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|A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by abeniagbon(m): 8:45pm On Apr 24|
How will a sane person allow his wife's junior brother to come for holiday only to turn one of the guess room to his permanent room...
I have asked my wife many times when is your brother going , she will tell me not to put mouth in her family matters..
It getting annoying. Okay I got him a job at a filing station only for him to turn it down, said that work is not good enough for him ..each time I got back from work is either I see him hangin pillow in between his legs sleeping or chatting on facebook with white women.
I don't know who to report him. I don't know how to deal with this kind of issues... My kitchen had no peace ever since when he is around, even my bathroom cos he bath all most 4 times a day.... He gives excuses both here and there and this is making me to hate him the more...
Please I don't know if anyone had been in my shoe before, how do you handle it... ??
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by Kimiso(m): 8:57pm On Apr 24|
abeniagbon:bro don't be fed up,the more you give is the much more you achieve, givers never lack atall just leave him be with time he will come back to his senses and reason Like a real testicles
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by AsomArchitectNG(m): 9:02pm On Apr 24|
It's not everything you cry about. Set the records straight, You're a man for crying out loud!
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by abeniagbon(m): 9:02pm On Apr 24|
I don't have any hate to that, but I hate it when an able person seat down and be doing yahoo yahoo in my house with hope to scam someone when there is a countless of job. At least if I could get him a job and he refuses is that good enough?? To me he had lose focus to game instead of pursue his life. God said he will bless the work of thy hand. Sleeping and waking without doing something in my house is a big NO for me
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by abeniagbon(m): 9:03pm On Apr 24|
Abeg give me clue
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by AwesomeDuru(m): 9:56pm On Apr 24|
Kimiso:It's idiotts like you who comfortably leech off someone else's sweat.
Why not ask him if he's earning enough to be able to cater for another fully grown adult?
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by AwesomeDuru(m): 9:57pm On Apr 24|
abeniagbon:Tell him to pack his things and leave if he won't look for something to do with his life.
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by valdes00(m): 10:54pm On Apr 24|
I dnt knw how some people dey take enter marriage when they lack balls... Imagine a grown adult asking strangers for clue on hw to eject someone from his ouse..
I am sure its his wife paying the rents, so sure...
Even my brother no fit do anyhw, talk more of brother in law...
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by JUMO95: 11:08pm On Apr 24|
The question is are you capable of feeding an extra mouth? If you can't or you are not willing to spend, you'd have to make it clear that she'll bear Futher expenses
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by poshestmina(f): 11:33pm On Apr 24|
So he should feed, house and possibly clothe an adult who has refused to work, just because he's a BIL?
OP, give him a deadline. It's either he gets a job and starts contributing financially or LEAVE!
Can never be me, I don't even like people in my space for too long, much more, coming home after stressful days to see a leech sleeping comfortably . .
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by dnawah(m): 11:38pm On Apr 24|
abeniagbon:bros be man naw,tell him that he has welcome his over stayed.
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by OscarJaden(m): 11:45pm On Apr 24|
All he those is to chat with white women on watsapp or Facebook
Ali done start yahoo
Just believe in him,he will cash out by next month because tax refund the start
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by kelspinall(m): 11:46pm On Apr 24|
give him a deadline date to leave your house oga,shun your wife if she gets in the way,how can someone be supporting a grown ass young man to be staying idle at home. foolishness..the guy no even geh shame.. can't even remember the last time I visited any of my aunt or uncle talkless of staying more than 10 mins
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by uthlaw(m): 11:51pm On Apr 24|
OscarJaden:bro hwf,shey tax fund don de go ni!
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by OscarJaden(m): 11:52pm On Apr 24|
uthlaw:na by may e go xup again bossman
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by uthlaw(m): 11:57pm On Apr 24|
OscarJaden:DL and SS alone I think!
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by OscarJaden(m): 12:01am On Apr 25|
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by uthlaw(m): 12:02am On Apr 25|
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by Kiddogarcia(m): 12:02am On Apr 25|
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by Nobody: 12:42am On Apr 25|
I don't think there is a problem in your in-laws coming over to visit you in your house,.....the only problem here perhaps is the fact that despite looking for a job for him he still refuses to work, sleeps all day and chats with white women(probably yahoo,yahoo) who knows maybe that is why he doesn't even want to work at all.......
I suggest you call your wife, seat her down again and express your objections and concerns towards the lackadaisical attitudes of her brother, and if possible tell her what you think about the whole thing, i would expect her to speak senses into her brother after that and if she fail too...you can take action....
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by ImaIma1(f): 12:59am On Apr 25|
I understand op, I also do not like loafers. Tell him you are giving him 2 weeks to either get a job or go back to his parents house. Let your wife know that she's not doing him any.good encouraging his behaviour.
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by OscarJaden(m): 1:19am On Apr 25|
uthlaw:lol your welcome man
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by Kimiso(m): 1:35am On Apr 25|
abeniagbon:bro please is the guy name lekan
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by Kimiso(m): 4:09am On Apr 25|
AwesomeDuru:what do you mean idiots like me
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by SPOLO(m): 5:06am On Apr 25|
That guy tried o.
Even when I got admission and I was staying with my cousin....I did all my possible best to secure a lodge .
Though his wife is nice though and I am living comfortably there , but I feel like "I am Giving them more tasks and I do feel shy to be staying at home like that and when food is ready they will give mine..
E no even pass a month I left there.
I only visit them occasionally
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by Chisave: 6:11am On Apr 25|
You see now, that is the problem with relationships this days. Instead of you to make your position immediately, your lovey dovey will just keep you from taking your stand. Look at how your wife took her stand by telling you not to interfere in her family issue. Why can't you take your own stand from the onset. By now she would have known you to be a man of your word.
Infact the stand she took with you now, it will take courage 4 you to even advice your BIL. If you wish to react now, it may now lead to quarrel on what you would have prevented by taking a stand.
But you want to be labeled a nice inlaw, instead of you to be principled. See in this life, you don't need to be nice ooo else people will take advantage of you very well. You just need to have a good principle which you can bend depending on some circumstances.
My eldest bro sent our 4th born from his house because he refused working, only lazing around home after he has gone to work.
In this life have principle oo if you want to live a happy life.
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by yuping(m): 6:31am On Apr 25|
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by eventainment(m): 6:58am On Apr 25|
De there de make mouth like say e easy to evict person from your house.... Na so all the man in you go vanish when you don ready come especially when na your in-law you'd be sceptical and would want to be diplomátic about your actions.
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by Michelle55: 7:00am On Apr 25|
I don't want to believe that you're this spineless bro
The woman you married with your hard-earned money is telling you not to butt your head in her family business and still sees nothing wrong spending your money in taking care of the said family business, i.e. BIL( how ironic)
Now ask yourself this question, if it's your brother would she have accepted for him to stay this long without throwing tantrums?
She would find 1001 reasons why he's just leeching off on you and finds it lazy to do anything meaningful with his time. She go don put fire for Ya yarnsh to eject him from your home but as per say na her own relative, she no fit talk am.
See, I'm not against an in law housing and feeding the family members of his wife as long as it's balanced from both sides. You can't give me orders in my house, if my husband says you should work and contribute a quota in running the house omo you go do am, I don't care if you're from my husband's side or mine.
When has yahoo yahoo suddenly become a job or business?
Bros, give him a deadline; either he gets a job and be useful to himself while under your roof or he should pack his belongings and go back to his fathers house. C'est fini!
Lastly, it's time you man up and be the head of the house, issues like this is something you can handle without breaking a sweat.
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|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by fergieboy: 7:14am On Apr 25|
I bet if your wife brother was a girl
You would not be complaining
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by Bobbyjay001(m): 7:26am On Apr 25|
I am also in this dilemma. Wifey has been very sick and managing so CE over six years now. Though she goes to work (health officer).
Her mother who was very caring and understanding fell ill last year and has been with us since last April.
Though, we have someone who comes around to clean and take care of the house and they pay is on MIL. (She's a retired civil servant)
Mama has four children. My wifey is third and has a younger brother who for married last year.
MIL's first born is divrcee with three children in their hometown.
He second born lives on the same city with us lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment with her husband and four children. MIL stayed in her place for two months before she's dumped with us. ( Heard she's been maltreated by her daughter and SIL)
My wifey the third born has been battling with ulcer since over six years and has grown lean. We are family of five living in two bedroom rented apartment. Gave one to mama.
Despite the fact that someone comes around to clean and help and goes back when done, wifey still does a lot of work taking care of her. At times I feel pity for her, with her health condition.
Last born who's ismale also lives in the same with us but claims he can't accommodate mama cos he lives in a room and parlor self contained apartment. He's been so supportive ensuring we lack nothing. He's in charge of Mama's account and drops money regularly for upkeeps. He also comes around at least thrice a week to check mama.
My problem is my wifey's health. She isn't fine and still takes care of her ailing mother.
I don't want to sound like I don't want my MIL around. My children are still young (first being 7yo and last 4yo). The small wahala is taking toll on my wifey.
Don't know how to say it even to my wifey that mama should leave so as to take care of herself.
I don't want to sound ingrate or so.
|Re: A Guest That Doesn't Want To Leave by DJGiore: 9:49am On Apr 25|
you know what to do already but if i tell you still wont do it, just learn to accomodate the young dude btw log on to naija dj mix.com
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