mirob:

@ivynwa U have said it all,even in this our great forum Nl,some people make mockery of other peoples plight that they will hardly come here to seek succor except 4 the hard ones. Pls moderators do something.

madam are u a pastor or a pastress??

kokoye:

The society will call you all kinds of names . .and this can be tough to handle.

Even your female friends will indirectly flash their kids in front of you, and still tell you to 'stay strong'

This is why you see poeple living in church or going to dine with herbalists or occultists

Some churches also do not help . . .they tell you you have the problem because 'you are not sering God enough'

Sad but true.

But not only Nigerians. I have witnessed some westerners go thru this situations before. . .

God help us.

pDude:

I am hearing a lot of bla bla bla on this thread. Pple here seem to be talking about westernism, marriager being more than kids, family support, bla forkin bla. Abeg make person hear word jor! What the hell happened to her womb? Nobody seems to be address that particular issue which seems to be the main source of the whole tragedy. Did the womb disappear into thin air? Was she born without one? What manner of disease was alleged to have destroyed the womb?

Let these questions be answered before most females here start to shift blames. What the hell did she do with her womb? If she by any chance committed an abortion that went south, then may she roast in hell cos she's getting her reward for murder: so says karma and not me.

Elpieda:


Ohh freaking shut the hell up, SO you think every woman who gets her womb removed had an abortion, Nigerians and their foolish myopic thinking, Please go and do your research before yarning dust.

She had an Ovarian cyst and it usually affects all women of all ages, Go read about the causes and symptoms yourself,

Elpieda:

^^^^^Go scout for your "confirmed and objective" and yes I knew her very well

omopatos:

I am deeply touched by the story of this lady. You can only imagine the pain she had been through. This lady had a benefit of good education and she was not in lack of good job. She however had issue with her womb. She must have laboured under the thought of being a childless woman and the attendant social stigma. Honestly, we have a terrible culture around here which makes it look like there is no life without a child. This is not true. Civilization has not changed some people’s view of life- not even the supposedly sophisticated among them. Her situation was not helped by her fiancée who was probably her only motivation for living. She got abandoned when she needed him the most.
It is easy to hurl blame at this man for the lady’s unsavoury fate but truth is, how many of us men can stay having been in the know of the state of her womb before marriage? Few, for sure. But this is not supposed to be so. This life is not a flower in the garden. We all have issues and no one is immune against life’s vicissitudes. I guess the impact of the news shattered whatever remained of her courage to live. I know of people who are living with more terrible issues but for this sister, it was just too much for her depressed mind and she had to call it quit. I do not support suicide but we should be careful to blame her.
Please do not under-estimate the power of depression. To say it is devastating is to make an oversimplification of a serious issue. I have suffered depression big time. In fact,I doubt seriously if I have recovered fully from it. So I am eminently qualified to talk about it. In depression, it is you against the whole world. Living makes no sense to you. Your university Degrees or good job makes no sense either. You just want to get out of this system of things.
The question is: where is the place of love in all of this?
To our sisters in here, next time a man says he loves you, it will not be too much of a request to ask him to define it. Love is not a walk in the park. Think with your head because in a matter of the heart, logic is always in short supply. A man will say he loves you, yet he wants to force his way into your virginals. Please ask him to define that kind of love. When you are pregnant, he asks you to abort it before taking you to the altar. Again ask him to define that kind of love. If you abort and are unfortunate to have complications during evacuation which results, probably, in a similar case of the lady in question, he abandons you in the most unfriendly way. I like to say here that complications from abortion is just one of several reasons that could necessitate removal of womb. I am not in any way insinuating this was what happened to this sister since I am not privy to what transpired in the relationship, but my point is that ladies should be on guard because the are always at the receiving end.
And to my male folk, the fact that you leave a lady for another is not a guarantee that the new one does not or will not have issues. In fact, it could be worse. People get married and later in life suffer one disease or the other. It could be cancer or impotence. But nobody will come out to announce what he or she is going through because life must go on. And that is the time this real love we pretend to understand will be on call. I wish this lady had found that kind of love. Good bye, Motunrayo

Elpieda:


Ohh freaking shut the hell up, SO you think every woman who gets her womb removed had an abortion, Nigerians and their foolish myopic thinking, Please go and do your research before yarning dust.

She had an Ovarian cyst and it usually affects all women of all ages, Go read about the causes and symptoms yourself,

pDude:

I am hearing a lot of bla bla bla on this thread. Pple here seem to be talking about westernism, marriager being more than kids, family support, bla forkin bla. Abeg make person hear word jor! What the hell happened to her womb? Nobody seems to be address that particular issue which seems to be the main source of the whole tragedy. Did the womb disappear into thin air? Was she born without one? What manner of disease was alleged to have destroyed the womb?

Let these questions be answered before most females here start to shift blames. What the hell did she do with her womb? If she by any chance committed an abortion that went south, then may she roast in hell cos she's getting her reward for murder: so says karma and not me.

pDude:

Oh freaking shut up yourself. Can't you read plain english? I said, "if by any chance". Keep your insults to yourself pls. I never saw anywhere in the article that talked about an ovarian cyst. You seem to know a lot about her. Is she a relative of yours? And just so you know, I know a great deal about of ovarian cysts than you do so just chill out. Ok.

Please I need a confirmed and objective link that talks about her having an overian cyst procedure. Thanks.

pDude:

As my ohafia pple would say, doo gbu onwe yan. She doo gbu onwe yan -ed herself. Another victim of love gone sour. Abeg, ladies, killing yourself over anything. You life is your most valued possession.

claremont:

Good point! Some Nigerian ladies indulge in all sorts when they are young, and they forget that there will be consequences and repercussions later in Life. No one is insinuating that it is what happened in this case, but it is still a sound point nevertheless. May her soul R.I.P.

Konjour:

Anybody that commits suicide can never have any justifiable reason for doing so, Shame,ego,pride,depressions,and disappointments being the

major proponents of suicide are experienced by any living soul in varying magnitudes whilst they're alive. According to the story i saw,the lady had

even attempted committing suicide last year,so its been coming for long. Smacks of mental frailty,if you ask me. Anyways,wish her soul the redemption

she requires.