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This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 3:43pm On May 18, 2022
With apologies to this fellow, I make this complaint.

Please, how can I handle this situation I found myself in this shared room.

I am someone who likes and respect peoples privacy and mine a lot and this was why it took me time to opt for a shared apartment until things got out of hand and I had to settle for it due to lack of sufficient funds.

The issue is about this fellow. The first night I got there, after a few mins she just went completely unclad. In my mind, I thought it was because she wanted to bathe, that she'll probably get into a nighty once she's done but to my surprise, she didn't. And the way she goes about unclad, bending in front of me is so disturbing. I feel like telling her to cover up a bit but I know I can't.
I know the weather is hot but hey... we need to show some decency here.

The first night I did that nonsense but that was after the light was turned off but yesterday, mehn... I couldn't continue so I wore my panties and later covered up a bit with wrapper but she'll just come and open everything waaaa... And its getting on my nerves.

This has got me wondering, so this is how this students leave their bodies anyhow?

I'm still trying to absorb everything about this new lifestyle because I've never seen such before. Though, when I was living alone, I used to go to sleep the way God created me. That is because I'm all alone. Not when someone is around. I can't

I asked the man in charge if I can put a partition, he said the fan would disturb it otherwise, I planned to call a capenter to come and partition my space. Its not too late. I might still get a mobile partition by weekend if I find something nice.

What do you think, fam.?

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by LagosToyota3: 3:47pm On May 18, 2022
What sort of shared apartment is that.

A single room?

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by caesymore(m): 3:48pm On May 18, 2022
Its hard staying with someone, both parties find it difficult from their different echelon of perception. You just listed out your complains about your roommate, kindly note she might have one or two against you which to her might be as severe as yours.

There are levels to privacy and when in a shared apartment like yours, partitioning might even hinder your access to proper ventilation.
With time you might get used to it but if you know you can't, find a polite way to let her know that she makes you uncomfortable parading her nude self. But if I'm you as much as I detest such too I will find a way around it because most times confrontation is a bitch if not handled right.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 3:48pm On May 18, 2022
LagosToyota3:
What sort of shared apartment is that.

A single room?

Yep.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by LagosToyota3: 3:54pm On May 18, 2022
Channah1:


Yes. A bed space was what I ended up getting as a matter of urgency.

Oh i see.

Sorry.

But i thought women were always comfortable with seeing each other's bodies cos of the way the act

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Shalommy(f): 3:55pm On May 18, 2022
Chaii... Nothing there to be scared of or are you not a female? Maybe, you're interested in her body. Hmm.. lipsrsealed

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 3:58pm On May 18, 2022
LagosToyota3:


Oh i see.

Sorry.

But i thought women were always comfortable with seeing each other's bodies cos of the way the act

No o. Not me. How will someone just come and open yansh in my presence and be going up and down the room.

If she does it and goes straight to bed, fine but she'll be up for some time like that before finally retiring to bed.
The first time I followed her to do it, it was straight to bed and I didn't get up again till Dawn.

Na wa o.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 3:58pm On May 18, 2022
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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 4:01pm On May 18, 2022
Shalommy:
Chaii... Nothing there to be scared of or are you not a female? Maybe, you're interested in her body. Hmm.. lipsrsealed

Interested?? shocked. Are you normal?

I'm saying something is pissing me off, you're saying I'm interested.. mhen! Your reasoning ehn?

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Shalommy(f): 4:04pm On May 18, 2022
Channah1:


Interested?? shocked. Are you normal?

I'm saying something is pissing me off, you're saying I'm interested.. mhen! Your reasoning ehn?
Chaii... cheesy cheesy Babygirl chill... Copy!

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 4:06pm On May 18, 2022
Shalommy:
Chaii... cheesy cheesy Babygirl chill... Copy!

Ok.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by SensualMan: 4:06pm On May 18, 2022
You complain a lot u this boy. U were better off in the uncompleted building u were living before, however if its not too late I have an uncompleted building if u don't mind living there cos its very spacious, befitting of ur status.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by tayo60(f): 4:07pm On May 18, 2022
Call her to order. Explain to her how you feel uncomfortable seen her walking up and down unclad

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 4:11pm On May 18, 2022
tayo60:
Call her to order. Explain to her how you feel uncomfortable seen her walking up and down unclad

You know if I call her to order now, the next thing she'll remind me to go and rent a single room if I can't stay in a shared one. And how she's also paying for her space.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by SensualMan: 4:12pm On May 18, 2022
Channah1:


You and your family will move into the uncompleted building very soon. Its not for me anymore.

Oponu.
So my good gesture is now a bad thing?

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Chidi2022: 4:23pm On May 18, 2022
Sometimes, learn to over look some things...
Don't always complain over every and all...
If you were living in a face me i face you compound, and there is a neighbor who likes going about naked, shey you will overlook and endure.... please try and see it that way...

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by badaru911: 4:47pm On May 18, 2022
Channah1:


The first night I did that nonsense but that was after the light was turned off but yesterday, mehn... I couldn't continue so I wore my panties and later covered up a bit with wrapper but she'll just come and open everything waaaa... And its getting on my nerves.

.... This gat me laughing really hard... You gat to tell her in a cool and understanding way...

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 4:58pm On May 18, 2022
badaru911:

.... This gat me laughing really hard... You gat to tell her in a cool and understanding way...

I don't think I'll be able to tell her cos I believe she should know better especially as she's not a small girl like that.

Just thinking if I should get a mobile partition.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Sukkyy2010: 5:00pm On May 18, 2022
Channah1:


No o. Not me. How will someone just come and open yansh in my presence and be going up and down the room.

If she does it and goes straight to bed, fine but she'll be up some time like that before finally retiring to bed.
The first time I followed joined her to do it, it was straight to bed and I didn't get up again till Dawn.

Na was o.
So you once join her with the act, which simply mean you've unintentionally encourage her to keep up with the act. Hmmm female and unclothedness.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 5:04pm On May 18, 2022
Sukkyy2010:

So you once join her with the act, which simply mean you've unintentionally encourage her to keep up with the act. Hmmm female and unclothedness.

I didn't encourage her o. Its just probably her way and she finds it difficult to adjust.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by waistbead: 5:33pm On May 18, 2022
SensualMan:
You complain a lot u this boy. U were better off in the uncompleted building u were living before, however if its not too late I have an uncompleted building if u don't mind living there cos its very spacious, befitting of ur status.


grin grin grin grin grin grin you're a clown!

Bia mercychen zukwanuike! Ogini di?

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Michelle55: 5:50pm On May 18, 2022
Lol, the person behind this moniker is a clown no be lie cheesy
See as I just dey laugh as she dey describe how her roomie take open yarnsh waaaaa grin
Follow her open too nau and if you ain't cool with it, have a polite conversation with her, and who knows you guys might find a common ground.
Tbh, there's nothing wrong in walking unclad in the presence of a fellow lady. I guess that's how she is and she's been free with you.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by oceanized25(m): 5:58pm On May 18, 2022
My older room mate in school used to do this, especially when he want to sleep n he will be like that till the morning hours...I used to be irritated by it but later I stopped caring,fast forward to graduation and I am here,naked in the comfort of my room,replying about unclothedness...it's really a nakeding situation cool

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Mindlog: 6:15pm On May 18, 2022
We have indoor nudists. If you share accommodation with them, there is nothing you can tell them to make them cover up.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Lari03r(m): 6:31pm On May 18, 2022
This is ridiculous.

It shows you have a crude mindset. You are both female and she chooses to be naked, that is her choice and if you don't want to see her naked, close your eyes.

As long she is not making advances towards you, learn to tolerate her. If you keep acting like a judge, you will have no friends or acquaintances.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Channah1(f): 6:50pm On May 18, 2022
oceanized25:
My older room mate in school used to do this, especially when he want to sleep n he will be like that till the morning hours...I used to be irritated by it but later I stopped caring,fast forward to graduation and I am here,naked in the comfort of my room,replying about unclothedness...it's really a nakeding situation cool

O you too? Ta!

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Uniquetani1(f): 7:19pm On May 18, 2022
I like my private space jare
I am not comfortable with that kind of act and you can't call her to order since both of you are paying for the space.
You go take am like that

Abi she be lezz

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Johnsown1(m): 7:49pm On May 18, 2022
Channah1:
With apologies to this fellow, I make this complaint.

Please, how can I handle this situation I found myself in this shared room.

I am someone who likes and respect peoples privacy and mine a lot and this was why it took me time to opt for a shared apartment until things got out of hand and I had to settle for it due to lack of sufficient funds.

The issue is about this fellow. The first night I got there, after a few mins she just went completely unclad. In my mind, I thought it was because she wanted to bathe, that she'll probably get into a nighty once she's done but to my surprise, she didn't. And the way she goes about unclad, bending in front of me is so disturbing. I feel like telling her to cover up a bit but I know I can't.
I know the weather is hot but hey... we need to show some decency here.

The first night I did that nonsense but that was after the light was turned off but yesterday, mehn... I couldn't continue so I wore my panties and later covered up a bit with wrapper but she'll just come and open everything waaaa... And its getting on my nerves.

This has got me wondering, so this is how this students leave their bodies anyhow?

I'm still trying to absorb everything about this new lifestyle because I've never seen such before. Though, when I was living alone, I used to go to sleep the way God created me. That is because I'm all alone. Not when someone is around. I can't

I asked the man in charge if I can put a partition, he said the fan would disturb it otherwise, I planned to call a capenter to come and partition my space. Its not too late. I might still get a mobile partition by weekend if I find something nice.

What do you think, fam.?



Sometimes the reason of existence is tolerance. We need to tolerate each other, if you can't tolerate then it will be very hard to co-exist. So I will advice you to forget about the carpenter works because that's how students behaves in other to avoid internal war. Save some funds and get your own apartment even if it's not that hot but accommodative

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by NoToPile: 8:02pm On May 18, 2022
Loool, the way the OP described it sha.

I also wouldn't feel comfortable with a roomie walking about stark naked, stark naked is the issue here.

Pele OP.

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by Chevrolet076(m): 8:08pm On May 18, 2022
Channah1:


No o. Not me. How will someone just come and open yansh in my presence and be going up and down the room.

If she does it and goes straight to bed, fine but she'll be up some time like that before finally retiring to bed.
The first time I followed joined her to do it, it was straight to bed and I didn't get up again till Dawn.

Na was o.


Why did you join her..?

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Re: This Is Why Ive Been Avoiding A Shared Apartment. How Can I Handle This? by greenie77: 8:13pm On May 18, 2022
Hmm...I recall I chatted with someone who was offering to rent out the extra bedroom in the flat and was very forward about the preference for a flat mate who is 100% at ease with nudity within the confines of the flat (same gender) but doesn't have to also go nude, I aborted mission. cheesy

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