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Re: Bored In Marriage by AntiWailer: 2:58pm On Oct 17, 2021
uthlaw:
I no get problem, bringing a girl into my life will be the beginning of problems....PS5 will never make you bored,I don't drink nor smoke but Bleep different pussy....I can still ball PS5 with my child,I enroll him or her in a boarding school....you can't even force me to get married,remove sex and what else is in that marriage....my freedom,my peace!

Right now, the conversation is for those who want to marry and make it work.

When it is your turn, we will invite u
Re: Bored In Marriage by Poopypants: 6:10pm On Oct 17, 2021
uthlaw:
you na woman rapa....we no get talk!
go rest
Re: Bored In Marriage by uthlaw: 11:38pm On Oct 17, 2021
AntiWailer:


Right now, the conversation is for those who want to marry and make it work.

When it is your turn, we will invite u
no wahala boss,na just to born ooo....I no want those gender problem!
Re: Bored In Marriage by AntiWailer: 8:58am On Oct 18, 2021
uthlaw:
no wahala boss,na just to born ooo....I no want those gender problem!

With the right woman beside u, u will go far and fast in life.

It is not always easy but super super easy.
Re: Bored In Marriage by uthlaw: 10:28am On Oct 18, 2021
AntiWailer:


With the right woman beside u, u will go far and fast in life.

It is not always easy but super super easy.
I think the only woman is our mother....
Re: Bored In Marriage by Donpenny(m): 12:10pm On Oct 18, 2021
SLAVERY OF MEN BY WOMEN

●Author unknown

German writer Esther Villar In her book *"The Manipulated Man"* that caused outrage and hostile criticism from women explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves, they have pretended to be the oppressed sex while in the real sense they are the oppressors. She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like courtship and finally marriage, hence the saying *"a man chases a woman until SHE catches him".*

In her book, she explains how the man is tricked to care for the woman all his life and her offspring. He rolls the stone like Sisyphus and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of sexual pleasure. We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the woman uses and has used it for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.

She goes ahead to explain the rivalry of women, how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for herself. Like a slave owner, she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.

Esther Villar's sentiments are captured by Nigerian Poet, critic and writer, Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book, *"The Anatomy of Female Power"*(AFP) and Will Farrel's, *"The Predatory Female*. They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. Matriarchy has ruled not through brawn but wits and tricks; women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited sex in human history, (in wars, the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).

Chinweizu calls the idea of dating and courtship, training, like that of a horse. It is during this time that a woman, having kept the man on a leash by denying him sex and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.

The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the woman and her friends, and they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a slave. A man on that wedding day waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a Sisyphean life, rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon having society and the government checking on him and always ready to jail, shame or exile him for absconding his duties.
*Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her slave in check.*

Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to tame men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother. A man is shamed for cooking for himself and other domestic chores by his own mother who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule.

By getting the man to hate domestic works and having it enforced by culture which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing laundry etc., the mother trains his son for the woman who will captivate him and when the time comes she takes hold of the man's stomach and by getting the man addicted to her body she holds him by the two, in bed and in the kitchen. With those two weapons, she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.

In the *"Myth of the Male Power"*, Esther Villar's *" A Man's Right to the Other Woman"*; *"The Polygamous Sex"*, the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women, and by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world.

Presidents, Emperors and Kings are all puppets of the matriarchy forces that rule the World by pulling the strings from behind the curtains.
Re: Bored In Marriage by sadafansari: 9:10pm On Nov 22, 2021
Hmm in that case, you must seek some coaching from a divorce coach to let you out of this confusion.
https://thedivorcesolutionist.com/ways-we-can-help/coaching/
Re: Bored In Marriage by Cohelm(m): 4:03pm On Nov 26, 2021
It becomes boring because you have not found common interests.
To do this, both you and your wife need to write an individual list of things that are interesting, that fascinate and do not leave you indifferent.
Each list should be at least 20 items.
After that, read through the lists together. I assume that you will learn a lot about each other smiley
These lists can be turned into "Wish Lists." And when the wishes come true it can not be boring smiley
Just do not forget to specify and supplement them.
Boredom in married life - it is the norm, so almost everyone, and do not think that the grass is greener behind the fence - it's an illusion.

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Re: Bored In Marriage by XAUBulls: 7:26pm On Apr 28, 2023
Nnatuu:
It is normal to feel that way early in marriage.

Just turn a blind eye and live each day as it comes. In the end, even the bachelor life go still tire you. Earlier you settle into marriage better for you potentially.

I’m married and still dealing with the challenges of carrying someone along in everything I do.

But I deeply prefer marriage than the directionless bachelor life. I wasted millions of naira living as a bachelor that would’ve been useful for me.

The best you can do is to send your family abroad since you’re okay financially that way you can get small space BUT not the space to chase women around as that will complicate your mental health further.

As for me, bachelor life can miss me for now and forever.
Succinct.
Re: Bored In Marriage by XAUBulls: 7:28pm On Apr 28, 2023
Cohelm:
It becomes boring because you have not found common interests.

To do this, both you and your wife need to write an individual list of things that are interesting, that fascinate and do not leave you indifferent.

Each list should be at least 20 items.
After that, read through the lists together. I assume that you will learn a lot about each other smiley
These lists can be turned into "Wish Lists." And when the wishes come true it can not be boring smiley
Just do not forget to specify and supplement them.

Boredom in married life - it is the norm, so almost everyone, and do not think that the grass is greener behind the fence - it's an illusion.
Check.
Re: Bored In Marriage by XAUBulls: 7:35pm On Apr 28, 2023
Raalsalghul:
https://www.nairaland.com/5821202/lonely-heart

You were seeking a life partner in the above thread, you have found one and now you are bored.

Why didn't you condition yourself mentally?

Modified: my guy don deactivate. grin grin

Hope I'm not the cause sha?
Lol.

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