| Re: Pain During Sex by olawaley12(m): 11:43am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Get some sex Lube at a Mall if you've not tried it before. But if you have tried it, then this one pass me |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 11:44am On Nov 03, 2021 |
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| Re: Pain During Sex by Femeto: 11:44am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,
I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.
After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.
Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.
Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up. God help you during your search. |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Olayetan(m): 11:45am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,
I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.
After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.
Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.
Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up. she's bound to feel the pain cux she's still very much tight, my advice is get a lubricant oil and engage her in smooching and kissing very well, apply the oil on yourself and her, ask her to lay her tummy on the bed when you observe she's very much slippery then slide in gently through the back, dont slide in while she lays her back on the bed, that will pain her, just gently slide in through the back and she will feel less pain, don't penetrate fully, just the tip is enough then thrust in and out with the tip just to expand the outer till you start feeling the outer part is getting expanded then you put the tip in little and repeat the thrusting again. it may take you 2 weeks or a month to fully expand the tightness but always be gentle on her. congrats bro, you will enjoy your sexual life as time goes on and you can also show her porn videos to learn. 1 Like |
| Re: Pain During Sex by akanbiaa(m): 11:45am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,
I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.
After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.
Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.
Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up. It could be that you did not do enough preintimacy (pre-intimacy) to make her well lubricated for smooth penetration ot this could be the problem Pain during sex Ovarian cysts can occasionally result in pain or discomfort during sex. This is especially likely if you develop a type of ovarian cyst known as an endometrioma, which occurs most commonly in women with endometriosis, a condition in which uterine tissue grows outside the uterus. but you need to visit a gynaecologist to run proper checkup and nor regular Doctor. |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 11:45am On Nov 03, 2021 |
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| Re: Pain During Sex by Nobody: 11:45am On Nov 03, 2021 |
U are a foolish man. You don't do pre-intimacy at all. Na aboki u be. U go just say make we do , take your weapons chuk inside like that. Mumu. So tey una come dey browse ontop straff matter. And how to make am simple. |
| Re: Pain During Sex by alizma: 11:47am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife 
This is very disgusting.
For those quoting me, I have no response for you.. Why people find it easy to discuss in a platform like this is because they are anonymous to the listeners. 1 Like |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Niorte: 11:47am On Nov 03, 2021 |
olaniyilukman:
Omo, I hate virgin die... Because you are not a man. Real men don't buy fairly used. 1 Like |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Nobody: 11:47am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Vickyvice:
U are a foolish man. You don't do pre-intimacy at all. Na aboki u be. U go just say make we do , take your weapons chuk inside like that. Mumu. So tey una come dey browse ontop straff matter. And how to make am simple. What an Insult! |
| Re: Pain During Sex by LegendaryArnold(m): 11:49am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,
I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.
After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.
Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.
Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up. lubrication bro |
| Re: Pain During Sex by greatseed: 11:50am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Omniman:
First of all congratulations on your 3weeks marriage with your tear rubber wife 
Secondly, disvirgining is lot of work. It's like trying to drill a stone wall with your peepee. Most time you sweat so much and sometimes you just want to try another time.
Thirdly, I will tell you. It's natural to experience pain. Overtime the pain reduces. It might take months.
I am suspecting she isn't juicy enough before u start penetration.
What you can do to ease the pain. Give your wife a good oral before introducing your lil self
Eat her like a psychotic rat on steroids..
When she is juicy enough. You can slide in and out with lil friction
Nagode  Why don't you just advise him to get healthy lubricant. Billions of women on earth were once disvirgened. No big deal With frequent use of lubricant you will break in & after like 7days. You will both feel normal about your sex life. Except you guys are in the league of guys that have phobia for pain e. g Adults scared to take injections. Etc |
| Re: Pain During Sex by linearity: 11:50am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife
This is very disgusting. You for kukuma snap the to.,to show Nairalanders
For those quoting me, I have no response for you.. There is no self-identifying info in the post, so take a chill pill. Sometimes people post things like these on public forum to see if others have had same experiences, it does not mean they are not going to see a professional. 1 Like |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Esthered: 11:52am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Dear OP, same happened to me and it took us 8 months before I adapted as I even used to injuries around my vulva. She has to work on her mind first and you have to try maximum pre-intimacy as that helped me. 1 Like |
| Re: Pain During Sex by jaxxy(m): 11:52am On Nov 03, 2021 |
TimeTraveller:
I agree with @Mood11. No be every clothe dem dey dry outside.
So you made love to your virgin wife, and you feel the whole world should know?
Some of you were brought up poorly, honestly.
Even Joseph for Bible wey no knack, pretend like e knack, to protect his wife's public image.
But una, every small thing, Nairaland, Twitter and Histagram. Kilode gan? If there was nairaland or Jewish land in that time do u think guy man won’t have come anonymously to ask what he should do? Or u think it was easy for him?? |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Ekanemjnr33: 11:53am On Nov 03, 2021 |
You’re a comrade |
| Re: Pain During Sex by caylakays: 11:55am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Something u suppose chop b4 marriage u come jonze..
Suffer alone |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Sharatan(m): 11:56am On Nov 03, 2021 |
DropsMic:
There's nothing private about a matter shared anonymously.
I swear. Who know you abi who you know? Nobody |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Johnholmes: 11:56am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Well,op I feel ur plight and I wish I've responded earlier but I hope you see my post.
These days virgins are very rare and since you have one.......good for you!!!
However ,there are a lot of fake virgins out there.
Also note that seeing blood is not a true test of virginity.
Now I want to differentiate between a true virgin and a fake.....
A true virgin has a thin membrane covering the external opening of the vagina called the hymen.
When the hymen is breeched during sex it may bleed . But the truth is ,the interior of the vagina canal is smooth,soft and not painful to her.so in essence what I am saying is she'll feel pain only at the exterior of the vagina.
And it usually heals up at most within a week.
Fake virgins use all kind of corrosive chemicals to cause injury to both the exterior and interior parts of their vagina . So it causes wounds in the vagina which would be genuinely painful and she will also bleed.this is called chemical vaginitis.they use things like 'kayan mata',alum ,even steam etc.
How to spot a fake virgin
1. She'll be in excruciating pain for a long time even after you have finished sex
2. They tend to have painful sex for about 3 weeks or more.
3. When your joystick enters the vagina u will fill a relatively rough sensation on ur joystick because she has injuries on the vaginal wall.
(Ie: instead of feeling a soft sensation inside, it may be hard and rough.
4. She'll feel tighter than normal which may be very uncomfortable for you too |
| Re: Pain During Sex by altteemy: 11:57am On Nov 03, 2021 |
@me23, use lubricant like olive oil. With lesser friction, things will be much less painful.
With less than N500, goya oil will sort your issue. 1 Like |
| Re: Pain During Sex by smd837(m): 11:58am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Seeeéee if you see scattered pussy you wey get a little bit tight one go dey thanking ur God every evening, you go wonder if there is any man that will still gree to settle with them. Chaiiii |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Shedking(m): 11:59am On Nov 03, 2021 |
Mercychen:
Try enough pre-intimacy to get her wet before penetrating her or get some lubricant before you destroy that place. Ky gelly. Works.
Another thing is, it could be she's not
in the mood those times she feels pains and you have to stop halfway. Yes. When a woman is not in the mood, she can never get wet and ready to receive you. So it will be pain all through for her.
I don't usually do this for free but let me just give you this remedy as a gift for keeping yourselves till marriage. It's a remedy that will make her always ready, hor.ny and wet for you.
She'll be the one pulling you in by herself.
Tiger nut drink.
Blend the following together and let her drink.
Dates
Coconut
Tiger nut
Soak the date and tiger nuts over night.
Cut the coconuts into pieces and combine all together in a blender with water and blend until very smooth.
Get a cheese cloth and sieve it until chaff stop bringing out milk.
Chill it in the fridge for some mins and give her to drink.
Please the drink is not meant to be stored for more than 24hrs. It goes bad easily. So make the quantity you can finish within 24hrs.
It will solve the problem.
Also use lubricant so you don't forcefully slack the place.
Ejima is on the way. 
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| Re: Pain During Sex by Omniman(m): 12:00pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
greatseed:
Why don't you just advise him to get healthy lubricant. Billions of women on earth were once disvirgened. No big deal
With frequent use of lubricant you will break in & after like 7days. You will both feel normal about your sex life. Except you guys are in the league of guys that have phobia for pain e. g Adults scared to take injections. Etc Viginal secretion is a natural lube |
| Re: Pain During Sex by TimeTraveller: 12:00pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
jaxxy:
If there was nairaland or Jewish land in that time do u think guy man won’t have come anonymously to ask what he should do? Or u think it was easy for him?? Mother, grandmother, father, grandfather, uncle, aunts, cousins, pastors, imams, teachers, doctors, psychologists, therapists, etc. Do you see where I am going? If the guy doesn't have any of the aforementioned to trust with such sensitive information, then he has failed as a social human. |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Vicdgreat556(m): 12:01pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Is she really a virgin,or she packaged it with alum for you �..
Anyway post this blood pic � |
| Re: Pain During Sex by 4realsexy: 12:02pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
I think you are also a virgin. All you need to do is play well with her, use your tongue caress every part caressable, make her wet and then apply little vastline and small water. |
| Re: Pain During Sex by Mvena(f): 12:03pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Sometimes dryness in the pussy cause pain so please engage in more foreplays |
| Re: Pain During Sex by HeyHey(f): 12:06pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Poster the lord will strengthen you o. I am going to advise you from experience. Your wife is in serious pain, initial sex for virgins make the vulva swollen/injured, the whole outer surface swollen in fact. There is hardly any pleasure in it, just pain. if the sex is constant, she may soon start peeing blood towards the end of her urine (if she wipes with tissue, she will see this). How can it be better
1. Make sure she is wet before penetrating please.
2. Use ky - jelly, it can’t be over emphasized. Buy like 5 sef, bc for the first months it is super necessary
3. suck her bxxbs occasionally while penetrating , or anything that puts her on
4. Use styles that spread her legs, eg. She can sit face you on a table with her legs spread.
5. Avoid Doggy or generally any position from back, no go kill person.
6. You can spoon too and use mood music
Sex is hard for virgins, so please be considerate. After the first child it will be easier for her (may not be too easy for you though, because you don taste tear rubber) 1 Like |
| Re: Pain During Sex by onyenatruchi: 12:07pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Let me help you couples  tell your wife to boil hot water pour it in a basin remove her clothes and put her ass into the hot water make sure the hot water heat the right spot that place will now be strong for sex thank me later 2 Likes |
| Re: Pain During Sex by donsheddy1(m): 12:08pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any. With Torchlight or you get super vision? |
| Re: Pain During Sex by jaxxy(m): 12:11pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
TimeTraveller:
Mother, grandmother, father, grandfather, uncle, aunts, cousins, pastors, imams, teachers, doctors, psychologists, therapists, etc.
Do you see where I am going?
If the guy doesn't have any of the aforementioned to trust with such sensitive information, then he has failed as a social human. He may not have any of those around him or can discuss it with family members as it’s uncomfortable. This is where being anonymous has an advantage. What he needs is proper direction or advice. Is more sane forums people don’t shut people down they assit or point them in the direction to go. Simple. Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife
This is very disgusting. You for kukuma snap the to.,to show Nairalanders
For those quoting me, I have no response for you.. This reaction or I too know attitude is very unnecessary.  |
| Re: Pain During Sex by ediko5(m): 12:12pm On Nov 03, 2021 |
Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife
This is very disgusting. You for kukuma snap the to.,to show Nairalanders
For those quoting me, I have no response for you.. You are talking trash. You're not suppose to be on the internet because you are too analog. You said "He should go to his doctor"? Do you know how many doctors are reading this? Nairaland is a forum where you can completely hide your identity. If i may ask you, do you know the poster now? If i want to post a private matter like this i have anonymous account i can use to do that so people can't trace the poster. Do you know the money he would spend to consult like 2 doctors on this matter but will get free quality consultation from world class doctors here on Nairaland. Go back to the 20th century. |
