Atimjessy:
Spending on your woman should give you joy and fulfilment as a man. And you will get the love you truly deserve.
Don't allow another man do the work for you.

Even you too, no wonder your brother cage you. You done dey find who go spend for your small yansh. see you see olosho

UyaiIncomparabl:


I'm not dragging that position with a man. Just be the head in peace and let me follow. But, he must be a total provider and should be a good leader. No long talk.

That’s thoughtful of You but some ladies would be dragging leadership role with their Men...
Any Man who sees that a lady is ready to follow his leadership, He’ll gladly provide for the lady If he has.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Yinmu. Simpism ni. If na only to your wife, then you're not a simp. So, you can't spend on your babe? Is it not from girlfriend she'll graduate to a wife?

Good question. Now refer to my response to iyaebe. From gf, we go de spend on each other, she got to no need my money, before I go give am. So no, I won't train her for school for example.

But if I de spend everyday we meet on transport, tampon, hair, food, recharge card cloth her birthday, my birthday, Jesus birthday (Dec 25th), her house rent, her hospital bills and monthly upkeep to name a few, I'll kukuma settle with being a reverend father. I no mind to suffer, but I don't do useless, fruitfulness suffering.

czarr:
Even you too, no wonder your brother cage you. You done dey find who go spend for your small yansh. see you see olosho

Alaye calm down joor. You want make she hang herself ?

UyaiIncomparabl:


I'm not dragging that position with a man. Just be the head in peace and let me follow. But, he must be a total provider and should be a good leader. No long talk.

If the man die nko, how you go take survive ?

pansophist:


Alaye calm down joor. You want make she hang herself ?

Lol she wan spoil...her bro no gree

pansophist:

Also, always doubt the love of a woman who is not on your level. As a rule, men should enter equal relationships. She must be able to afford whatever you can give to her. It's sweet when both of you go out and you pay today, while she pays the next day. Honestly this is the kind of relationship I was used to all my life, until I enter naija and saw that relationships was heavily monitized.

This is true but the bitter truth is that it is very very very hard to meet a woman at your level who will want to date you in nigeria.
A lady teacher will be avoiding to date her fellow teacher, rather she will be eyeing a doctor. A nurse eyeing a doctor.
The average nigerian lady does not even want to give room to dating at par or below in other not to cause a situation that will demand her spending or put her in a position to spend rather they will hide under the canopy of @i won't respect a man that is not more than me socially or financially@@. They just don't want to create the atmosphere.
There is nothing as sweet as a balanced relationship i swear.
You take her out today and she wants to impress you by taking you out tomorrow. You buy her gifts today and she gets you gifts( wrist watch, parfums, T-shirts or suits etc) tomorrow. It is very very sweet and memorable but a lot of nigerian ladies are soooooooo broke, many lazy, stingy, selfish and so on that i start questioning nigerian relationships.

pansophist:


If the man die nko, how you go take survive ?

I have always survived before he was there. Stop asking me questions to run from your natural order.

pansophist:


Good question. Now refer to my response to iyaebe. From gf, we go de spend on each other, she got to no need my money, before I go give am. So no, I won't train her for school for example.

But if I de spend everyday we meet on transport, tampon, hair, food, recharge card cloth her birthday, my birthday, Jesus birthday (Dec 25th), her house rent, her hospital bills and monthly upkeep to name a few, I'll kukuma settle with being a reverend father. I no mind to suffer, but I don't do useless, fruitfulness suffering.

Story story.

Shegzdave:

That’s thoughtful of You but some ladies would be dragging leadership role with their Men...
Any Man who sees that a lady is ready to follow his leadership, He’ll gladly provide for the lady If he has.

Yes o. That's a secret I learned the hard way.

emmaodet:


This is true but the bitter truth is that it is very very very hard to meet a woman at your level who will want to date you in nigeria.
A lady teacher will be avoiding to date her fellow teacher, rather she will be eyeing a doctor. A nurse eyeing a doctor.
The average nigerian lady does not even want to give room to dating at par or below in other not to cause a situation that will demand her spending or put her in a position to spend rather they will hide under the canopy of @i won't respect a man that is not more than me socially or financially@@. They just don't want to create the atmosphere.
There is nothing as sweet as a balanced relationship i swear.
You take her out today and she wants to impress you by taking you out tomorrow. You buy her gifts today and she gets you gifts( wrist watch, parfums, T-shirts or suits etc) tomorrow. It is very very sweet and memorable but a lot of nigerian ladies are soooooooo broke, many lazy, stingy, selfish and so on that i start questioning nigerian relationships.

If you like, don't spend on your woman, another man go help you. Y'all men be wailing about spending on women but millions of men out there are giving it to these babes on a platter of gold. God knows I hate men that don't spend. I can't even be with one. And you as a man must not look at my finances. Red flag.

UyaiIncomparabl:


If you like, don't spend on your woman, another man go help you. Y'all men be wailing about spending on women but millions of men out there are giving it to these babes on a platter of gold. God knows I hate men that don't spend. I can't even be with. And you as a man must not look at my finances. Red flag.

Good for you and i am not scared of losing a woman to another man because of spending.
I have my taste, class and requirements too and won't be moved by any shaming or advice.

emmaodet:


Good for you and i am not scared of losing a woman to another man because of spending.
I have my taste, class and requirements too and won't be moved by any shaming or advice.

Whatever. My man must not join this Nairaland. I don't want his mind polluted by you guys. Omo.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Yes o. That's a secret I learned the hard way.

Glad You Learnt Your Lessons..
But you seem calm today in your replies. What’s the secret

Shegzdave:

Glad You Learnt Your Lessons..
But you seem calm today in your replies. What’s the secret

Life no be gragra. I have learned to take things easy.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Life no be gragra. I have learned to take things easy.

That’s nice.. Continue being this New you,
Moreover, Life have a way of humbling us and telling us to be calm

Atimjessy:
Spending on your woman should give you joy and fulfilment as a man. And you will get the love you truly deserve.
Don't allow another man do the work for you.

up coming Ashawo , Thief no go find work. After you come here to call someone a pervert. When its only puna you can offer. Tueh! You better lock that your bitchy brain and body indoors.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Whatever. My man must not join this Nairaland. I don't want his mind polluted by you guys. Omo.

You need a mumu, you can manipulate right .. If you are still single, Aunty you dn dey old oh.

Shegzdave:

That’s nice.. Continue being this New you,
Moreover, Life have a way of humbling us and telling us to be calm

Yes oh. And as one ages too, they leave certain characters behind. That's what I think.

toujurs:
You need a mumu, you can manipulate right .. If you are still single, Aunty you dn dey old oh.

Newsflash, I'm taken. Say something else.

UyaiIncomparabl:


If you like, don't spend on your woman, another man go help you. Y'all men be wailing about spending on women but millions of men out there are giving it to these babes on a platter of gold. God knows I hate men that don't spend. I can't even be with one. And you as a man must not look at my finances. Red flag.

Thief . His money is our money, And your money is your money. Right ... Toxic woman

UyaiIncomparabl:


Newsflash, I'm taken. Say something else.

I guess you are just catching cruise, then with all this toxic comments you are typing. No man can engage a lady with these selfish traits

toujurs:
I guess you are just catching cruise, then with all this toxic comments you are typing. No man can engage a lady with these selfish traits

What's selfish about my comments? That I want a provider man? Aren't you supposed to provide for your woman and family? Come, I don't engage men with your dark mindset in a discussion. Thankfully, God gave me a man who knows how to provide. Your opinion don't matter.

toujurs:
Thief . His money is our money, And your money is your money. Right ... Toxic woman

Yes. Thank you.

pansophist:



If you make yourself a liability, you are shooting yourself in the foot, because you have no bargaining power, a burden and replaceable. To always be at the position of receiving is a weak energy, which is only tolerated from kids and corpse, and you'll always be at the mercy of your giver. If you like, misinterprete it again that I'm against giving women money, na you sabi. Go and be valuable and watch the world open itself for you.

Iyaebe can you even recover from such a write up?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Yes oh. And as one ages too, they leave certain characters behind. That's what I think.

You’re right!!
Just remember to live your best life while you can .

toujurs:
I guess you are just catching cruise, then with all this toxic comments you are typing. No man can engage a lady with these selfish traits

She will not show her man this side of her until they get married, then she will show her true colors

SenecaTheYonger:


She will not show her man this side of her until they get married, then she will show her true colors

I don't pretend. All my good and otherwise traits, he knows them. If there's anything you can call me, it's not selfish. But, don't be too concerned about my money. Big turn off. So, just mind your business, abeg.

BigBashiru:
A part of me just feels used, knowing the "love" ends the day the money finishes.... how do I overcome this feeling?

Try make the money no ever finish until u go 6 feet. And as for the "love" fūck that shitty business. Love urself and protect ur seeds. FŪCK EVERY OTHER THING!!!

SenecaTheYonger:


Iyaebe can you even recover from such a write up?

Funny, him,you and many others have the wrong impression about me,I’m the last person that’ll ever be a liability to any man but I will never be in support of a man not spending on his woman,it’s evil.Women sacrifice a lot for men without complain,it’s only natural for men to reciprocate through gifts,money and others.Most times these are things you can afford but you just want your man to get them for you,it makes us feel loved and valued.I can’t be with a stingy man no matter how much I love him,I’ll walk away,a stingy man will make an irresponsible husband,been tight-fisted is a red flag every woman shouldn’t overlook.Men are providers while women give care,this is a rule that should be strictly followed by everyone who wishes to have a happy home.

SenecaTheYonger:


She will not show her man this side of her until they get married, then she will show her true colors

You are very right, that's her plan. She knows she is getting old, her emotional senses has been infected.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I don't pretend. All my good and otherwise traits, he knows them. If there's anything you can call me, it's not selfish. But, don't be too concerned about my money. Big turn off. So, just mind your business, abeg.

You’re like all those Twitter people that want to argue over nothing out of boredom. The man said, “I don’t want a leech”, simple. Did he ever say he won’t be a provider?

“I don’t want a leech” doesn’t mean “I won’t be a provider”.