Steep:
marriage is not what one can walk into and walk out from at any time, such mentality is a rebellion against God the originator of marriage.


1 Corinthians 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.



7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.


7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.


When a partner leaves a marriage then the other partner is free.

Ammishaddai:
Bros , the conditions for divorce has been stipulated for in the bible and we dont need to debate this matter further .


See what the bible says in Matt 19:9 :

And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery


From the bolded , it is clear that divorce is impossible and no matter the condition or circumstances, a man or woman is not permitted to have a divorce, and even if he should have a divorce, he/she cannot marry because that will be judged as adultery.

philip0906:

God bless. Verse 15 is where the answer lies.

Samfloxin:

One can marry a believer and along the line,he or she backslides.

Desusi:
Any marriage foundation that is not well laid will surely have problem. This is the basis of the problems highlighted in example highlighted in your post.If however there's trouble after doing the will of God before the marriage, then leave the rest into God's hand. If your wife or husband walk away, call God into the scene, He will restore the loss wine,when it finished.

Adeoye11:


@op nice scriptural insight, I love this bible text well and I will like it also to that Mat19, but I wants us to know one thing in marriage that this Corinthians has a 'but' so also "Matt 19" but in all let us liken all of it to the concepts of 'forgiveness' that no matter what happens this concept must come to play.
We all know our errors and lots of shortcomings to God and out of these abundance of errors and shortcomings he still chooses to forgive us.
So we have all been reading the lord's prayer where one of the verses says forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who tresspassed against us, to me where this verse come to play mostly is the issue of marriage.

Breadandpeppers:
I think we are in the era of Grace and in the new covenant.

SwissMass:
Yes GOD that gave you the backsliding believer knows how to solve it

Mharvis:
Hello Wonderful people of God,

So I was going through a topic on the front page yesterday about a wife telling her husband that she isn't interested in the marriage again but the husband didn't want divorce.

Now for the Christians among us, you and I know that God hates divorce. No need to start quoting many scriptures you're already aware of but what happens when one of the parties in the marriage isn't interested in the marriage again??

Just to add personal experiences,

1. My ex-colleague's husband walked out of her marriage of 5 years because she couldn't get pregnant, the husband put another woman in the family way and told her people to return the bride price he paid. Guess what? She's just 31.. What would you advise her to do as a Christian? Remain like that because God hates divorce? At 31 years??

2. My former co-worker in campus fellowship walked out of her marriage because she was tired of hardship. She returned to her village and left the husband in Lagos. The marriage was just 3 years. All efforts to reconcile them didn't work. Another mutual friend called me last month that her husband is remarried, why would he do that? God hates divorce and all that... I had to ask her on phone that man isn't up to 35 years from what I know, what would you expect him do as Hanty no gree come back

Share your thoughts people of God.

Uprightness100:
We as Humans need to understand some Foundational Principles of Life and in our relationship with GOD ALMIGHTY, our Creator.

THE WORD of GOD is UNCHANGEABLE.
Heaven and Earth will pass away, but the Word of GOD remains. GOD will not Change because of a Changing World.

EVERYONE of us WILL STAND before GOD on a " SOLO LEVEL" to RENDER ACCOUNT to GOD.
Husband and wife will not stand together,
Twins will not stand together,
Culture, religion, belief, technology, etc will not Matter. The Word of GOD is the Standard.

No Matter what happens to you , be the one to Obey the Word of GOD.
If your Hubby or wifey decides to walk away or goes to marry someone else. As one who Fears GOD and Value your soul , it's your cross to carry. You go to GOD in Prayers and seek his face for your partner to return. That is the Reason why you are advised to Earnestly seek GOD'S Face for HIS Choice before you enter into Marriage.

If he/she returns , Praise GOD! If he/she does not return, Praise GOD. Marriage is not a condition to make Heaven.

Obedience to GOD and HIS Word is what is Paramount.
According to GOD'S Word, Only Death Permits a Man/ woman to remarry.

Uprightness100:
We as Humans need to understand some Foundational Principles of Life and in our relationship with GOD ALMIGHTY, our Creator.

THE WORD of GOD is UNCHANGEABLE.
Heaven and Earth will pass away, but the Word of GOD remains. GOD will not Change because of a Changing World.

[b]EVERYONE of us WILL STAND before GOD on a " SOLO LEVEL" to RENDER ACCOUNT to GOD.[/b]what about an innocent woman that is thrown.out by her husband with a lot of false accusations.
What should she do?.
Husband and wife will not stand together,
Twins will not stand together,
Culture, religion, belief, technology, etc will not Matter. The Word of GOD is the Standard.

No Matter what happens to you , be the one to Obey the Word of GOD.
If your Hubby or wifey decides to walk away or goes to marry someone else. As one who Fears GOD and Value your soul , it's your cross to carry. You go to GOD in Prayers and seek his face for your partner to return. That is the Reason why you are advised to Earnestly seek GOD'S Face for HIS Choice before you enter into Marriage.

If he/she returns , Praise GOD! If he/she does not return, Praise GOD. Marriage is not a condition to make Heaven.

Obedience to GOD and HIS Word is what is Paramount.
According to GOD'S Word, Only Death Permits a Man/ woman to remarry.

Mharvis:


I'm not arguing but this is a very delicate matter. I've resigned to the fact that the way God may judge us may not be how we think He will. If as a man at 35, my wife decides to walk away from me and marry someone else, what do I do with all my hormones that are still raging?? Will God expect me to stay like that or keep fornicating/masturbating or just go and remarry??

This judgment may not be as we think really.

Uprightness100:
We as Humans need to understand some Foundational Principles of Life and in our relationship with GOD ALMIGHTY, our Creator.

THE WORD of GOD is UNCHANGEABLE.
Heaven and Earth will pass away, but the Word of GOD remains. GOD will not Change because of a Changing World.

EVERYONE of us WILL STAND before GOD on a " SOLO LEVEL" to RENDER ACCOUNT to GOD.
Husband and wife will not stand together,
Twins will not stand together,
Culture, religion, belief, technology, etc will not Matter. The Word of GOD is the Standard.

No Matter what happens to you , be the one to Obey the Word of GOD.
If your Hubby or wifey decides to walk away or goes to marry someone else. As one who Fears GOD and Value your soul , it's your cross to carry. You go to GOD in Prayers and seek his face for your partner to return. That is the Reason why you are advised to Earnestly seek GOD'S Face for HIS Choice before you enter into Marriage.

If he/she returns , Praise GOD! If he/she does not return, Praise GOD. Marriage is not a condition to make Heaven.

Obedience to GOD and HIS Word is what is Paramount.
According to GOD'S Word, Only Death Permits a Man/ woman to remarry.

Mbo07:





2017 I married a gay pastor who drugged me every night to have anal with me, I never knew untill I realised any night he served me dinner I slept like a dead tree, not up to a month after our marriage. I couldn't hold urine or feace, I was ashamed to tell the same person that left me in that condition. He would always tell me he was tired of having sex with me, but once he served me water or food I'm off.

When I wake up, my anus will be swollen and I felt pain, I felt something was wrong with Me, I was scared to confront him untill the day I was cleaning the house and I saw a pack of sleeping tablets. I text the name to a Facebook friend that works in the pharmacy and what she told me left my heart in my hands bleeding.


I confronted him, but he denied it, he wasn't ready to change. Days later I discovered he was doing this with the gardener's daughter, again I confronted him and he denied it, despite seeing pictures prof on his phone of him and the girl. I left a marriage not up to 3months.



I left because this things happening to me was never what I prayed to God for, and if your God will judge me because I left a sex, gay, predator who hide under the robe of a pastor, then That you God is not My God at all. Because my saviour Jesus Christ saved me from premature death

Ammishaddai:
[s][/s] No scripture to back you claim. ?

Steep:
when a husband leaves it is a choice, it is not a matter of forgiveness or unforgiveness.
Also for adultery, divorced forgiveness can set in if that person is repentant.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
What's your God business with how human want to live?
This is marriage...
You should never displease your peace of mind cos of an imaginary creature..

If your marriage life ain't stable and yve tried all you could...why not divorce instead of enduring just to please something..

Mbo07:





2017 I married a gay pastor who drugged me every night to have anal with me, I never knew untill I realised any night he served me dinner I slept like a dead tree, not up to a month after our marriage. I couldn't hold urine or feace, I was ashamed to tell the same person that left me in that condition. He would always tell me he was tired of having sex with me, but once he served me water or food I'm off.

When I wake up, my anus will be swollen and I felt pain, I felt something was wrong with Me, I was scared to confront him untill the day I was cleaning the house and I saw a pack of sleeping tablets. I text the name to a Facebook friend that works in the pharmacy and what she told me left my heart in my hands bleeding.


I confronted him, but he denied it, he wasn't ready to change. Days later I discovered he was doing this with the gardener's daughter, again I confronted him and he denied it, despite seeing pictures prof on his phone of him and the girl. I left a marriage not up to 3months.



I left because this things happening to me was never what I prayed to God for, and if your God will judge me because I left a sex, gay, predator who hide under the robe of a pastor, then That you God is not My God at all. Because my saviour Jesus Christ saved me from premature death

Uprightness100:
Read your Bible sir! Re-marrying under any guise is adultery. Only Death Permits is to remarry.

JimmyfixDesigns:


Divorce except on the ground sexual immorality is the one termed adultery if such persons marry again.

If one of the mates commits sexual immorality, the innocent mate is free to divorce and marry someone else.

But another clause there's, if the innocent mate can forgive the guilty one.....they can remain together but if he or she cannot forgive.....there is freedom to marry

sonofthunder:



Seun, lalasticlala..... Can a Christian leave that first sentence on a Muslim thread

You guys need to come up with rules that will be consistent

sonofthunder:



This is such a sad experience

Breadandpeppers:
I think we are in the era of Grace and in the new covenant.

Lari03r:

You never really got married though you went through the procedures.

You have yet to meet your true husband.

Child bearing and correct sexual orientation is equally important in a marriage.