capricornlady:
If he is always demanding sex from you and if he never discusses or plans his future with you.

A man that loves you will not pressurize you for sex, because he knows he will get it in marriage. He will always support you no matter how little.

But a lady that loves you will expect you to open a business for her and bill you abi?
Why not wait till marriage?

A man that doesn't pressurize you for sex is getting it elsewhere most likely. It's your choice to make.

Ekejoestar:
As a lady living with a guy who haven't paid your bride price but you are already giving him wife privileges, ask yourself if that was how your Father married your mother! (Unless you are homeless)

The problem of many ladies nowadays is that they fail to ask questions about their relationship, they just want to be in relationship just to feel among.

Why will you date a guy for two years and live with, wash his clothes, cook for him and all these while he never made mention of taking you to the alter, even if he promised to marry you let him come and present himself to your family and make his intentions known.

Guys should stop taking advantage of ladies naivity because what goes around comes around.

But girls should stop making themselves so cheap by giving wife privileges to a mere boyfriend cos once a guy don see you finish nothing will make him to marry you unless he loves you so much or he has something to benefit from marrying you.

Not everyone can marry their girlfriends in 2 years for various reasons. Have you not heard that there are many variables in life?
Stop putting people under pressure and ruining relationships.
We've all seen childhood lovers getting married, so what's with the two year ultimatum? You for kuku say 6 months.

Elxandre:

But a lady that loves you will expect you to open a business for her and bill you abi?
Why not wait till marriage?

A man that doesn't pressurize you for sex is getting it elsewhere most likely. It's your choice to make.

Please don't come with that talk that a man not pressurizing for sex is getting it else way cos that's BS; naija boy mentality, no sex; no relationship, Lol...speak for yourself if you lack self-control cos there are men living without sex in their relationship and they're loving it and their are many that have gotten married without having sex in their relationship.

Regarding the billing you mentioned because you believe relationship is trade by barter, but i'm here to tell you that a matured man will always nurture and take care of what he loves, and if he sees a future with the lady, he will do more.

iLegendd:
1. Your p*ssy smells
2. You're easily angry and you don't forgive easily
3. You're lazy and just wants food and sex, no exercise
4. You hate book — you can't teach children
5. You don't have a skill
6. You're using social media too much to chat with different guys you call your cousins or besties
7. You hate cooking or keeping the house clean
8. Feminism has eaten some parts of your brain and this makes you lack respect
9. You're arrogant
10. No sense of humor/boring in bed/in conversation
11. Different religion/belief
12. You watch TV too much and you disturb him for money too much — any little thing, I want to buy this, but I don't have money — make hair, new phone, etc.
13. You don't give him access to your phone

If 5 or 6 of the above is true, he won't marry you except he is desperate and under pressure by his family to just marry for the sake of marriage or traveling abroad.

Lagos girls.

capricornlady:
Please don't come with that talk that a man not pressurizing for sex is getting it else way cos that's BS; naija boy mentality, no sex; no relationship, Lol...speak for yourself if you lack self-control cos there are men living without sex in their relationship and they're loving it and their are many that have gotten married without having sex in their relationship.

Regarding the billing you mentioned because you believe relationship is trade by barter, but i'm here to tell you that a matured man will always nurture and take care of what he loves, and if he sees a future with the lady, he will do more.

Naija boy mentality abi? Since when did westerners start crucifying premarital sex?

I have told you what happens as a man in our society. Believe it or not. Only a virgin man would really wait for any woman unless it's a three month relationship before marriage.

Of course double standards. It is an unwritten rule to take care of the lady you love when when your aren't the husband but it's wrong for women to do certain things cos they're unmarried. Why can't you folks wait till after marriage before tabling your life burdens upon the man like he's your dad?
You mention naija boy mentality but do foreign women bill guys like you Nigerian women? And that's despite all the sex they still have.

kellylacey:
You want him to commit to you and to marry you (plain and simple) but he seems oblivious of this desire of yours. You have waited hopefully for what seems like an eternity for him to pop the big but increasingly elusive question. You have dreamt about all the possible romantic ways and places that he could propose; you have found your mind wondering and fantasizing about it and you have even discussed it with all your gal pals BUT he seems to have no awareness of the need for a formal commitment to you. The puzzle for you is that he seems too really like you and everything between the two of you is great but he just seems clueless about marriage or commitment. You want him to commit to you and to marry you but you don't know whether he will ever marry you. What are the signs that a guy is never going to marry you?

1. He is completely content with the way things are and he says so. A guy that is never going to marry you will let you know. You will have discussed the possibility of marriage and he will have clearly told you that he does not think that a piece of paper will change the love and commitment that he has towards you. He will vilify marriage and work at convincing you that your relationship is great as it is and that marriage will not add anything to your relationship. The bottom line is that he simply does not want to marry you and you must deal with that fact. If marriage is critical to you then you must be prepared to call his bluff and demonstrate to him how serious this issue is to you by letting him know that if he doesn't marry you within a specific period then you will leave him... and you must be prepared to leave him if you make that ultimatum otherwise you shouldn't make it at all as it will just weaken your position even further and will ensure that he never marries you.

2. He tells you that you are not 'wife' material. A guy that is never going to marry you keeps telling you about the kind of gal he is expected to marry and how you just don't fit the specifications given. He makes it seem like it is other peoples fault. He will tell you that he really likes you BUT his mother or friends or culture or boss or 'whoever it is' expects him to marry a specific type of gal (which you clearly are not) and he just cannot disappoint these people or person. He paints himself as a victim of family or culture or career or whatever it is that he says 'prevents' him from marrying you. He repeatedly lets you know what a great gal you are and how unfair it is for his mother or boss or society or culture or whatever it is to forbid a marriage with you. He may or may not be a victim of powerful forces but clearly he is never going to marry you.

3. He show you that he is in love with another type of woman. A guy that is never going to marry you has settled for you. You are not what he really wants but you are better than nothing. He is with you because he doesn't want to be alone but you are not what he wants for a long term commitment or marriage. He is therefore never going to marry you until he losses all hope of ever getting the kind of gal that he wants. He will hold on to you as a backup plan but he will be extremely reluctant to move the relationship forward into marriage as he will be waiting for 'her'...the one he really desires and wants. Facing the reality that he is waiting for another can be extremely painful but if this is your situation then denial just hurts you and keeps you in a dead relationship with someone who doesn't think you are worthy. Facing reality helps you decide whether to break it off with him so as to give room for the possibility of another man to come into your life or to continue with him and to reduce the expectations you have of him.

4. He lets you know that he has made certain wrong assumptions about you. A guy that is never going to marry you may have certain preconceptions about you. He may believe that you want to do other things with your life instead of marrying him or he may think that you would never marry someone like him or he may not know how important marriage is to you. You need to clearly communicate with him so that he knows exactly what you want from life and from your relationship with him. If you do not make it clear then you will grow increasingly angry and he will go about blissfully ignorant of what it is that you want. Do not assume that he knows that you want him to marry you; be clear and precise and don't hint at it as he may never understand your hints and suggestions. Be clear and forthright!

A guy whose commitment you want but who seems to be on a different commitment channel from you must be faced honestly and candidly. You must take an honest look at your guy and your relationship to understand what it is that is prompting his lack of commitment so that you can deal with it appropriately.

And you think he will let you know all of this....

If he loves you'll definitely see it in his reactions towards you

capricornlady:
Please don't come with that talk that a man not pressurizing for sex is getting it else way cos that's BS; naija boy mentality, no sex; no relationship, Lol...speak for yourself if you lack self-control cos there are men living without sex in their relationship and they're loving it and their are many that have gotten married without having sex in their relationship.

Regarding the billing you mentioned because you believe relationship is trade by barter, but i'm here to tell you that a matured man will always nurture and take care of what he loves, and if he sees a future with the lady, he will do more.

just imagine the nonsense entitlement mentality. A woman that loves a man is not obligated to do anything, not even give him a sex until he marries her but a man that loves a woman should/could move heaven and Earth to please her and make her feel comfortable even if they are not married ABI??

U can all see why young guys detest the way many Nigerian girls think and even call them 'useless' sometimes.

Very self centered and annoyingly entitled leeches.

[s]

Starzo:

just imagine the nonsense entitlement mentality. A woman that loves a man is not obligated to do anything, not even give him a sex until he marries her but a man that loves a woman should/could move heaven and Earth to please her and make her feel comfortable even if they are not married ABI??

U can all see why young guys detest the way many Nigerian girls think and even call them 'useless' sometimes.

Very self centered and annoyingly entitled leeches.

[/s] see this little boy, all this small boys with their tiny guts, you know nothing about adults relationship.. quote me again at your peril because this is the last response you'll get.

Really

No.1 for me is a red light for any sensible lady.

The rest point, personally i feel is only a guy that wants to breakup with a lady that will display such habits.

Cuz it's a totally condensending.

Izprince:
5.When he plays virtual sport betting...;
A guy that plays virtual is worst than a guy that cheat on you with other girls, shi shi you no go see na you go dey borrow am money everyday even if them they pay am 500k, you no go see the money. In the morning he fit hold like 100k for hand b4 6pm you go hear say him dey owe 30k. The worst part be say e fit promise u say e go marry you make he use the wedding money go play two up two down over1..., wedding don postpone bdat, till further notice...

Bro You NaiLEd It! GBAGAm!

At what age should a guy start thinking about marriage because I am not understanding anymore

capricornlady:
[s][/s] see this little boy, all this small boys with their tiny guts, you know nothing about adults relationship.. quote me again at your peril because this is the last response you'll get.

So relationship means a man making sacrifices to please a woman while the woman does nothing in return but accept party favors right?.You see say u nor be beta human being ABI?
I pity men wey dey mumu for una cuz y'all are not worth it at all.

nairaland naim dey give una mouth. If u see for me outside na 'BROS GOOD MORNING' go be the only mode of communication bw me and smally like you.

Ekejoestar:
As a lady living with a guy who haven't paid your bride price but you are already giving him wife privileges, ask yourself if that was how your Father married your mother! (Unless you are homeless)

The problem of many ladies nowadays is that they fail to ask questions about their relationship, they just want to be in relationship just to feel among.

Why will you date a guy for two years and live with, wash his clothes, cook for him and all these while he never made mention of taking you to the alter, even if he promised to marry you let him come and present himself to your family and make his intentions known.

Guys should stop taking advantage of ladies naivity because what goes around comes around.

But girls should stop making themselves so cheap by giving wife privileges to a mere boyfriend cos once a guy don see you finish nothing will make him to marry you unless he loves you so much or he has something to benefit from marrying you.

and what exactly is wife privilege?

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I agreed to that.

Sonnobax15:

And what are the signs that the banny you're in relationship with is only catching cruise with your money as a guyman?

(1)the type of weavon she carries is always expensive more than the stuff she has inside her brain,that is to say,she embraces foolishness and discards wisdom

(2) she'd rather advice you as a guyman to buy expensive stuffs like iphone and clothes than invest your money into something that'd benefit both of you in the future.

(3)she always talks about the latest attires,clubs in town..

(4). she's always too lazy to cook

(5) her bottom bottom pot of beans is the only thing she has to offer
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(6)She complains about the guy's residence,but if you check out very well,na through backyard door visitors dey pass enter her papa house

How you succeeded in turning the thread upside down is something else..

When you meet your woman/man you will know...Stars will align gradually.

All these relationship experts wey no fit maintain a relationship for 6months, I don't take them that serious..

iLegendd:
1. Your p*ssy smells
2. You're easily angry and you don't forgive easily
3. You're lazy and just wants food and sex, no exercise
4. You hate book — you can't teach children
5. You don't have a skill
6. You're using social media too much to chat with different guys you call your cousins or besties
7. You hate cooking or keeping the house clean
8. Feminism has eaten some parts of your brain and this makes you lack respect
9. You're arrogant
10. No sense of humor/boring in bed/in conversation
11. Different religion/belief
12. You watch TV too much and you disturb him for money too much — any little thing, I want to buy this, but I don't have money — make hair, new phone, etc.
13. You don't give him access to your phone

If 5 or 6 of the above is true, he won't marry you except he is desperate and under pressure by his family to just marry for the sake of marriage or traveling abroad.

;DYou and sonnobax15 plan this successful ambush of the thread..

Everything you said is spot on in that order...

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