Before I begin let me point this outfit. I am a mess, I can be a mess. I am very non challant about everything in this life, I hardly take anything serious, even me myself I don’t take me serious. Maybe that’s why I do t know how to wear makeup.
I am in to fashion, I sell clothes, so I go to the market most of the time almost daily to shop for prints. As soon as I am in the market, I forget everything my mind is fully in my hustle that I might not even hear my phone ring ( does this happen to anyone else) during this period if oga calls and I am don’t pick his call. Wahala big one. All means to explain to him that I get engrossed sometimes in shopping has proved abortive
So I sought for a solution and got a second phone that probably rings louder hoping this will help my people still nothing oo sometimes I might not even know the phone ringing is mine
Each time I pick up the phone and see all his missed calls i immediately hate myself. Cause he has always warned that I stay reacheable severally I have even lost count and warned that the next time it happens it’s over
In as much as I’m carefree, I care about this man a lot and I hate seeing him mad so I find myself treading with caution Checking my phones at intervals or sometimes even holding it so u would know if it rings.
But somehow he just thinks I am intentionally doing it, he finds it unbelievable that someone will have a phone and not pick calls. Many times than more the iPhone will just move to silence on its own or either by mistake
Now this has caused distance between us. This isn’t something I can fight cause it isn’t intentional but hubby has concluded it is.
Is there anyone that is this carefree with their phones how does your partner handle it, do they hate you for this reason or your guys just walk through it like it’s a norm

Don't dish out what you can't take, if the reverse was the case you will accuse him of cheating. Find a way to stop this bad habit permanently before he permanently drift away from you

As a mess and a carefree person that you are why not allow him take a second wife that will be there for him when he calls?
Hanti work on yasef, get a PA or sales girl or someone who is close to always remind you of the phone. It is called handset for a reason.

Iyaebe:
Don't dish out what you can't take, if the reverse was the case you will accuse him of cheating. Find a way to stop this bad habit permanently before he permanently drift away from you

So you're Wise like this

Dclog:
Now this has caused distance between us. This isn’t something I can fight cause it isn’t intentional but hubby has concluded it is.
Is there anyone that is this carefree with their phones how does your partner handle it, do they hate you for this reason or your guys just walk through it like it’s a norm

What in the world is a norm where marriage is concerned? Why does it matter what other folks do I'm their own relationships regarding this. Focus on resolving your own issues abeg.

You are able to change your phone habits - Anyone is able to do it. The question however is do you want to accommodate your husband in this or not?

Hmm..Marriage wahala no dey finish. My sister it is well...

Madam you’re playing with your marriage. Many men will end relationships because of exactly what you described, especially if there’s no resolution in sight. Self discipline is important to maintain a healthy relationship. Once you lose that connection with him, you can’t simply turn a switch back to what it used to be, it’s gone!

If it helps, buy an Apple or Smart Watch that vibrates on your wrist when your phone rings.

Update:
This isn’t your case, but I’ve come across some people who do it because they’re worried he’ll stay too long on the phone when they’re in the middle of business and need to concentrate. What I tell them is, pick his call, explain the situation and promise to call back once you’re disposed. With time he’ll reduce his frequency without being offended

See self justification.

I like simple solutions to issues. Just buy those blue tooth earpiece and wear one whenever you're in the market or the wristwatch. You cant miss those. Good luck.

DaddyRochie1642:



So you're Wise like this

I'm even surprised as well

Ended my last relationship because of this. How exactly the Bleep will I keep calling and you won't pick?? Imagine you also saying you're non challant about this shitty attitude. In my own case, even texts she replied only when she feels like. That is wickedness.

I assume you had the time in the world to type this and that showed you are really concerned about the issue.

Get a phone you can navigate well.

For a start, when you get to work after a while, call him to know how he is doing. Make a routine.

Maybe he is worried you don't call, and you don't receive either. It is hurtful and can introduce suspicion.

Keep your phone handy.

All will be fine if you prioritise more important things over material things.

Dclog:

In as much as I’m carefree, I care about this man a lot and I hate seeing him mad so I find myself treading with caution Checking my phones at

Madam, are you really sure you care about this man?

@ Dclog
What u are saying doesn't even make sense!
How do u manage your business without knowing how to use your phone? Don't u have parents & siblings? How do they communicate with u? No one will tolerate this kind of attitude! Your husband really tried for tolerating u this long!

I personally don't know what to say about this to ease your distress.

I think it's really irresponsible when an adult using a phone cannot be easily reached.

Personally, I get pissed when my calls go unanswered, worse when it's even a habit.

There'd always be one-off situations, but you must try to do something about putting an end to the recurrence.

Please get a smart watch or original buetooth pods.

If this has been going on for the most part of your marriage, then he should be used to it by now and adjust.
Everything is about understanding. Since you've already explained to him that it's because you're always engrossed in your biz that you don't get to hear your phone ring, he should have stopped calling you during biz hours.

Let him get busy and stop disturbing you with incessant calls.

Last time I shot my Indian girlfriend because of this shitty act of missing my 3 calls. Gave her two bullets on her head. be careful

Mercychen:
If this has been going on for the most part of your marriage, then he should be used to it by now and adjust.
Everything is about understanding. Since you've already explained to him that it's because you're always engrossed in your biz that you don't get to hear your phone ring, he should have stopped calling you during biz hours.

Let him get busy and stop disturbing you with incessant calls.

if you tryed this shiiit with me ama closed the shop and sell it off or you pack out of me house.

Iyaebe:
Don't dish out what you can't take, if the reverse was the case you will accuse him of cheating. Find a way to stop this bad habit permanently before he permanently drift away from you

So this girl get small sense?

Mercychen:
If this has been going on for the most part of your marriage, then he should be used to it by now and adjust.
Everything is about understanding. Since you've already explained to him that it's because you're always engrossed in your biz that you don't get to hear your phone ring, he should have stopped calling you during biz hours.

Let him get busy and stop disturbing you with incessant calls.

Rubbish. Op take this and watch your home get destroyed.

Madam better go and apologize to your husband and take corrections.Put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself if you can condone such act from him.

How will it be if your marriage hits the rocks because of this nonsense you posted here. Sorry but you are not a wise person at all. You will come to your senses when you finally drive your husband away from the marriage

DaddyRochie1642:



So you're Wise like this

As in eh...
Her replies don dey make sense this days o

Mercychen:
If this has been going on for the most part of your marriage, then he should be used to it by now and adjust.
Everything is about understanding. Since you've already explained to him that it's because you're always engrossed in your biz that you don't get to hear your phone ring, he should have stopped calling you during biz hours.


Let him get busy and stop disturbing you with incessant calls.

I sincerely hope your response will be the same if the case were reversed and by the way can't she adjust?? Why does it have to be the man that'll make the adjustments??

Some married women are like this. My wife is one of them. She will keep her phone somewhere and be somewhere else. I will always tell her that the phone is called mobile phone.

Even I, when I'm in some activities I don't like my phone around me. In some days I don't receive calls for half of the day but as soon as I'm free I'll begin to return all the calls. Even unsaved numbers that called me twice, I'll return the call.

Try and change the habit hence it's an issue. Cultivate the habit of calling him when you are free even when he didn't call and tell him that you are using the opportunity to let him know you're missing his calls were not deliberate.

Different wahala for relationships.

Danjikanbauchi:
if you tryed this shiiit with me ama closed the shop and sell it off or you pack out of me house.

Story.

Favfables:




I sincerely hope your response will be the same if the case were reversed and by the way can't she adjust?? Why does it have to be the man that'll make the adjustments??

It will still be same same. I don't see why you should be disturbing people with unnecessary calls when you know they are busy. Apart from emergency calls ( which is not even the case here) any other call at such times is not necessary. Let him learn to live with it.

Dclog:
Before I begin let me point this outfit. I am a mess, I can be a mess. I am very non challant about everything in this life, I hardly take anything serious, even me myself I don’t take me serious. Maybe that’s why I do t know how to wear makeup.
I am in to fashion, I sell clothes, so I go to the market most of the time almost daily to shop for prints. As soon as I am in the market, I forget everything my mind is fully in my hustle that I might not even hear my phone ring ( does this happen to anyone else) during this period if oga calls and I am don’t pick his call. Wahala big one. All means to explain to him that I get engrossed sometimes in shopping has proved abortive
So I sought for a solution and got a second phone that probably rings louder hoping this will help my people still nothing oo sometimes I might not even know the phone ringing is mine
Each time I pick up the phone and see all his missed calls i immediately hate myself. Cause he has always warned that I stay reacheable severally I have even lost count and warned that the next time it happens it’s over
In as much as I’m carefree, I care about this man a lot and I hate seeing him mad so I find myself treading with caution Checking my phones at intervals or sometimes even holding it so u would know if it rings.
But somehow he just thinks I am intentionally doing it, he finds it unbelievable that someone will have a phone and not pick calls. Many times than more the iPhone will just move to silence on its own or either by mistake
Now this has caused distance between us. This isn’t something I can fight cause it isn’t intentional but hubby has concluded it is.
Is there anyone that is this carefree with their phones how does your partner handle it, do they hate you for this reason or your guys just walk through it like it’s a norm

Ty this solution.
Think about the best time you can be reached. Let him know that staying reachable and chasing money hardly go hand in hand. Choose two particular hours that you will be reachable, perhaps 10-11am and 2-3pm.

Put a reminder or alarm on your phone. Once it gets to that time call him or hold the phone in your hand and find a quiet spot or text him.

You are not carefree. Your personality is the type that loves routine and not spontaneity. If you have a time set out for your husband's calls you will not have this issue anymore

Mercychen:


Story.



It will still be same same. I don't see why you should be disturbing people with unnecessary calls when you know they are busy. Apart from emergency calls ( which is not even the case here) any other call at such times is not necessary. Let him learn to live with it.

How would you know when church call is emergency if you don't pick it up?? Abi is there a way to know if a call is an emergency call by not picking it??

And you haven't answered me, why does it have to be the man who'll adjust, why can't the woman adjust??

Mercychen:


Story.



It will still be same same. I don't see why you should be disturbing people with unnecessary calls when you know they are busy. Apart from emergency calls ( which is not even the case here) any other call at such times is not necessary. Let him learn to live with it.

How would you know when a call is emergency if you don't pick it up?? Abi is there a way to know if a call is an emergency call by not picking it??

And you haven't answered me, why does it have to be the man who'll adjust, why can't the woman adjust??

Favfables:


How would you know when a call is emergency if you don't pick it up?? Abi is there a way to know if a call is an emergency call by not picking it??

And you haven't answered me, why does it have to be the man who'll adjust, why can't the woman adjust??

I'm sure OP is already so used to the calls that she has unconsciously formed an impression of it and prolly knows when its not an emergency call. Too much of everything makes it lose relevance.

To your question. The woman obviously cant adjust because it a weakness she has and that she already admitted in her post that she can't help it even though she has tried severally to change. As for the man who still has the will power, it will be a lot easier for him to do.

Mercychen:






It will still be same same. I don't see why you should be disturbing people with unnecessary calls when you know they are busy. Apart from emergency calls ( which is not even the case here) any other call at such times is not necessary. Let him learn to live with it..

Aaah see small pikin brain oooo. Walahi I can swear you never pass 22 years. Because if na like this you deh reason then marriage still far from you.the Aunty I mean the OP is matured and married she don't want drama inaher home.