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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by whippersnapper(m): 2:46pm On Jan 16, 2022
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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by ChiomaCa: 2:47pm On Jan 16, 2022
Mariangeles:


It is who he is. His preference.
The woman just happen to be caught in the web.

@ChiomaCa, was it an arranged marriage? Be honest.
Not arrange marriage at all
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Hotzone(m): 2:48pm On Jan 16, 2022
May be
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by bluefilm: 2:48pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Sorry.

Your husband is an End Time Husband

Nothing can be done about him anymore

His case is different.

Once again, sorry.
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by LyfeJennings(m): 2:50pm On Jan 16, 2022
ShenTeh:


Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.

Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband.
Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.

He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.

Hypocrisy sucks.

U only gave an advice ur age mate would give or say ur level of exposure. Make she divorce over something that small. smh!
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Mariangeles(f): 2:51pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Not arrange marriage at all

Then how did you not know that he was into prostitutes?
Didn't you court?
If you did, was it not long?

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by franchasng: 2:51pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?
lol


How some men fancy fvcking known escorts or prostitutes beat my imagination.


A side chick is even better, but a prostitute lipsrsealed

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by juman(m): 2:53pm On Jan 16, 2022
Mariangeles:


It is who he is. His preference.
The woman just happen to be caught in the web.

@ChiomaCa, was it an arranged marriage? Be honest.

His preference is bad.
He can change for good.
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by LyfeJennings(m): 2:53pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

I would be blunt with U
if U divorce am
U go suffer am, someone better would move in
and U know what he ain Gon loose a thing
na U don born. single motherhood is not fun o
ask around
so here is my advice,
See ur husband as ur son
counsel him more
be open about ur knowledge of his dark lives
it's an habit formed wayy longer before U met
it won't go in a day but it will definitely pass

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Nonexisting: 2:53pm On Jan 16, 2022
Go to your pastor for advice. You left your Nigerian boyfriend for a Canada returnee because of money and now, you're reaping the fruits of your foolishness.

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by judedwriter(m): 2:54pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Sex is a deep mystery.

Once its taken out of marriage, all hell breaks loose.

Don't give up on your husband, pray and fast with Him, no problem is beyond God's solution.

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Britishpea: 2:54pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

It is an addiction and those things he doesn’t do like drinking, going out or making friends led to it. As a matter of fact, most people found in it are indoor types, less social people or introverted ones. This mostly lead them to the social networking/ escorts/hook up sites. Other categories of men in it are travelers to mention a few. I must say your husband falls within the first aforementioned than the later.

Other sets of people in it are people who are used to make huge funds overnights eg Yahoo boys or people who make money online(could be legit). So chose your husband’s.
Honestly, he’s trying to stop but you know what addiction is. He would only stop at the sight of danger( God forbid) personal decision and discipline he needs the discipline to stop visiting those sites. And erase the act from his mindsets.
You are also not attractive to him sexually anymore and he’s confused about loving you. Yes that’s the truth. (complicated right). IM 101% certain about this. He’s carried away by different beauties and shapes.
Don’t close your eyes to him if u love him. Help him. He can visit the therapists too. But he is the real one who can stop it by himself or with your help. U also need to return to how u were exactly the first time u met him. Sexual addiction is complex.

There is nothing God can’t do.
I have a friend whom when he was in 400 level if u count 365 days in a year, he would sleep with ladies for 360 days(exaggerated) but it is that bad. And he would never repeat a girl- ever! But you know what? He don stop completely. In fact completely. Love his wife like mad now and with 2 kids. He decided to stop one day on encountering a staggering smelling p***sy!
Your husband will be fine trust me.

He masturbates too!

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Nobody: 2:54pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

At this point don’t blame yourself, you are more than enough. Your husband is the one with the problem here and I know some people might advice you to stay and pray for your husband which is good but not when you are at the risk of contracting an STD or even HIV from your husband. You have kids already, you are in Canada, my advice? Leave him and file for a divorce, please get yourself some evidences and don’t confront him.

He is addicted to a very dirty and irritating habit, it would take time and dedication before he leaves all this.

For your sake and that of the children, just file for a divorce and don’t worry about money or where you will stay. The court will instruct your husband to pay you and your children money on a monthly basis.

And if you decide to stay and fight for your marriage as some are advising, please make sure you watch your daughter whenever she’s around her father, never let her be in a room alone with him, acts like the above you mentioned from your husband are capable of turning them into perverts, men addicted to prostitutes and anal sex from them are capable of going any length to get it regardless of who it is they are getting it from.

Good luck.

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by twosquare(m): 2:56pm On Jan 16, 2022
The spirit of the western world has caught up with him. It is not easy to break free from such addictions tied to pleasure. Pray and subject him himself to fast. Then have family time prayer and listening to the Word together. Unfortunately, most of the messages coming from the pulpit nowadays can't withstand the habits from hell.

Souls have grown above the fire from the pulpit and these preachings.
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by AutoC: 2:56pm On Jan 16, 2022
pocohantas:


Sex denial would not lead a responsible man into the laps of PROSTITUTES!!! There is nothing you men would not say to justify your bad behaviour. That is why Nigerian men do not get better, they just sit around with nasty attitudes and convince themselves they deserve the most virtuous woman.

Even some single guys do not do prostitutes. Do you know how twisted one would be to walk up to an obvious call girl and negotiate price? You think that is a habit a man would develop just because his wife denied him sex?

The lady clearly stated that she joined him in Canada and noticed that was his way of life upon joining. Yet you still have to twist it and heap the blame on her. This is his lifestyle.

You people would not die if you tell yourselves the truth. Ahnahn!!

I support everything u said apart from saying 'Nigerian men never gets better' trust me, Nigerian men stay more in marriage than most men in Africa now even in Europe...just my observation

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by luminouz(m): 2:57pm On Jan 16, 2022
Vyolet:
You forgive him easily and cover up his dirty acts all in the name of religion, reason he sees you as a walk over. He may be religious but he doesn’t have the fear of God, reason i don’t care about anyone claiming spiricoco, i only care about what your heart looks like.

Personally, i may never have sex with such person again as my health is more important to me, i will lock him out or move out for my own sanity, then i will file for divorce after i have gathered all evidence, it is better everyone part way.
If you are not financially independent, allow your people know back home, let them rally round and bring you home, everything will seem rough in the beginning but you will be fine in the end with your child.

Do not think you can change the man or his ways, until he gets into trouble, thats how he will continue living his own life.
Take responsibility for your own life.
See this one....

Are you even married to advise anyone?
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Joskyjoe1987: 2:57pm On Jan 16, 2022
Pray hard and belive in GOD. Always read and discuss the bible with him.something must happen
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Ebubu: 2:58pm On Jan 16, 2022
Vyolet:

You must have same supplier as Portable.
grin
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by candygist: 2:58pm On Jan 16, 2022
Your husband traveled to Canada to be fucking olosho. Lol. This life no balance. Well, it s still better because if it was Nigerian women he sleeps with around, one of the women go done use Juju tire your husband down forget you. Since it’s Canada, you can still solve the problem if you think well.
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by chyzoo4u(m): 2:58pm On Jan 16, 2022
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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by bmdmix11: 2:58pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?


hit the gym

start doing something other than sit @ home to keep busy
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by segtech68: 2:58pm On Jan 16, 2022
i'm a man too and i would say your husband is not being fair , real men don't do prostitution, that's too dangerous for your own health , its better you report him to his family as fast as you can, don't hide any shit, that man has gone too far, he needs something extra for him to repent, everybody needs to know what's going on. now after he apologies, get a gadget that can tell you he's location at every point in time, there are some location share app, both of you need to install it, secondly he needs some kind of rehab or counseling, you also need to stop keeping secrets , there's nothing free about freedom , get each other's password , access to is laptop all the time , visit his office untimely. this kind of man doesn't need freedom, he will abuse it. God help you
ChiomaCa:

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by znuga: 2:58pm On Jan 16, 2022
You see, when you two were not together for up to 2 years, your husband might be engaging those ''call girls'' and he got used to them. Upon your arrival, I do not expect him to just throw away the wild feelings attached to enjoying those ''call girls''. Regardless, he needs counseling and prayer combine. May God deliver him, amiin!


ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Nobody: 3:00pm On Jan 16, 2022
The man is a promiscuous man. He's a degenerate man hiding behind religion. He'd never change. You'd have to report him to his pastor and watch if he changes, if not, move on
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Tribalism123(m): 3:00pm On Jan 16, 2022
ShenTeh:


Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.

Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband.
Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.

He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.

Hypocrisy sucks.
Fella
Don't bring finance here. If u dont have advise better park well.
Divorce ke.
No be only irresponsible man.
Will u keep kwaaeet?

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Obynolee(f): 3:00pm On Jan 16, 2022
ShenTeh:


Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.

Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband.
Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.

He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.

Hypocrisy sucks.



Hmmm this type of advice eh.
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by yetmao: 3:00pm On Jan 16, 2022
Me still prefer ashewo to having side chick.

Your husband is on the right track if he's only doing ashewo. Ashewo are cleaner than most regular side chicks. No ashewo will agree to you doing raw
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Nobody: 3:01pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?
Just when I thought I've seen or heard it all. This might just help. Your husband has Hypersexual disorder. Prostitution addiction, including paying for sex addiction, is a brain disorder of ‘faulty wiring’ requiring professional treatment to achieve full recovery. It is a fully treatable disorder. Seek medical help/counseling for him.
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by AutoC: 3:01pm On Jan 16, 2022
pocohantas:


Oga, a man wouldn’t just wake and start doing prostitutes!! You know it, say it, you won’t die!

Many men do prostitutes for no reason...maybe you stay in Nigeria where these things do not exist yet....prostitution has moved online and they are called escorts...it's not the dirty girls you see in the street again...It's normal women who list online to have sex for money

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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Zaheertyler(m): 3:01pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?
You are beautiful ma’am
Face your pikin before you become depressed then then stop being too friendly with him but when you want to be Try out crazy new fantasies you’ve had in your head with him including trips and vacations but don’t force it or make him suspect that it’s your plan and still don’t be too friendly with him and watch your husbands character over the next two years .. patience and time are the most important parameters when creating something
One love
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by efficiencie(m): 3:02pm On Jan 16, 2022
ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Your husband is critically ill and his disease is the disease of the soul. His desire for prostitutes will not be cured by mere suasion. If you are still interested in continuing the marriage you need to inform him that he is yielding to demon spirits that are in control of his sexual desires. He needs to accept that he is sick and needs help. He needs a surgical operation of the heart and to start this first he needs to commit himself to fasting and prayer, pray along with deliverance ministers and continually guard his heart. This battle is a difficult one and it needs concerted efforts...but madam you should known this attitude of his before you wedded him and you should have equipped yourself for the battles ahead. Well welcome to warfare madam. You either prepare yourself for spiritual warfare or get a divorce. Shikena. The ball is in your court.

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