LET’S TALK!! Why Do Ladies Endure Poverty Of Their Parents, But Can’t Endure Poverty Of Their Boyfriend?


A Nigerian man has taken to social media to pose a controversial question to women about their mindsets while going into relationships.
It is no strange knowledge that women often mention financial stability when mentioning a man they would love to date or marry. Others specifically say they would never date a broke or struggling guy.

Well, wading in on the matter, a Twitter user with username @henryruckus1 has asked why women are okay with enduring the poverty they were born into but can’t do same with their boyfriends.

He wrote:

”Pls I have a question. Why do ladies endure poverty of their parent but can not endure poverty of their boyfriend”

The post has since generated divergent views with some ladies saying that they had no choice with their parents because that’s the family they were born into, but with a boyfriend, you have the option of not ‘suffering’ with him.

So Nairaland what’s your take?

Na who get surplus sha

No lady has the opportunity to choose her parent but has the chance to choose her husband

Marriage became ponzi, poverty eradicating program

If a rich guy proposes she will scream with excitement sotay her artificial wig go remove.But if na hustling guy proposes,she go slap am for embarrassing her in public.

Ladies in the house, come and answer your jamb question now

The ladies are still sleeping o

It's not unreasonable that a lady would like to maximize the opportunity of marriage to ensure some stability and comfort especially when we know stress of finances is the biggest cause of divorce. I know we have the grass to grace stories but those are not as typical as they sound.

For most guys as well, I believe if they thought they could date a more attractive lady with decent personality, they would go for it even if the lady is far more attractive than the guys are.

Life is not balanced; most people are trying to maximize their opportunities.

Because affliction shall not rise the second time.

Because their parents are not fuckinng them.

Stagnation is a curse

toren:
Because their parents are not fuckinng them.

Lol

Wealthoptulent:
Marriage became ponzi, poverty eradicating program

Swears

Amotolongbo:
No lady has the opportunity to choose her parent but has the chance to choose her husband

Thats a point, but they have a role to play. Marriage no be poverty alleviation scheme.

toren:
Because their parents are not fuckinng them.

nah where ur mind carry u go b dat

We are in 2021 and You still asking this Mumu question

averageguy:
It's not unreasonable that a lady would like to maximize the opportunity of marriage to ensure some stability and comfort especially when we know stress of finances is the biggest cause of divorce. I know we have the grass to grace stories but those are not as typical as they sound.

For most guys as well, I believe if they thought they could date a more attractive lady with decent personality, they would go for it even if the lady is far more attractive than the guys are.

Life is not balanced; most people are trying to maximize their opportunities.

Marriage is not an "opportunity" Oga..
It's a DECISION...So there's no "maximizing" anything here, at least not in this context...

And yes, money is one of the top 3 reasons for divorce according to research, buh why does the money mostly have to come from the man?? Can't the woman make her own money and attain the "stability" you spoke about?? Is there anywhere that says women cannot attain financial stability before marriage??

Am I saying women should leave rich dudes and marry poor dudes...No... Whoever they want to is their choice. Buh I'm sick and tired of women pointing as a criteria a trait that they themselves have made no effort in cultivating...

You wanna marry a rich dude abi na stable guy, fine...are you rich yourself?? Do you have that stability that you're seeking in another??

Marriage is not a "Poverty Alleviation Program" as people often say, you don't enter marriage with the sole aim of "escaping" poverty...that's stupid...

You don't go about with the mentality of "my parents were poor, so I cannot marry a poor man", that too is stupid... Rather than go about with that mentality, why not have the mentality that "My parents may have been poor, buh I won't allow myself to be poor, I'll work on myself, I'll work hard and work smart and I won't give up until my hustle makes me the woman of my dreams"...

because they see the wealth of their boyfriends as a means to escape the poverty of their parents

You can't choose your parents, but you can choose your spouse. It is not written anywhere that a lady must endure with a poor man because her parents are poor.

Martinez39s:
You can't choose your parents, but you can choose your spouse. It is not written anywhere that a lady must endure with a poor man because her parents are poor.

Exactly...

Do I start a family with my parents?

Or have children with them?

Feeding, education, health care, decent accommodation... These would be my responsibilities... One my partner has to deal with them adequately also...

Devgru:
because they see the wealth of their boyfriends as a means to escape the poverty of their parents

Genius: Marriage... Not a relationship...

Favfables1:


Marriage is not an "opportunity" Oga..
It's a DECISION...So there's no "maximizing" anything here, at least not in this context...

And yes, money is one of the top 3 reasons for divorce according to research, buh why does the money mostly have to come from the man?? Can't the woman make her own money and attain the "stability" you spoke about?? Is there anywhere that says women cannot attain financial stability before marriage??

Am I saying women should leave rich dudes and marry poor dudes...No... Whoever they want to is their choice. Buh I'm sick and tired of women pointing as a criteria a trait that they themselves have made no effort in cultivating...

You wanna marry a rich dude abi na stable guy, fine...are you rich yourself?? Do you have that stability that you're seeking in another??

So, I agree as well that women can, and should look, to make their own money. But even for a lady that is rich, I would say there would still be more financial security with a rich husband as well knowing that things happen in life like one person losing employment.

I disagree that marriage is not an opportunity. Behind every decision we make is an opportunity of multiple choices. For lady who marries a guy who might be financially struggling, the opportunity cost is the rich guy she could have married.

I'm a guy as well and I understand a lady might want more than I can offer. But even if every lady wants Dangote, the truth is he doesn't want all of them. At the end of the day, for everyone who gets married, they choose the best person who also desired them.

If there were two ladies with the similar character, skills and traits but the main difference is that one was a lot more physically attractive or rich, what would you do? Many desire a gorgeous wife, but that's not the main (or only) thing they need from their wives. I think a gold digger is one who is mainly after money, or who would leave after committment like marriage because they met a richer person. That's the part I detest.

Amotolongbo:
No lady has the opportunity to choose her parent but has the chance to choose her husband

And moreover, if poverty is endured with parents, there's high possibility that when the parents are out of their poverty, there will remain faithful to the children. The same can't be said for more than 95% of men.
That's why I will never blame a lady who chooses not to suffer or hustle with any man. Majority of them do not deserve it.

why would a guy be poor and thinking about relationship

IamKizzbrown10:
LET’S TALK!! Why Do Ladies Endure Poverty Of Their Parents, But Can’t Endure Poverty Of Their Boyfriend?


A Nigerian man has taken to social media to pose a controversial question to women about their mindsets while going into relationships.
It is no strange knowledge that women often mention financial stability when mentioning a man they would love to date or marry. Others specifically say they would never date a broke or struggling guy.

Well, wading in on the matter, a Twitter user with username @henryruckus1 has asked why women are okay with enduring the poverty they were born into but can’t do same with their boyfriends.

He wrote:

”Pls I have a question. Why do ladies endure poverty of their parent but can not endure poverty of their boyfriend”

The post has since generated divergent views with some ladies saying that they had no choice with their parents because that’s the family they were born into, but with a boyfriend, you have the option of not ‘suffering’ with him.

So Nairaland what’s your take?

Simple answer
They had no choice to choose their Parents but they have a Choice to choose their Boyfriends.

Datboredberry:
Do I start a family with my parents?

Or have children with them?

Feeding, education, health care, decent accommodation... These would be my responsibilities... One my partner has to deal with adequately also...

God no bring this kind liability come my way amen.

OP

The question has been answered.
They can't choose dier parents but can Choose/Pick Boyfriends!

Women naturally love Comfort, Material Things and Flashy items!

Dat's y The Serpent Targeted Eve with d Juicy-looking fruits in the Forbidden Tree!

PUSSYHOE:


God no bring this kind liability come my way amen.

Liability?

Am I to cater for the family alone?

It's 50/50... A poor man can't contribute anything...

Y'all be taking sh** as though financial stability isn't one of the most important things in a long-term relationship...

When you see your child emaciated or when they are prevented from writing their exams... Or when you have to borrow so you can get the drugs... then you'll get it...

You might be a suffer-head... But work hard to give your children a decent life...

Vinnie2000:



OP

The question has been answered.
They can't choose dier parents but can Choose/Pick Boyfriends!

Women naturally love Comfort, Material Things and Flashy items!

Dat's y The Serpent Targeted Eve with d Juicy-looking fruits in the Forbidden Tree!

Why don't you marry an ugly girl?

Both genders have vain standards...

Datboredberry:
Why don't you marry an ugly girl?

Both genders have vain standards...

Correct!
I Totally Agree with you! We are on the same page..

But Why is dat when we Guys say we want Beautiful, fresh, low body count babes or outright Virgins as wives, Ladies always feel pained?

Women love money/material things While Men loves pretty, fresh and 'unused' Ladies!

Vinnie2000:





Correct!
I Totally Agree with you! We are on the same page..

But Why is dat when we Guys say we want Beautiful, fresh, low body count babes or outright Virgins as wives, Ladies always feel pained?

Women love money/material things While Men loves pretty, fresh and 'unused' Ladies!

The same way the men commenting here are pained...

One called me a liability... For saying I want a husband with whom I'll share the responsibilities of parenthood with...

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