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Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by KefeeBRIGHT91(m): 8:44am On Dec 10, 2021 |
Mille: ...I’m guessing you guys didn’t have discussions on finance management before committing to each other maritally. That’s the engine of every relationship. There’s something I always say...love is weakness. Not love in it self, the idea of being in love. Thinking because you’re in love you won’t cheat or get cheated on, won’t hurt or hurt someone, the mentality that because you’re there financially for your spouse, they will also be there for you as well. These are all fantasies to those who experience unrequited love. Some people have it all good, some others just don’t. It’s life. Nature has it’s way of balancing things. What you’re experiencing now is called reality. Normally I would have said these are signs you should have noticed while you love birds were still dating but then people change and that’s reality. A wise spouse would guard against every eventuality, think 2 or 3 steps ahead. If not even for yourselves but for your child for goodness sakes. I for one wouldn’t let my little baby girl go to bed hungry. You don’t rely on people in absentia and you don’t apportion blames. Expectations hurt! You fix things and get them working. See there are ways you handle issues people might not like you, every one mustn’t, but they’ll respect you. Don’t be deceived if anyone tells you on this forum that it wouldn’t happen again. It would bro, however the major concern would be what actions and counter actions are you going to put in place now to ward off such eventuality? Please that Princess shouldn’t go to bed hungry again, if that happens next time, that’s on you! PS: by means of possible solutions going forward...get another sim/network/wifi/modem. Don’t rely on just mtn. Dependence without backup plans hurt a lot. Wishing you all the best in your marital journey! |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Mariangeles(f): 9:20am On Dec 10, 2021 |
Mille: If you like ehn, allow bitter hateful souls wey full nairaland poison your mind against your wife, you hear? You will never forgive her in your life abi? Says a lot about the kind of human being you really are! You have a very wicked and unforgiving heart yourself! Evaluate and ask yourself if you yourself are a good person? ARE YOU PERFECT? Those telling you your wife is a bad person, ARE THEY GOOD? Who are they to tell you your wife is bad? Do you know how they are in real life? Imagine all the nonsense you're talking about your wife behind her back, and you're letting bitter people channel their negative energies towards her by talking bad about her without you even defending her. You are a very bad husband! I pity your wife. If you like ehn, no protect your marriage you hear? Bitter nairalanders go use you destroy am, na that time your eyes go clear! Petty husband! 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by ceeceeuwa: 10:09am On Dec 10, 2021 |
Mille:What tribe is she from? |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Hathor5(f): 10:35am On Dec 10, 2021 |
Mille: What did she say? That's what I would like to know. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Hathor5(f): 11:08am On Dec 10, 2021 |
GboyegaD: I thought it was only me seeing this difference and possibly misunderstanding something but you saw it too. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Raalsalghul: 11:13am On Dec 10, 2021 |
Mariangeles: The sisterhood will always defend their own. 6 Likes |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Mariangeles(f): 11:23am On Dec 10, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: Omode lo n se e. Ko de ni ye e. Se o ti pada di obirin ni? |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Nobody: 11:36am On Dec 10, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: Why did you change sex from male to female. U no be man again? 1 Like |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by KevinDein: 11:39am On Dec 10, 2021 |
But I was told mother's love is unrivaled and they can lay down their lives for their kids. Lies. Notice how even the women on this thread don't seem to see how preposterous it is for a woman to allow her baby sleep on an empty stomach and a particular one above even spinned the tale to eventually call the op petty. You are all birds of a feather. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by GboyegaD(m): 12:08pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Hathor5: He kept insisting on the bank balance and perhaps did not ask if they could go make withdrawal. If she buys him something anytime she goes out, she does appreciate him. I think what they need is more communication and Bros needs understand that he isn't owed as his reactions in my opinion feels so. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Raalsalghul: 12:11pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Framed: Only constant thing in life is change. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Raalsalghul: 12:12pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
KevinDein: That's why we are the sisterhood. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Mariangeles(f): 12:28pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
KevinDein: Dude! Nobody supports what op's wife did! |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by iboboyswag(m): 12:48pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
GboyegaD: Oga he is owed every dime of her existence. If she cannot give or attempt to see through the situation then she is no good. Many in here have tried to downplay her actions. But the truth is bare. A stingy woman is a bad partner. And as OP has said, no amount of talking can change that. OP you need to establish a sense of authority and new rules. Don't overgive and resist the urge to pamper her. Let her work, earn and contribute her own quota to the house. Her pricey education should not go to waste. Save yourself the headache of tomorrow now while you can. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by iboboyswag(m): 12:52pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Omo in my days dating, I dey set the babe up steady to determine how much of herself she can give. Once I sense say you be all man for himself whilst claiming you love me, you are on your own. And I advice younger men to not allow themselves be sucked into the fallacy that it is a man's sole responsibility to cater for the home. Only do this when you have established that if the tables were turned, you won't be turned out. Give all of you to only those who would give all of themselves. Everywhere red eye now. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by GboyegaD(m): 1:19pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
iboboyswag: I rest my case. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by iboboyswag(m): 1:40pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
GboyegaD: It is the supposed separation most people allow in marriages that is causing a lot of the challenges we witness with marriage today. People who pledge I do, don't see themselves as one. They don't even treat their significant other as themselves and even many are willing to forgive siblings than they would their partners. If you reason that your partner is you and you are your partner, parting with your money or other material possessions won't be a challenge. And as to being owed every dime of her existence, the same applies to him in a sane and upright setting. In marriage mathematics was defied and sense thrown outside. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by GboyegaD(m): 1:44pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
iboboyswag: Being owed isn't the right choice of word in my opinion as I now get your logic. One thing however is that different family, different strokes. One thing I tell my friends is if you guys can have sex during the day without being ashamed of One another, there's nothing that can be done together. I have seen homes where money has caused troubles and it is always funny to me. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by maxinvile(m): 1:45pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
[/quote]ucheheart:The absolute truth. I am presently experiencing such attitude with my mine where all she care is her siblings and her herself . [quote] |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Yemlizzy(f): 1:59pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Your wife made her own child go hungry to bed despite having the resources to feed her. She didn’t eat because you didn’t drop money yet she has money What kind of wife and mother does that?? Doesn’t make sense one bit, if she doesn’t even care about you what about the small child 1 Like |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Klass99(f): 2:09pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
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Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Karleb(m): 2:09pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Where do you people meet this kind of people? |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by iboboyswag(m): 2:12pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Klass99: Gbamsolutely... 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by iboboyswag(m): 2:38pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
GboyegaD: True but that's the nature of man. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Hathor5(f): 2:44pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
GboyegaD: bold My thoughts exactly. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Raalsalghul: 2:47pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Klass99: This makes sense on so many levels: the best thing I've read on Nairaland today. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Klass99(f): 2:59pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
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Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Raalsalghul: 3:02pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Klass99: The only constant thing in life is change. |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Oyiboman69: 4:55pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
NovesaTillie:
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Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by Oyiboman69: 5:00pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
ogawisdom:most women are devil...they just wants to see the man died. she wouldn't had allowed that if the man is not there with her.... 1 Like |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by brain54(m): 5:16pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Mille:She has an ATM card? Or can make withdrawal by transfer? Cos it's late for her too to make transactions via the counter... |
Re: Am I Overthinking This Or I Really Have A Bad Wife by evy800(f): 5:31pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Mrkumareze: I like your thought process not because I'm a woman but because I know objectivity when I see one... |
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