anyicash:
It could have been good to be LOVED and FEARED but since the both can't go together then it is better "FEARED than LOVED"

Wise words.

Gadafii:
They like don't nice guys, they use them

Being nice doesn't mean you shouldn't apply your senses, if you are going to be nice to anyone, put yourself first and see if that person would do same for you.



Be very selfish about the things that bring you happiness, better make them call me stingy and wicked than make them call me mumu, zombie because of my niceness.

you're right bro there's is this female friend of mine who always ask me to sub for her I always do sometimes so last week she asked for same I told her I need 350k to buy a laptop to start my online work she read it but didn't give answer to it still bill me straight up I archived her chats and will never give her a dime again.People use nice guys.

Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.

Well, when we grow up to a certain age, you don't really need any toughness again, just wisdom and patience you're going to need. This phase in your life shall pass. And don't raise bullies in the name of not raising "kind, naive and nice" kids.
Nothing bad being kind to others. If you can be nice to others, be it. But if you can't, no need to be. I used to be nice but not anymore and some people now hate me for that! Who cares? As for being naive, try to see people through their skin and be able to smell them for what they are miles away.

You no get gun Oga. You can get all these locally made pistols (Awka made) that can fire two rounds for 20k. Always use it in doing the needful. Do that and thank me later.

Walahi being a nice guy is wrong

I can’t buy 1 shirt without buying for my guys, I can’t go out without taking them along… but watin those guys don show me eh hmmmm

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kay29000:


This is so true. I don't even see it as women's fault, they are just naturally wired that way.

Exactly...they are wired that way... so being weak means u are at a disadvantage with them

07kjb:
You need 7hours drilling to become a hardman.... one of the worst thing that happens to a man is people seeing u as a weak person

Cultist spotted

What about me that loves too much. Sacrifice too much, spends too much all for people I don't know, family members and relationships yet all I get is disappointment, mistrust and heart breaks. Someone asked me one time when I'll learn to be tough or hardened and I replied it isn't my nature. The more I try to remove my mind from being too good and selfless,God brings up cases for me to keep proving myself worthy and acceptable to him. @op please just love yourself first ok..the right person that will love, complete and complement you will come.

Kingcalls:


Exactly...they are wired that way... so being weak means u are at a disadvantage with them

Yep.

Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.

READ or DOWNLOAD: NO MORE MR. NICE GUY!!

Bigpapi:








You are a nincompoop , na to marry a lady who will understand u be ur problem, woman wrapper .... spits

Should he now marry a lady who will not understand him?

luwiizy:


Spend sometime to watch NatGeo wild.
You will understand life to some extent.

Life don't give a Bleep.

It just the harsh reality we find ourselves in and
You just have to realize one thing.

Only make sacrifice for people you ain't expecting anything in return...
If not you will be disappointed.

Reserve your love and kindness for yourself
Because you will need it the most.
Life ain't balance.
You create your own balance.

So much wisdom in this your comment. We have a lot to learn from animals. This humanity of a thing is fúcked up. Some times you got to do things the old fashion way and not give a fúcked what others think

Abilistic:
Be confident in who you are.
You aren't one in a million kind of person.

� Be strong, but not rude.
� Be kind, but not weak.
� Be bold, but don't bully.
� Be humble, but not shy.
�‍� Be proud, but not arrogant.

You just summarized my ways and more.
Thumbs up brother man ��

Deborah98:
What about me that loves too much. Sacrifice too much, spends too much all for people I don't know, family members and relationships yet all I get is disappointment, mistrust and heart breaks. Someone asked me one time when I'll learn to be tough or hardened and I replied it isn't my nature. The more I try to remove my mind from being too good and selfless,God brings up cases for me to keep proving myself worthy and acceptable to him. @op please just love yourself first ok..the right person that will love, complete and complement you will come.

Good traits
I want to know you
I want to meet with you

Succinctly put


Ecclesiastes 7:15-18

theForth:


You're 20 and this smart?

Wow!!

Thanks my man, I'm flattered TBH

Actually I'm a last child in a very academic family, I was raised soft by my parents but i had to learn to be tough because I saw how my siblings treated me whenever my parents weren't around. So I've read a lot of self-help books.

Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.

tell us what happen exactly maybe just one episode,cos I was once in ur shoes

Coldsperm:
You no get gun Oga. You can get all these locally made pistols (Awka made) that can fire two rounds for 20k. Always use it in doing the needful. Do that and thank me later.

Which kind advise be dis?

There is a limit to everything in life, whatever you do to people, good or bad, it will come back to you.

Be nice. Never allow your kindness to be seen as foolishness. Be sensible about your attitude of kindness.

If you are nice to some people, they envy you or see it as being proud, they can even attack you. They can use it to manipulate things against you and bring you down but you meant well for them.

It is a wicked world.

Sometimes, it is better not to help some people.

Whatever you do, let God move you, never be moved by emotion.

Wallteck:
For been naive, nice and kind. I have being a victim of bully because I can't defend myself. Have lose a lot of respect. I wish God can recreate me to be a tough guy. Have been call fool for my behaviour.

I just wish people can understand. This world we live people are just too ruthless. The moment they see a weak guy they will start using and riding him anyhow. If I decide to change my ways I swear I will be so Wicked to the extent I won't have love for humanity.

Right now, I don't make friends too much because I know my weakness. I just want to be a lonely and marry a lady who understands me. People are just too Wicked.

Respect to those tough guys out there. I will make sure all my child not suffer the same faith I suffer. People are just too wicked.

Your weaknesses can be your strength ,
Your goodness no matter how little can conquer evil

Just learn to put yourself first.

JayCynic:
OP I feel your pain as I was once like you. The sad thing is that many males of this generation have been socialized by this very feministic and gynocentric society to think that being nice, soft, empathetic and considerate is the appropriate way to live.

But that's not true bro, the world is a jungle, a battlefield and not a playground.

The first thing you need to do as a man to survive in this jungle is to be confident in yourself and your abilities, eliminate fear and timidity in every form, care less about people's opinions and more on your beliefs.

Next thing is to focus very largely on yourself. People will say you're being egotistic and self-conceited but it doesn't matter, if you look at the world, people admire more egotistic folks than selfless people. People love CR7's personality more than Messi's for a reason.
So this is a vital step bro, focus on yourself, capitalize on people to achieve your personal goals, care less about people and more about yourself. Be more of a polite human in your relationships than a nice person, society has blurred the lines between these two.

Final thing is to work extra hard to make money for yourself, do all the work it takes to get to your goals. Workout and improve your physical appearance too. Forget about women they are not important.

I suggest you read books like 48 laws of Power, Art of Seduction, Mastery and most importantly 12 Rules For Life by Jordan Peterson. I tell people I'm 20 years old and they don't believe me, 12 Rules For Life is like a life hack, trust me bro.

You can also check out some of the Machiavellian tactics on Nairaland here.

I searched for those books I can't found it

I wanted to download it on light reader

I have noticed that people love it when you take it tough to them.
when I was in secondary school then I use to be gentle and quiet type ....but one day a dude offended me by taking my niceness for granted and I got physical with him and even ended up pushing him to the extent he hitted his head on the classroom window.

mehn my fellow classmates were shocked...since then they respected me and when it was time to choose a class rep. most chose me which I declined

superCleanworks:


very funny guy but let me tell you some truths
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1. Never expect anybody to understand. nobody expects your explanation or cares about your situation either. stand for yourself.

2. it is natural law, if you act like food you will get eaten. Even your best friend will eat you if he smells your weakness.

3. even that your gentle wife you pray to marry will eat you up if you keep acting like spaghetti.

It is hard to be strong but you must always choose that option.

if you act like food you will get eaten-- wow, so profound. If you act like food, you will be eaten...

memories flood me. Memories flood me man....flowing with anger.

Nasri100:
The two people above already explained everything.

The wife you think will be your saving grace will exploit you to your grave.

Better be careful

And what if she doesn't? What then?

DanielAlhassan:
I searched for those books I can't found it

I wanted to download it on light reader

get them from You tube!

Yes change, be better. Don't be kind, naive and nice anymore. Put yourself first. It's called Self enlightening.

SmartMen:

if you act like food you will get eaten-- wow, so profound. If you act like food, you will be eaten...

memories flood me. Memories flood me man....flowing with anger.

Never forget the memories but do not be angry, instead learn the lesson and be happy for the new advantage.

DanielAlhassan:
I searched for those books I can't found it

I wanted to download it on light reader

Download them on pdf drive, I'm sure they would be free there.

Kingcalls:


Exactly...they are wired that way... so being weak means u are at a disadvantage with them

Women will take advantage of you as soon as they see you like them and you have no resistance.

Firstly, you turn them off when you have no resistance. secondly, you make them use you.

One babe thought that me treating her right and being nice to her meant that she could use me. She thought I had liked her to the point that she would have control to take advantage of me. She didn't know I was doing most of those things because I wanted to, not because I had no sense.

She mistakenly said it with her mouth that she could take advantage of me and that word really made me mad... when I changed towards her, she couldn't believe her eyes. Knowing that she had furked up, she started picking her words carefully when she discovered I could unleash a kind of anger.

At last count, I told her to delete my number from her phone cos there were a series of other things she did. She didn't believe that the same guy who was being all nice and loving could be fiery as well.

One thing that helps me is that I am cool and gentle but I have mastered the art of switching up personality super fast because a lot of these people are badly mannered...

When I told her to delete my numbers from her phone, she was the one telling calming me down and to take it easy.

I have distanced myself from her because of those words and I didn't start doing that without letting her know it is because of attitude.

like someone said, if you act like food, people will eat you.