Magnoliaa:
Na love you love. You no kee persin.

God1000:
so that's the best advise you can give her

chioma213:
Hi, my name is Chioma(definitely not my real name). I created this account just to get some advice on how I feel about a certain married young man.
I'm 39, married with 3 kids? (a boy and 2 girls), I am the CSM of the oldest bank in Nigeria, with a branch in Port-Harcourt.
How did it start? In 2020, I crossed paths with a young guy from Akwa Ibom State (let's call him K), he is 33 yrs old, good-looking, and caring, he represents an organization that is affiliated with the Federal Government. The organization sends him and his team to come to pick cash from my branch for their operations every Sunday or Monday early morning, one thing lead to another and we exchanged contacts. We started chatting and it got to the point that if I don't see his "hi" or "bae"( he usually calls me", I'll be so uncomfortable that my whole night will be moody, sometimes if my husband is around and wants sex, I'll just lay like a wood till he is done and sleeps off.
Sometimes, when he comes on Sunday, I'll wear one of my most revealing clothes so I can get his attention, as it makes me feel like having him. In 2021 March to be precise, he broke my heart and got married, God so bless his wife doesn't reside in Port-Harcourt and only comes during holidays, we have been having a really good chat, sometimes December last year(2021), my husband traveled to the village with the kids and since I occupy an important part of the bank, I cannot just leave without someone responsible taking over. My husband nearly caught me one day when he called in the middle of the night on video, I had to switch off my phone and block him immediately, I'm not proud of what I'm doing, but it gives me thrills whenever I'm with him. He understands and my kids are so fond of him, that whenever they are around him, I just have this peace over me, as he has this eagle eye that watches over them.
Recently I lost my father and my in-law, who was staying with us, no amount of consolation was enough except from K, He came around for a condolence visit, and he took his time to tell me about life and death and his smooth tone, I just melted into his hands, I just had to respect myself as they were people around us. He checks up on my morning and evening, if I have not eaten all day, he just has a way of making food for me (he is a very good cook and he bakes too) and sending one of his boys to bring it, if he is not at home, he will order the foods from one of my favorites online food vendor. How do I get over this feeling, as it is killing me, should I divorce my husband, how about his wife, what will happen? You all are free to do insult me or say things that will hurt, but in all, I'll sieve and get appropriate recommendations.


cc: lalasticlala, farano, Rocktation, please help me

chioma213:
Hi, my name is Chioma(definitely not my real name). I created this account just to get some advice on how I feel about a certain married young man.
I'm 39, married with 3 kids? (a boy and 2 girls), I am the CSM of the oldest bank in Nigeria, with a branch in Port-Harcourt.
How did it start? In 2020, I crossed paths with a young guy from Akwa Ibom State (let's call him K), he is 33 yrs old, good-looking, and caring, he represents an organization that is affiliated with the Federal Government. The organization sends him and his team to come to pick cash from my branch for their operations every Sunday or Monday early morning, one thing lead to another and we exchanged contacts. We started chatting and it got to the point that if I don't see his "hi" or "bae"( he usually calls me", I'll be so uncomfortable that my whole night will be moody, sometimes if my husband is around and wants sex, I'll just lay like a wood till he is done and sleeps off.
Sometimes, when he comes on Sunday, I'll wear one of my most revealing clothes so I can get his attention, as it makes me feel like having him. In 2021 March to be precise, he broke my heart and got married, God so bless his wife doesn't reside in Port-Harcourt and only comes during holidays, we have been having a really good chat, sometimes December last year(2021), my husband traveled to the village with the kids and since I occupy an important part of the bank, I cannot just leave without someone responsible taking over. My husband nearly caught me one day when he called in the middle of the night on video, I had to switch off my phone and block him immediately, I'm not proud of what I'm doing, but it gives me thrills whenever I'm with him. He understands and my kids are so fond of him, that whenever they are around him, I just have this peace over me, as he has this eagle eye that watches over them.
Recently I lost my father and my in-law, who was staying with us, no amount of consolation was enough except from K, He came around for a condolence visit, and he took his time to tell me about life and death and his smooth tone, I just melted into his hands, I just had to respect myself as they were people around us. He checks up on my morning and evening, if I have not eaten all day, he just has a way of making food for me (he is a very good cook and he bakes too) and sending one of his boys to bring it, if he is not at home, he will order the foods from one of my favorites online food vendor. How do I get over this feeling, as it is killing me, should I divorce my husband, how about his wife, what will happen? You all are free to do insult me or say things that will hurt, but in all, I'll sieve and get appropriate recommendations.


cc: lalasticlala, farano, Rocktation, please help me

chioma213:
Hi, my name is Chioma(definitely not my real name). I created this account just to get some advice on how I feel about a certain married young man.
I'm 39, married with 3 kids? (a boy and 2 girls), I am the CSM of the oldest bank in Nigeria, with a branch in Port-Harcourt.
How did it start? In 2020, I crossed paths with a young guy from Akwa Ibom State (let's call him K), he is 33 yrs old, good-looking, and caring, he represents an organization that is affiliated with the Federal Government. The organization sends him and his team to come to pick cash from my branch for their operations every Sunday or Monday early morning, one thing lead to another and we exchanged contacts. We started chatting and it got to the point that if I don't see his "hi" or "bae"( he usually calls me", I'll be so uncomfortable that my whole night will be moody, sometimes if my husband is around and wants sex, I'll just lay like a wood till he is done and sleeps off.
Sometimes, when he comes on Sunday, I'll wear one of my most revealing clothes so I can get his attention, as it makes me feel like having him. In 2021 March to be precise, he broke my heart and got married, God so bless his wife doesn't reside in Port-Harcourt and only comes during holidays, we have been having a really good chat, sometimes December last year(2021), my husband traveled to the village with the kids and since I occupy an important part of the bank, I cannot just leave without someone responsible taking over. My husband nearly caught me one day when he called in the middle of the night on video, I had to switch off my phone and block him immediately, I'm not proud of what I'm doing, but it gives me thrills whenever I'm with him. He understands and my kids are so fond of him, that whenever they are around him, I just have this peace over me, as he has this eagle eye that watches over them.
Recently I lost my father and my in-law, who was staying with us, no amount of consolation was enough except from K, He came around for a condolence visit, and he took his time to tell me about life and death and his smooth tone, I just melted into his hands, I just had to respect myself as they were people around us. He checks up on my morning and evening, if I have not eaten all day, he just has a way of making food for me (he is a very good cook and he bakes too) and sending one of his boys to bring it, if he is not at home, he will order the foods from one of my favorites online food vendor. How do I get over this feeling, as it is killing me, should I divorce my husband, how about his wife, what will happen? You all are free to do insult me or say things that will hurt, but in all, I'll sieve and get appropriate recommendations.


cc: lalasti.clala, farano, Rocktation, please help me

God1000:
so that's the best advise you can give her

Xscape1993:
Please and please face your home. This is pure lust. Make your home peaceful and you will get that peace of mind. Don't invite any trouble into your home ooo. The devil you know is far better than the angel you don't know ooo. Married women hold your husbands tight ooo except for domestic violence that may lead to death...

God1000:
It won't end well, you better have a rethink before it's too late.

The Bible frowns at Extramarital affairs

ChoCho54:
Madam you are mad. Imagine involving your children in this?
His wife will soon call you on phone.

zexy2030:

You want to file a divorce for a stranger, you just met based on official duties? That's so dumb and unprofessional. You have made your choice, you have made your commitment.

Turn it the other way, let the dart you are throwing at ur loving husband be directed at you. How would you feel.

You don't reason logically, but imagine the emotional damage to your kids and husband, if divorce is raised. Because of a man who is married and trying to build his home.

What I feel is happening is an infuatuation and lusts that won't last. Stop seeking fulfilment where it can't be found. Lack of contentment can ruin your life for ever.

Always remember the temptation of eve that ruined humanity,

This decision might make you loose your life and your children's.

Your children may love him because he is a friend to the family, but know already you are cheating on your man.


Avoid that apple, the end result is a result packaged with suicide.

thorpido:
Does your husband work outside Port Harcourt?

chioma213:

His wife is stationed somewhere else, she rarely comes to Port-Harcourt, only like once in a month or twice,

chioma213:
then why do I feel so much peace when I'm around him?