Wrong. Except em wife get stroke or terrible illness. Even with that sef... It's too risky.

Dorwadora:
Good evening my Romancelanders and Nairalanders. I hope y'all been having a good day?

Here's the thing.

Due to the ASUU strike I decided to get a job around my school instead of going home because Ekiti has become home for me. I resumed work on Monday, that's 6 days ago. I and my boss have not been having any issue. He gives the command and I get the work done but recently he has been giving me his home key to go and cook for him. The first time I was surprised because giving your house key to someone you barely know is a bit weird to me but since Monday that I've started the work, I've been to his house 4 times cooking stew or vegetable soup. I'm there right now frying meats.

I am seriously not comfortable with the arrangement but I can't say no because I really need to keep the job and save up. He's married but his wife is not staying with him and cooking and cleaning is the job of a wife not a staff.

Please house how can I stop this whole charade without losing the job?

Ashewo dey ur eye

OP Please listen to me closely

There some things God expects of you.

1. Make a move when you need to: because he will not come down from heaven to carry you.

2. Take calculated risk: don't gamble with your life.

3. Do not put your trust in Man. You barely know him.

4. You are your number one priority.

The mistake you made is agreeing to do the cooking in the first place. You should have told him from the onset, that you don't feel comfortable doing that. (Was that even in your appointment letter or verbal agreement?) why didn't he hire a cook?

The danger in what you are doing is putting yourself at risk. Please you do not know who he is. Do not be carried away by "he is fasting".There are wolves in sheep clothing.

Very soon, he will begin to entice you with little tips and gifts here and there to take away your fears and gradually, he will get what he wants.

My advice to you (as I think you are not a wayward girl) is:

1. Tell him you no longer want to cook for him at his house. The best you can do is cook at your place and bring to the office for him.

If he asks why the sudden change, tell him you talked about it to your mum and she didn't like the idea and insists that you stop. That you do not disobey her as she has guided you all your life and you don't regret it.

If he plays the Mummy's girl card on you. Tell him you are proud of it.

Be bold, you are his staff and not his slave. Don't let him turn you into a sexual slave.

2. If he decides to sack you because of that, my dear... please run as fast as your legs can carry you. Other doors will open. Humans are always scared of the unknown (there will always be a way)

I will not speak further on this.... as I know many men out here will not agree with me.

A stitch in time, saves Nine

Don't cook at all. He should advertise the job and hire a cook.

Kobojunkie:
Are you a woman? If yes, I suggest you let your boss know that you are not comfortable cooking for him at his place.

Suggest that he gives you money to instead cook at your place and deliver it to him at work or someplace else instead.

Dorwadora:
Thank you ma..... That's what I've been thinking too.... There are still good people. But seriously ma I'm always scared whenever I'm at the house... Even right now I've opened the whole door incase I need to escape any danger. I'm sitting outside the veranda with a kitchen knife beside me... Because I don't want my story to end as raped then strangled

If you are this scared of possible danger to the point of possibility of using a kitchen knife to protect yourself, I will advise to quit the job or first take a diplomatic approach by telling your boss you are not too comfortable going to his house to cook for him. And wait to see his reaction. You are still in control of things now, take the right and sensible action before you find yourself where you do not have any control over what could happen.

Dorwadora:
Good evening my Romancelanders and Nairalanders. I hope y'all been having a good day?

Here's the thing.

Due to the ASUU strike I decided to get a job around my school instead of going home because Ekiti has become home for me. I resumed work on Monday, that's 6 days ago. I and my boss have not been having any issue. He gives the command and I get the work done but recently he has been giving me his home key to go and cook for him. The first time I was surprised because giving your house key to someone you barely know is a bit weird to me but since Monday that I've started the work, I've been to his house 4 times cooking stew or vegetable soup. I'm there right now frying meats.

I am seriously not comfortable with the arrangement but I can't say no because I really need to keep the job and save up. He's married but his wife is not staying with him and cooking and cleaning is the job of a wife not a staff.

Please house how can I stop this whole charade without losing the job?

If ur a young girl (under 25) then the comment of a poster below may well be true:

"Tell us the nature of your job.. don't you have HR in the company?
In case you don't know, that your randy boss is already nursing plans to fvck you."

If his wife is old 28+ and your young, I'm 95% certain the guy is already nursing plans to fvck you!

Dorwadora:
Good evening my Romancelanders and Nairalanders. I hope y'all been having a good day?

Here's the thing.

Due to the ASUU strike I decided to get a job around my school instead of going home because Ekiti has become home for me. I resumed work on Monday, that's 6 days ago. I and my boss have not been having any issue. He gives the command and I get the work done but recently he has been giving me his home key to go and cook for him. The first time I was surprised because giving your house key to someone you barely know is a bit weird to me but since Monday that I've started the work, I've been to his house 4 times cooking stew or vegetable soup. I'm there right now frying meats.

I am seriously not comfortable with the arrangement but I can't say no because I really need to keep the job and save up. He's married but his wife is not staying with him and cooking and cleaning is the job of a wife not a staff.

Please house how can I stop this whole charade without losing the job?

Stop cooking and doing house chores for him.
You are inviting trouble for yourself.
I hope you are not taking all those advising you otherwise, seriously. Between a married man and a young lady, there's only one outcome. Mind you, the blame will surely rest squarely on you when the inevitable happens.

What is your job description?
What job role did you apply for?

If cooking and doing domestic chores are not in your job description pls quit the job.

Office work and home chores are two parallel lines.

You can't be at the office then he gives you his house keys to go cook for him. There is more to it that you are not saying.

Draw the lines btw the 2 roles.

And be careful with him. No man can be trusted

Dorwadora:
Good evening my Romancelanders and Nairalanders. I hope y'all been having a good day?

Here's the thing.

Due to the ASUU strike I decided to get a job around my school instead of going home because Ekiti has become home for me. I resumed work on Monday, that's 6 days ago. I and my boss have not been having any issue. He gives the command and I get the work done but recently he has been giving me his home key to go and cook for him. The first time I was surprised because giving your house key to someone you barely know is a bit weird to me but since Monday that I've started the work, I've been to his house 4 times cooking stew or vegetable soup. I'm there right now frying meats.

I am seriously not comfortable with the arrangement but I can't say no because I really need to keep the job and save up. He's married but his wife is not staying with him and cooking and cleaning is the job of a wife not a staff.

Please house how can I stop this whole charade without losing the job?

Hope you won't be preggy before ASUU called off the strike. The signs are there now but you won't quit until your next thread on Nairaland reads "Help, I m pregnant for my boss"

My only concern is you cooking for another woman's husband, all shades of wrong, most especially, a man whose wife's not staying with. What if his wife suddenly comes in one evening and find you there, the outcome would be so unimaginable depending on the woman. So my dear, even if the man is of good intentions, just pray his far away wife doesn't come home suddenly as a surprise to her husband. Anyway, muslin men believe they're entitled to more than one woman, so his wife might not be too aggressive seeing you, like I said, 'might'.

Hin no get wife?? Hin no get HouseMAid if the wife is too busy with Work

I don talk am before say Prostitute better pass our girls.
At least prostitute no hide their own...,; but our girls go dey use "MY male BESTIE", "MY oga IN THE OFFICE", dey hide their plies.

Dorwadora:
Good evening my Romancelanders and Nairalanders. I hope y'all been having a good day?

Here's the thing.

Due to the ASUU strike I decided to get a job around my school instead of going home because Ekiti has become home for me. I resumed work on Monday, that's 6 days ago. I and my boss have not been having any issue. He gives the command and I get the work done but recently he has been giving me his home key to go and cook for him. The first time I was surprised because giving your house key to someone you barely know is a bit weird to me but since Monday that I've started the work, I've been to his house 4 times cooking stew or vegetable soup. I'm there right now frying meats.

I am seriously not comfortable with the arrangement but I can't say no because I really need to keep the job and save up. He's married but his wife is not staying with him and cooking and cleaning is the job of a wife not a staff.

Please house how can I stop this whole charade without losing the job?

It started from office, to kitchen and will eventually end up in bed.
Pls I dont want to read "my boss raped me" thread from u in the future.

Dorwadora:
My work is just to take order, document sales and expenses. Literally I manage the business money.... I've only been there for 6 days and the man Is the owner. @the bolded.... I'll take my chances till they finish fasting.... He's fasting now and quite a devotee so I don't think anything will happen now but I'm on a look out for another job

nor complain if him rape you, no work allowed normal person to go and cook for a boss, you loose ur respect because of job

Dorwadora:
Good evening my Romancelanders and Nairalanders. I hope y'all been having a good day?

Here's the thing.

Due to the ASUU strike I decided to get a job around my school instead of going home because Ekiti has become home for me. I resumed work on Monday, that's 6 days ago. I and my boss have not been having any issue. He gives the command and I get the work done but recently he has been giving me his home key to go and cook for him. The first time I was surprised because giving your house key to someone you barely know is a bit weird to me but since Monday that I've started the work, I've been to his house 4 times cooking stew or vegetable soup. I'm there right now frying meats.

I am seriously not comfortable with the arrangement but I can't say no because I really need to keep the job and save up. He's married but his wife is not staying with him and cooking and cleaning is the job of a wife not a staff.

Please house how can I stop this whole charade without losing the job?

You can never have it all. Quit the job and restrategise.

Stupid question. Silly girl.

Maychang:
OP Please listen to me closely

There some things God expects of you.

1. Make a move when you need to: because he will not come down from heaven to carry you.

2. Take calculated risk: don't gamble with your life.

3. Do not put your trust in Man. You barely know him.

4. You are your number one priority.

The mistake you made is agreeing to do the cooking in the first place. You should have told him from the onset, that you don't feel comfortable doing that. (Was that even in your appointment letter or verbal agreement?) why didn't he hire a cook?

The danger in what you are doing is putting yourself at risk. Please you do not know who he is. Do not be carried away by "he is fasting".There are wolves in sheep clothing.

Very soon, he will begin to entice you with little tips and gifts here and there to take away your fears and gradually, he will get what he wants.

My advice to you (as I think you are not a wayward girl) is:

1. Tell him you no longer want to cook for him at his house. The best you can do is cook at your place and bring to the office for him.

If he asks why the sudden change, tell him you talked about it to your mum and she didn't like the idea and insists that you stop. That you do not disobey her as she has guided you all your life and you don't regret it.

If he plays the Mummy's girl card on you. Tell him you are proud of it.

Be bold, you are his staff and not his slave. Don't let him turn you into a sexual slave.

2. If he decides to sack you because of that, my dear... please run as fast as your legs can carry you. Other doors will open. Humans are always scared of the unknown (there will always be a way)

I will not speak further on this.... as I know many men out here will not agree with me.

A stitch in time, saves Nine

Best advice so far. Girl, listen to this if you really love yourself.

This thing is very simple.

Let him give u the money for cooking, cook at ur own place and deliver to him in the office.

Chikena

I am a man and I agree with you except the part that suggests she moves the kitchen elsewhere. She should not cook for him at all. The dude is married for heaven's sake.

Maychang:
OP Please listen to me closely

There some things God expects of you.

1. Make a move when you need to: because he will not come down from heaven to carry you.

2. Take calculated risk: don't gamble with your life.

3. Do not put your trust in Man. You barely know him.

4. You are your number one priority.

The mistake you made is agreeing to do the cooking in the first place. You should have told him from the onset, that you don't feel comfortable doing that. (Was that even in your appointment letter or verbal agreement?) why didn't he hire a cook?

The danger in what you are doing is putting yourself at risk. Please you do not know who he is. Do not be carried away by "he is fasting".There are wolves in sheep clothing.

Very soon, he will begin to entice you with little tips and gifts here and there to take away your fears and gradually, he will get what he wants.

My advice to you (as I think you are not a wayward girl) is:

1. Tell him you no longer want to cook for him at his house. The best you can do is cook at your place and bring to the office for him.

If he asks why the sudden change, tell him you talked about it to your mum and she didn't like the idea and insists that you stop. That you do not disobey her as she has guided you all your life and you don't regret it.

If he plays the Mummy's girl card on you. Tell him you are proud of it.

Be bold, you are his staff and not his slave. Don't let him turn you into a sexual slave.

2. If he decides to sack you because of that, my dear... please run as fast as your legs can carry you. Other doors will open. Humans are always scared of the unknown (there will always be a way)

I will not speak further on this.... as I know many men out here will not agree with me.

A stitch in time, saves Nine

Maychang:
OP Please listen to me closely

There some things God expects of you.

1. Make a move when you need to: because he will not come down from heaven to carry you.

2. Take calculated risk: don't gamble with your life.

3. Do not put your trust in Man. You barely know him.

4. You are your number one priority.

The mistake you made is agreeing to do the cooking in the first place. You should have told him from the onset, that you don't feel comfortable doing that. (Was that even in your appointment letter or verbal agreement?) why didn't he hire a cook?

The danger in what you are doing is putting yourself at risk. Please you do not know who he is. Do not be carried away by "he is fasting".There are wolves in sheep clothing.

Very soon, he will begin to entice you with little tips and gifts here and there to take away your fears and gradually, he will get what he wants.

My advice to you (as I think you are not a wayward girl) is:

1. Tell him you no longer want to cook for him at his house. The best you can do is cook at your place and bring to the office for him.

If he asks why the sudden change, tell him you talked about it to your mum and she didn't like the idea and insists that you stop. That you do not disobey her as she has guided you all your life and you don't regret it.

If he plays the Mummy's girl card on you. Tell him you are proud of it.

Be bold, you are his staff and not his slave. Don't let him turn you into a sexual slave.

2. If he decides to sack you because of that, my dear... please run as fast as your legs can carry you. Other doors will open. Humans are always scared of the unknown (there will always be a way)

I will not speak further on this.... as I know many men out here will not agree with me.

A stitch in time, saves Nine

I am a man, and totally agree with you. How much is the salary compared with the trauma of being raped. Op listen to this advice

Mandy1414:
What is your job description?
What job role did you apply for?

If cooking and doing domestic chores are not in your job description pls quit the job.

Office work and home chores are two parallel lines.

You can't be at the office then he gives you his house keys to go cook for him. There is more to it that you are not saying.

Draw the lines btw the 2 roles.

And be careful with him. No man can be trusted

No one can be trusted and not "No man"

Why not let sleeping dogs lie; is it necessary trampling on its tail.
Can a man walk on hot coals without scorching his feet? Proverbs 6:28
Why can't we be neighbourly and peaceful rather than experimenting with trouble which we would regret when it comes.
No wonder the Bible makes it clear in job 14:1-2 that

"1Mortals, born of woman, are of few days and full of trouble. 2They spring up like flowers and wither away; like fleeting shadows, they do not endure"

OP, if you can allow your hubby to do same to you, you can go ahead with your job; if not stay away from someone's husband. Don't allow devil to use you.

Dorwadora:
Good evening my Romancelanders and Nairalanders. I hope y'all been having a good day?

Here's the thing.

Due to the ASUU strike I decided to get a job around my school instead of going home because Ekiti has become home for me. I resumed work on Monday, that's 6 days ago. I and my boss have not been having any issue. He gives the command and I get the work done but recently he has been giving me his home key to go and cook for him. The first time I was surprised because giving your house key to someone you barely know is a bit weird to me but since Monday that I've started the work, I've been to his house 4 times cooking stew or vegetable soup. I'm there right now frying meats.

I am seriously not comfortable with the arrangement but I can't say no because I really need to keep the job and save up. He's married but his wife is not staying with him and cooking and cleaning is the job of a wife not a staff.

Please house how can I stop this whole charade without losing the job?

I think you are playing with fire because he will come home one day to sleep with you since you already perform wife duties.If you must do him a favor cooking of his meals.Do it in your own apartment and take it to the shop/office.
Women should stop putting themselves in a vulnerable situation with men.My sister Rape is real.

slawormiir:


You will soon become part of the menu baby girl

Just be careful we don't want to read a thread on Nairaland that goes thus "How I was strangled and raped by my boss on saturday morning"

Dorwadora:
Good evening my Romancelanders and Nairalanders. I hope y'all been having a good day?

Here's the thing.

Due to the ASUU strike I decided to get a job around my school instead of going home because Ekiti has become home for me. I resumed work on Monday, that's 6 days ago. I and my boss have not been having any issue. He gives the command and I get the work done but recently he has been giving me his home key to go and cook for him. The first time I was surprised because giving your house key to someone you barely know is a bit weird to me but since Monday that I've started the work, I've been to his house 4 times cooking stew or vegetable soup. I'm there right now frying meats.

I am seriously not comfortable with the arrangement but I can't say no because I really need to keep the job and save up. He's married but his wife is not staying with him and cooking and cleaning is the job of a wife not a staff.

Please house how can I stop this whole charade without losing the job?

Make una just invite us

Dorwadora:
Thank you ma..... That's what I've been thinking too.... There are still good people. But seriously ma I'm always scared whenever I'm at the house... Even right now I've opened the whole door incase I need to escape any danger. I'm sitting outside the veranda with a kitchen knife beside me... Because I don't want my story to end as raped then strangled

Lol ... I pray that will not happen to you
That deranged and mentally unstable lady called SAPPHIRE abi na SAHPIERE will be glad to carry your story. God forbid

Sunsets:
This young mind trusts you already. Tell her to go home to her parents or guardians or get another job. What is going on dikwa too risky.

yea i know its risky, am pitying her already.

We will be waiting for a more robust replies when the time come but for now, make I face my smoked fish b'ness.

Dorwadora:
My work is just to take order, document sales and expenses. Literally I manage the business money.... I've only been there for 6 days and the man Is the owner. @the bolded.... I'll take my chances till they finish fasting.... He's fasting now and quite a devotee so I don't think anything will happen now but I'm on a look out for another job

How old are you? You are thinking like an inexperienced teenager. If I run into a lady I want to have sex with, who care about fasting. You don't know men. All that devotee talk is charade. How many pastors and muslim clerics have been caught pants down with other men's wives and daughter....

Which of the schools are you attending there, EKSU or FEDPOLY? I believe you know danger when you sensed one. If the once straight line is getting crooked I knew you know you have to go back.

Kobojunkie:
That is bullsheet, OK!

No rape victim ever thought to herself , "i want to be raped someday ". And no murder victim fantasized about being murdered in a vicious manner. Bad things happen to people every day, without them ever imagining it could happen to them.

You didn't have to call his opinion "bullshit" in order to sell yours. OK? You have a good rebuttal that countered his point, but your approach was derogatory. He albeit has a point on the effects of excessive negativity. In the end, skeptics always prepare for the worst and it has always worked in most cases. They, however, may face social problems emanating from their negative interactive patterns of suspecting everyone. Imagine a Wife always probing the amorous relations between her Husband and her Daughter. Wrong? We can't blame her tho

If you were my sister I would stop you from such duty.

What if he comes home and sexually harasses you cooking for your boss at his home is very unprofessional.