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Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by pappy2000: 4:45pm On Nov 02, 2021
Please i will be very fast there is this evil lady that i got married to something in 2019 the marriage didnt last more than 4 months down the line we separated went our different ways and she insisit i should pay for child support which i started giving from september 2020, she had the baby in april 2020 travelled to her sister in abuja after the divorce but her family was expecting me to come and beg them whiich i refused so out of shame they said she should move on which i am also not interested in taking her back to cut the long story short when we were together then she showed me a pix of her ex battered her to tell the truth we have also had fight too now i have told her that i am no longer paying child support until she takes the child back to abuja but she insisted i must continue to pay and she wont take the child back, later her mom called me and pleaded the matter should be settled which i said no , now she took me to human right this lagos state public defender and the lawyers there said they will charge me to court for domestic violence which was a trumped up charges and she is still using the pix in which her ex battered her as evidence. now i have two options its either i crazed in for her desire to be collecting 20k monthly from me which i signed or they said they will take me to court which means iif i get convicted i will loose my job i work in the coporate world. i am so sad i met her , ts sucidal , Iintend to remarry next year , but hey what do i do , .

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by depato88(m): 4:54pm On Nov 02, 2021
This is serious. Well if the child is really yours I would advice you to be paying child support or better still tell them to hand over your child to you. Case close

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Mariangeles: 4:55pm On Nov 02, 2021
Why does her location matter to you before you give her child support?
I’ll advise you settle the matter with her before it gets to court because trust me, once it gets there, you won’t win. You’d wish you had settled with her.

By the way, do you want custody of your child?

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Iyaebe: 4:57pm On Nov 02, 2021
Ha! another one
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Chummynoni(m): 4:58pm On Nov 02, 2021
Nothing to say
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by wis3(m): 5:00pm On Nov 02, 2021
do what's in the best interest of you child.
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by budaatum: 5:02pm On Nov 02, 2021
Immature people jumping into marriage!

Know that the money you pay feeds your child, and wherever it is it must eat.

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Eyinju112(f): 5:04pm On Nov 02, 2021
Lol
You’re an irresponsible man....
Abeg father your child and stop asking silly questions....

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Creativeace(m): 5:04pm On Nov 02, 2021
Request costody of the child, how old is he again ?

Your ex wife knows how to pull strings, you should beat her at that game !

Even if it takes giving into the court's demands for the mean time, you have much too lose and she has nothing to lose, which is exactly why she has got you in a tight spot

You've got no fault,
She was once your sweetheart, so she knows which buttons to press.

If you're smart enough, you can beat her at her own game, if they aint giving you custody, you can start paying the support till you figure out what to do, and that my friend is your descision alone !

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by sekundosekundo: 5:09pm On Nov 02, 2021
You got married to an evil lady?

Pls you're the evil in this marriage.

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Godada(m): 5:12pm On Nov 02, 2021



You are cornered.

The option here is to pay the child support.

Here is the thing: you still gat your life intact. Hustling for the custody of the child would not augur well for you.

The child is always best with the biological mom.

You can get married and chart a different course.

Pay the price. Even negotiate with the mother. Try as much as possible to future in your child's life.

Bid your time and work out an elaborate time to fix her blackmail.
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by pappy2000: 5:49pm On Nov 02, 2021
budaatum:
Immature people jumping into marriage!

Know that the money you pay feeds your child, and wherever it is it must eat.

i am 42 i believe i am older than u thanks for the comment anyway, she beats me in that game
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Sonnobax15(m): 5:51pm On Nov 02, 2021
lipsrsealed
Women shocked. Fear them oh shocked

Honestly,these days I've vowed never to blame any man wey go say he prefer to be a baby papa to being tied down by one woman all in the name of marriage lipsrsealed.

Chaiiii, op,you don enter wahala wey wear buluku shocked

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Kobojunkie: 5:55pm On Nov 02, 2021
pappy2000:
i have told her that i am no longer paying child support until she takes the child back to abuja but she insisted i must continue to pay and she wont take the child back, later her mom called me and pleaded the matter should be settled which i said no , now she took me to human right this lagos state public defender and the lawyers there said they will charge me to court for domestic violence which was a trumped up charges and she is still using the pix in which her ex battered her as evidence. now i have two options its either i crazed in for her desire to be collecting 20k monthly from me which i signed or they said they will take me to court which means iif i get convicted i will loose my job i work in the coporate world. i am so sad i met her , ts sucidal , Iintend to remarry next year , but hey what do i do , .
Your story doesn't add up at all. You seem to be jumping all over the place with it when the crux is you are being targeted because you refuse to pay child support.. undecided

Is the child in question yours? If yes,why do you no longer want to pay child support for your own child? undecided

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by younglleo: 5:59pm On Nov 02, 2021
Ok
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Nonexisting1: 6:04pm On Nov 02, 2021
Brother, go backwards into her life to deal with the evil daughter of Jezebel. Look for that her exboyfriend and look for her old friends too especially the ones she had issues with. Since she wants to fight dirty, there must something you can get on her as well. Instead of paying her 20k monthly, spend on a private investigator to get a dirt on her and square things up. Men should stop going after vaginarians who were previously bullied by their exboyfriends. Most victims of domestic abuse are abusers themselves too.

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Dalil8: 6:16pm On Nov 02, 2021
Nonexisting1:
Brother, go backwards into her life to deal with the evil daughter of Jezebel. Look for that her exboyfriend and look for her old friends too especially the ones she had issues with. Since she wants to fight dirty, there must something you can get on her as well. Instead of paying her 20k monthly, spend on a private investigator to get a dirt on her and square things up. Men should stop going after vaginarians who were previously bullied by their exboyfriends. Most victims of domestic abuse are abusers themselves too.

@Pappy2000

This is exactly what you must do.....

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by budaatum: 6:26pm On Nov 02, 2021
pappy2000:

i am 42 i believe i am older than u thanks for the comment anyway, she beats me in that game

You are considerably much younger than me, still, age and maturity are not the same thing.

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Raymond0008(m): 6:28pm On Nov 02, 2021
pappy2000:
Please i will be very fast there is this evil lady that i got married to something in 2019 the marriage didnt last more than 4 months down the line we separated went our different ways and she insisit i should pay for child support which i started giving from september 2020, she had the baby in april 2020 travelled to her sister in abuja after the divorce but her family was expecting me to come and beg them whiich i refused so out of shame they said she should move on which i am also not interested in taking her back to cut the long story short when we were together then she showed me a pix of her ex battered her to tell the truth we have also had fight too now i have told her that i am no longer paying child support until she takes the child back to abuja but she insisted i must continue to pay and she wont take the child back, later her mom called me and pleaded the matter should be settled which i said no , now she took me to human right this lagos state public defender and the lawyers there said they will charge me to court for domestic violence which was a trumped up charges and she is still using the pix in which her ex battered her as evidence. now i have two options its either i crazed in for her desire to be collecting 20k monthly from me which i signed or they said they will take me to court which means iif i get convicted i will loose my job i work in the coporate world. i am so sad i met her , ts sucidal , Iintend to remarry next year , but hey what do i do , .
She really had the plan before she met you. If you are fine with the 20k kindly pay it till the child grows. God will help you and try to use your sense next time and don’t rush into another marriage. You can still enjoy beautiful partnerships with the new lady unless you have this oju kokoro eye for the new lady properties for you to be eyeing new marriage.


Calm down and let the new girl know. Shora f’obirin oooh, oluwa awa pelu e.
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by horpe132(m): 6:29pm On Nov 02, 2021
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The funny thing is that, in 3-6 yrs time, you'll now regret the way you handled the situation till this point
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You might not really agree with my suggestion but it's worth considering..
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1. Tone down on your exchange of words with her, don't fight her, even If you're right on any issue...for now!
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2. Don't play it dirty with her, trust me , she's a Nigerian lady, wherever she takes the case, she has the upper hand.
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3. Next time you're meeting her or her parents/human rights Pple, don't go alone, go with an elderly person..
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4. I hope you have receipts of upkeep payed so far, keep those receipts ..
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5. You'll continue paying the child support even if she decides toove to borno state with your child...Fact
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& Pls "there's one spirit that'll be telling you that You've not done anything wrong, that you shout fight for your right, that you should show her pepe"...ah ,bind and cast that spirit o
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And look for respectable elders to guide you through this...
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They can't do anything to you at human right, na just shakara
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You to make demands when they start settling the issue, i.e visitations etc
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@ lastly, it's 'Wo'man Right, forget the "Hu" na scam

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Nobody: 6:30pm On Nov 02, 2021
pappy2000:

i am 42 i believe i am older than u thanks for the comment anyway, she beats me in that game

How?

Do you mind sharing your experience so that younger people can learn?
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by revived: 7:04pm On Nov 02, 2021
Nonexisting1:
Brother, go backwards into her life to deal with the evil daughter of Jezebel. Look for that her exboyfriend and look for her old friends too especially the ones she had issues with. Since she wants to fight dirty, there must something you can get on her as well. Instead of paying her 20k monthly, spend on a private investigator to get a dirt on her and square things up. Men should stop going after vaginarians who were previously bullied by their exboyfriends. Most victims of domestic abuse are abusers themselves too.

Op follow this

I no dae Available I for say make Dem go carry the woman.

Where I go finish her is that TIU go check the real source of the picture
And if it doesn't correspond you can sue her ass aje.

Nevertheless I will follow up this thread
I hate cheating

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by BareFacedLies(m): 7:30pm On Nov 02, 2021
I don't see how you can be convicted for domestic violence if you're confident you're innocent

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Kobicove(m): 7:32pm On Nov 02, 2021
Why do people even engage in fights with their spouses?

If the relationship is not working you go your separate ways period! undecided
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Angelacruz: 7:36pm On Nov 02, 2021
Before u start paying child support,carry out a DNA test on d child.
pappy2000:

i am 42 i believe i am older than u thanks for the comment anyway, she beats me in that game

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by jaszplus12(m): 7:50pm On Nov 02, 2021
Married for less than 6 months!
What was the motivation in the first place
Her shapely sexy body?
You married her out of pity?
You were in a rush to please your family?
Your mother foisted her on you?
You impregnated a random woman and just had to marry her to save face?
Now less than a year already you're in another relationship that's leading to marriage
Bro, you're joking...

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Biglittlelois(f): 7:55pm On Nov 02, 2021
You admitted you also beat her so where is the lie in that?

What is your reason for not paying the 20k for child support cos you've not said anything regarding that, why should your child suffer for the stupidity of you and your wife? Pay for the child support cos all you're saying is mere rant.

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Biglittlelois(f): 8:08pm On Nov 02, 2021
Creativeace:
Request costody of the child, how old is he again ?

Your ex wife knows how to pull strings, you should beat her at that game !

Even if it takes giving into the court's demands for the mean time, you have much too lose and she has nothing to lose, which is exactly why she has got you in a tight spot

You've got no fault,
She was once your sweetheart, so she knows which buttons to press.

If you're smart enough, you can beat her at her own game, if they aint giving you custody, you can start paying the support till you figure out what to do, and that my friend is your descision alone !


What is this one saying? What game is the wife playing? She said pay child support, Op is busy dragging location abi where she is staying, is that the point here? Where is the game here?

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Automolite: 8:13pm On Nov 02, 2021
I don't know if this is useful...but the picture should carry the a date and time it was taken or sent to her phone.
If it was taken before u married her, u may have a chance.

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Biglittlelois(f): 8:17pm On Nov 02, 2021
Nonexisting1:
Brother, go backwards into her life to deal with the evil daughter of Jezebel. Look for that her exboyfriend and look for her old friends too especially the ones she had issues with. Since she wants to fight dirty, there must something you can get on her as well. Instead of paying her 20k monthly, spend on a private investigator to get a dirt on her and square things up. Men should stop going after vaginarians who were previously bullied by their exboyfriends. Most victims of domestic abuse are abusers themselves too.


Is the 20k for her or their child? Do you reason at all?

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Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by BlackPantherxXx: 8:18pm On Nov 02, 2021
angry

The truth is that you beat her.

That much is obvious from your story... don't bother lying.

Custody is what I dont really know about in Nigeria but I learnt it almost always favours the woman.

Continue paying child support... as someone here said - it is your child after all.


PS - someone knowledgeable here should clarify child custody in Nigeria. THANKS
Re: Please Help A Brother With Divorce Chanllenge by Susily(m): 8:18pm On Nov 02, 2021
Op first is the child really yours?? So you won't be paying child support on top another man child and become a cuckold

You need to verify if the child is really yours before you pay any dime in child support

As for the threat of taking you to court over domestic violence, call her bluff and try to also get damning dirt on her to get even and shut her up

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