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Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 6:15am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Mindlog:I'll will not hit her, I'll shoot her and face the consequences. People do it everyday. One thing I mentioned earlier, if you can't obey the basic laws of marriage, then don't go into marriage. One Igbo doctor was set ablaze by his ex, the guy died eventually, infact he knew he was going to die because of the degree of burn, another "only fans" Jezebel recently killed her partner. Its now a matter of kill or get killed. That's the reality, let's forget about all these ideal situation or assumptions and focus on what's happening in our society. If you check, you will see that majority of husbands die before their wives, what is killing these men? 1+1=2, you cannot add 1and 2 and expect the answer to be 2. You made mention of the number on your receipt, this shows that even with the laws, DV is still prevalent. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 6:21am On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme:you are far from reality. DV is here to stay and there's nothing you can do about it. If Chris brown can abuse Rihanna, then who are you? Even the law can't save you, no one can. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Mindlog: 6:41am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Sureplug123: Good you acknowledged you will be facing the consequences of killing her as you would feel emasculated ending the marriage with her so you will prefer murder. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 6:55am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Mindlog:some of these naija women ( if not all) you choose to defend are worst than the Caucasians. You know this. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Mindlog: 7:19am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Sureplug123: It is not about defending Nigerian women, we have mentally disordered persons in both Nigerian men and women, just as we have in both Caucasian men and women, whose personality disorders thrive on their dysfunctionalities. I have worked in psychiatric facilities in Africa and presently here in the UK, so I base my opinion on my lived experience. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 7:27am On Apr 16, 2022 |
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Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 7:31am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Mindlog: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 7:33am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Sureplug123: 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 7:37am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Sureplug123: 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 7:41am On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme:drop points! I'll respond. Learn from Tonye and Mindlog 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 7:48am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Sureplug123: I've dropped so many points, but you can't expect a psychopathic criminal who is willing to shoot a woman just because of his ego and not ashamed to admit it on a public forum to see the points! I understand, Life is actually difficult for the blind! Doh, maybe Nairaland will incorporate Braille/Audio visual aids, then you'll be able to feel/"hear" the points! 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 8:02am On Apr 16, 2022 |
COPIED. THE SILENT PAINS OF A HUSBAND Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb. Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags? We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long? Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him. I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house. I was really sad. You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them, tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them. A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man. In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children. A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be. Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again. A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments. Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes. Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 8:57am On Apr 16, 2022 |
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Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 10:25am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Another weekend of joli joli, daughters of eve can waste in their father's house Guys should just bang and commot eye from them, dem daughters of eve deserves some beating in other to reset their brains 1 Like
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Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by luminouz(m): 10:36am On Apr 16, 2022 |
akinade28: Your first statement and second paragraph (line 3-4) is at odds with each other. It shows some wives are actually insane. Funny thing is, you expect the men to 'walk away' after suffering mental and emotional abuse(all forms of DV you fail to recognize) but get ticked, when they lash out with physical assault. Why can't these women be better versions of themselves and don't be agents of evil or should we condone their behaviours and keep 'walking away' till we die? Everything you just said, especially your last sentence is what women are known for. Your post confirmed it. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by luminouz(m): 11:03am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Sureplug123: I laughed reading your responses to these girls. You have energy oh. I fuqin don't. I think that appetizer or pantanmi geh actually loves you. Never seen a girl go batshiit nuts abusing you like that. She went through your profile to dig some shiit up. She is struck bad. I laughed my head off when reading her insults. It's Easter. Sup nigha? Make I come chop? 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by ImaIma1(f): 12:01pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme: Men will turn blind eyes to this comment. They don't like this kind of hard truth, especially the guilty ones. Their power and authority comes only when it's women involved. Their fellow Nigerian women. Ask them to repeat the rubbish they spew here to an American woman. The whole story will change. The hypocrisy is really getting out of hand. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by BRATISLAVA: 12:05pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme: Lol hear 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by BRATISLAVA: 12:15pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme: Just look at the very emotional post and his deeply emotional reaction to it. His whole argument is based on one teary story by some guy. No statistical approach, which would be logical. Just male emotions. Many males who seem to fight against domestic violence on men are doing it to score emotional points and trigger misogyny. It's an old tactic. Stale diversion, actually. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 1:18pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
ImaIma1: Don't mind them! I blame the women who take their shit!! Nonsense and logical gender. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 1:21pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA: Don't mind the emotional fool! Just imagine someone's hussle selling fake covid-19 certificate for people to bypass set of rules meant to keep the population of humans healthy, there by endangering everyone. Someone that ought to be behind bars still having mouth to yap nonsense here. I have his time today, it's a long weekend and Easter holidays, he should keep coming at me, he's the one that would get tired. Rubbish vermin. 3 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by akinade28(f): 2:56pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
luminouz:please re-read my post: I am not in any way justifying domestic violence from any gender, in fact, no gender should justify domestic violence, we should all, love, accept, tolerate, forbear and forgive one another. However, 1) my first statement was a counter response to emmanuelbrown's claims that no man will beat a woman for no reason. 2) men are found of blaming women for their action as if they are perfect or saints. You people believe you can justify domestic violence and shift the blame to women, you can just shove anything down our throat just because we are women. See any gender can justify domestic violence if they wish to, women are not as complicated as men's belief. Most of these women you claim provoke you are only reacting to your actions and inactions the best way they can. No human will condone any form of hurt or irrational behavior from the other party for example irresponsibility or cheating(adultery). Because women are not as strong as you are either physically or financially, so, they get back at you emotionally. 3) the best thing for any part is to walk away when you can no longer bear it instead of justifying domestic violence or blaming your actions on the opposite gender 4) the second paragraph acknowledges the fact that there are some unreasonable human beings (both men and women) existing who are very wicked, but that can never justify domestic violence. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 5:25pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
akinade28: What do you mean by the bolded?? A lot of women are more financially buoyant than the man and they fund the home also without louding it like these wimps whinning upandan when they drop 5k at home!! Was Osinachi not richer, gifted, loved and more talented than her husband, she brought everything to the table, yet he killed her out of Envy, jealousy and stupid superiority complex. Now some Nairaland boys are trying to say it was because of her mouth. Which mouth?? You may not be aware, but a lot of women actually work and have their own money, even more than the men. So remove that stupid story you've been fed that women are financially lesser than men. You don't have to grovel to seek their stupid useless male validation on Nairaland, there's more to life than male validation!! When you are not lazy and can work to pay your bills, they'll tremble before you. "It's not every woman a man can beat". I'm waiting for the man that will beat Temi Otedola, or beat Folorunsho Alakija! Stay focused. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by efficiencie(m): 5:47pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
All this fuss about domestic violence. If a man is either good or bad and a woman is either good or bad then the probability of a marriage without domestic violence is: 25%. This means that 75% of marriages will involve toxic people that will unleash hell on their spouse. So in this sense, one can conclude that domestic violence is indeed here to stay and has always been here ever since the fall of mankind. If you want to avoid stories be a good person and find a good spouse. Join the 25%ers and have peace! 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by akinade28(f): 5:50pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme:Dear sis, Nairaland is the least place for me to seek male validation. Yes, I agree some women are financially stronger than their husbands, but their percentage is a lot lesser. All over the world, stastics has shown that women earn lesser than men. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 6:10pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
akinade28: You may wanna check up on recent scholarly articles and journal reviews as regards this topic seeing as times are rapidly changing and a lot more percentage of women now earn more or equally as their male counterparts!! I'll share some pdf files from peer review journals with you once I log on to my system! Cheers. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by akinade28(f): 6:47pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme: Please, go ahead, I will like to see it. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by BRATISLAVA: 9:51am On Apr 17, 2022 |
apatheticme: It is always the vermin that are opinionated and want to subjugate and kill women. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 10:12am On Apr 17, 2022 |
luminouz:Happy Easter ma nigha |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Gamesmart: 1:07pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
apatheticme: What a profoundly fooolish argument! Statistics from virtually every country in the world would show that men, on average, make more money than women in that country. Stop arguing stupidly! Men are stronger than women physically, financially and emotionally. I thought I gave you a very good lecture not to be using exceptions and minority to make a point? https://www.nairaland.com/7047493/why-there-many-single-guys/16#111476459 You struggle to learn? 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TheSourcerer: 7:41am On May 03, 2022 |
apatheticme:Random hello !!! Don't forget to smile it helps |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 9:10am On May 03, 2022 |
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