From your writeup, he is after young girls.
Implicit in this is that you contribute to the problem.

lilvicky68:
You better stop checking your husband's phone unless you want to lose weight.

What's the meaning of this nonsense naa, so a wife can't check her husband phone?
I'm suprise you didn't say anything about his cheating habit.

Smh, birds of a feather.

Stop checking your husband's phone if you don't want to die before your time.
Know this and know peace forever.

Cheerycherry:
Good evening family landers, I created this account because of this and I need advice from people that have been married for a while.

I've been married for almost 3 years now and we were in a relationship for more than 6 years before then.

Since I married my husband, I've noticed that he's an emotional cheat so to speak. One time I stumbled upon a chat with a girl saying things like if I catch you I will wound you with d ick.

When I bring it up he will tell me he was joking and even swear with his life that he will never cheat on me he's just joking.

Earlier this year, I stumbled upon his chat with a girl who I happened to know as well, a very young girl sending his shirtless pics and asking her if she knows how to ride d ick well if she can kiss and suck his whatever well.

Asides this, he sent her money up to 13,000 in the space of a week while he kept telling me he had no money and I was managing my personal money to run stuff.

He apologised and said its because I don't kiss him when we have s ex and he didn't even intend meeting the girl that it was him catching cruise.

This week again I stumbled upon his chat with another girl, he has known this girl for a while tho and I've met her too. He sent her a message saying Je ki n do e kara e bale in yoruba which means let me f uck you let your body calm down. I've been mad since I saw this one cos he apologised and afterwards said he was just joking.

I'm tired of the disrespect the whole nonsense brings to me and I'm considering leaving. I have a well paying job, I take care of my personal expenses and send money to my parents and siblings myself and we have a child together.

It's not s ex cos we have sex not less than 2-3 times a week; very satisfying s ex.

I need inputs from married people please.
We have an ongoing building project together which we are both sponsoring 50:50. I'm not an uptight person at all, I talk, I make jokes, I'm not boring!

DeRay98:


Evidence of an insecure woman and sadly it can't be cured by her husband because it depends on her, just as flirtatious men can't be stopped by their wives.
An insecure wife will always find a reason to remain so but she'll keep blaming her husband for it.

I have no explanations to any woman who is jobless enough to make snooping around my inbox her job. My woman's phones can be on the table from now until Jesus comes without my touching it. If it rings too much, I would tell her to please come and put it on silent. Sometimes, she would ask me to check who is calling her and I would say "I don't have my glasses, sorry, I can't see". My sanity is that important to me. She is on her own if she decided to FBI my own phone because there are things that be not that she would see as though they were.

So she should leave her marriage?
Marriage advisers

Kobojunkie:
So you think it is OK to remain in a failed relationship- a one where your vows are disrespected and you as an individual no longer matter - because you fear that the next relationship you find yourself in may end up the same way?

Wow.... silly question... if you altogether decide not to do relationships at all, and keep your dignity as an individual, will you be sentenced to death for it?

If you are so consumed with fear that your lot is to only end up in emotionally damaging relationships, why not decide against relationships altogether?

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P.S. I have never come across an individual in a relationship where he/she is being cheated on that is not damaged (emotionally, mentally and sometimes physically) by it.

You dey fuxk your husband and Unna know [b]dey kiss na ashawo you bee? Abee him mouth dey smell ihttps://cvr.inecnigeria.org/f yes what have you done about it, do you ride your husband? Can you knack him and make him scream? The sex might be satisfying to you but I know for sure it is not for him, what are you doing to improve in the other room? Less I forget your husband is cheating on you know two way about it. [/b]Work away or do something about it

Cheerycherry:
Good evening family landers, I created this account because of this and I need advice from people that have been married for a while.

I've been married for almost 3 years now and we were in a relationship for more than 6 years before then.

Since I married my husband, I've noticed that he's an emotional cheat so to speak. One time I stumbled upon a chat with a girl saying things like if I catch you I will wound you with d ick.

When I bring it up he will tell me he was joking and even swear with his life that he will never cheat on me he's just joking.

Earlier this year, I stumbled upon his chat with a girl who I happened to know as well, a very young girl sending his shirtless pics and asking her if she knows how to ride d ick well if she can kiss and suck his whatever well.

Asides this, he sent her money up to 13,000 in the space of a week while he kept telling me he had no money and I was managing my personal money to run stuff.

He apologised and said its because I don't kiss him when we have s ex and he didn't even intend meeting the girl that it was him catching cruise.

This week again I stumbled upon his chat with another girl, he has known this girl for a while tho and I've met her too. He sent her a message saying Je ki n do e kara e bale in yoruba which means let me f uck you let your body calm down. I've been mad since I saw this one cos he apologised and afterwards said he was just joking.

I'm tired of the disrespect the whole nonsense brings to me and I'm considering leaving. I have a well paying job, I take care of my personal expenses and send money to my parents and siblings myself and we have a child together.

It's not s ex cos we have sex not less than 2-3 times a week; very satisfying s ex.

I need inputs from married people please.
We have an ongoing building project together which we are both sponsoring 50:50. I'm not an uptight person at all, I talk, I make jokes, I'm not boring!

please safe your self by not looking through his chats again... It's for your safety... On the other hand, make sure you engage him enough romantically, communicate with him in subtle manner, ask him how he loves his sex to be, dress and look sexy for him while at home, don't do more than him financially, don't even do 50:50, let him take charge and provide 70% of expenses, then ultimately, pray for him... Keep morning devotion everyday and of you can keep night devotion as well. Thank you

lilvicky68:
You better stop checking your husband's phone unless you want to lose weight.

Why should she stop checking her husband’s phone?

Stop fornicating, they will not hear. Fornicators are future adulterers and adulteress.

God please give me a virgin husband

lilvicky68:
You better stop checking your husband's phone unless you want to lose weight.

best advice to give her. Ruth abokoku. That's what I call them. We guys need space and privacy to run our shitts

lilvicky68:
You better stop checking your husband's phone unless you want to lose weight.

kin tu leleyi?

MeghaneMorgane:


Why should she stop checking her husband’s phone?

Stop fornicating, they will not hear. Fornicators are future adulterers and adulteress.

God please give me a virgin husband

virgin husband my ass. Stop checking your guys phone be it virgin or corrupt hubby

Cheerycherry:


This is not the first time! I'm very open! I'm not an SU, I'm not a wrapper tying wife, I've talked to him, done all sorts even when I'm dead tired I give in to sex in different forms! Is there anything else?

Do you give h*ad well too?

Madam stop stumbling upon chats that are not yours. There is something called privacy. Learn to respect his privacy. Since u hv been stumbling upon d chats wat hv u achieved?.
For the records I'm not encouraging in relationships

oya leave him and go marry another Angel now? call one of his blood he respect to talk it out with him beside he's not a smart cheater. how can you be married and still keep history of the chat on your device



you should be worried about his dumbness and not only cheating, not encouraging cheating though but 60-70% of married men cheat and 30-40% of women bring bastard kids home for their husband

I once praised a Married woman in my area that she chosed a good husband who doesn't cheat and built a wonderful home devoid of quarrels or strife

She laughed and shocked me to the bones when she narrated how randy her husband was before in their early days in the marriage, she said her husband had so many sidechicks , that some even had the nerve to come visit him at their matrimonial home and pass the night . She even went as far as preparing meals for the hubby and his sidechicks and gisting with them in their home .

It got to a time she became friends with one of the sidechicks that it was that particular sidechick who started fighting her battles by chasing other sidechicks away , she was like " This man get wife , make all of us go find our own" . The sidechick began to advise the man to be faithful to the wife. later on the sidechick travelled , changed sim but not before begging this woman for forgiveness .

Now , the man doesn't even look elsewhere , it's work , church and home . If I hadn't heard the story from his wife , I will never have believed , that's to say most randy men at the start of their marriage will definitely cool down .

So my advice is , Continue being the wife you have been , Stop checking his phones , go do an HIV test and give him the result , if it's negative tell him not to make it positive because he too will still get it .
Know how to use the greatest weapon utilised by Women - your tears . It breaks a man's heart to see his woman talking while tears drop from her eyes .
Then as someone rightly said , push him more bills , also watch some hot porn videos to update and upgrade your technical skills in za oza room .
Last but not the least , Bleep out his brains well before he leaves for work in the mornings , he wouldn't have the urge to collect any girl's number not to talk of sex chatting .

At times I wish I were a Muslim , you will see a fine Muslim girl happily married to someone's husband as the 3rd wife and wouldn't bulge when the fourth eventually come on board, Southern Christian women try to be your sister's keepers na , so many women are still single because you all are protecting your hubbies from taking another wife ,,,,, na joke ooo

Mrs Stumbler, na so so stumble stumble you dey stumble upon your husband texts. Go collect glasses make you for see road na. Pokenoser

You are to still be patient, soon you will win the case !

ChoCho54:
Sharaaaap dia! You children of nowadays!

The man dey suffer you? E dey abuse you? E dey beat you? Somebody wey una join hands dey build house, simply because he's reacting to the things he sees on TikTok, you want to kee yasef! Foolish geh!

Abeg park out if you want to. Before 2 days, he'd be fuccking those girls on the bed you both shared!

He will so flex your absence ehn..
He will be walking around naked in the house and celebrating his freedom.

After six months, you will finally accept his begging and go back home only to be seeing artificial nails that fell off from God knows who everywhere.

Now you will start buying new bedsheets to replace the old ones because you know the royal rumble that took place on them

This is harsh, but it's quite hard to feel sorry for women married to cheating husbands. If you know the number of ladies I've seen willing to get down with married men and some will expect theirs to be faithful to them tomorrow. Is that not madness?

Not saying the same applies in the Op's case, but who knows...

Cheerycherry:
Good evening family landers, I created this account because of this and I need advice from people that have been married for a while.

I've been married for almost 3 years now and we were in a relationship for more than 6 years before then.

Since I married my husband, I've noticed that he's an emotional cheat so to speak. One time I stumbled upon a chat with a girl saying things like if I catch you I will wound you with d ick.

When I bring it up he will tell me he was joking and even swear with his life that he will never cheat on me he's just joking.

Earlier this year, I stumbled upon his chat with a girl who I happened to know as well, a very young girl sending his shirtless pics and asking her if she knows how to ride d ick well if she can kiss and suck his whatever well.

Asides this, he sent her money up to 13,000 in the space of a week while he kept telling me he had no money and I was managing my personal money to run stuff.

He apologised and said its because I don't kiss him when we have s ex and he didn't even intend meeting the girl that it was him catching cruise.

This week again I stumbled upon his chat with another girl, he has known this girl for a while tho and I've met her too. He sent her a message saying Je ki n do e kara e bale in yoruba which means let me f uck you let your body calm down. I've been mad since I saw this one cos he apologised and afterwards said he was just joking.

I'm tired of the disrespect the whole nonsense brings to me and I'm considering leaving. I have a well paying job, I take care of my personal expenses and send money to my parents and siblings myself and we have a child together.

It's not s ex cos we have sex not less than 2-3 times a week; very satisfying s ex.

I need inputs from married people please.
We have an ongoing building project together which we are both sponsoring 50:50. I'm not an uptight person at all, I talk, I make jokes, I'm not boring!

Your husband is a Playboy. He is not matured enough for a married life. Find someone he respect that could talk to him. If you have a Pastor, talk to your Pastor about it. If he doesn't listen or change, please seek for a divorce.

Cheerycherry:


This is not the first time! I'm very open! I'm not an SU, I'm not a wrapper tying wife, I've talked to him, done all sorts even when I'm dead tired I give in to sex in different forms! Is there anything else?

It's not all about sex and formats. It's about giving him space on trust. Do not choke and monitor him. What you see him do is his way of trying to be happy but not to your detriment.
Can you learn to stay away from his phone? For the sake of your sanity and kids? What you see are the ones he didn't delete. what if he's the call type, does his deals outside the phone? You have your hustle, you can leave your marriage with your kids. Trust me, at the long run...the kids will return back to their roots.
Ignore his phone and focus on your work, happiness and kids. Then, next time during your meeting, tell him to use condom that you don't trust his health status anymore.
Finally, pray!
Nothing breaks a man to see that his wife is getting the attention outside. We would do all to salvage the situation. Fake it or create a script. Find a buddy, brother that can disguise as your bestie or friend. Recharge him to always call you whenever he's around and chat you naughty, too. Make sure he sees the chat. And use better profile of all these Black African male models as profile pics and wallpaper. Sis, e go shock you. He gets paranoids, don't answer him or just tell him...he pushed you into it. That you're also catching cruise and fun, too. That you he has some class and taste. Tell him to upgrade his games and not with small small lousy girls.
Do you know he enjoys seeing you getting jealous over girls on his phone? He keeps those chats on purpose. So...nothing is spoilt yet. You don't leave your home for anything. That's your home. Instead he leaves naa.

Cheerycherry:
Good evening family landers, I created this account because of this and I need advice from people that have been married for a while.

I've been married for almost 3 years now and we were in a relationship for more than 6 years before then.

Since I married my husband, I've noticed that he's an emotional cheat so to speak. One time I stumbled upon a chat with a girl saying things like if I catch you I will wound you with d ick.

When I bring it up he will tell me he was joking and even swear with his life that he will never cheat on me he's just joking.

Earlier this year, I stumbled upon his chat with a girl who I happened to know as well, a very young girl sending his shirtless pics and asking her if she knows how to ride d ick well if she can kiss and suck his whatever well.

Asides this, he sent her money up to 13,000 in the space of a week while he kept telling me he had no money and I was managing my personal money to run stuff.

He apologised and said its because I don't kiss him when we have s ex and he didn't even intend meeting the girl that it was him catching cruise.

This week again I stumbled upon his chat with another girl, he has known this girl for a while tho and I've met her too. He sent her a message saying Je ki n do e kara e bale in yoruba which means let me f uck you let your body calm down. I've been mad since I saw this one cos he apologised and afterwards said he was just joking.

I'm tired of the disrespect the whole nonsense brings to me and I'm considering leaving. I have a well paying job, I take care of my personal expenses and send money to my parents and siblings myself and we have a child together.

It's not s ex cos we have sex not less than 2-3 times a week; very satisfying s ex.

I need inputs from married people please.
We have an ongoing building project together which we are both sponsoring 50:50. I'm not an uptight person at all, I talk, I make jokes, I'm not boring!

Much as i do not support cheating, I don't know what u are looking for in your husband's phone! Stop invading his privacy. What u don't know cannot kill u!

Juliet751:
Hmm.you can stop him from cheating,just take care of your baby pls.

Will you accept me like as you advised the OP?

MrCover:

Do You Know When God Almighty want to locate you?

Lol.

dannex4adx:


Please don't leave your husband. Keep praying for him. And Please don't listen to bad advise.

Keep praying for him indeed as if he's mentally deranged.

Fahdiga:
Will you accept me like as you advised the OP?

Lol.

Juliet751:
Lol.

Tell me the truth

I know you are male, you are a very very stupidd...dick*head...and a knot definitely unscrewed from your brain. Take a look at the part of your comments which I have boldened, then ask yourself why the man didn't stay single, fuckkk around to his satisfaction, and marry far into the future. Any man who has difficulties being faithful, should stay single, till he's done messing around. How on Earth can you expect a wife to be happy despite the husband cheating with different women? Are you maddd?

To you OP, if the house documents do not reflect your name along with his, then you better go and correct it. Also suspend all your financial support to him/the house, begin to hide your money. Look for ways to totally drain him financially, if possible destroy* him financially. The choice to stay or remain in that marriage depends on you. If you know you are ready to thread your emotions/health, and stay put in the marriage, fine. If you can't cope, then kick his assss out. Never listen to the foools who blame you for checking his phone. A man with conscience should have at least stopped his cheating when you caught him, and appologise to you.

ChoCho54:
Sharaaaap dia! You children of nowadays!

The man dey suffer you? E dey abuse you? E dey beat you? Somebody wey una join hands dey build house, simply because he's reacting to the things he sees on TikTok, you want to kee yasef! Foolish geh!

Abeg park out if you want to. Before 2 days, he'd be fuccking those girls on the bed you both shared!

He will so flex your absence ehn..
He will be walking around naked in the house and celebrating his freedom.

After six months, you will finally accept his begging and go back home only to be seeing artificial nails that fell off from God knows who everywhere.

Now you will start buying new bedsheets to replace the old ones because you know the royal rumble that took place on them

IamGreen1:


Keep praying for him indeed as if he's mentally deranged.

. If reverse was the case will he advise the man to pray for his wife to change

Fahdiga:
Tell me the truth

Yeah.

amila20042001:
So she should leave her marriage?
Marriage advisers

She is the one to decide that for herself.

Juliet751:
Yeah.

That's my sweetheart. Very soon I'll meet you face to face ok

Such nonsense. What a wrong advice. Op knows those this already. She asking for a way to handle the situation.

Have you forgotten that life is not balanced? Look around you, you will see that who others get away with is what kills other people.

Are you saying she should challenge her husband? That's a wrong advice.

I don't know why her husband is careless with his chats. She caught him 3x already. Maybe he is making her jealous.

For the op, talk to him. Ask him if he's missing something with you. Tell him to stop the nonsense chat. I know some people who just do that to stop them from actually cheating. Ask him to properly give you his password to his social media if he's not trying to cheat. Looks like those girls wanted to share your husband with you. At least two of them knew he is married.

Don't just leave the man just like that. Husband is scarce nowadays. Days are gone when men wanted to get married. What we do now Is to impregnate here and there. Baby mamas everywhere.

Good luck ooo. I hope he's not already cheating on you. Some guys are just something else.

MrBrownJay1:
your husband is one string away from cheating....he just needs the right opportunity (which he is looking for by sending babes money etc).
here is something you should ask your husband:
- if i tell a male friend that:"if i catch you i will ride the Bejesus out of your dikc", will that be okay to you?
- if i now tell you that this was a joke, would that be okay to you?
- if there is "supposedly" something wrong with us, can i go and ask a stranger to do these things to me INSTEAD OF TALKING TO YOU DIRECTLY?!

sadly, it is obvious your husband has no respect for you and/or the marriage you guys have....and eventually some babe will fall for his antics (if it hasnt happened already). protect yourself and your affairs, then leave this man who obviously is NOT gonna change!