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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by mrbenjame: 1:29pm On Nov 18, 2021
sgtponzihater1:


Your post proofs why Nigerians are some of the most violent people on earth, insulting those who have done them nowring. Using God and curses on the same page shows who's child you really are, and how desperately you need redemption.

May God heal you, and teach you how to address people.

Over and out.

You don’t get it. I’m trying to look at where Op was Coming from. Why I was heartbroken is because he’s trying to influence people thoughts about marriage. It’s not so. If you don’t fancy marriage keep it to yourself. Don’t come to public space to let people feel that you’re right by what your philosophy about marriage is all about. I’m not moved by those philosophies. Some people can be easily influenced here by that ideology of his which is why I came against him immediately. Besides saying I used God and causes at the same time. God designed marriage you now want to poison peoples mind against it. Are you not anti christ? You shouldn’t be cast away? What are you saying. You for go ask God why Him cast Lucifer. Just shut him up. If you don’t fancy marriage let it be. Don’t discourage others. It’s wrong.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by odinson1(m): 12:48pm On Nov 19, 2021
Finally,more men are being to Break free from their Mental Cages. Marriage may not be a complete scam in Africa YET, but it sure as hell is one if the worse fates a 21st century man will ever meet in the Western world.

I mean,think about it! A Poor, tattered and Unintelligent woman really have no worries,all she just needs is to be a woman,look for any Well to do "Real man" and lock him down with marriage. Maybe in a few decades later,the man dies and she gets to Inherit EVERY DAMN THING He had Ever worked for. All the products of his Sweat and hard labour would go to the woman.
And of course if the woman can't wait for the husband to die soon enough,she can just file for a divorce and collect Half Anyway. I see it as an Absolute win

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 2:28pm On Nov 19, 2021
odinson1:
Finally,more men are being to Break free from their Mental Cages. Marriage may not be a complete scam in Africa YET, but it sure as hell is one if the worse fates a 21st century man will ever meet in the Western world.

I mean,think about it! A Poor, tattered and Unintelligent woman really have no worries,all she just needs is to be a woman,look for any Well to do "Real man" and lock him down with marriage. Maybe in a few decades later,the man dies and she gets to Inherit EVERY DAMN THING He had Ever worked for. All the products of his Sweat and hard labour would go to the woman.
And of course if the woman can't wait for the husband to die soon enough,she can just file for a divorce and collect Half Anyway. I see it as an Absolute win

Wise points

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 10:32pm On Nov 21, 2021
https://www.nairaland.com/6860340/why-women-rush-get-married

Another reason why Nigerian marriages is a scam, my response to the above thread

I did a post stating that Nigerian marriage is a scam, and many ladies came attacking me. Sadly some chewing-gum men joined the ladies. Marriage is the biggest achievement for majority of Nigerian ladies.

Sadly many, likely your girlfriend, make sure they extend their mileage to above 100k before marrying themselves off.

Be of good cheer

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by pocohantas(f): 10:38pm On Nov 22, 2021
Please divorce her.

Till you can do that, I am afraid there is more you are not telling. No one tied you inside the marriage and it is not like you would lose anything or maybe you will. Who knows? undecided

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 11:46pm On Nov 22, 2021
pocohantas:
Please divorce her.

Till you can do that, I am afraid there is more you are not telling. No one tied you inside the marriage and it is not like you would lose anything or maybe you will. Who knows? undecided

K

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by muheeb01(m): 11:48pm On Nov 22, 2021
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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by truthsayer009(m): 1:21am On Nov 23, 2021
sgtponzihater1:
After the so called bride price. She got a high paying job, and I no see Shi Shi for her salary. Wetin the price wey I pay come dey for.

I still dey pay all the bill, and the only advice I am given is that I am the man. Who man come help?

If this is not a scam, then what is.

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Why are you angry, you're basically paying for sex, companionship and the stress of taking care of children. Nothing is free my brother. That's life.

That's why some Igbo women know their husbands have side chics, they don't bother because they have basically taken care of the home front first.
Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Raalsalghul: 1:52am On Nov 23, 2021
Nairaland: so many experiences.

Sgtponzihater1 we need more updates.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 6:07am On Nov 23, 2021
Raalsalghul:
Nairaland: so many experiences.

Sgtponzihater1 we need more updates.

Seen. The story will probably continue if these hater don't keep derailing my well intentioned thread.

Sometimes we post, and other times we hustle to put food on our table.

Cheers

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by prettysassygirl(f): 6:25am On Nov 23, 2021
sgtponzihater1:


Thanks bro. Only the wise sees this. I am in it, and I have seen things. I used my life saving to buy a big house, my wife did not contribute one kobo. Time to furnish it, she did not contribute. But now everywhere is furnished, her friends and family troop in like it's a concentration camp. Meanwhile, none of my family members can visit.

If I had this orientation, I would have my 4 bedroom duplex to myself, and not allow a woman nag on my head morning, and evening
I can see u aren't happy in your marriage. Don't use yours to judge. Some men are in heaven in theirs.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by prettysassygirl(f): 6:26am On Nov 23, 2021
FlipModeSquade:
Serious Scam..

A man will work himself to death..

To provide for his family..

At the end of the day..

Only the woman is being honored..

Taken on junkets around the world..

While the old man sits alone at home..

With the GIN his children sent him..

Why should men continue to subject themselves to such in the name of marriage? angry
Take care of your children,show them love and affection and they would treat you right too. Simple
Re: The Scam Called Marriage by odinson1(m): 7:09am On Nov 23, 2021
prettysassygirl:

Take care of your children,show them love and affection and they would treat you right too. Simple

It doesn't always work. The wife can still turn the hearts of the children against their father. And another thing, children "love" their mothers more

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by odinson1(m): 7:10am On Nov 23, 2021
truthsayer009:


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Why are you angry, you're basically paying for sex, companionship and the stress of taking care of children. Nothing is free my brother. That's life.

That's why some Igbo women know their husbands have side chics, they don't bother because they have basically taken care of the home front first.

If he's "basically paying for sex", doesn't that make His wife a PROSTITUTE? i mean that's what prostitution is, isn't it?

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by prettysassygirl(f): 8:51am On Nov 23, 2021
odinson1:


It doesn't always work. The wife can still turn the hearts of the children against their father. And another thing, children "love" their mothers more
Only an irresponsible woman would do that.
Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 10:20am On Nov 23, 2021
prettysassygirl:

I can see u aren't happy in your marriage. Don't use yours to judge. Some men are in heaven in theirs.

I am happier than those who claim to be in heaven in their marriage. Marriage is about carrying crosses, some are lighter than others.

All the best

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by emmaodet: 12:41pm On Nov 23, 2021
crackhaus:
This thread dey sweet me like sugarcane... cheesy

@OP, please continue dropping your tidbits... Pay no mind to anyone trying to emotionally blackmail you into keeping shut.

We are in the era of choices and doing whatever makes us happy as long as we're hurting no one.

Ndi choice people need to keep up that same energy all round... grin

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Raalsalghul: 12:51pm On Nov 23, 2021
sgtponzihater1:


Seen. The story will probably continue if these hater don't keep derailing my well intentioned thread.

Sometimes we post, and other times we hustle to put food on our table.

Cheers

Alright, please ignore those derailing, there's always one or two things for others to learn.
Re: The Scam Called Marriage by truthsayer009(m): 1:03pm On Nov 23, 2021
odinson1:


If he's "basically paying for sex", doesn't that make His wife a PROSTITUTE? i mean that's what prostitution is, isn't it?

Your marriage is a transaction, whether you like it or not, the day you stop putting food on the table that's when your eyes will clear.

I suggest you listen to more of Dr. Jordan Peterson, freedom is an illusion, nothing is free, you pay for it one way or the other.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Vyolet(f): 2:04pm On Nov 23, 2021
Sgtponzihater1
Please continue these tales, we the redpillers and intending redpillers need to learn from a veteran like you.
Don't be derailed by these anti marriage haters.
angry
Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Smartb0y: 2:06pm On Nov 23, 2021
sgtponzihater1:
They gave me long list. When I calculated the list then, all the items amounted to 450k. I ask for discount yet nobody look my side. With my 160k salary of those years, and squeeze my face to buy the items on those list. The goat was rejected for being too skinny. At this time no lady, even my own aunty told me we were equal with women. They all asked me to man up and pay for her head.

After I marry she become feminist ontop my head. The same feminist that couldn't warn her people that she is not for sale.

I no blame her, I blame my own aunties, and sister wey follow whine me

Number 7 reason why modern marriages is a scam.
The sisterhood will never betray themselves.
Know that and know peace
Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Klass99(f): 2:25pm On Nov 23, 2021
FlipModeSquade:
This shouldn't be a subject for debate..

Abandonment is subjective..

Definitely a maid would be there to cook his meals.. angry

How many old men gets to take a trip around the world?

To visit their married children?

You guys like to say this a lot on NL, but can we be truthful with ourselves and about the reality of this?

A lot of men (fathers) feel more comfortable in their homes/houses than any where else and most tend to decline invitations to go on a trip or vacation, at their children's expense.

They would rather you give them the money you want to spend on a vacation for them, but they will also not come out clearly to say so or ask for the money - very few do. It takes a sensitive person, to pick up, on their non-verbal communication and give them the money.

Do you know how long we've been trying to get my father to come visit or go on an all expense paid trip? He is always giving us one excuse or the other, Covid made it very easy for him to do so in recent times.

The last time he was forced to visit for medical check up, he was so eager to get back to base and didn't hide his irritation at having to stay longer than he wanted.

It is not that fathers are abandoned at old age and hardly invited to visit, nor take vacations. Most decline these gestures and I like to think it is because they feel like lions (king of the jungle) in their own homes and fishes out of water when they are away from home or in someone else's house.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 3:54pm On Nov 23, 2021
Smartb0y:

The sisterhood will never betray themselves.
Know that and know peace

Very inspiring. However it's sad that there is no brotherhood. There are so many chewing gum men hovering everywhere

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 3:56pm On Nov 23, 2021
prettysassygirl:

Only an irresponsible woman would do that.

Unfortunately that's the case with most women.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Smartb0y: 4:07pm On Nov 23, 2021
sgtponzihater1:


Very inspiring. However it's sad that there is no brotherhood. There are so many chewing gum men hovering everywhere

They worship pussy , that'll be their undoing eventually
Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 4:08pm On Nov 23, 2021
Klass99:


You guys like to say this a lot on NL, but can we be truthful with ourselves and about the reality of this?

A lot of men (fathers) feel more comfortable in their homes/houses than any where else and most tend to decline invitations to go on a trip or vacation, at their children's expense.

They would rather you give them the money you want to spend on a vacation for them, but they will also not come out clearly to say so or ask for the money - very few do. It takes discernment to pick up on their non-verbal communication and give them the money.

Do you know how long we've been trying to get my father to come visit or go on an all expense paid trip? He is always giving us one excuse or the other, Covid made it very easy for him to do so in recent times.

The last time he was forced to visit for medical check up, he was so eager to get back to base and didn't hide his irritation at having to stay longer than he wanted.

It is not that fathers are abandoned at old age and hardly invited to visit, nor take vacations. Most decline these gestures and I like to think it is because they feel like lions (king of the jungle) in their own homes and fishes out of water when they are away from home or in someone else's house.



This is self aggrandisement. Men are largely abandoned. Glad you have not abandoned yours. I salute you for this.

But a large proportion of children, boy and girls, are endeared more to their mum than their dad, and it will continue to be this way. Same for myself

Compare the number of songs available to celebrate women rather than men. The number of mothers day available, Viz-a-viz father's Day.

International men's day was few days ago. I got no message from anyone, I would assume same for most fathers, I didn't see all the eulogies women get on Facebook or Twitter. That day passed nearly unnoticed.

A man however needs to be a man. Learn his realities, and never let you lots deceive him further. Thats my only aim.

Overall women are great for pleasure, companionship, and raising children. Otherwise they are mainly a liability to most men, and can crumble the most pleasant of men.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 4:15pm On Nov 23, 2021
Men are bold, muscular, but mostly soft inside. However, a vast majority of ladies are seemingly soft outside but ravenous beast inside.

Over the past 2 years, I went through reported stories of child abuse in Nigeria, and sadly over 80% of cases were perpetrated by women, and even when a man was involved, the idea was spearheaded by a woman.

Women are largely selfish. They take care of their children well, but largely careless for anyone who they not related to by blood, including other people's children. Their love and care for their husbands and boyfriend is a Ponzi relationship where they give love, expecting monetary and sexual pleasure in the end.

Number 7 reason why modern marriage is a scam.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Mstick: 4:22pm On Nov 23, 2021
Did you also go through the stories about child rape, rape, ritual killing and domestic abuse?


I guess the man that killed his son for ritual and the one that sold his newborn baby and he lied to the mother that the baby died was spearheaded by women?!

Why don't you just divorce your wife? It makes 0 sense being in an institution that you regard as scam don't you think? It feels like when we were kids and the older child will ask the younger one to part with their toy while they hold on to theirs.


Oh and NOBODY loves any one without expecting anything in return not even your mother.

NO man would love a woman if she doesn't give him what he desires, it maybe children, sex, food or money. That's the reason why over 99% of the thread on family and romance section are created by men.

So miss me with that men love unconditionally. If men love unconditionally no man will cheat, abuse or rape.


Oh Chim! grin grin grin grin grin grin



sgtponzihater1:
Men are bold, muscular, but mostly soft inside. Majority are seemingly soft outside but ravenous beast inside.

Over the past 2 years, I went through reported stories of child abuse in Nigeria, and sadly over 80% of cases were perpetrated by women, and even when a man was involved, the idea was spearheaded by a woman.

Women are largely selfish. They take care of their children well, but largely careless for anyone who they not related to by blood, including other people's children. Their love and care for their husbands and boyfriend is a Ponzi relationship where they give love, expecting monetary and sexual pleasure in the end.

Number 7 reason why modern marriage is a scam.

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 4:42pm On Nov 23, 2021
Mstick:
Did you also go through the stories about child rape, rape, ritual killing and domestic abuse?


I guess the man that killed his son for ritual and the one that sold his newborn baby and he lied to the mother that the baby died was spearheaded by women?!

Why don't you just divorce your wife? It makes 0 sense being in an institution that you regard as scam don't you think? It feels like when we were kids and the older child will ask the younger one to part with their toy while they hold on to theirs.


Oh and NOBODY loves any one without expecting anything in return not even your mother.

NO man would love a woman if she doesn't give him what he desires, it maybe children, sex, food or money. That's the reason why over 99% of the thread on family and romance section are created by men.

So miss with that men love unconditionally. If men love unconditionally no man will cheat, abuse or rape.


Oh Chim! grin grin grin grin grin grin




Good point. Above is the reason why women mostly win in courts even when they are wrong.

Men are the future, women are second thought creatures, and caused all the trouble in the world, yet men labour all their lifes out levelling off the errors created by women, while women act oblivious to this.

Men are trooping to heaven, only a woman can drag them back, yet more women flood religious houses for miracles.

It's a mystery, but I only wish more men can demystify this.

All the best

Over and out

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Mstick: 5:13pm On Nov 23, 2021
We are not in a court room, but from your posts so far all you're saying is men are half brain creatures that cannot process their own thoughts without the input of women.

Errors created by women? Can you name just one woman that have held the type of power men have held? Heck Afghanistan is an example of the labour of men.

You create wars, chaos even in your homes and as the weak creatures you're you hide behind and wait for who to blame.

Men are going to heaven? Of course you're! Most of those women are in "religious houses" go there to pray for their spouses because they believe a mystical creature in the sky will help. I remember when I was told to "tie my headtie" I said F**K I am not going to spend my life praying for a man.

Divorce your wife and end you misery.
but I am sure you won't because no matter how much you've tried to paint her as a bad person YOU are gaining from her.










sgtponzihater1:


Good point. Above is the reason why women mostly win in courts even when they are wrong.

Men are the future, women are second thought creatures, and caused all the trouble in the world, yet men labour all their lifes out levelling off the errors created by women, while women act oblivious to this.

Men are trooping to heaven, only a woman can drag them back, yet more women flood religious houses for miracles.

It's a mystery, but I only wish more men can demystify this.

All the best

Over and out

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Re: The Scam Called Marriage by sgtponzihater1(m): 5:28pm On Nov 23, 2021
We've moved on from distractions.
More stories coming up.
All the best
Re: The Scam Called Marriage by Smartb0y: 5:29pm On Nov 23, 2021
sgtponzihater1:
We've moved on from distractions.
More stories coming up.
All the best

Simply don't respond to distractions.
Don't derail the thread with your own hands grin

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