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Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kingosytex(m): 12:04pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Does marriage really favour only women? Why do women celebrate marriage like it's a kinda trophy while men hardly do that? I have also come across this notion and I just feel like unraveling the mystery behind such ideology. Go to Facebook and other social media platforms you will see marriage posts of women celebrating being married, their friends also partake in celebrating in their joy but to be very honest I seldom see such about men. Are majority really right in their opinion that marriage favours women? |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Figger(m): 12:23pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
It's because marriage is their retirement package, moreso, the fear of loneliness is finally conquered. Women fears loneliness a lot. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kobojunkie: 12:31pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Figger:The fear of loneliness is not unique to women and marriage as a retirement package is an idea continually sold to them by men whose egos are majorly disconnected from reason. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kobojunkie: 12:33pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Kingosytex:In Nigeria or where? To this day, the vast majority of women are abandoned to raise their children alone by those they were formally married to and so, I don't think those who hold that so-called opinion are themselves in touch with reality. I am certain many of you here were raised by your mothers- your fathers no longer in the picture. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by tensazangetsu20(m): 12:39pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:True here. My dad has not paid my fees since primary school. My mom paid my fees to the university that's why she gets all my money now and it's same for many of my friends. I don't know where men take care of their families but it definitely not in Nigeria. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Nobody: 12:53pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: tensazangetsu20:The fact that both your dad failed in his responsibility doesn't mean that you should generalise. My dad is my hero and I learnt a lot from him......but you see that opposite gender....make I no just talk wetin dey my mind 10 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Klass99(f): 12:53pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
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Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kobojunkie: 12:56pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Catfishing:This isn't a generalization. Abandonment is a real phenomenon in Nigeria - has been reported so for decades - though like many other problems, it continues to be ignored. I am glad your daddy is your hero...but that shouldn't be reason for you to turn a blind eye to the realities on ground. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by hopeforcharles(m): 1:28pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20:You are economical with the truth. Men take care of their families because its their responsibility and they hardly complain. But women when ever they do take care of the family they complain because they sees it as not their responsibility, most women come in to handle family responsibilities when the man is not performing either due to loss of source of income and others 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Sonnobax15(m): 2:55pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Acidosis(m): 3:23pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Women celebrate everything like a trophy: marriage, baby shower, birthday, graduation, wedding, Etc. It's not limited to marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kobojunkie: 3:38pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Acidosis:Men also celebrate pretty much everything you have up there as well. So none of this is unique to women. |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Nobody: 4:32pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
If you go through this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6788228/cost-getting-married-poor-family/4 you'd understand why. Marriage is the only way most African women level up in life,hence the reason they celebrate it like a trophy. If you go through the thread you'll notice 99% of the female commenters were advising the OP to marry a poor and uneducated woman with baggages (many siblings+parents that will be depending on him). If the reverse was the case, they'd never give the same advise. Who wouldn't like the idea of being free of financial duties for life? Having all your bills being paid for by someone else. So, my friend, that is the reason why most African women see marriage as a do or die affair, and also celebrate it like trophy. Even while they're still in NYSC or university, they've already started wishing to get married. Marriage is the ultimate priority of the female folks. No matter how any clout chasing female try to claim otherwise on social media,it wouldn't change reality. Cc crackhaus 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by pocohantas(f): 4:36pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
A good marriage is a trophy. If people can celebrate their new cars, houses, degree, hairdo, even eyelashes, I don’t see why we try to nail some women for celebrating marriage. However, when reality starts to hit, you would definitely see the same women calming down. They will stop posting pictures of the husband and start posting only pictures of their kids. The same women that are quick to celebrate marriage are the same ones that most times initiate divorce. In all, I still think a GOOD partner is a special gift. It is not of God that man should be alone. This doesn’t necessarily mean marriage, but companionship. Many Nigerian marriages lack companionship. 16 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Justbehave(m): 4:41pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Kingosytex:It is their trophy that's why their first prayer point is always about husband. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Nobody: 4:52pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
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Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by greenie77: 4:59pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Why should a woman be shamed/demeaned for celebrating a new phase of her life? When she starts focusing on the kids, another thread comes up! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by cooooooks(m): 5:02pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
You said "the vast majority". Smh. Science help you. Kobojunkie: |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by greenie77: 5:05pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Plead: Please can you share the percentage of married women in today's Nigeria who are free of financial duties for life? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by pocohantas(f): 5:23pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
greenie77: If there is anything I have learned, it is the fact that you can’t please men. When they propose to a lady and she is excited, the trash talking starts. “Women love marriage, blablabla” When they propose and she takes it very calmly. Another wahala. “You sure say this one love the guy?” “I see this marriage failing” Okay, she decides to stay single, biggest wahala. They will insert themselves into every aspect of her life. If her brake fails, it has to be because she is still single. She has a bad day at work? It is because she is single. I would never understand what that gender wants. Even God created woman because he thought he could please them. Somehow they started blaming same woman for their shortcomings. God had to chase them out of the Garden of Eden. Such nags! 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Klass99(f): 5:28pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
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Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by greenie77: 5:42pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
pocohantas: Endless! Some were arguing blindly that women are the reason men die early ignoring the fact that men are genetically weaker reason we loose more baby boys than girls when it comes to infant mortality or boys are even more predisposed to neurodevelopmental disorders (Autism,ADHD etc), also ignoring that men have poor health seeking behaviours and seek validation from risky lifestyle. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by pocohantas(f): 5:50pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Klass99: People always think it is marriage they need, but they soon realize it is long term companionship they crave for. That is why they will be married but finding succour in churches, beer parlours and various vaginas/pricks. If my man is a good partner and father, removing tradition, I would be very fine with him. If he marries me and isn’t doing this, I would seek the fastest way to get out before I run mad inside a marriage. I have seen a couple so sweet and balanced that people kept asking what was holding the man from paying her bride price. They both said they don’t want to. I don’t know if they have done so now as it has been a while since I saw them. Having someone you can depend on is beautiful. This life is hard enough, you don’t have to walk alone if you do not want to. No woman should allow men shame her for celebrating her marriage. Same men would shame her if she is single. I have responded. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kobojunkie: 5:51pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
pocohantas:The statement in bold is a lie that was fed you by your Mogs. Jesus corrected that lie 2000 years ago when He reminded you that the same God created some Eunuchs, allowed some become Eunuchs in life, and let other chose to be Eunuchs for for sake of His Kingdom - Matthew 19 vs 11 - 15. |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by pocohantas(f): 5:53pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: True. Marriage would never be compulsory, but for people that want to marry, they should marry by all means. |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kobojunkie: 5:55pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Klass99:God created Eve from Adam, a clone of Him in the other gender because Adam was the only human ever to be alone on the Earth/Eden - the first ever created created. After that the same God also created Eunuchs. So companionship is a choice not a mandate. |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kobojunkie: 5:57pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
cooooooks:I don't follow. |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Klass99(f): 6:19pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
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Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Acidosis(m): 7:56pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: In equal proportion? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Kobojunkie: 7:59pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Acidosis:I have not noticed any difference between the genders in this. |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Acidosis(m): 8:05pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: So you're gonna take after your father by not taking care of your children or what sort of conclusion is this? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Women Celebrate Marriage Like It's A Trophy? by Acidosis(m): 8:06pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Check your WhatsApp status, you'll see the difference. 1 Like 1 Share |
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