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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by dheilaw1(m): 12:43pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Tzar:you can say that again 1 Like |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Tay20(m): 1:08pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Quick ejaculation is sexual problem that has solution. But the man must be able to let go of his ego. Kobojunkie: |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by zomby(m): 1:10pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Maryliola: First, you are not crazy. This thing happens sometimes, but for a 27 yrs old to already be going through this stage is very troubling. My questions for you are: 1. Before you got married how was your sex life? 2. Was he always a 10 Sec dude? 3. Was he giving you MouthAction? 4. Do you take a very good care of your private part? 5. How old is your child? 6. Do you guys go out alone together (date night)? 7. Who is this man you’re constantly thinking about? 8. Are you still in love? In order to give a good advise, i need answers to these questions. |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Henrypraise: 2:04pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Iyaebe: You rest nau, life is not about sex and mouth action, if you so much like it and your hubby does not, but a dog and enjoy all the mouth action you want... |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by TomMary(f): 2:44pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Iyaebe:Does it look he cares.... How would you make love to your wife for just ten seconds and not look for a solution 1 Like |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by TomMary(f): 2:47pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:you have succeeded in saying nothing, all this channel your energy into something else will make her frustrated and probably leave the marriage.. sex is God's gift to mankind , focusing on other things wouldn't stop her hormones from being released 2 Likes |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by zomby(m): 2:56pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Henrypraise: My issue here is: if the dude wasn’t giving MouthAction before they got married, she shouldn’t expect him to start giving after their marriage… it simply doesn’t work this way. If MouthAction was her thing, why didn’t she discuss or demand for such before marrying the dude? You can’t expect the dude to give what he doesn’t have…MouthAction is special, but it is simply not for everybody. Was the dude a 10 Sec man before they got married or he just turned into one? Marriage doesn’t cure a 10 sec dude. It is what it is. This lady should have seen all these things before saying “I DO”. A lot of people don’t understand that marriage doesn’t make certain things better, but completely the opposite (it makes certain things worse) 1 Like |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Kobojunkie: 2:57pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
TomMary:So your suggestion is that rather than finding an outlet for all that energy which has already built up over time, this according to her story mind you, she should continue to walk around a ticking time bomb ready to explode - hormones rule over her body and mental - and probably ruin her marriage relationship anyways? Sex is God's gift to mankind and this woman is sexually frustrated in her marriage? Did God tell you that her marriage is then a mistake or something? Read through the rest of the post you responded to to see what else I suggested. |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by HazzanTazzan(m): 3:09pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Hathor5: If you work 8 to 5 pm and u have kids to cater for and u still have high sex drive, most times (not occasionally), then I rest my case |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by nairamaniac: 3:38pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Maryliola:I also think its a thing of phycological pride some men have. I said that in one of my post in this your thread. Does your husband have a big ego? |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by HazzanTazzan(m): 3:44pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
nairamaniac: Are you married? Are these guys married ? Are u sure u have 20 out of 30 that give mouth action ? For married folks, it’s hard to find mouth action and it’s just the norm... Married people don’t fantasize things like that ... don’t make it sound like people who aren’t doing it are not normal... it’s married people who are doing it that are abnormal cos these things are things learnt from porn and immorality... It’s ok if two people are cool with it but stop sounding like it Shld be part of marriage ... Conduct a poll even here on Nl and u will realize 95% of married people will say NO to it... Does that sound like pride? |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by nairamaniac: 4:09pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
HazzanTazzan: Well u are right. The more years people spend in marriage, the less they fantasize about things like that. But it's better to do these things out of duty rather than pleasure. Or combination of both. That's where love/responsibility comes in. Forget bout me being married or not. I rather don't get profiled here. But I understand all u mean and agree to large extent. Thanx! |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by donphilopus: 4:36pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Farfalla(f): 5:20pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Clinghton: Some couples marry without any (or at least mutual) chemistry hoping that it will come after marriage as the years go by. I notice that it's a common occurrence especially amongst churchy/religious folks, who are usually made to believe that sexual attraction is carnal and/or against the will of God. I feel that this woman was never sexually attracted to the husband from the word go. They probably met in church, where agape love is encouraged, while romantic love discouraged, as it's construed as lust by most religious establishments. She was hoping that the marriage certificate would bring down the man's (probably religious) inhibitions, but to her surprise the man remains as stiff as an iron rod. She wants a MAN. He doesn't even have to go down on her, I think she just wants somebody who turns into beast mode while making love. Somebody vulgar and dirty and hôrny. Somebody who can forget for a moment that he's an usher or choir member in his church and go crazy at the site of her nakéd body. That's what she wants, I can almost guarantee you. Anyway, since the man isn't keen on doing anything to meet her halfway, I'll suggest she should make peace with her situation and learn how to finger herself to her satisfaction. 2 Likes |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by zoedew: 5:57pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Tobedated: Yes. I don’t belong to this generation! It is your mind that is twisted and messed up. Where else do you get the ability to indulge in such a dirty act. What you do is out of the overflow of your thoughts!! Shameful!!! |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by bepositive11: 6:24pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
princewarri1985: Do you feel the same about blow jobs? 1 Like |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by bepositive11: 6:25pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
samsard: What do you think about blow jobs? |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by bilulu(m): 7:07pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
muykem:Please can you repost the instructions by quoting me... thanks |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by culf: 8:21pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
fxexperts: lol....you're funny. It may not be so ooooo? Men that give head are not many, both good and bad guys. A lot of men don't do oral, but like you said, na them sabi marry wives wey dey like oral pass. |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by HazzanTazzan(m): 8:26pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
nairamaniac: Yes for people who have been doing it before marriage, if both parties have done it before marriage either together or with someone else, it would be easy to continue in marriage ... But I still put it to you that people who were not like that in their youth will never find it easy to do in marriage ... The OP must have been getting mouth action from someone before she met this man she married... she can’t expect this man who has never done it to begin doing it for her just cos she is used to it... In short, marriage is complicated and you have to cope with some things... you can’t have it all in marriage ... u decide to leave one partner cos ure lacking one thing and u go to a new partner where u will get that thing but you will lack a whole lot more 1 Like |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by lusid: 8:35pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
elantraceey:do u like head |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Klass99(f): 9:00pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by nairamaniac: 9:03pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
HazzanTazzan: This cracked me up really bahd meeehn U said it as if you have caught the op red handed several times. |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by nairamaniac: 9:05pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
HazzanTazzan: Anyway I'm not married. But even as a bachelor, I go all out to please girl friend's I love, especially on bed. I know I would do much more in marriage. I don't see marriage as fun/play first. I see it more as Work/Growth/developement. That's where people get it wrong. U are right, no perfect situation in marriage. |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by nairamaniac: 9:09pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Klass99: The man can't give what he doesnt have. If he was never like that pre-marriage, it's gonna be hard during-marriage. But this op needs to run the ops favorite food on her punna inorder for the husband to start getting down low. Like me I love ice cream and cakes. If any woman rubs that on her punna and say I should eat with my tongue, I wont even think twice. Even if she's a witch, I must proceed |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Klass99(f): 9:14pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Farfalla(f): 10:18pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Maryliola: 1. It's possible he tried it before and it was a disgusting experience for him. Perhaps he finds it unnatural. 2. It's possible he's never tried it and is unsure of his skill in this forte. Perhaps he's afraid of putting up a disappointing performance, like that of one trying to give you head and in the process ends up looking like a guy chewing an overripe mango. I still think he shouldn't be coerced to do what he feels uncomfortable doing. Let him do the other stuff. Kissing, fingering, etc. He fingers you, right? Please tell me he fingers you. Or does he also skip that? Did you meet in church? Or a Shiloh-like conference if I may ask? 1 Like |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Farfalla(f): 10:31pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Klass99:I didn't bother to go through the whole 20 pages or so, so I'm picking up small small information. I initially thought she was dealing with a sexual prude, only to learn that he not only receives head from the OP, he also compliments her on her performance but he just won't go down on her for reasons best known to him. Oh well... 1 Like |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by nairamaniac: 11:18pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by freshalien: 8:47am On Nov 04, 2021 |
ezugegere: But if your woman agrees to give you a blowjobb you would quickly whip out ya diick, sit back, relax and enjoy right? Una never talk the madness wey dey inside una head. It is disgusting and not healthy....what kind of dirty women do you date sef?? |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by freshalien: 8:50am On Nov 04, 2021 |
Maryliola: Your husband is a huge problem here. He last only 10 seconds, he isn’t willing to compromise, never ever wants to try MouthAction. Na wa oo. Which kind man be that? I can bet he doesn’t even make any effort to reignite the spark in the marriage or maybe hasn’t even noticed something is wrong et or taken it seriously. The key to a successful marriage especially when it comes to sex is flexibility. If your man no gree move, one day you go taya kpatakpata begin dey seriously consider outside waka. |
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Yooseph(m): 2:57pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Kindly urge him to follow YINKA TNT on Facebook maybe that could help. |
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