Tobichuks08:
reason?
Was that stated as a reason?
Reading without comprehension.
It's one of the advantages of marriage not a reason.

tensazangetsu20:

They will shout and cry but we know the truth.

AdeOri99:


Like my grandma telling me that I won't be in par with society if I don't have a woman.

Who the hell give a fvck!

tensazangetsu20:

As in eh everyday I see the suffering poverty and hardship all around me, I thank the good Lord for my singlehood. I can't imagine getting married or being in a relationship while in Nigeria. It's insane and I see guys doing this everyday. Men complicate their lives and justify why they do It.

Gerrard59:


That's a reason to get married?

Kobojunkiee:
Exposure you say! A lot of them are here on nairaland... they have had more exposure than their parents before them yet their minds remain closed to what would seem common sense to others.

There are many Nigerians right here in America who think and behave exactly the same as those still in Nigeria. You can take a pig out to market but you can't transform it into a horse by the exposure.

Gerrard59:


He's Igbo, I'm not surprised. With the way he mentioned heir, I'm very sure he wouldn't mind birthing five children in the elusive search for a male child in the name of he should be the heir to my properties. Check his name on Google and nothing good comes out from the search. Just like the man in Enugu who had three girls and in the search for a "heir", his wife gave birth to quadruplets. Afterwards, he came wailing for help and support.

Stoopid people!

AdeOri99:


I was having a discussion with one of my elder cousin, and when I said it's unlikely for me to get married cause I very much love freedom, she said it's a cause with such seriousness. Haaaaah.

Kobojunkiee:
But I am saying that exposure has nothing to do with this at all.

One doesn't first need exposure to realize that it makes absolutely no sense of any kind to rush into marriage without first ensuring you and your spouse are gainfully employed and have the resources to handle at least some of marriages curve balls.

MistaMann:


You'll brag with it in heaven, hell, Valhalla or the underworld? That you have a son who stand by your grave?

What value does it add to the deceased against someone without a heir to stand by his/her grave?

Oyiboman69:
I've also seen a man above 38 yrs who is unmarried and still poor....

tensazangetsu20:
I don't know if it's just me or the circle I am around but a lot of young Nigerian men are very desperate about being in a relationship or getting married. These are guys in the 24 to 29 age range. Most unemployed or earning very low salaries 30 to 50k.

They believe that marriage will chang their fate and make them really wealthy. It's quite understandable if women are crazy about marriage as they have a biological clock but a man can literally father kids at 90 if he wants to so what's the rush?

cococandy:
so they should marry after their prime? Does that make sense to you?

[s]Do you know the risk for Down syndrome in babies increases with the father's age?[/s]

Gerrard59:


He's Igbo, I'm not surprised. With the way he mentioned heir, I'm very sure he wouldn't mind birthing five children in the elusive search for a male child in the name of he should be the heir to my properties. Check his name on Google and nothing good comes out from the search. Just like the man in Enugu who had three girls and in the search for a "heir", his wife gave birth to quadruplets. Afterwards, he came wailing for help and support.

Stoopid people!

crackhaus:


Even females themselves know it deep down in their hearts that they're the ones who are most desperate for marriage, and this includes every single one of them on this thread... BUT of course, don't expect any to admit it even at the risk of death.

MistaMann:


The guy was totally off with the part you bold.

The thread is about marrying or having kids without a source of livelihood or income that can't provide/cater for basic needs not even luxury.

What do you mean by poor here? How can you be poor with kids which are being subjected to hardship and still enjoy life please

Inability to send you children to a basic decent school?
Eating 2 meals a day or living on less than 1 dollar a day?
Begging landlord not to evict you?
Your children being sent home from school?
Begging, borrowing to supplement your salary?

This is how you push some people without sense to marry then at the end of the day they become an element of pity, begging to feed. Why risk having the kids with the hope that tomorrow things might get better? With the stat about poverty rate in Nigeria do you need a seer to tell you it doesn't work?

Heir to inherit poverty and soko loan dept left behind abi

Tobichuks08:

[s]You should be very ashamed of yourself, has poverty eaten so deep in you that you have no value for yourself not to talk of others...

Marriage is desired by both genders because every human crave for companionship..
Some come early some come late.

Some marry early and some late and this is all about some personal choices and we all should respect it..

If critically analysed the guys that are poor with kids but enjoying thier marriage can be having a better life than the ones who are still single and trying to aquire all those riches.

which at the end of the day they end up being just financially stable.
Not rich and not wealthy..

Op just because you are single and think your better off, bro your not.
The poor dude has a heir who will probably stand on his grave and you don't.
Life is complex let's all strive to enjoy our choices and respect others regardless of thier present condition[/s]

Klass99:


LMAO .
You go fear African man mentality nah!

tensazangetsu20:
I don't know if it's just me or the circle I am around but a lot of young Nigerian men are very desperate about being in a relationship or getting married. These are guys in the 24 to 29 age range. Most unemployed or earning very low salaries 30 to 50k.

They believe that marriage will chang their fate and make them really wealthy. It's quite understandable if women are crazy about marriage as they have a biological clock but a man can literally father kids at 90 if he wants to so what's the rush?

Evolutionlove:


Dark reasoning as usual......

MistaMann:


It is better to be 99 years poor and single than be 38 years with 1 child and poor.

MistaMann:


They see marriage and having kids as way of life. It is easier to face life when alone than when married especially with kids.

pocohantas:


Lmao. Did this really happen?

The HEIR is quite typical though. I can imagine him saying it. HEIR kor, descendant ni.

Mindlog:


Old sperm (Advanced Paternal Age) is a high risk when is comes to certain birth defects.

While working with children with certain neurodevelopmental disorders, one of the key questions that must be asked is the age of the child's biological father.

Gerrard59:


https://punchng.com/country-is-hard-we-need-help-to-raise-our-newborn-quadruplets-enugu-based-couple/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook#Echobox=1635063057

tensazangetsu20:


Well in Nigeria it should be a concern to everyone when poor people get married. When they breed they end up giving birth to future bandits, terrorists, yahoo boys and criminals. As of 2008, you could drive from Lagos to Maiduguri. Today you can't. In the future, you won't be able to move easily from Ikeja to iyana ipaja as Nigeria is going to be worst off tomorrow than today.

Poor people marrying and having battalion kids should be everyones problem. You can't just let them be cause their decisions will affect you that refused to have any kids.

Klass99:


Walahi I am just LOL. It is fascinating to see different mindsets and thought processes on display.
And which one is those people . You no be African man too?

AdeOri99:


I was having a discussion with one of my elder cousin, and when I said it's unlikely for me to get married cause I very much love freedom, she said it's a cause with such seriousness. Haaaaah.