sgtponzihater1:


Accord which respect. Carry a cross means carrying a load or a burden. If marriage is a load or a burden then that itself is a scam.

Acidosis:
Why are men complaining about marriage these days? Lol

Y'all caused this nonsense o. The girlfriends you all over pampered back in the days have turned wives! Some of you stole from your parents and lied about school fees to buy gifts for your school girlfriends. So what do y'all expect today?

The idea that one struggling dependant of a broke student should buy gifts for another dependant is the basis of today's trouble. To crown it all, you all accepted the lie of a love language about gifts Ndi my love language is gifts Who doesn't like gifts in the first place?

At that level, relationships should have been based on pure/undiluted love and nothing else but, with our own hands, we made a mess of the whole love thing with the things of this world.

Beyond this, youths of today need to discard the ancient practices of their mothers. The way some of them act is merely a reflection of their mothers.

Overall, marriage is not a scam. It's all about the partner you get, their mentality, and level of commitment.

wunmi590:


Loud it bro...... I married late, not because I don't have the best women with me, but because I wasn't ready for it....

So when I finally got married I know I was good and finally ready....

I think we men should stop complaining about marriage being a scam, nobody point gun at us to force us to marry....

[s]We did it at our own will, and we must carry our cross and responsibility if we still want to be accord the respect of being a man as we call ourselves....[/s]

sgtponzihater1:
She told me as we have a house. We need CCTV with motion censor, and a burglar alarm. I called 3 companies for quotes.

The fairest quotes was 560k. She said let's take it as it's a good bargain. I stalled on this for one week and she kept telling me its a good bargain let's call them and pay. Keep in mind she was saying let's pay. I told the company we'll go for it and they gave us a date to install. I asked her to send a contribution, and she told me blatantly that she did not budget for that. I payed the 560k.

2 weeks later I heard her on a call to her friend about expenses. She was saying how we are spending so much. She told her friend "we just bought a house, and furnished it, so I am so broke now". One kobo she no contribute oh.

Tell me marriage is not a scam

To be continued.

cococandy:
Men claim to be “providers” but are always complaining about providing. Na wa.

mrbenjame:
You’re a very big f**l for posting this kind of rubbish! Is anybody forcing you to marry? See this one o. If you don’t fancy marriage is it not your choice to make? Why coming on a public forum to pour out your frustration. Are there not a thousand and one happy marriages out there? You’re sick in the head. You need paracetamol honestly. Where did you emanate from? So what God designed is now a scam. You’re a disgrace. Human beings are different. We have failed marriages here and there but that doesn’t make it scam my friend. What you’d say is that some people end up marrying the wrong persons. Not condemning it entirely. You have a very shallow reasoning. Go sit down and think about your miserable life. I blame the scams that brought you to this earth to type nonsense here. You need a psychiatrist! I tell you. Your brain dey shake.

sgtponzihater1:


Very good point. However I speak about modern marriages.

The last good marriage was 26-35 years ago. From then on women have changed for the worse. Feminism, ego tripping, and wanton carelessness have taken over.

Safe

FlipModeSquade:

While the old man sits alone at home..

sgtponzihater1:
Some guys understand this scam, others don't.

I went to a wedding, and the guy was dancing so ferociously. If only I could tell him to take things easy, as he was dancing into a modified cell. 5months later the dancing dude had developed pot belly, and his previously slim wife, had become fatty bumbum. This was a fit dude, who I knew to exercise at least 3 times a week. I did not see him at the squash court again. When I asked, he said it was the stress of marriage. Dude and his bride were now obese and pre- obese roaming mammals. I immediately pictured the day he was dancing with so much energy. I bet with this pot belly those moves will look odd. The lady took him from good, to fair to not so good.

Point 6 that marriage is a scam

Farfalla:

Why should he sit alone at home?

Have you ever come across any family that has abandoned their loving father?

wunmi590:



1. My dear brother, marriage is not a scam, if you are able to walk down the aisle, it means you are big enough to shoulder another responsibility.....

2. Please let us man up to our responsibilities, God will help us

ImaIma1:


You sound so amateur and naive, and it's obvious you cannot stand up to your wife. So you come on Nairaland to vent. You cannot refuse the expenses she piles on you or insist that she contributes.

So here you are trying to make your marriage problem a general one. You can't fool us all with that. You can only.fool the regular zombies who concur to anything anti-marriage. The insightful ones know better.

ikennamadu1:


Take charge of what and fix what .. oga go and sit-down .. no be you dey complain say one taxi driver wan collect your babe .. if you don't have anything to say. ... Continue dey fight your fellow man cuz of woman... Charlatan

crackhaus:
This thread dey sweet me like sugarcane...

@OP, please continue dropping your tidbits... Pay no mind to anyone trying to emotionally blackmail you into keeping shut.

We are in the era of choices and doing whatever makes us happy as long as we're hurting no one.

Ndi choice people need to keep up that same energy all round...

pansophist:
As I see it, if the op married a lady that is equally working and contribute equally to the marriage, it would be the best thing ever. So my question is, why marry a woman that is not on your financial level? I mean, you can't be lifting her financially permanently, what if you crash?

sgtponzihater1:
They gave me long list. When I calculated the list then, all the items amounted to 450k. I ask for discount yet nobody look my side. With my 160k salary of those years, and squeeze my face to buy the items on those list. The goat was rejected for being too skinny. At this time no lady, even my own aunty told me we were equal with women. They all asked me to man up and pay for her head.

After I marry she become feminist ontop my head. The same feminist that couldn't warn her people that she is not for sale.

I no blame her, I blame my own aunties, and sister wey follow whine me

Number 7 reason why modern marriages is a scam.

FlipModeSquade:

How many old men gets to take a trip around the world?

To visit their married children?

Acidosis:
Why are men complaining about marriage these days? Lol

Y'all caused this nonsense o. The girlfriends you all over pampered back in the days have turned wives! Some of you stole from your parents and lied about school fees to buy gifts for your school girlfriends. So what do y'all expect today?

The idea that one struggling dependant of a broke student should buy gifts for another dependant is the basis of today's trouble. To crown it all, you all accepted the lie of a love language about gifts Ndi my love language is gifts Who doesn't like gifts in the first place?

At that level, relationships should have been based on pure/undiluted love and nothing else but, with our own hands, we made a mess of the whole love thing with the things of this world.

Beyond this, youths of today need to discard the

sgtponzihater1:


Accord which respect. Carry a cross means carrying a load or a burden. If marriage is a load or a burden then that itself is a scam.

pansophist:
As I see it, if the op married a lady that is equally working and contribute equally to the marriage, it would be the best thing ever. So my question is, why marry a woman that is not on your financial level? I mean, you can't be lifting her financially permanently, what if you crash?

baby124:

Their fragile ego can’t take a successful woman or woman they can’t turn to slave. In this day and age they want to be traditional man. When things are so expensive

sgtponzihater1:


You want traditional marriage , but don't want traditional men . The height of wickedness in my opinion. Why should a man pay a price on your head, and then you flip to woke mode afterwards.

baby124:

Marriage rites are different from wanting a traditional marriage. To marry the woman you desperately wanted, you paid what was asked by her family not her! You do understand she’s not her family right? Plus you were not forced by them to marry her, so who are you trying to degrade with traditional marriage talk? If she refuses to complete all marriage rights, na you go still insult am that her family don’t rate her.

Gerrard59:


Love let alone true love doesn't exist in the world's poverty capital.