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Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Streetmovement(m): 10:40am On May 03, 2022 |
This shouldn't even be a debate It's your child and nothing you can do to change that, I wonder why you're are afraid of telling your girl you got a kid? Like you said the relationship has moved to another stage. But before you go vomiting to her, be sure that's the girl you wanna marry someday because you can't just go around telling anyone you in a relationship/ fuckationship with that you got a kid especially if the relationship is not going anywhere in the near future, you gotta be true to yourself. A lot of people don't introduce their kids to their girlfriends/boyfriend's until they're sure of their relationships and who they are dealing with. If you're gonna do it, pls do it when you're ready and never take the decision base on your emotions or public pressure. Speaking from experience. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by EagleSquare1(m): 10:41am On May 03, 2022 |
Tell her straightaway about your daughter, and if she can’t love your offspring she can’t love you. There’s no point worrying. Your daughter is your blood. She needs full protection and a peaceful future with a woman that will love, cherish and protect her. My candid message Kingsley123456: |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by tiswell(m): 10:47am On May 03, 2022 |
KingsleyCEO:but they want men to take care of their numerous love children |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by tiswell(m): 10:50am On May 03, 2022 |
Purpletee:single mums and relationship advice are two parallel lines that can never meet. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by King2019(m): 10:50am On May 03, 2022 |
Kingsley123456:Is this supposed to be a joke |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by na2016: 10:50am On May 03, 2022 |
I didn't bother to read your story. However, from the caption, I will advise you to just tell her that you have a daughter somewhere. If she truly loves you, she will accept, but if she doesn't accept her, let her go! Don't stress yourself over any woman to accept to marry you in this world oo. You may not know this now but later you will. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by tiswell(m): 10:51am On May 03, 2022 |
ABCthings:Good observation,comrade! |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Germanwaka: 10:52am On May 03, 2022 |
Please break the news to her, she will break what is more than news to you. Don't dare to into marriage without letting her know it. You might leave to regret it later. Anaerobi: |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Saig: 10:55am On May 03, 2022 |
You have a child. Tell her. The most important thing is if you have repented. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by rickleye: 10:56am On May 03, 2022 |
Kingsley123456: Doing a little math. You got her pregnant at 18 years. And have a 13 year old daughter Go and watch Mr Inbetween* and watch the scene when he dates a woman. What information is usually shared. I don’t care if you don’t like the mother- It’s both of your fault for bringing in a child. You, for not withdrawing or wearing a condom. And her ,well…. Now, that kids done nothing wrong and I would expect you have a very good relationship with your daughter . Taking the kid to play, school, hanging out etc. ( Especially if you don’t want her growing up resenting men - like half the women on this forum do) At your age and maturity ( you’ve had to grow up fast with the responsibility of being a father or a Dead beat father) You are a package deal. The very first words after the second date with her should have been I have a beautiful teenager she does x,y,z. You should be confident by now on who you are. There is nothing to be ashamed about having a kid, I suppose having one out of wedlock but we are not in the 70’s anymore. ( I ain’t encouraging you but what is done is done and we no longer ostracize people anymore for such ) Listen, I’ve have some cousins whose mum ( my Aunt) forced them to call them Aunty cuz when a gentleman caller comes by they don’t want to suitors to be scared away. I found that weird , confusing and hilarious at the same time. So stop goofing around, grow some balls( confidence) and tell her this after you have had a romantic dinner.- Listen Liz, I never knew what we had would develop to this . Now that we are serious , I would to let you know that I have a kid, a girl. She’s 13 but stays with his mum. I see her once every month and she’s a good kid. The mum and I were never married . We were young and wild and silly. Then wait for her to respond. She may say 1. I have something to say as well ( She can’t have kids or has a kid of her own ) 2. Say, when can I meet your kid. 3. Withdraw and say, I have to think about the relationship in light of this information. Whatever her response - You do not deny your kid.!! Goodluck 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Djkenny080(m): 11:00am On May 03, 2022 |
This same thing don happen to meooo! |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Ebelelivinston: 11:03am On May 03, 2022 |
The moment u are scared of loosing her,u will never have rest of mind.Dont be scared of losing anyone |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Nobody: 11:03am On May 03, 2022 |
Serving rn means registered nurse ba?.... I feel you bro. Japa accomplice to UK and if you tell her things might not work again but then life goes on. Man up and tell her what she needs to know. if you now really care about her, you'd tell her. But you can as well wait till after your wedding sha because she go leave you. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Owoloyeoloye1(m): 11:04am On May 03, 2022 |
[quote author=Kingsley123456 post=112472328]I will be brief... I dated a lady in 2009, despite that she knows I wasn't ready to father a child, she got pregnant and hid it for about 5-6months before she came to my patents through my elder sister....now I hardly sleep, Well, I started dating another girl (23yr old) early last yr, obviously we started as a sex mate thinking the relationship was heading nowhere so I thought there was no point of being straightforward about having a child before meeting her.... Now I've seen other qualities that I like in her, we love each other and the relationship has taken another face, I don't want to lose her Care and love. I ought to have told her before, now I'm scared, I know she will be heartbroken, I don't know what she could do when I finally tell her, but what I know is that, she will leave me once she found out elsewhere.... We spoke last night and I asked her what can make her break up with me, her reply was, if her mother should reject me or if she herself should find out any of my secrets from another person...how do I tell her Honestly I'm afraid of loosing her...I'm 31yrs old, she's serving rn. Sex mate cum fiancée...lol |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by pargelenis(m): 11:04am On May 03, 2022 |
The OP has many sweet stories … I enjoyed his other thread “4 Ex Girlfriends Left Me With The Same Story, I Am Confused”. I hope he comes up with another juicy story soon. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Johnsown1(m): 11:07am On May 03, 2022 |
I will advice you to face yiur nightmare instead of running away. What be goona be. You can't hide it forever. Since your ready to father a child why don't you visit your first love. Try to man up |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by harmargedon: 11:15am On May 03, 2022 |
Simple: You: babe I have a daughter else where Babe: ok, this relationship is over then You: I'll kill myself if you leave me Babe: at least you have a daughter to take after you You: Nairaland; I'm about to commit suicide for being a SIMPle man. 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by overlord77: 11:32am On May 03, 2022 |
Kingsley123456: There is nothing to be scared of, the fling happened before you met her. Tell her what happened, if she decides to bounce then by all means let her but you will be happy within that you told the truth. It will hurt more if she eventually finds out by herself or she is told be the mother of your child. You know how some ladies can be |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by olubless90: 11:33am On May 03, 2022 |
The more you keep the secret from her, the closer u digging ur grave.... dnt let today go without telling her... |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by dreu2fine(m): 11:40am On May 03, 2022 |
Kingsley123456:Na you be man if she won go let her go them plenty Oooooo Ur dota is your pride. She a gift to you So go ahead n tell her ok Na you be man |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by fantastic1: 11:41am On May 03, 2022 |
[Genuine desire can not be negotiated. If she is not scared of losing you as much as you are scared of losing her, you are not doing something right Mehn. Tell her. If she goes she goes. Except you have made your life to revolve around another human being. The thing with humans are they are highly unpredictable unlike machines. So you are gambling with yourself. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by rajiedreez: 11:44am On May 03, 2022 |
Your relationship started on the wrong note, but telling someone a secret is difficult when you worry about the effect of the truth on them. But try to also consider the effects of lies on that same person, if you're not OK with the said effects, it's best you tell the truth and risk it |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Corporate2020: 11:54am On May 03, 2022 |
tiswell: Imagine oooo. A single mum is giving relationship advice. Just like Tufac and Davido advertising condom. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by returncole: 11:57am On May 03, 2022 |
2009 - 2022 = 13yrs 31 - 13 = 18yrs How long have you been fornicating? Repent! |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Jesubaby: 12:03pm On May 03, 2022 |
[quote author=Kingsley123456 post=112472328]I will be brief... I dated a lady in 2009, despite that she knows I wasn't ready to father a child, she got pregnant Yet, you were having an unprotected sex with her. Whose fault? Abeg, proudly tell whoever you want to marry about your child jare. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Finest6: 12:05pm On May 03, 2022 |
Tell her nothing will happen. It's better to inform her that you have a child. Don't let her find out later because that would be a worse case. If she truly loves you she will stay. |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by sniperr007(m): 12:09pm On May 03, 2022 |
Kingsley123456: Tell her. She will come around. Women no too dey carry "after one" like guys |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Idoksboss: 12:13pm On May 03, 2022 |
Kingsley123456: If you were to be in her shoes, what will be your action...? Will you marry her? |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by Lepon02: 12:15pm On May 03, 2022 |
Kingsley123456: Be a man and stop pussyfooting! |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by tiswell(m): 12:44pm On May 03, 2022 |
Corporate2020:e shock me fa,comrade!
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Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by BalticGold: 1:03pm On May 03, 2022 |
I too had a child before l got married. I decided to tell whoever will be my wife about it before l propose. I told a young lady about my child, you need to see her reaction. That ended the relationship. I moved on, met my wife, told her and was cool with it. We have been married for 8 years now, no challenge on the account of my son. Tell her the truth and let her decide! |
Re: How Do I Tell Her I Have A Daughter Elsewhere! by ABANGWABOI(m): 1:07pm On May 03, 2022 |
Kingsley123456: A so called man that is scared of loosing a Woman.. is she a means of livelihood that you should be scared of loosing... You are a Big SIMP.. |
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