be on the lookout for "m" monikers, let's see if they will be bold enough to bitch about since this one is a grown ass adult, of which his momma was born in the time past, and not females of these days.

MufasaLion:


Dude, he never even said anything. Go and sit down. I don't have your time.