Tallesty1:
Is this ghosting thing same as locking out? Like, when your partner is angry with you s/he will start acting like you ain't there and be giving you one word answer?


Someone use that thing on me eeh! Very lovely somebody fah but once she's angry, she will lock me out. I told her how I hated that, nah then she come weaponize am. Every small thing she go lock out for days

Me that adapts easily. It happened one time and I asked her what the problem was and the usual response came "NOTHING"

Haba, person wey I don explain give say if I offend her make she kuku tell me and I go apologize but nah, she won't.

Omoh nah so me sef lock her out.

First day, second day, 3rd and she got tired but I was just starting. I locked her out for one month and three weeks.

Our conversation that period was useless.

Hi, good morning, how are you? How was your night, alright just called to know how you're doing.

Same for afternoon and night.

When things got back to normal, she started sniffing around to know if I was seeing someone else. Kept telling me that I am wicked and heartless.

That was the last time she locked me out until the relationship got to where it was destined to stop.

Kingosytex:


Wetin you dey even talk about sef?
Na this matter wey dey dis thread or another matter?

BUT WHY U DATIN GHOST SIR?....cant u pay for woman if u cant find one?!(no oofeinse)

pansophist:
If someone ghosts you, it doesn't mean they are right. Ghosting is one of the ways people run away from facing your judgment, to avoid correcting their wrong deeds, which gives them a false sense of control and power. To deal with ghosting, always make sure you are on the right side. Because what actually hurts people more during ghosting is the self-questioning that follows, wondering what you did wrong, and your need to be worthy of explanations.

How to deal with a ghoster'' is to simply ignore him/her. This is a time you have to be strong because the ghoster will feel a strong sense of satisfaction when they see that you are troubled by their ghosting. treat them like the ghost that they truly are, they should be invincible henceforth. and live a good life, success is always the best revenge.

olola4:


Thank you very much for this! I started ghosting a very close female friend at the beginning of this year and it's almost two months now, none of us reach out to each other. She is a very foolish person and I think she is crazy kinda, I miss her though but I enjoy the peace of mind I have now.

Tallesty1:
Is this ghosting thing same as locking out? Like, when your partner is angry with you s/he will start acting like you ain't there and be giving you one word answer?


Someone use that thing on me eeh! Very lovely somebody fah but once she's angry, she will lock me out. I told her how I hated that, nah then she come weaponize am. Every small thing she go lock out for days

Me that adapts easily. It happened one time and I asked her what the problem was and the usual response came "NOTHING"

Haba, person wey I don explain give say if I offend her make she kuku tell me and I go apologize but nah, she won't.

Omoh nah so me sef lock her out.

First day, second day, 3rd and she got tired but I was just starting. I locked her out for one month and three weeks.

Our conversation that period was useless.

Hi, good morning, how are you? How was your night, alright just called to know how you're doing.

Same for afternoon and night.

When things got back to normal, she started sniffing around to know if I was seeing someone else. Kept telling me that I am wicked and heartless.

That was the last time she locked me out until the relationship got to where it was destined to stop.

kaymart:

"Destined to stop" as how, did it ended in marriage?

ziondaughter247:


From the way you sound, I think the situation is hurting you more because she obviously no send you! The girl is just living her life - while you seem really hurt. No need to play these hide and seek games, tell her what she did and cut if off amicably!

ziondaughter247:


From the way you sound, I think the situation is hurting you more because she obviously no send you! The girl is just living her life - while you seem really hurt. No need to play these hide and seek games, tell her what she did and cut if off amicably!

ViVaMadrid:


I see you don’t get it. As you said, she no send am. Why would he associate with person wey nor send am? That’s why he has no business with her. Person wey no send you, what then is there to cut off amicably? Nothing obviously.

olola4:


Thank you very much for this! I started ghosting a very close female friend at the beginning of this year and it's almost two months now, none of us reach out to each other. She is a very foolish person and I think she is crazy kinda, I miss her though but I enjoy the peace of mind I have now.

According to a 2018 study, approximately 25 percent of men and women reported having been ghosted in a romantic relationship, and 22 percent admitted to having ghosted someone else.

MAGG0T:


Ghosting is part of me, especially on WhatsApp,..people no longer text me because they think I'm a snub.

To reply messages just tire me, nothing fun in doing that unless you wan bring up deal/business

Davidganna10:
The thing dey sweet eh if you be the ghoster.
I do it a lot but it is not my fault I lose interest in ladies easily. It is a disease I'm trying to cure, I just can help it, it is like drugs.

Freemasonry:
People dey make simple things difficult. If you ghost me, I ghost you.
If you get my time, I get your time.
No hard feelings. Even if na babe wey I like, I go just reprogram my head.
I can't come and kill myself for people wey no even send me.

Lekan239:
An old friend who actually helped me with info I used to earn when I was struggling missed out because of this ghosting of a thing

I'm someone who will always pay back any act of kindness, although to me I have paid him back fully in kindness because the information he gave me back then, I make more research about it and find out I could actually make times ten of what he was making, I told him about the latest update and he makes more money using it until it crashed.

After then I don't know maybe he feels because he has make money or I don't really know what prompted his ghosting behaviour that he had to even ghost me and will ignore my messages for like three to four days before he replied, talked to him about it so many time, but he always claimed being busy.

Got another update which is more better than the previous one and I messaged this my guy so I could passed the information, he also waited like four days before replying my hello and he is always online, I was just overwhelmed and I had to block him with the thought that no matter how busy someone his, they will always find a way to reply messages from loved one, infact there are people who they can't do but reply their message immediately no matter how busy.

Yes he helped with an update that brought food on my table when I have none, but I also helped him makes his first millions. Me if I don't want you anymore, I don't ghost someone, I rather block the person

MrLondonder:



BUT WHY U DATIN GHOST SIR?....cant u pay for woman if u cant find one?!(no oofeinse)

cornerstonee:
Because it's a total lack of respect for you as a person. It's just kinda "like you are not worth my time to even explain".

As harsh as it may sound.. Iit's a complete way of devaluing and it's very hurtfull..in my own view ghosting Is actually a way of the dominant taking an easy way out and i'sint a good relationship material anyway..

What do you think!

bepositive11:
I agree. It's a form of disrespect and it hurts especially when it's from someone we genuinely care about because it's also an indirect form of rejection, neglect, and abandonment

I always say that when we spot people like these, we need to hear their stories to know where they learned it from

Sometimes, their parents did it to them or their friends did it to them or a colleague did it to them and so on

Personally, I think the best thing to do is:
- if it's a person you genuinely care about, let them know that them ghosting you is hurting you. If they keep doing it, cut them out of your life and never look back
- if they try to change their ways and stop ghosting you and improve their communication with you, forgive them and keep them in your life
- if it's a stranger not worth your time, just cut them off

I hope you find this informative. And thanks for bringing up this interesting topic for discussion

bepositive11:
I agree. It's a form of disrespect and it hurts especially when it's from someone we genuinely care about because it's also an indirect form of rejection, neglect, and abandonment

I always say that when we spot people like these, we need to hear their stories to know where they learned it from

Sometimes, their parents did it to them or their friends did it to them or a colleague did it to them and so on

Personally, I think the best thing to do is:
- if it's a person you genuinely care about, let them know that them ghosting you is hurting you. If they keep doing it, cut them out of your life and never look back
- if they try to change their ways and stop ghosting you and improve their communication with you, forgive them and keep them in your life
- if it's a stranger not worth your time, just cut them off

I hope you find this informative. And thanks for bringing up this interesting topic for discussion

Lekan239:
An old friend who actually helped me with info I used to earn when I was struggling missed out because of this ghosting of a thing

I'm someone who will always pay back any act of kindness, although to me I have paid him back fully in kindness because the information he gave me back then, I make more research about it and find out I could actually make times ten of what he was making, I told him about the latest update and he makes more money using it until it crashed.

After then I don't know maybe he feels because he has make money or I don't really know what prompted his ghosting behaviour that he had to even ghost me and will ignore my messages for like three to four days before he replied, talked to him about it so many time, but he always claimed being busy.

Got another update which is more better than the previous one and I messaged this my guy so I could passed the information, he also waited like four days before replying my hello and he is always online, I was just overwhelmed and I had to block him with the thought that no matter how busy someone his, they will always find a way to reply messages from loved one, infact there are people who they can't do but reply their message immediately no matter how busy.

Yes he helped with an update that brought food on my table when I have none, but I also helped him makes his first millions. Me if I don't want you anymore, I don't ghost someone, I rather block the person

Mariangeles:


Whatever happened, she tried to reach out.

Do not do to someone who cares about you what you would not want someone you care about to do to you.

Kingosytex:


I no dey block people, na you go use your hand block yourself.