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I Am Tired Of My Mom / I Am Tired Of My Wife / "I Am Tired Of Seeing My Husband's Hard Joystick Every Morning!" - Nigerian Lady (2) (3) (4)
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Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by gift2xl: 2:14pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
This has not gotten to where you have to leave your marriage. Work on those lapses and help him grow. Most women will tell you your even enjoying, that there own is hell. Fix it |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Qadaffi2idiamin: 2:16pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Nuelzi:She wan get freedom to knack. Just imagine the rubbish that could make her quit her home. Married women of nowadays have joined bad gang!! |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Topmaike007(m): 2:17pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000:woman go sit down and plan your home well oo, you have a good husband when I say good I mean a Better husband that even the friends that are misleading you are praying for... Your children will suffer more when you live him.When you live him and he remarry no woman will want to see your children been a rival to her own, because time will come your children will want to see there father and you cannot stop it forget all those things those children are saying about there father,when time comes you will see what I am talking about.my father did worst but now we the children love seen him and sometimes we create time to visit him and my mother. There is 100% assurance that you alone can never train those children,let Adenuga be your father and you are the director of his company only you can still not do it. Please don't live him oo,na beg I dey beg you Shalom |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Topmaike007(m): 2:18pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000:your husband is a good man |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Klass99(f): 2:18pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
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Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by LesbianBoy(m): 2:18pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
OlawaleBammie: Guyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy You just talk wetin I wan talk which kain wahala be this na Omo, if person talk now they would say "you hate women" but the truth is that, as a man it's good to be very cautious with that gender because Most (I didn't say all o) are always up to no good and don't love men genuinely. And I like where you said men should stop marrying because I don talk am here many times. Marriage is becoming a scam to men o. And the part where you said the poor guy knee down propose make me laugh. I come dey imagine the day when him propose. He would now run to social media and post "my babe said yes bla bla bla". Now look at how she is repaying him. I feel olosho don enter her eyes so she fit dey cash out from mumu guys with money |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Fiscus105(m): 2:19pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
JovialJune: If you have married, you would have understood my point, though not applicable for all o. |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Romanoff(f): 2:20pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Sis. It looks to me like you married too early and that's why you're tired. You probably missed out on that youthful phase of your life, hence the need to be single again. Your husband is amongst the 2% that are faithful and the 40% that are not physically and verbally abusive to their spouses. Men full outside but the probability of getting another man as good as your husband is very slim. Forget that you're saying you're done with marriage, when loneliness hits you, you will understand why two are better than one. Seek counselling if you must, help your husband become better in this one flaw he has,it is doable. You honestly do not understand the value of the man you have.. Treasure your husband o, na nonsense full outside. |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Topmaike007(m): 2:21pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000:attend RCCG and listen to daddy G.O and let him tell you about Mummy and her wahala before they became born again and yet the marriage did not crash. Aunty this is the second time I am begging you for the sake of those children please don't live your husband 1 Like |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Sivou1(m): 2:24pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000: I read a book with the same claim written by one of them as well. Let me be sincere with you, don't use their standard for your marriage, there is no way their won't be arguments in marriage, there will be misunderstanding in marriage, it is part of the package. Thank God you know your husband weakness already which can be manage with love and prayer. Talk to your children, disabuse their mind, explain things to them in a way that they will understand. I repeat, leave Bishop's claim on his marriage out of yours, you are not Faith Oyedepo neither is your husband Bishop Oyedepo. It will shock you to know they are the only one with that claim. May you find peace in your home. |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by JovialJune(f): 2:25pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Fiscus105: The thing is, your point is stupid, and it doesn't make sense, it lacks substance and shameful coming from an adult, I expected that you'd expantiate on the meaning of what you typed. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 2:26pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Juliearth:This woman alone knows the extent of what her mental can handle and what she cannot. Her children are already struggling under the weight of what seems emotional abuse and going back to my own childhood, I understand exactly what they may be going through. Emotional abuse lives with children well into even their old age. It does not end when the abuse ends and it may live with them for their entire lives if something isn't properly done about it. Divorce, on the other hand, does not cause even a 100th of the damage that abuse does. And it does not breed a cycle in the way emotional damage can. A child raised in a divorced home is likely to snap back through some therapy and introduction to an abuse free environment. But a child who had to endure abuse will need several years of therapy and may not snap completely out of the damage until much much later in life. My parents got divorced and I am a happier healthier being for it. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by nsesam(m): 2:28pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
You haven't told us what you do to provoke him |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 2:28pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Topmaike007:Stop deceiving yourselves! Marriage is not a measure of your success in life as an individual. You are better off a happy individual with history of crashed marriages to your record than a miserable individual holding tight to your marriage certificate. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by BigBashiru: 2:28pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Klass99: This is utter nonsense and u speak as a foolish woman. Age and time eventually catches up with us all.... both men and women.... Work is punishment God gave Adam in the garden of eden if that's what you call personal goals.... Men give up more in marriage and marriage favors women..... when a man marries he signs up to financial servitude to a woman.... even the girls that say they will work, wen work stres comes 70% of them ditch work.... Biological clockis preached to favor girls.... guys are attracted to young girls while young girls are attracted to guys with money and personality and status (these can be likened to be men's biological clock).... it's therefore in a woman's best interest to settle down early..mm iys all said in love not how bitter nairaland guys say it.... |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Juliearth(f): 2:28pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Lucky you! I still maintained that this situation can be salvaged. Please do not try any further to impose your view on me. |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 2:29pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
nsesam:So telling you what provokes his emotional abuse of his wife and children matters why? 1 Like |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 2:30pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Juliearth:I am not imposing my view but simply getting you to see that even divorce is not as black snd while as you have been led to believe. It is better for a woman to be divorced than for her to sit tight in an abusive relationship all so she can hold on to a worthless marriage certificate. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by dannex4adx(m): 2:31pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000: Why are you deceiving yourself! Even Abraham and Sarah in the Bible had an argument, there is no perfect marriage. So you are comparing your husband with your "papa" and your marriage with your "papa" marriage when the Bible says looking unto Jesus... Nawah ooo |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by kellyzaf(m): 2:31pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000: Honestly Madam, ur husband is not ur problem, only u knows what ur problem is and i think is time u fix urself and stop this ur unnecessary complaint. My 2 cent!!! |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Munamoqel: 2:33pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000:you don dey eye some body for out side . My own thinking Sha . |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Winneygirl(f): 2:37pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000: This is your main issue. You married too young. Probably at 18. You had not lived life, and now you think that if your eyes were more open when you got married, you probably would not have chosen him as a husband. You want to do in your 30s what you should have done in your 20s. You sound like Your life revolves around your children and husband. You want to break free. I will advise that you and your husband see a family therapist. A counselor to help you navigate your marriage(not a pastor or religious figure oo). Then set aside a day or two monthly when you can have alone time. Take some space, go to a beach, go relax and just see the world. Your husband needs the same thing. Then set aside a day or two to go somewhere with your hubby alone. Spend time together away from your kids and rekindle your love. Also learn to have your kids spend some time with inlaws etc so you can have a quiet house. Let me warn you...The "freedom" you are looking for outside your marriage is not worth the trouble. Beta people no pass 2 again for this Nigeria. |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by BusinessPlan22: 2:39pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000: Ashawo |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Contekbbc: 2:39pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
You don't deserve him in the first place, break up with him asap. You will soon find what you're looking for. Being a single mother might be your divine ministry and nothing might be able to stop you From doing that,not even our advice. You seem not to know what you want. But you will find your match. Continue! |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by ibechris(m): 2:41pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000: I am sorry to say this. He has lied to u people. Many pastors have indeed destroy more homes than our politicians have done. Even in a home where the man beats the woman,pastors will still say u should remain in there until u are eventually killed. Be careful of what u let this Mummy GO'S and daddy GO'S tell u in the name of religion. Most of them don't even have good homes let alone good children. The only thing binding them together is what they will gain from the congregation. If I am lying to u,when was the last time your pastor preached about heaven,hell and righteous living. Use your tongue and count your teeth. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Sanchez01: 2:43pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
BigBashiru:Exploration is not in any way tied to greed. It is a human thing and depending on our personality, it is loud or reserved. Most explorers often understand life better as they have experienced different perspectives. In human relations, exploring means learning, experiencing and becoming a better judge of character. However, like every human decision, exploring might come with regrets which we definitely tuck away as "pasts". Exploration is not just about sex and I don't agree that it is sex an no compatibility. Demisexuals like myself will always disagree about this. I disagree with the choice paradox assertion. It is not tied to age and is not responsible for people marrying late. One is likely the consequences of choice if one suffers from indecision. I personally wouldn't consider anyone under the age bracket of 26 downwards as ripe for marriage. The might have aged but sometimes, the consciousness and epiphany of marriage hasn't hit home. Some would speak "marriagy", sound smart and seem ready but their subconscious, more often than not is still very much open to roaming, adventuring and living life. If you take those things away in marriage as a man. Ten years or so is all they have to wake up and realise that they want more and want away. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Kaypaparino(m): 2:43pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
[quote author=janejjjjj5000 post=112173193]I am tired. I have a better view of marriage. He is not meeting up. My children are saying that the way he talks when upsets affects them. The children cry and he apologizes to all of us. I know I sound confused but I am just tired. I feel that my children will not be seeing this when we divorce. That is why I don't want the marriage anymore. I just want all round peace. I am tired. ..I |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by jaxxy(m): 2:44pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Don't know what y'all think bt I can marry sm1 that don't love me in a genuine sense. it won't happen. I will rather have baby mamas like king Solomon than marry for the wrong reason. it's my philosophy. |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by BigBashiru: 2:46pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Sanchez01: Women explore until they see they have started aging then rush into marriage and then divorce...it's all tied to greed ... |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Livadesh: 2:48pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
janejjjjj5000: I'll advise you to please leave the man. He's not who you need at all. Leave him for grateful ladies that appreciate good men. As for you, you're undoubtedly an ingrate. |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 2:49pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
jaxxy:If love is for you the only right reason for marriage, that's all fine and good for you. But it isn't the only right reason for marriage and not all marriages are built on love. So it is kinds skewed to attempt to judge all marriages on love as standard for marriage when it isn't. As for Solomon, Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines, not baby mamas, this since Solomon only had about 8 children in total. These women were not baby mamas. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by reddingtonblack: 2:56pm On Apr 22, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: that was a rap! seems someone dropped from the sky, if you are fully aware with whats happening in our society who will know the reason we have so many crumbling marriages today is cos of underserving people venturing into marriage, there are people whose personality don't just fit into marriage and these is where merit comes in. Like i said, peace is relative to what you call it, buh the only place real peace exist is 6ft below, whether single or married you will alway have something you are chasing or chasing you, except you be NFA As vital as peace of mind is to ones health, no man is an island which means the world revolves around co existing & interrelationship. what people fail to realize is that the major peace you can get comes from you innerly, whatever partners provide should be supplementary. i think Op's mindset is being propelled by her illusions, when we are inside we think so much is happening outside until you reach outside then you see its all fantasy |
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