brownemmanuel43:

This sounds so selfish to me, u didn't care for the uncle's peace of mind rather u are only looking at the angle and selfishness of the woman.
Uncle endured her attitudes bcs all this while, he had being going to work, so there was no room then for the uncle to be exchanging words with her. But now that baba retired, all he really need now is peace of mind before be can join his ancestors.

Lol! Peace of mind that he should have bothered about before staying in the marriage for 30 years, it’s now that he remembers he needs peace of mind. My dear, forget it, if he wasn’t having little peace of mind, he would have divorced her since cos trust me when one’s marriage doesn’t give one peace of mind, the issue transcends to other aspects of one’s life, (the work inclusive)

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pocohantas:


Sad one. Are the kids bewitched or do they know something we don’t know? How can all his MALE SONS be this useless?

Which one be 'Male Sons'?

Nigerians and their show of foolishness...

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sisisioge:


He seek peace now that he is retired and likely to spend more time at home. Back in the days, he could easily escape to work while she does her wahala but now that his bones are growing tired and not able to easily escape, he needs to find someone who understands the importance of peaceful cohabitation or close shop on company.

By the way, it's not a gender monopoly, we all want peace now and always. I had some encounter with a fighting couple some 2 days ago and was scared to my marrow. Na real wa....why are people fighting biko! Whew!

Marriage is a SCAM.

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[quote author=Xj2020 post=106809796]He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time.

He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.

Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.

Mr op, This question should be directed to your uncle fir better clarification.

viewflux:



My mum was doing similar thing to us about who and who owns what in my dad property in PH and the village and also trying to pitch us the children against him with so many spurious accusations, but we figured it out on time and slit 4 against 1(the last boy). I sat her down to told her the truth that she can take a bow if she is tired of the union and that i will not visit her wherever she is and that my dad is the one that commands the authority to shear his property and not her. the last daughter told her that if she disturbs the man too much and he decides to take another woman as wife that she will welcome the new wife with open hand.

When she saw it was 4 to 1 against her nagging behavior, that was how she cool till today. her reasoning done stable. what the mothers do first is the buy the children to there side then start attacking the husband because the children has her backing. this was what lead the man in Kano to burn down his house to ground level because the children and his wife where against him so nobody could lay claim to the building.

children has a big roll to play in mother/father misunderstanding.

You and your siblings have actually done well. The way mothers try to pitch children against their father is always misery.

Xj2020:
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time.

He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.

Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.

He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.

My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together?

I will like to know.

You ask a question : what would make him quit a Long lasting marriage? . Here's the answer-- a 12-16 year old girl. Normal thing for una. Abeg inform us when he finally marries The underaged girl

Xj2020:
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time.

He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.

Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.

He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.

My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together?

I will like to know.

DEFINITELY ADULTERY!
AN ADULTERESS WOMAN SHOULD NEVER BE TOLERATED OR FORGIVEN.

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Conpat:


This is happening in my own family right now. My mother was always telling my older brother that our father's house was his own.She will say things like do you want to spoil the kitchen sink and block the drainage system, don't you know this house is yours.

My mother was always talking with my older brother in private and filling his head with only god knows what.My brother will misbehave and when confronted he will fight with my older sisters and be saying things like do and go marry, this is not your house. You have married, go to your husband's house I don't know what you are looking for here

Today he is over 40 and still living in our father's house with our parents. My father was telling me that to even buy bread or gas in the house he does not, yet he works. I think he is waiting for the day our father will die so the house can go to him like he has was told over the years.My father has never said anything about the house being his own or talked about a will or inheritance, but mother and son since decided who is getting the house.

I like my mother she is honestly not a bad person just flawed but this thing you have talked about is so real and I don't know if some mothers do it knowingly or unknowingly. She has now seen how her 2 male children are useless and not helpful, last month I sent her some money and she was thanking and blessing me saying it is we the female children that are actually helpful. I said to myself so it is now you know.

I pray I don't make the same mistakes with my own sons. Me and my sisters want to put money together to renovate the house for our parents comfort but one is not very interested and she has been asking, why should we spend money renovating a house for our brother to come and inherit. He is not even the first born child.

Sorry for the long talk, your post just triggered me to talk. I also support what you said on another thread about training children to be independent and responsible enough to hustle their success instead of fighting over inheritance and fathers properties. I have noticed that it is mainly male children who do this dragging of inheritance and fighting for property

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There is no point being hypocritical here, your mother is not a good person as a parent.
99% of useless male children in society today were raised and taught to be useless by their mothers.

UncleKoboko:
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There is no point being hypocritical here, your mother is not a good person as a parent.
99% of useless male children in society today were raised and taught to be useless by their mothers.

Thank you so much... Told her same truth but of course naa woman with enough sentiments...

Conpat:


Na wah, take it easy we are not fighting. Handle your family as you like and let me handle my own as I want you don't know my mother so don't refer to her as my so called good mother. Learn to make your points without insults, people like you are the reason nairaland is a mess and I didn't want to share my story

My dear no qualms at all and apologies if I went overboard with respect to yours and not mine cos I know I m not wrt to
mine. As you said we all shld hearn to handle ours in our own ways... Well I dont need to know your mum in person and of course by their fruits yea shall know them. But one thing I ve learnt is never to be hypocritical about issues even of it has to do with my blood and close relationships. Cheers

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You are VERY CORRECT!.... 30 years ain't a joke but again does he wants to start living alone because of he decides to get married again, he may not be sure (until after marriage) the kind of woman he will be getting settled with. At times, the devil you know is still better than a thousand else where you are still not sure of. May God help us.

daddytime:
Life goes on..

They both tried in tolerating each other's excesses over the years.

We no get that kind patience again these years.

5 years sef na Golden jubilee these days..

Let's have your thoughts on this thread...guys


https://www.nairaland.com/6793272/follow-up-nigerian-locked-up-case

You are VERY CORRECT!.... 30 years ain't a joke but again does he wants to start living alone because of he decides to get married again, he may not be sure (until after marriage) the kind of woman he will be getting settled with. At times, the devil you know is still better than a thousand else where you are still not sure of. May God help us.

Prettychild:

Lol! Peace of mind that he should have bothered about before staying in the marriage for 30 years, it’s now that he remembers he needs peace of mind. My dear, forget it, if he wasn’t having little peace of mind, he would have divorced her since cos trust me when one’s marriage doesn’t give one peace of mind, the issue transcends to other aspects of one’s life, (the work inclusive)

Bcs he was damn busy, there was room to endure and tolerate her due to his busy schedule. But now that baba is back, that's why he is seen the whole drama and no where to run to unlike when he was still working he had his office to run to or executive meetings

Sonnobax15:

The same thing is currently happening to my uncle..To the extent that he even wanted to sell one of his duplex but his children and wife collaborated and even had to beat my uncle to coma....... imagine father wey send all him four out of 5 sons to go and study for the U.K.......
My uncle is currently filing for divorce at this moment,but the woman dey vow say if my uncle venture leave her,say my uncle go see pepper....

Your uncle's wife have poisoned the minds of their kids over their dad, and it will be worst by the time your uncle is no more God forbid because they will suffer since they could beat up their dad with the influence of their mum even the gods will not be happy with them

Sonnobax15:

The same thing is currently happening to my uncle..To the extent that he even wanted to sell one of his duplex but his children and wife collaborated and even had to beat my uncle to coma....... imagine father wey send all him four out of 5 sons to go and study for the U.K.......
My uncle is currently filing for divorce at this moment,but the woman dey vow say if my uncle venture leave her,say my uncle go see pepper....

Taaaaa, she de lie...
Her cup is full

brownemmanuel43:

This sounds so selfish to me, u didn't care for the uncle's peace of mind rather u are only looking at the angle and selfishness of the woman.
Uncle endured her attitudes bcs all this while, he had being going to work, so there was no room then for the uncle to be exchanging words with her. But now that baba retired, all he really need now is peace of mind before be can join his ancestors.

Your argument still sounds selfish to me. What makes him think that the next one he would marry, will not be worse than this one? I am still saying it, he should have divorced when she was much younger, not now when they have been married for 30 years. So what now happens to her?

Prettychild:

Your argument still sounds selfish to me. What makes him think that the next one he would marry, will not be worse than this one? I am still saying it, he should have divorced when she was much younger, not now when they have been married for 30 years. So what now happens to her?

Op never mentioned anything remarry, the whole thing centered on peace of mind.

Fear no let me ask am [quote author=Marpol2021 post=106835895][/quote]

brownemmanuel43:

HV u seen where your stupid has landed u. The uncle is an afonja but bcs of owo mi da, u won't read

Lineage stupidity passes that of madmen on the road.
Abeg, park well-well, we are not in the same league....

And don't quote me again

Xj2020:
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time.

He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.

Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.

He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.

My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together?

I will like to know.

Your uncle may be tired of managing his wife's uncultured and ill-mannered behaviour or he may have caught her with another man.