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Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by ModelLook(m): 6:09pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
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Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Loreettaa: 6:09pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
madridsta007:That number 4 is your number 1. No dey disguise The reason y'all won't like to take an African woman abroad is because she will get to know her rights, and "use them against" you. You want to be able to get sex outside without her wanting a divorce and taking the house. You want to be able to beat her/the kids "in correction" without them calling 911 on you. First World countries respects the rights of women far more than Africa does, and the possibilities of what she can do with that knowledge, scares you. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Evercurious(f): 6:10pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
madridsta007: OP check this very reasonable comment 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by sharpwriter(m): 6:10pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
TheKingIsHere:Wahala dey o |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by adecz: 6:10pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
⭕️⭕️⭕️ 9ja women are ever ready to betray you if you marry them come carry them go yonder.. After the suffering wey dem don endure for here, dem eye go just tear open one time when dey become aware of the rights & freedom guaranteed in oyibo countries. She can refuse to cook for you or give you tohtoh♥♥♥ & nothing wey you fit do. She can decide to even get boyfriend & na so you go dey helpless. ⭕️⭕️⭕️ These are matters that you go flog am die for say na Nigeria. But you try am for there, government go jail you, carry your house give am & she go carry the boyfriend come live with her.. ☹️☹️ Thank am well well & Goodluck . Peace✌️✌️✌️✌️ 10 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by olas24u(f): 6:11pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
[quote author=Mariangeles post=108146290] If you give her peace of mind, she's most likely to give you peace of mind, whether in Nigeria or abroad. [/quote Lies 8 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by lolu2019: 6:12pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
wunmi590:u go get sense.simp identified. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by faithfull18(f): 6:12pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
adeakin:Keep deceiving yourself. As much as I don't enjoy sharing personal stories, I would this time. I have seen cases of Nigerian men who left Nigerian women to marry from Sierra Leone, Liberia, it ended in tears after 2 kids. He finally came back to marry the Nigerian woman. These things aren't based on Nationalities, it's a person thing. 17 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Fiscus105(m): 6:13pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Foodqueen: Yet u re masquerading as lady (f), if you can't say obvious truth about ur gender to faceless forum, how would you deal with wife? If wife latter finds out that you lie about everything about urself and she too change , you would still blame wife for ur untruthfulness 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by pocohantas(f): 6:13pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Loreettaa: What is wrong in cooking for your family? Forgive me, I find arguments like this mundane and irrelevant. Sadly it is what has become the order of the day when marriage is discussed. It shows there is something wrong with us as a people. Both male and female. You were cooking in Nigeria, suddenly cooking is below you because you are abroad? There are bound to be issues. Ordinarily, both parties should be helping each other. Domestically and financially, but when one person thinks chores are below him or assisting financially would make her a mumu, wahala done dey. Nigerians play too many mind games and relationships with them wears someone like me out. You might not cook 7 days a week, but I believe a good husband, be it in Nigeria or Cambodia, should know when his wife has done her best and deserves some rest. On such days she should get her rest. If her husband is not dicking her and he is making no effort to improve, she can leave the marriage with her dignity and value intact. No adult abroad has time to even sit and eat three times a day. There are more pressing issues and Nigerian men and women should begin to upgrade their OS. We are too backward in our issues. 40 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by emonis88: 6:13pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Klass99:U want to evade the fact that Nigerian women when married n taken abroad, r even worst than the women abroad. Many Nigerian men ve bn frustrated into commiting murder, cus of such acts by women who they brought over abroad. 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by ensamy(m): 6:16pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Nurses Nurses....Especially if she's a Nurse, hmmm when she starts earning more than the man, hehehe Her troubles with start until the man becomes miserable , which at the end she may send the man parking out of the house he bought with his hard earned money. This has happened to lots of Nigerian men over there. Nurses Nurses wives taken overseas.. 5 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 6:16pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
mrbenjame: Never bring her abroad all by urself. Make sure she puts some effort into it by bringing her own money, bringing half of the visa and flight money etc. Never be more invested in a relationship than the woman is. 17 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Dangrace01: 6:18pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Guy no jokes. I met a nairalander with my former account. He told me how two Nigerian girls have messed him up . He's based in us How did I find out i asked him about his wife because he introduced me to her previously he said they on process of divorce thats how I knew he has been married twice. Funny enough he brings the girls from Nigeria We have not spoken for a while though 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 6:18pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
JovialJune: Which is why marriages abroad don't last as the men are no longer dominant... 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by InoGetJoy: 6:19pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
adeakin:I think you're right. A friend of mine who is a US Marine married to a Sierra Leonian. He said his Nigerian guys avoid marrying Nigerian ladies because the women change after getting to the US 10 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by whiteroses(f): 6:19pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Character is like smoke, you will know by their fruits. If you only have 2 weeks to spend with someone they will show you a fruit. If a woman will give you problem she will form and pretend a lot. You will keep buying her love. The signs will be there. With that being said, Lets narrow the issue down by Marrying African, then marry west African. Ghana, Nigerian it really doesn't matter. Leave whites out of this except she's someone who loves and knows the African culture really well. They always have mental crisis and not many of their marriages lasts. Any woman who loves you and is God fearing can be taken anywhere. Goodluck 12 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by OvertheTop(m): 6:19pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
pocohantas: HOPE is not Good Enough in this context . If One Make a Mistake in Marriage, It can Ruin One Life Completely.... Imagine Being Thrown out of your Home U are Paying Mortgage for. Where would you Start From? 11 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by oloshun(m): 6:22pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Is good that you asked. From my personal experience, women are not different across the globe. Ireespective of space or place, a woman that will frustrate you will not not hesitate. The only variance is that there is more financial independence here in the US than Nigeria. That factor really empowers women to freewill and renders you less control. But as i said, women are women; just pray that God helps you to chose well. My friend here married a lady from here while i brought my Nija wife, his marriage crumbled just like mine. He then married another lady and broght her here and since then, they have been happy together. On my side, o vowed never to brong a nija babe again, i married an American, and my brother, i regre u have not married her some 24 years ago. So it is about luck. But in all, please i beg you, anywhere you decide to chose a wife from, dont marry a poos person. Being poos is deadly than Covid and any other STDs. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by sunexameh(m): 6:22pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Same way ladies feel marrying a guy from Nigeria and bringing him overseas 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by pocohantas(f): 6:23pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
OvertheTop: But you guys have been throwing your wives out of the homes you built together in Nigeria and I haven’t met one Nigerian man bothered about where she would start from. I don’t know how the throwing out works, but I believe everything is done in the interest of the KIDS. Yes, a mistake in marriage can ruin one. Make you paranoid and vicious, but life itself is a risk. Let’s not act like foreigners don’t have these issues. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by TheKingIsHere: 6:23pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
pocohantas: I am happy that it's your fellow naija girl that you are responding to. Now, imagine her mentality when she gets abroad and believes that cooking for her family is slavery, then uses it to punish the man Hope you see the dilema that we face? 21 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 6:24pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Loreettaa: Those countries aren't "first world".... they are overglorified shitholes.... 5 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Nobody: 6:24pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
mrbenjame:Most people abroad are emotional criminals. They all want to get papers there. Now, when you come home, most ladies people turn emotional criminals also as soon as they hear it's an abroad person, and they are worse. For example, a good girl will be pushed even by her boyfriend or family to marry the guy, get papers, and divorce him. Lol. That's a good girl oooo..she turns a criminal instantly such offer comes. Have you not noticed that almost everyone in Nigeria doesnt see anything wrong with internet scamming? Seriously. Check well. They tell you that everyone doing it is a businessman, but the thief is the one caught. Even parents are arrested with their children these days cos they encourage and support the kids. Parents pray for their kids these days to be successful in yahoo business. So, if you come to Nigeria to pick a spouse, they will want to take advantage of you also. It's an opportunity for them. Let me tell you the truth, the people abroad are criminals, the ones at home too are criminals. The only issue is that this abroad are with years of experience while the ones at home are just starting and give them 3 months, they act even smarter than the one with many years of experience living abroad. So, wisdom is needed. You still have a better chance picking from Naija. But you must not show you are from abroad. If you can act as if you arent living abroad, you can get a good spouse. Apart from this, I dont know oooo. People are desperate these days. Marriages are lies. Money is love now. Let me advise you. You can marry anyone. Just pray for wisdom. Asking you to come pretend you arent from abroad doesnt make sense. Just be yourself, open your eyes, and find a spouse where you are. Open your heart to anyone from any race.. white, latino, Asian, black, etc. I even prefer asians. Japanese, Chinese, Koreans, Thai, etc still have low rate of adultery. Marriage is not what you ask for advice on NL. This is the truth. You need wisdom to choose a good person.. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by TheKingIsHere: 6:24pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
OvertheTop: Gbam! 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Ten06(m): 6:25pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Just pray for God to give you a a good one that you will be able to manage. Even the ones we married in Nigeria here who before we married them were acting like as if they want to be slave to you, have later turn to rebels in the house bahaving as if the man is nothing. And if they started displaying that kind of character abroad where women has so much right. Guy you will regret it and that is why the number of men murdering their wives abroad is increasing exponentially these days. So be very careful when you want to marry 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Nobody: 6:26pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
mrbenjame: You are the one looking for trouble. You want to marry someone that you don't know just because they are Nigerian. Aren't there Nigerians where u live? Someone that you will know and understand and they the same with u. Or are you one of those who want the woman to come wash your feet because to took them overseas? Common man, marriage is not a sprint. Those who marry their friends still go through shiit, most of the time what saves the marriage is the memories of their long friendship. One girl is putting her best foot forward for you on social media and you think that is how the marriage will be? Bro u are about to learn. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 6:27pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
pocohantas: pocahontas I told my female friends this: when I was a bachelor, I cook, clean my entire house as well as work all by myself....without a wife....and after I married I continued to do all of them by myself because I'm already used to it.... 8 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by madridsta007(m): 6:33pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Loreettaa: I dont care about your opinion or what you think. Believe me. There is an Indian, Chinese and African system that embodies family, community focus and growth. Quite similar in context, the three. This is what I believe in. Thank God, I am the man and it is up to God and me to make the decision on who to marry. Not up to the woman- bless her. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by emonis88: 6:33pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
walexsho:Abi? Make sure she signs a prenuptial before coming over, so if she decides to go for a divorce, that means she gets nothing. That what rich guys do abroad. So if she loves u she il marry d man n not for his riches. 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by jornwhite: 6:34pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
JovialJune: Aunty their is something on your lips, try clean it. Their is no equality in the world, therefore no system is balance, africa favors men just has western world favors women 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Yoighaman(m): 6:34pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
mrbenjame: For your own good, better not go that route. Most (not all) of the women turn to 'lions' when they get over there, stories about this abound everywhere. They see freedom and independence, and lose their sanity. To be forewarned is to be....(complete the rest). 1 Like |
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