Double0h7:


Is this the only hospital? Can you not contact the NGO? How could a premature baby sleep outside of a hospital?

You keep contradicting yourself. One minute the father only cares about the money and not the wellbeing of the baby and the next minute they are sleeping outside the hospital.

I don't live in your country so I don't know how a premature baby could be left outside the hospital so I will stop commenting on this.

I will pray for this baby's wellbeing because I don't care about the guy and his rights right now. This baby needs to be saved and operated on that is all that matters right now. Your friend should humble himself and sacrifice his rights for now for the sake of his baby. Good luck

Pious101:
Ur customary law is not superior to the constitution. He can and he will claim that baby under d constitution wether he is married to d girl or not. It takes two to make a baby.

Godoverevery:

Why I want to fight for him is all the money this boy is making he is actually spending on the baby and the lady......not like he is acting irresponsible

If he had much I know he will do alot from the lil he is doing now.

The gilr family threaten they won't let him see the baby isn't cool for me....that why I want to step in.

Karleb:
Tell him what you just told us


People can be funny sha. Their ringtone changed when they saw money.

Tell him to let go of the money. I'm very sure the girl's family will kill themselves for the money.

Godoverevery:

As at yesterday nite before i left the baby was collected to be admitted but on getting here this morning I got to know they didn't readmitted the baby.

Ofcourse luth will release the money because it was donated in the baby name(the chaque carry the baby name)....so is not luth money.

The grandfather was the one I spoke too yesterday and he said the lady doesn't have a sister but I later found out the lady is a family memeber from the girl mother side(not blood sister).

The matter is really complicated.......we are trying to see if they will admit him at lasu.

Godoverevery:

We have been begging since morning

The lady that cause everything have even left us.

michael77777:


if he can claim the baby can he also claim the money?......



where was him when the girls family was paying the bills he's supposed to pay?....
My reference was to d baby n not the money...kindly take note


poverty na bastard..



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Jungpablo:
seems you did not read the post but I'll explain to you. The girl's family have been taking care of the child before the money from NGO came so why do you think they will stop taking care of the child after surgery? The girl's family have been shouldering all the bill something the boy and his family did not do and you dare mention POVERTY. If not for the girls family I'm not sure the child would have been alive till now because clearly the boy has no means to take care of the child and I'm sure even the OP would not have helped out. But the girl's family stood for their daughter and their grandchild which is the right thing because the girl is not even married. And yes if you're foolish enough to get married when you have no means of taking care of yourself your in-laws will show you shege

Double0h7:


I didn't say any of that. Also, there might not be even enough for the operation and the hospital stay. He needs to forget about that money and raise more money because this is going to be an expensive and stressful process.

Pious101:
OP did not state all d bill but rather most of d bill. And the boy tries as much as possible pays d one he can afford. It's clearly stated there...and I still maintain my stand except u did not understand what I said earlier...if not for d fact that the boy was poor, there is no way d girl's father would be d one deciding what goes and what does not. And lastly, d woman I married, I paid fully and no one can come to my house to give a say on what goes in my house

Karleb:


If 700k is indeed nothing, then the girl's family should have a plan for the baby, mother and father with it, no trying to embezzle it.

lionphil:


They should have a plan for the baby... the centre of this whole discussion is the baby... the baby is premmy. The baby would've died if not for the intervention of the girl's father... with how dull your boy is, he definitely didn't invite the NGO. All of he sudden he wants to claim right... until he does the marital rites, he is just like a guy that poured sperms into a nylon... only this time, a baby came out. The sperm was useless to him and so is this 900k.

Godoverevery:
Good morning peeps.

Please I will try as much as possible to make this narration short because I need advice on how to handle this issue.

I have a boy that works for me ......he is from calabar, one thing sha lead to another a lady got pregnant for him ......fast toward to October she had an early delivery so the baby is premature.

The baby was referred to a federal government hospital since October.....the girl father have being the one paying majority of the bills due to the guy financial situation before some group of ngos donated about 900k to the baby.

A lady came around on Friday claiming to be the girl sister and forcefully discharge the baby claiming the hospital is just collecting money without doing anything......she said the baby will be taking to a better private hospital......the baby needs a minor surgery but can't be operated yet due to being a premature.

Yesterday the girl father came around and discovered about the baby being discharge ....he started calling the boy threatening him.....I intervened letting him know it was the girl sister that asked for the baby to be discharged....he told me the girl doesn't have a sister.

We move there yesterday night......on getting there the man said the baby need to be readmitted again but the hospital said they can't..After so much begging they accepted.
The issue now is nobody is allowing this guy have a say....anytime he try to talk they all shut him up.

He was blamed for what happened instead of the lady....which I had to speak up for him......the lady sister was the one who signed for the baby to discharged and instead of taking them to a private hospital this lady took them to her house.

So after studying everything I discover the girl family wants to sideline him because of the 900k ......they don't want him to know anything about how the money is spent........the guy is trying is best to pay for somethings he can infact him and girl are living in the hospital.

He is not educated and not smart....his mother refused to help out so he is all alone.

Please nl how do I help this guy gain access to how this money is spent and stop the girl family from treating him like a nobody.

Note: the surgery requires about 200k from what I learnt.

Godoverevery:

You are very funny and don't know Nigeria law

Newsflash we have gotten police involved and the girl sister had been arrested yesterday....the right she has to sign for the child to be forcefully discharge she is telling them.....even the police told the grandfather that Nigeria law only recognised the father and mother in decision making.
Not everyone is Igbo ooo.......yoruba culture isn't rigid like that.....Marital rite isn't by force here.

Although am not in support of him not paying her bride price but at the moment......let respect Nigeria law.

Godoverevery:

You are very funny and don't know Nigeria law

Newsflash we have gotten police involved and the girl sister had been arrested yesterday....the right she has to sign for the child to be forcefully discharge she is telling them.....even the police told the grandfather that Nigeria law only recognised the father and mother in decision making.
Not everyone is Igbo ooo.......yoruba culture isn't rigid like that.....Marital rite isn't by force here.

Although am not in support of him not paying her bride price but at the moment......let respect Nigeria law.