LordReed:


I get you. You feel stifled. Lemme propose a solution, whenever it is you wanna go have your wife come along.

for what, when am discussing guys stuff with my men so she will find fault when we get home and complwin about my bachelor' friends

Asour:


Gossiping is not a good thing.

gossiping with my partner isn’t wrong .. the world exists on gossip , everybody gossips , na and who take the gossip to heart e concern..

PrimadonnaO:


When people are told, "marry your friend," they never understand what it means.

The very minimum in a relationship should be communication.

Think about how you are with your chummiest friend and marry someone who can be close enough to that.

You have endless things to talk about.

They don't always have to make sense, or be serious conversations. Breezy conversations.

Someone with whom you're not scared of judgement. If they're advising you, they do it with love and gentility.

Someone you can't fight with for long because you'll be terribly uncomfortable. There's a new gist you want to share with them...
There's a new place you want to try out with them...
There's a movie you want to see with them...
You're genuinely happy and at ease being around them...

You don't put on airs around each other...
No pretence...
Bare to each other...

Being like that with a romantic partner may not happen overnight. But that's what building a relationship is all about.
You can get it there.

And when/if you do, you'll be super thankful because it will make so many things a lot easier.

you are very correct , most people mistake marriage for relationship..

AmericanDad:


I felt like that when I married at 28. It was shocking and miss singlehood. I divorced and have my single hood back and it feels awesome. But parents dey pressure me to settle down again..now I'm 33. I no wan settle abeg..I'm busy having fun and exploring new pussiess

U divorced your wife just because u missed singlehood? Lol

Rubbiish:

U divorced your wife just because u missed singlehood? Lol

No. Irreconcilable differences. She was a nag, troublesome, slay queen with an attitude problem...I cudnt contain that shit no more

Sheddybaba44

I can assure you that feeling of boredom would have been there even if you got married at forty but now you made the great decision of getting married early and you should be proud of yourself. You can still hang out with your married friends that your wife trusts. You won't understand the advantage you have until your 40's and 50's when you'll be free to relax with your wife and play as you want while your mates are still raising little kids. Stroll out once in a while, marriage is not a prison. Buy her suya when coming back home (standard procedure for married men worldwide when coming home late) but by all means, defend that marriage. God will bless you as you testify of His goodness in your family in the coming years

AmericanDad:


No. Irreconcilable differences. She was a nag, troublesome, slay queen with an attitude problem...I cudnt contain that shit no more

Oh Quite sad!
Living with her must have been something else.

You feel being at the age of 29 makes you younger abi, don't even think of divorcing your wife, you need to see your pastor to counsel you.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Una never know before you enter abii
Toto don sweet you now you see yourself

RZArecta:


You can still hang out with your married friends that your wife trusts.

Hmm

Rubbiish:

Oh Quite sad!
Living with her must have been something else.

I almost lost my mind

OP, express yourself to her. Don't tell her anything. Just start giving her attitude.

It won't solve the problem but it will help you find the solution

RZArecta:
Sheddybaba44

I can assure you that feeling of boredom would have been there even if you got married at forty but now you made the great decision of getting married early and you should be proud of yourself. You can still hang out with your married friends that your wife trusts. You won't understand the advantage you have until your 40's and 50's when you'll be free to relax with your wife and play as you want while your mates are still raising little kids. Stroll out once in a while, marriage is not a prison. Buy her suya when coming back home (standard procedure for married men worldwide when coming home late) but by all means, defend that marriage. God will bless you as you testify of His goodness in your family in the coming years

No be only play with your wife in your 40s and 50s. Dey there dey think say women na robot wey go always stay with you.

frozen70:



Now that you are married try and pregnant your wife while you still play away

I honestly don't understand u at times!
Do u give your phone to ur son at times?

You wife is not the problem. The problem is that you want to explore and enjoy your youthful live alone(selfishness) What stops you from exploring with your partner, do you think she is not missing those funful Stuff too? . Please carry your partner and both of you should rock the world together.

This is formulae young married couples should always apply.

1 : Get married on time but don’t rush into giving birth. You can start giving birth after 2 to 3 years of marriage. You will have enough time to enjoy your partner and plan a more solid future for the family

2: explore new things with your partner e.g Traveling, going to shows, adventures e.t.c

Thanks for reading.

PrimadonnaO:
What does marriage really restrict people from doing?

Sometimes, people who shy away from marriage do so because they want to be irresponsible for as long as they can.

Not be accountable to anyone...

Hop from one relationship to another without a care in the world...

Endless late nights and getaways.

Not take up responsibilities for someone else, kids, spouse, sometimes extended family, etc.

Because if the above aren't problems, then marriage isn't so much different from living in-house with your boo.

Only difference would be having children, but isn't that so much more beautiful?

Come on...
So if one choose to have his space & time, does that mean such a person is irresponsible? Some persons want freedom like most introverts, such person shouldn't be term irresponsible.

AlhajaChinyere:


99% of olosho customers are married men…

...and they need prayers...why get married and they patronize olosho. Money wey you go take pay bride price, trad wedding, buy list items, do church wedding etc e go reach to take bang different varieties of olosho for the next ten years...so why marry na. Any man wey marry and still dey visit olosho e get mental health issues ohh!

Exploring diff pussies will expose you to stds that may likely affect the qualities of your life if you ever consider returning back to bachelorhood. Do you have the time and chance to carried out test for random girls met on the street or club in the heat of romance? Even with ur condom you can still contract diseases like hepatitis through mere bodily flud during kissing and others. So you call all these worrying during the course of exploring pussies as a bachelor enjoyment? You don't have to worry abt all these if you're married and committed to a partner. As for rising kids, you can choose 1 to 2 to avoild stress that comes with raising them. Baba if your wife is sexy, has good curve and other qualities your need in a marriage mate dont divorce her. Keep her and device a mean for both of you to socialise

efficiencie:
...and they need prayers...why get married and they patronize olosho. Money wey you go take pay bride price, trad wedding, buy list items, do church wedding etc e go reach to take bang different varieties of olosho for the next ten years...so why marry na. Any man wey marry and still dey visit olosho e get mental health issues ohh!

Rubbish!!!

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Live with it..soon Children will come and it's gonna be Fun & Crazy trust me... I have been there..Enjoy the ride.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

You ought to have known all these before you went to the altar via reading of marriage oriented books that there are some times in marriage that are called dry season. But with the situation now, it now behooves on you and your wife to love yourself either you feel like it or not.... Some marriage will still crash because we are too in an hurry to jump the preparatory class. You don't learn to shoot gun on the battle field, you learn it before the battle begins. The solution now is to tell you psychology that man, I must make this marriage work. Marriage is hardwork. I pray the Lord would strengthen your heart to take up this challenge. Divorce is never an option.

If you're not ready at 29, you will not be ready at 92.
Nansense!

shedybaba44:
for what, when am discussing guys stuff with my men so she will find fault when we get home and complwin about my bachelor' friends

What guy stuff? Women? Sex? What would you be discussing that you think she won't like?

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Devil don dey beat drum for you...ask others before you...

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

You are a failure already with this mindset.

trevorhorace:



HRHQueenPhil

Na she u marry? Or you just hit and run

We never saw, dated or fvcke
I wld never make my man bored, he wld even be rushing home to meet me
Choose wisely and enjoy marriage
Still trusting God for my own prince

FiverrTutor:

We had irreconcilable differences

o di egwu o

FiverrTutor:


And so what?? I personally married at 23(I have two children aged 13 and 8 years old) I later got bored with the marriage when I clocked 32... Presently I'm divorced living in a big house with my 2 daughters and I'm so so happy and contented!!!!

U divorced your wife just because of boredom?

malvisguy212:
shedybaba44 i dont believe this story, you created a thread in April seeking for a serious relationship, but here you said you have been married since March. how is this possible ? fake story

That thread was created April 2020

Raalsalghul:
https://www.nairaland.com/5821202/lonely-heart

You were seeking a life partner in the above thread, you have found one and now you are bored.

You were supposed to condition yourself mentally.

Honestly, he was never ready emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically...

HRHQueenPhil:



We never saw, dated or fvcke
I wld never make my man bored, he wld even be rushing home to meet me
Choose wisely and enjoy marriage
Still trusting God for my own prince

Okay na. Wish you all the best in your search.