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How My Uncle Destroyed His Family! / Is It Right For A Man To Share His Marital Issues With Any Of Their Parents? / "My Uncle Realized He Had Been Paying House Rent To His Wife For 10 Years" (2) (3) (4)
|Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Goodlyhrt(m): 10:04pm On Dec 29, 2021|
What can be the possible solution to my uncle's problem.
When I made this thread
I really never wanted to expose everything because my uncle is a very private person and I know how he thinks when it comes to his personal issues being discussed outside. But I am fed up myself. infact, I am actively looking to move away from his apartment because looking at him moan all day from all the ill luck he's encountered in marriage it's akin to torture. I don't know what to do to help him and I cant stand seeing him die slowly. He is my blood after all.
Where do I even start from.. According to him he started having issues the moment he got married to the wife. He lost his business, his cars. In fact their first child was deceased and that could've been the beginning of the wife's mental issues.
Even though they carried on with the marriage. It has been from one problem to another.
From the two surviving kids right now the younger kid is suffering from complicated birth defects of astronomical proportions. Hundreds of thousands has been spent to get her look normal as she is a girl, still, she can barely walk properly with no body muscle whatsoever(muscle dystrophy).
My uncle has tried believe me. He is suffering! And I can't help him.
Right now the wife is in the village, at a traditional healing home. The money to pay the care giver that has been taking care of her for like eight months now is no where to be gotten.
Do we talk about accruing loans from multiple sources. It's a miracle he is keeping his driving job because he has collected salary in advance for many months according to him and we barely feed at home.
How can one person get all this problems alone like for real. I mean it's getting out of hands. Our in-laws are some of the most stupid, wicked set of beings some one can ever encounter in this life.
They knew all these while that the lady their daughter is not that OK yet they packaged her and dumped her with my uncle and they wickedly wouldn't lend a helping hand to my uncle all this while my uncle has been going to them seeking for solution.
Good people of nairaland I am on my knees if there can be any suggestions, referral, to any spiritual helper, diviner, prophet, prayer house, anything as there must be a solution somewhere please drop same in the comment section. I can only do this for my uncle he is drowning slowly and painfully. I can't bear to see this. It's heart wrenching.
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Nobody: 10:13pm On Dec 29, 2021|
I wanted to help as a marriage counselor but this one carry spiritual matters follow body and I don't step into people's territory because I don't joke with mine.Contact me for ordinary marital conflicts and I and my team will help restore the marriage
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Nobody: 10:21pm On Dec 29, 2021|
This Matter pass me. I think her family is behind this, your uncle married from a wicked fam.
Pst. Righteousness2,your attention is needed
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by MufasaLion(m): 10:23pm On Dec 29, 2021|
Well, I would say all what you wrote ain't spiritual. Take your uncle to a therapist and your aunt to a psychiatric hospital. Don't let any con man extort you all because of you impatience and non-undertanding of what your uncle is going through.
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by MufasaLion(m): 10:24pm On Dec 29, 2021|
You never cease to amaze me.
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Righteousness2(m): 10:25pm On Dec 29, 2021|
Your Uncle needs an Encounter with JESUS Christ.
Tell him to sacrifice from 6th January - 9th January 2022. Leave whatever he is doing and sacrifice those days to have an Encounter with JESUS.
MGBIDI 2022 , LAGOS Experience. January 6th- 9th , 2022.
"What GOD has Determined shall be Done"
@ The LORD'S CHOSEN CHARISMATIC REVIVAL Ministries Coporate Headquarters, Ijesha Lagos.
Tell HIM he is not going there to meet with Pastor or General Overseer. HE should Prepare himself to meet with GOD ALMIGHTY. January 6th-9th ,2022,
I Personally and Confidently Guarantee you and your Uncle that after this Encounter with GOD! The Mercy of GOD will prevail and there MUST be Light again.
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Northernblood5(m): 10:25pm On Dec 29, 2021|
Take her to a strong Native Doctor.
Don't only tell the native doctor to cure her, Tell the doctor to send it back to the sender. Let the sender suffer times 2 of what he did. These pigs deserves nothing but painful death.
SUFFER NOT A WITCH TO LIVE
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Nobody: 10:26pm On Dec 29, 2021|
For sure not nairaland...speak to a relationship expert..
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by nifemi25(m): 10:27pm On Dec 29, 2021|
This matter don involved spiritual ..
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by TONERO500(m): 10:30pm On Dec 29, 2021|
Hypocrite bastard did he tell you that his uncle is an unbeliever idiot (don't quote me cause am a Christian too)
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Righteousness2(m): 11:11pm On Dec 29, 2021|
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Uprightness100(m): 12:17am On Dec 30, 2021|
Claiming to be a Christian does not Exempt you from displaying Folly or from being Foolish.
The Foolish Virgins in the Bible were also Christians like you.
Judas Iscariot was not only a Christian but was the chief financial officer of JESUS Christ Earthly ministry, yet he was Foolish and stupid!
Some Foolishness are acquired
Some Foolishness are Hereditary.
You need to take time out and understand the source of your case, so we can know how to Help u as we can see that U had to Create another ID to display your Folly.
You may need Deliverance or we may need to Use the rod to flog sense into your Back Brain..
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Kobojunkie: 12:59am On Dec 30, 2021|
Goodlyhrt:1. So, the mental issues his wife has developed after she lost a child? Why didn't you reveal this in your previous thread? Did your uncle, at any time, send his wife out to see a psychiatrist or receive mental health treatment for this problem?
2. They both birth a sick child and medical bills swallowed much of their intake.. so it isn't the case that his wife was the primary drain on his income then, so why did you omit this information in your previous thread?
His child suffers from muscular dystrophy and so it makes sense that he would spend money on her health or doesn't it?,
3. Why is a woman who needs mental health treatment at what you call a traditional healing place in the village?
4. You indicated that the mental problems started after she lost her child... mental trauma...so why do you blame your in-laws?
5. Why are you here asking for more of what has yet to help the family so far?
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Goodlyhrt(m): 4:24am On Dec 30, 2021|
That was the trigger. and yes believe you me my uncle has done that and they prescribed some drugs and enough rest that calms the issue for a short time but not for long
Like I indicated earlier I never wanted to reveal much then but thinking about the whole thing recently it is all angling towards the spiritual
Kobojunkie:yeah.. enouch money have been spent on the girl bro
Kobojunkie:yes I said that it was triggered for the first time when she lost her first child in my uncle's home. The reason I blame my uncle's in-laws is that they were privy to such information (as they confessed some times later to my uncle of previous episodes) and wouldn't let him know of it earlier worst still has never lent a helping hand either financially or emotionally to my uncle predicament.
Kobojunkie:I guess I was overwhelmed with the whole stuff.. I just feel like where can I get prescribed a powerful spiritual place for solution.
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Kobojunkie: 4:43am On Dec 30, 2021|
Goodlyhrt:1. What happened after the problem came back? Why didn't your uncle take her back to the psychiatrist for further assessment?
2. There is nothing spiritual about any of what you described. Instead it reads more like a series of unfortunate events. And it all seems to have been made worse by the ignorance of those he surrounds himself with.
3. You say enough money has been spent on the girl making it sound as though you would rather she be abandoned to die somewhere or am I reading this wrong?
4. Privy to previous episodes of what? What particular mental illness are we speaking here of? How do they "lend" a helping hand when it seems they too are equally ignorant of the particular problem that ails the woman, this from the much you have said of her snd them.
As for what you continue to refer to as Mental illness, can you please be more specific with what it was she was diagnosed with? Was it clinical depression? PTSD? What?
5. Like I said, there is nothing spiritual about what you have said so far.
It would be right to know what the woman's diagnosis is, to begin with. How old is she?
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by helinues: 5:22am On Dec 30, 2021|
Most of those things that are attached with spiritual are instead wreckless way of life
People find it hard to take responsibility for their actions
If you save your money for bank, would village go and spend it?
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Kingpin1000: 6:11am On Dec 30, 2021|
That saying " when you hear others problem you will give God glory for the one you have".
Your uncle is going through a lot, He really needs encouragement and ultimately God's intervention.
You leaving the house may cause more issues, I'll advice you to stay for the moment and support if and when you can both morally, financially and in prayers too.
I know things will get better for him soonest.
But my question is: is there any person that has mental illness in your uncle's wife family or any form of deformity in both families?
You see,most times we fail to take things like this serious. The physical appearance or characteristics of anyone is a product of his/her genotype in combination with environmental factors.
How strong is your uncle spiritually?
Are her family supportive in this situation?
My prayers is with your uncle, his family and you.
This life no balance at all. How can one man be facing all this problems.
@Tonero, Mr @Righteousness2 is right. Even in the spiritual realm there is hierarchy and also there are different levels of faith. Let His Uncle join faith with with people with superior faith and watch God do his wonders.
I have had an encounter with God and He saved my life. I would have been a dead man if it wasn't for God.
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by mardis: 7:03am On Dec 30, 2021|
Prayer! Prayer!! Prayer!!!
Prayer is the key, Prayer is the master key.
Let your uncle pray seriously. There is no problem without solutions.
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Nobody: 7:42am On Dec 30, 2021|
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Goodlyhrt(m): 9:24am On Dec 30, 2021|
1. Yes she was taken back multiple times. Even private hospitals have tried their own still same result. Maybe the hospitals was too expensive in the long run that's what discouraged him further.
2. Series of unfortunate occurrences that have defied all possible solution/proven too stubborn coupled with limited resources is depressing and can make any man do anything to get out of it.
3. I don't get what you mean here. For your info.. My uncle has been spending money on the girl right from her birth (she was incubated for many days) to make sure she is normal.
4. I don't know yet as my uncle never disclosed this. But I know from the types of drugs she takes.. And if she doesn't sleep at night properly that seems to trigger it also.. I think she also suffered from high blood pressure which have mysteriously reduced since she moved to the village.
5. Bro I wish there is nothing mysterious myself but pray you don't find yourself in my uncle's shoes. She should be up-to 35.
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by younglleo: 9:27am On Dec 30, 2021|
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Goodlyhrt(m): 9:28am On Dec 30, 2021|
mardis:We have had a fair share of prayers bro. Prior the pandemic we religiously attend night Virgil every Thursday non stop. Me was even thinking that she not sleeping at night because of the Virgils has been one of the reasons this thing keep coming back.
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|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Moeman: 11:41am On Dec 30, 2021|
where does your uncle's family live?
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by johnsonmartina6(m): 12:56pm On Dec 30, 2021|
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|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Goodlyhrt(m): 1:14pm On Dec 30, 2021|
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Moeman: 2:48pm On Dec 30, 2021|
Goodlyhrt:an alfa will be of great help, find the cause first before the cure
|Re: Where Can My Uncle Get Solution To His Marital Problems by Kobojunkie: 3:04pm On Dec 30, 2021|
Goodlyhrt:1. She needs to be seen by a decent mental health specialist abeg. Please do some digging into this history to better understand her medical history and diagnosis.
2. Nothing defied here just lack of planning and mismanagement on the part of those affected. Your uncle's wife is not the first case of mental illness out there and his child not the first case of muscular dystrophy. Your uncle may himself be struggling with problems of his own.
3. Normal? What do you mean by "normal"? She can't be normal, she has muscular dystrophy. If you don't even understand the problem, how can you understand anything about its handling? Please spend time using Google to better understand that gal's struggles and better care for her.
4. What drugs is she taking? Need specifics? It is important to know her diagnosis as that will help you speak more specifically to her case and condition. High blood pressure can be triggered by stress and identifying her stressor is necessary to helping deal with her mental issues.
5. Mental illness is a reality of the world we live in. Even I myself have struggled with it since my childhood. A general lack of education on mental illness makes life significantly harder for those impacted and the affected.
Knowing this woman's symptoms and diagnosis will go a long way in helping with her treatment and eventual return to work and life. She is far too young to be living a debilitated existence, provided there are no other medical issues she is struggling with.
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