DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.
Tell her there's no problem as long she is coming with her husband for the visit

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

Wallade:


Oga! Stop bragging here. Pray that God should help you resist the weapon of a woman in the hands of the devil.

Even Adam could not hold his own against Eve so who are you?

When women set out for you, I repeat, you can't stand the onslaught for so long.

Woman is the greatest weapon and last resort of the devil against a strong and successful man. They will take you down but for God.

IamAsiri:


Who told you that the woman is thinking that way? And how are sure that the husband is not aware or even suggested it? Not all women are bad, regardless of whatever you might have experienced or what your dad could have experienced.

Hassanmaye:

This your statement Makes me laugh terribly

emmanuelbrown26:

And I still maintain my ground that its only a weakling that does that, beside u sound too weak in handling women. Maybe u hv to change d circle of people u do meet.
its not about bragging, all these whole thing is about mindset, d way u build your mindset is just d way it will work for u and around u.
Meet people with willpower and u will understand.

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

u seff don conclude say na church mind she won use EPP am ,ABI her eyes don dey chook for man wey get money pass her husband own,make he fit dey sort her bills now wey her husband broke. Neva can trust this church mind ladies.

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

43Ronin:


OP sef wan claw the woman. Maybe 2 of them don dey eye each other before and maybe she set wella na why OP dey reason am. 2 of them go don use eye claw themselves finish, this one na to just finish the work. Hom go don chop the woman by now. Fear women named ugochi & chidinma... dem dey claw anything

IamAsiri:


That's how some of you add 2+2 up and come up with 20. How sure are you that the husband is not aware of her message? Or don't you know that it's how women think? The least the women thought she could help with is the house chores, because she believes that the family is indebted to the man. The man can choose to politely decline and laugh it off, that the help he rendered is not a big deal. Else, they'd will be acting as if they are walking as if on eggshells around him.

43Ronin:


OP sef wan claw the woman. Maybe 2 of them don dey eye each other before and maybe she set wella na why OP dey reason am. 2 of them go don use eye claw themselves finish, this one na to just finish the work. Hom go don chop the woman by now. Fear women named ugochi & chidinma... dem dey claw anything

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

smart8956:
You're blessed brother.
I was in same shoes but this one was a girlfriend not yet married. I told her I was traveling to Abuja and will return soon. Once I return I'll let her know. Until this day, I haven't responded to her request.
Next was breakup on the very time they were planning to getting married. My guy was so down, drinks alot and wanted to commit suicide, I step in the second time and this time add the girl on WhatsApp we chat. I calm her both and arrange a party were we'll meet that night without letting her know my friend was coming. Plans was that when she get drunk and party is over I took her home. So on a surprise that night she saw my friend in the party she was bitter,wanted to go but I told her calm. Long story made short, she was drunk I was the one took her to car and drove home, when she wakes up in the morning she saw me and my guy discussing. We got her things she took a shower, cool right? Next my guy says he want to go get something for her to cook in the Market. Immediately he went out the girl pull herself on me behaving like she was still drunk, she needed a hot s*X but I control myself for that few minutes thing. After a while I went to kitchen to make some noodles, my guy cameback. I was happy he didn't see me on bed,half naked, or with her. I felt relief and was happy, she went in and cook we all ate. I ask myself what if I had f**k her? Now they're happily married now, and the respect she gives me even today, sometimes my friend will say come and marry her she ask of you every time. I learnt something and I wish most guys can control it. It's in the brain.

Mariangeles:


Na wah o!

You made out with her, right?

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

VEHINTOLAR:


Now let me give it to you very raw;without gloves ! The truth is that you have always had your dirty mind and eyes on your friend's wife and that was why such devilish thoughts could come up in your puerile mind ! How would you even think of such man ? Your friend's wife ??!!!! Chai,some of you guys sha ! You actually helped that your so called friend just to impress his wife and see if you could use it to lure her into your bed ! Guy,stay on your lane;you have your own wife and you'll never like it a bit if another man sleeps with her.

Which "one thing may lead to another" ?Abegi,take your amorous,flirtatious,dirty eyes away from your friend's wife !