ZIMDRILL:
you got no idea of immigration and visa, its not nigerian embassy that will issue visa in this circumstanes but the the american embassy and it will consider how they have been living

Kobojunkie:
The American embassy recognizes Nigerian law where immigrants from Nigeria are being processed.

Unless the couple in question are Americans or have had their union previously registered in America, the law that is applied is instead the constitution of their country of origin, and in this scenario, the Nigerian marriage law is what is upheld.

Mindlog:


So based on how they have been living going by the story (which has been recycled severally), will the American embassy consider them married even without their traditional marriage being registered in their local registry?

ZIMDRILL:
yes i know that ir recognise nigerian law but it doesnt mean only registered married couple are allowed in america, hence i said the embassy will ask they have been living in this case they married traditionally and have been living as husband and wife

Foodqueen:
Old story

Is the story yours

Copy and paste

ZIMDRILL:


the marriage would be seen as un registered and they will asked to bring affidavits statements etc to prove that their are married traditionally unregistered without doubt

Mindlog:


Can you post link(s) to the US embassy webpage that reflects what you posted because what I have seen on their website over the years is presenting the original copy of one's marriage certificate and a photocopy of it, have never seen presenting affidavits statements as an option.

Kobojunkie:
Again, the embassy works according to Nigerian law and Nigerian Law explicitly states that only marriages that are registered are considered legal.

Only Nigerian marriages that are registered or certified by courts are recognized by the American embassy.

Kobojunkie:
Again, the embassy works according to Nigerian law and Nigerian Law explicitly states that only marriages that are registered are considered legal. Only Nigerian marriages that are registered or certified by courts are recognized by the American embassy.

ZIMDRILL:


they want those only if you claim to have registered marriage


are you saying a couple on traditional marriage cant apply visa becaise their are not married?

Oluwatobike:
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up.

I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason.

My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions.

He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock.

My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a
multinational company and things started to turn around for me.

I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me.

My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No”

My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also.

His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

What is your advice for this young mother of three?

virginchaser:
Shebi, Shell or Mobil will lay you off one day and family will be your comforter. Also, your palee (dad) will also kick bucket and go too. We men can be somehow atimes but it takes good women to mend fences. The issue ought not be an outside decision nor discussion. Be as it may, forgive and forget.

If i am your husband i would not bother myself over such. I will keep my pride.

virginchaser:
Shebi, Shell or Mobil will lay you off one day and family will be your comforter. Also, your palee (dad) will also kick bucket and go too. We men can be somehow atimes but it takes good women to mend fences. The issue ought not be an outside decision nor discussion. Be as it may, forgive and forget.

If i am your husband i would not bother myself over such. I will keep my pride.

WantsandMore:
You are wise and the bible says wisdom is profitable to direct.

Saintmary:




Wee you keep kwayet?



If you as a husband refuses to marry a woman in court just to make her marriage to you insecure, then you deserve anything she does to you.


ANYTHING!


Go and eat your pride.


Can you imagine "we men are somehow" yen yen yen.


Na good woman dey suffer, that is why Osinachi Nwachukwu died.



Nonsense.

virginchaser:


We are not talking about abusive husband here. I had supported many sisters to walk out of abusive marriages. Recently a junior friend was deceived by London boy to resign from a managerial job and marry him. She found out the boy was living in a shoe box like room in UK and could not stop hitting her at every slight argument. She got her papers and walked out to channel a better cause.

As a lady you need to be wise to survive marriage. Identify the thin line in between. This case is not a life threatening. Any how you interpret it we are African men irrespective of women liberation. Back to bed my dear.

Oluwatobike:
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up.

I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason.

My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions.

He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock.

My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a
multinational company and things started to turn around for me.

I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me.

My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No”

My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also.

His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

What is your advice for this young mother of three?

bukatyne:


Since you men can be somehow, the fictional OP has decided to be somehow also.

Nobody has the monopoly of madness so when you are tempted to be 'somehow' remember that the recipient of your actions also has the capacity to be 'somehow'.

gratefulheart:
Copy cat

bukatyne:


Read the Bible a little further and you will see where you shouldn't do evil at all and whatever a man sows, he will reap.

Oluwatobike:
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up.

I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason.

My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions.

He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock.

My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a
multinational company and things started to turn around for me.

I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me.

My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No”

My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also.

His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

What is your advice for this young mother of three?

Mindlog:


Countries like the US, Canada, UK etc, you must submit your marriage certificate to prove your marital status. If it was not needed,, the husband in the story would not be talking about going to the registry for another wedding.

ZIMDRILL:


i am not disputing that am saying for those who are married customary/traditionally they have their type of visa meaning they can still can get a visa under their circumstance

ZIMDRILL:
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ZIMDRILL:
so you think only resgistered marriage people are the only people who are allowed apply as couple?

for your own information a gay/lesbain couple can apply a visa as couple even though their relationship is illegal in nigeria

Echoban:


Oya now let her go and marry another man who LL make her have legal marriage certificate she can travel with, she should do that fast and move all her children asap. Hope she LL b alright with that

Shey una no get sense ni.

Bible says forgiveness gives u peace of mi d and save u from unnecessary wahala.. I'm not saying the man didn't fuckup but u do t need to avenge everything. Do d needful and see the man regretting, appreciating and loving her better this time with all sincerity of heart.

No b everything b gbas gbos abeg.

virginchaser:


We are not talking about abusive husband here. I have supported many sisters to walk out of abusive marriages in the past. Recently a junior friend was deceived by London boy to resign from a managerial job and marry him. She found out the boy was living in a shoe box like room in UK and could not stop hitting her at every little argument. She got her papers and walked out to channel a better cause.

As a lady you need to be wise to survive marriage. Identify the thin line in between. This case is not a life threatening one. Any how you interpret it we are African men, irrespective of women liberation. Back to bed my dear.

Saintmary:



1. She doesn't owe him anything


2. The marriage documents are only meant to help the man to tag along.

3. She will live better, save more money and retire as a rich woman without him.



Forgiveness is a privilege in this case, only the woman can decide if he is worth it.