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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by profstar(m): 11:33am On Mar 01, 2022
Becoming "tough" is part of growth for guys like us, I was also naturally not having the "jungle mindset" until a career growth job came that requires that I start to lead people. I am very intelligent but you see, nobody cares, they will still attempt to play you a fool, everytime the opportunity shows for them, if you don't show that you can be extremely 'mean' when crossed.

If you are not a lion, nobody will respect you and even worse is, they cause you serious embarrassment.

But the moment you step up your game... respect will just start falling in even when you don't demand for it.

I hope you get inspired and grow

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Gamesmart: 11:33am On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.

Dysfunctional INFP!

Nothing is wrong with being an INFP, but something is wrong with being a dysfunctional one that people see the weakness and can ride.

You need to find help from someone that knows about this brain setting and can help you spot your potential users, scenarios the using/riding occurs and then provide you with coping mechanisms.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Skidee: 11:34am On Mar 01, 2022
See ehn, there's a difference between being weak and being nice. If you're a weak guy, you need to hop up and be smart.
Life is a survival ground for everybody. Even the smart ones are being ride on, how much more a weak one.

And changing to be a mean guy, will only make you worse. Just know the rules of the game of life and play along, then see yourself being a winner.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Bigpapi: 11:35am On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.







You are a nincompoop , na to marry a lady who will understand u be ur problem, woman wrapper .... spits
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by anyicash(m): 11:37am On Mar 01, 2022
It could have been good to be LOVED and FEARED but since the both can't go together then it is better "FEARED than LOVED"

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by showafrica(m): 11:39am On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.

Lol, oboy na now you know? Do you know why, because you are living in an evil country. Try and visit Europe you will meet normal human beings. The worst of them called Putin, is better than our average so called pastor and bishops/imams and etc. My own be i have decided not to be wicked as the country demands. Let me just make my money and be a loner. Fuxkk black man especially Nigerians.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Darkmode64: 11:39am On Mar 01, 2022
mespusinglez:
AM NOT NICE BECAUSE I DON'T SEE ANY REASON TO BE cheesy

NO ONE FVCK WITH ME
THAT'S ONE SOME DO CALL ME EMOTIONLESS, COZ I CAN BE SO MEAN WHEN I WANNA BE...I AM CAPABLE OF REALLY ANYTHING grin
Bla bla bla as usual
Oh btw, top using "Am". It's "I am" or "I'm".
God bless you tongue tongue
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Slynation(m): 11:40am On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.
There were times I act this way when growing up, Nice and Naive, but I noticed humans will always take you for a ride no matter what, I was picky and choosy with words not to hurt anybody or for peace to reign...But now ehh, I don't even know when and how I changed, I became blunt automatically, I let things out not minding whose feelings is at stake, I dey change am for people wey misbehave come my side...Perhaps reading some Redpills quote and orientation contributed to it (TRP is golden) and suddenly, there is this joy within when people finds out you can't mess around with this guy...!!

#StayWicked....!!

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by pacespot(m): 11:40am On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.

Many people have similar experience as you my friend. Let me tell you a little secret about Nigerians and how to cope with them. Nigerians are very very opportunitic, give them a little chance and they will use it against you quickly. Nobody would even remember how magnanimous you are by the time you became a victim of Nigerian treachery. So keep a safe distance with people that you don't know too much about, and don't be too quick to make new friends, let people's response to you lead in a new environment and don't forget to take a lead from confused people, because confused people can be very dangerous at times.

Note this: a good Nigerian does not necessarily mean they will end up being a good friend to you, people are easily influenced or led by the strength of characters of other people in this country, even though it is a wrong path to follow. So the bolder and assertive your friends are, the better.

Nigerians are the kind of people that will know the right things to do and even talk about it, but when the ball is thrown in their court, they will do something different. So don't listen to what people are saying but what they are doing and not doing. There are many more things to learn about Nigerians by applying these principles.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by ajayiopy: 11:43am On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.
I WAS LIKE THAT BEFORE, I JUST WATCHED SOME BAD BOYS FILMS,READ SOME BOOKS
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by nuland(m): 11:44am On Mar 01, 2022
Op, I can relate 100%. I am or was in the same situation(Not anymore).
I have decided to rebuild my Life Brick after Brick. One step at a time, avoiding the previous mistakes and compromises.
You sound broken and dejected. Please pick whatsoever bits of your Confidence/self esteem you have left and build a RUGGED, NO EMOTIONS version Of yourself.
If you end up getting married with this baggage and backlog, I am sorry you shall SUFFER. You are starting a family which are you going to be the HEAD!
Going forward, be objective and no emotions, Practice the principle of reciprocity and let no one brainwash you into letting anyone treating you like some shit all in the name of being a gentleman.
Treat them as they treat you and talk less but let your actions speak volume.
SEQUENCE of events against you should come with CONSEQUENCES from you!

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by pansophist(m): 11:45am On Mar 01, 2022
You probably haven't been reading my post for long. My email is filled with messages from both men and women that keep thanking me for opening their eyes on how the world works, and strengthening their courage to face it competently. Just like you, I've always have a kind heart, a perfect mr nice guy.

Everything changed when I start living alone from age 19 in uni, met all kinds of devil's in human skin, used like a tampon and disposed, until I got ball of steel and said to myself, NEVER AGAIN. Of course I'm still kind deep inside, but like a coconut, you must face my defense before tapping the meat and water inside. And with my deep understanding of human nature, psychology, experience and philosophy, I'll say, goodluck to that modafuka.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by nuland(m): 11:45am On Mar 01, 2022
nuland:
Op, I can relate 100%. I am or was in the same situation(Not anymore).
I have decided to rebuild my Life Brick after Brick. One step at a time, avoiding the previous mistakes and compromises.
You sound broken and dejected. Please pick whatsoever bits of your Confidence/self esteem you have left and build a RUGGED, NO EMOTIONS version Of yourself.
If you end up getting married with this baggage and backlog, I am sorry you shall SUFFER. You are starting a family which are you going to be the HEAD!
Going forward, be objective and no emotions, Practice the principle of reciprocity and let no one brainwash you into letting anyone treat you like some shit all in the name of being a gentleman.
Treat them as they treat you and talk less but let your actions speak volume.
SEQUENCE of events against you should come with CONSEQUENCES from you!
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by LagBlogger(m): 11:46am On Mar 01, 2022
My golden rules:

Always make people regret messing with you.

Be vindictive. Once callous people know you will come for them if they mess with you, they will think twice before trying nonsense.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by cherryCola: 11:50am On Mar 01, 2022
Am like dababy am not just a rapper you play with me you'll stretch undecided .
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Munzy14(m): 11:54am On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.
Go and learn to toughen up a bit...No matter how small...otherwise even the nice lady you will want to settle down with won't find it funny with you..

I mean, you must be a man and not a sissy....you are going to protect yourself, your woman and your kids.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by NuCypher: 11:55am On Mar 01, 2022
otie02:
Guy i understand your plait but one thing you need to know is we are all created in our own unique ways. Just learn to love yourself how you are.
It's "plight", oga. Una no dey go school?

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Memyselfu2009(m): 11:56am On Mar 01, 2022
Everyone are uniquely created been soft and weak is not a sickness it's your personality embrace it and love it

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by alphaRego01(m): 11:59am On Mar 01, 2022
Herculex03:
Op the strong must choke the weak tongue




U speak in a language i understand very well

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by qekng40(f): 12:02pm On Mar 01, 2022
Okay o, now you're the opposite, hope you're happy with yourself? . . . same question applies to all thinking/doing same..
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Tingotoe: 12:03pm On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.
We live in a dog eat dog society so toughen up soldier

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Offiadiuru(m): 12:06pm On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.


Be strong
I am facing same issues
That is emphatic heart heart, we can't change it
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by kay29000(m): 12:07pm On Mar 01, 2022
underpinna:
I understand what you're going through. It's a big problem when you are considerate. No body reason your mata for this world if you dey dol.
But I bet you no fit be tough guy. E too bad.
You see that your wife wey you dey pray make she understand you, she go understand you look but her mind and heart go dey love those tough niggas. Shai e too bad.

OP, the bolded is so true. I've been there. To save yourself from more heartbreak, don't get married, or toughen up. It is not easy, but those are the two options you have if you don't want more pain.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by kay29000(m): 12:09pm On Mar 01, 2022
Gadafii:
They like don't nice guys, they use them

Being nice doesn't mean you shouldn't apply your senses, if you are going to be nice to anyone, put yourself first and see if that person would do same for you.



Be very selfish about the things that bring you happiness, better make them call me stingy and wicked than make them call me mumu, zombie because of my niceness.



GBAM!
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by TheGift: 12:09pm On Mar 01, 2022
Respect yourself and people will respect you.

A 100 sheep led by a lion will do more than a 100 lions led by a sheep.

Toughness begins in the mind.

Stop whining about how wicked people are and focus on dealing with the wickedness in your own soul.

Being strong is not about aggressive physicality.

The Christ said , be gentle as doves but wise as serpents” I.e. Be soft in your heart and tough in your mind.

May God help you and guide you to a Woman who understands you.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by webhead: 12:14pm On Mar 01, 2022
@ Op please if you watch porn and masturbate, stop it.
P. M. O makes men weak.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by dawnomike(m): 12:15pm On Mar 01, 2022
Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.
I was once like you and still have the traits in me. I started by hitting the gym that boosted my confidence and people's first impression. Then, i started working on been careful around people by putting myself on guard to see through people's motives.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by kay29000(m): 12:17pm On Mar 01, 2022
Onnasucs1:
I know a guy just like you. He's just too nice and too kind. I pity him sometimes.

Niceness is your nature and you can't change overnight. Take it slow

If you try to change overnight and be wicked, you will over do it and get eventually screwed up.


wink Start little by little by respectfully saying NO to people's request. Make sure you have strong reasons to do so.

smiley Reduce your smile- Only smile when necessary

smiley Intentionally try not to help people out- this might hurt you. But try.

smiley Give people space- Absence creates respect

smiley Get something doing that will boost your confidence level- There's a level of pride that comes with being a master at something. It doesn't have to be something complex.





I HOPE TO SEE YOU BECOME A "WICKED BOY"

OP, read this and digest it.

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Nobody: 12:18pm On Mar 01, 2022
JayCynic:
OP I feel your pain as I was once like you. The sad thing is that many males of this generation have been socialized by this very feministic and gynocentric society to think that being nice, soft, empathetic and considerate is the appropriate way to live.

But that's not true bro, the world is a jungle, a battlefield and not a playground.

The first thing you need to do as a man to survive in this jungle is to be confident in yourself and your abilities, eliminate fear and timidity in every form, care less about people's opinions and more on your beliefs.

Next thing is to focus very largely on yourself. People will say you're being egotistic and self-conceited but it doesn't matter, if you look at the world, people admire more egotistic folks than selfless people. People love CR7's personality more than Messi's for a reason.
So this is a vital step bro, focus on yourself, capitalize on people to achieve your personal goals, care less about people and more about yourself. Be more of a polite human in your relationships than a nice person, society has blurred the lines between these two.

Final thing is to work extra hard to make money for yourself, do all the work it takes to get to your goals. Workout and improve your physical appearance too. Forget about women they are not important.

I suggest you read books like 48 laws of Power, Art of Seduction, Mastery and most importantly 12 Rules For Life by Jordan Peterson. I tell people I'm 20 years old and they don't believe me, 12 Rules For Life is like a life hack, trust me bro.

You can also check out some of the Machiavellian tactics on Nairaland here.

You're 20 and this smart?

Wow!!

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by princenaira(m): 12:22pm On Mar 01, 2022
Well-done bro. I was once in your shoe. I was almost eaten up by humanity in my bid to remain a nice guy who want to help at all times.

I lost all that I got in my early life but I am now a little hardened not completely because my love for humanity is natural and hereditary.

But all you need is wisdom and God's grace to ride through. However, I must assure you that God has paid me back majority of the things I lost due to my clean heart...... We move

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Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by Jayzx: 12:23pm On Mar 01, 2022
NeoWanZaeed:
You only met a bad person.

Don't change. You will see someone who would appreciate you for who you are
The only sensible comment so far
Re: I Regret Being A Kind, Naive And Nice Guy by kay29000(m): 12:28pm On Mar 01, 2022
Kingcalls:


The biggest mistake u will make is believing a woman will understand ur persona and be with u... the way she will ruin u err ... women that are addicted to taking advantage of people , talkless of weak men .... she will useless i without any conscience.... women take advantage of the weak in society unlike men that even have a conscience

This is so true. I don't even see it as women's fault, they are just naturally wired that way.

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