OnlineArchitect:


The gal just dey annoy me jaree. I don't like ppl who can't take decisions and are double minded. She litterily kept the guy in a fix for 3months hoping and waiting she accepts only to come back after consulting with friends and family that she's accepted and now feeling bad upon discovering the guy has moved on with another babe. I can tell u for free that sometimes it's not only in the spiritual realm you have spiritual wife and spiritual husband. This is a case of a spiritual wife, they don't want to date/marry you and still yet they don't want to see another woman with you. No be juju be that?

Truvelisback:
Did u read her reasons for not taking him serious? If u do, u will know that She looked down on the guy. She underestimated the guy. The guy was trying to be committed to her, she was withdrawing herself from him. She herself knew it was her fault. Instead, advise her to let go of her pride, and next time never to look down on people.

advanceDNA:


Madam...u don’t have feelings for the guy...if you did..u won’t hesistate two times....

What’s wrong with you is just feeling of loss because the attention u used to get from him has disappeared.....just give it time...u go normalize and realize u made the right decision....he’s not your type..

Anonymoususher:
I met this guy on facebook and we got talking. found out he lived in the area I was born ( a popular ghetto) though we both have relocated and we also share the same date of birth.

after three months of talking we decided to meet for the first time so I paid him a visit at his residence and he entertained me, though asked if we could make love, I said No and he didn't push further.

We continued talking and a month after he asked me out. I didn't give him a yes or no answer because I was double minded for some reasons....

1. He is always working, has a business he is grooming and Monday to Saturday he is busy, then on Sundays he goes to church and uses the remaining time for laundry and sleep

2. He is boring, he is a private fellow that doesn't go out, any day he decides to stay at home, he remains indoor morning till night. he doesn't party, drink nor keep friends

3. He told me plainly that he doesn't post his pictures or private issues on social media, while I am the opposite.

4. his dress sense is 6/10, only thing he does is perfume, no watch, no jewelries, just like that.

I was skeptical about the kind of relationship I will have with him, though he can be funny on phone but in person he is ice cold.

I visited him three more times, the second time I kissed him and it ended there. He asked me out again, I still told him to give me more time.

last September, he told me he has asked someone out and she accepted immediately... I felt jealous but didn't bother...

I discussed him with my sister and closed friends and they told me to accept him...

I was beginning to like him and we met at his place last month and I told him I was willing to accept him because I have developed feelings but to my surprise he told me he has moved on and looking forward to building a bond with his present babe.

I feel like I missed my opportunity, I love him but making a decision was difficult for me and now seeing him with another lady hurts me badly.

How do I move on or handle this?

Iyaebe:
Move on and as a lady please stop dating your age mate, it usually don't end well.

nokspos:
you can't really get 100 percent in life, if someone already loves you and you find 60 percent , even 50 is a pass mark, develop the rest, the guy doesn't wear watches , what happens to buying one for him , he doesn't go out on his off days , what happened to requesting that you guys go out together, because once a guy loves you , he will always do your wish. Now the guy has left her behind, she must learn a lesson that nigeria is not for her.

thorpido:
What keeps many ladies double minded?It's something that has always puzzled me.

bepositive11:
Move on too. If a man really wants you, he will be patient with you

He's not for you. Move on

bepositive11:
Move on too. If a man really wants you, he will be patient with you

He's not for you. Move on

nokspos:
you can't really get 100 percent in life, if someone already loves you and you find 60 percent , even 50 is a pass mark, [b]develop the rest, the guy doesn't wear watches , what happens to buying one for him , he doesn't go out on his off days , what happened to requesting that you guys go out together [/b]because once a guy loves you , he will always do your wish. Now the guy has left her behind, she must learn a lesson that nigeria is not for her.

advanceDNA:


Becos u can’t get 100% in life means you have to date someone you don’t really like.....women don’t hesitate when they like a guy....that’s why I said she doesn’t love him

unless a woman is desperate or doesn’t usually have toasters why would you just say yes to a guy you don’t really like and his lifestyle isn’t inline with yours.....chances are they would break up if she sees someone else because there’s no guarantees she will come grow to love him later..

engrchykae:
we no longer have that patience again.
If a man ask you out and you say no,he moves on sharperly.
No time

Xenry:

HenryDion:
Girls truly don't know what they want

nokspos:
it all depends on your definition of love, women are confused when it comes to love. A women tells you he love a bad boy , 3months later she comes back with one eye is that one love. The confused ops said one of the reason she doesn't like the guy is because he doesn't post is personal life on social media, is that a basis for not loving someone ? what happens to opposite attracts? stop supporting dump people bro.

OnlineArchitect:
You're not serious, the guy even tried, waiting for a whole 3months+ for a liability to give an answer? Well for me basically once i ask you out once and you snooze i move on immediately cnt stress myself on no 9ja babe cos 97% of them ain't worth it.

Well as to your question. I'll advise you hook up with another guy, let him wait another 3months+ and always tell him you ain't sure yet about him go ask ur friends and sister for advice on weather you should accept him or not then i believe by the time you're ready he must have gotten another woman, repeat same process till you turn 45yrs by then i believe you must have learnt one or two things. Use the experience you've gathered to advice yourself and other confused female folks like you

bepositive11:
Move on too. If a man really wants you, he will be patient with you

He's not for you. Move on

advanceDNA:


This is not a matter of support....
It’s called analyzing the situation...

She gave four reason why she was double minded...the four reasons were flimsy something she could over look or work on....that’s how u should know deep down she doesn’t have real feelings for the guy...a lady that like someone won’t even see those reasons....that’s why I said all she’s feeling is loss of the attention she’s no longer getting...

It doesn’t matter whether she’s dumb or not..the bottom line is she doesn’t like the guy enough...she doesn’t have to date him because it’s an opportunity to date...
people have come to this forum to complain how they married men they never really liked because of this same reason..they felt the feeling will develop later.. Down the line the attraction never grew and they are not happy..

theForth:


A woman's no should be No please!!

And there's a very thin line between patience and self respect.

Differentiate:

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