yuping:
Dementia.

udofia234:
I am 30yrs of age and a coming up business man, I have being in many relationships which doesn't last at all! the last two relationship I had was even the worst (this year), the first was a Christian and also a believer and the most disappointing part of it is that she wants us to have sex, but being a Christian I told her that we can only have this when we marry, she kept saying what is I cannot satisfy her sexually, we where on this for so long until that relationship ended abruptly, the second one I also dated this year was very demanding, she wants this and that, which I did the best I could but she said it wasn't enough, she broke up with me simply because I don't have a car. guys this is so frustrating, must I have a car or compromise my faith just to find love. pls I need your advice.

Honestly, can you tell us why you're avoiding sex? Do you have any sexual related problem?
Personally, I won't marry someone I'm not sexually compatible with so i understand the first girl sentiment. The second girl is just a leech, you should be grateful she left you

Idonweak:


Honestly, can you tell us why you're avoiding sex? Do you have any sexual related problem?
Personally, I won't marry someone I'm not sexually compatible with so i understand the first girl sentiment. The second girl is just a leech, you should be grateful she left you

udofia234:




My faith does not permit me to have sex with any lady I'm not married to, its not right, are there no decent ladies to marry who will not demand for sex before marriage? can one just do the right thing? And moreover I don't have any sexual related problem I'm 100 percent fit

Are you a virgin?
Then if that's the case, find a gathering where you'll see girls you seek. There are many churches (i presume you're a Christian) that you'll see girls that are totally chaste and also share same orientation like you. E.g deeperlife girls. Just join one then

Cypress042:
Op you are a SiMp

I can't believe there are still men who don't check their shoe size before purchasing it.

Without much arguement you're the cause of your first breakup and there's a high probability your second relationship ended because of the same issue, she just used car as a cover up

udofia234:




My faith does not permit me to have sex with any lady I'm not married to, its not right, are there no decent ladies to marry who will not demand for sex before marriage? can one just do the right thing? And moreover I don't have any sexual related problem I'm 100 percent fit

Templee333:
what faith is this?

udofia234:



Christianity!

Idonweak:




Are you a virgin?
Then if that's the case, find a gathering where you'll see girls you seek. There are many churches (i presume you're a Christian) that you'll see girls that are totally chaste and also share same orientation like you. E.g deeperlife girls. Just join one then

Templee333:

i can't believe this! Do u mean that people wearing elephant-size gown & no earings prove their virginity?

udofia234:
I am 30yrs of age and a coming up business man, I have being in many relationships which doesn't last at all! the last two relationship I had was even the worst (this year), the first was a Christian and also a believer and the most disappointing part of it is that she wants us to have sex, but being a Christian I told her that we can only have this when we marry, she kept saying what is I cannot satisfy her sexually, we where on this for so long until that relationship ended abruptly, the second one I also dated this year was very demanding, she wants this and that, which I did the best I could but she said it wasn't enough, she broke up with me simply because I don't have a car. guys this is so frustrating, must I have a car or compromise my faith just to find love. pls I need your advice.

Templee333:
you mean that those who go for sex b4 marriage aren't christians?

Heathrow44:



u re stupid person, u re d cause of ur problem, world is all about compromise and compromise is not a dirty world, u can't eat ur cake and av it

udofia234:




My faith does not permit me to have sex with any lady I'm not married to, its not right, are there no decent ladies to marry who will not demand for sex before marriage? can one just do the right thing? And moreover I don't have any sexual related problem I'm 100 percent fit

Kobicove:


It's highly unusual to find a guy avoiding sex when a lady is offering it in a relationship...are you sure all is well?

udofia234:





They are! but there's a diff from being committed xtian and ordinary xtian

udofia234:
I am 30yrs of age and a coming up business man, I have being in many relationships which doesn't last at all! the last two relationship I had was even the worst (this year), the first was a Christian and also a believer and the most disappointing part of it is that she wants us to have sex, but being a Christian I told her that we can only have this when we marry, she kept saying what is I cannot satisfy her sexually, we where on this for so long until that relationship ended abruptly, the second one I also dated this year was very demanding, she wants this and that, which I did the best I could but she said it wasn't enough, she broke up with me simply because I don't have a car. guys this is so frustrating, must I have a car or compromise my faith just to find love. pls I need your advice.

tommy20:
Sir, first let me salute your courage to resist the daughter of Jezebel. As funny as it may sound, you can't satisfy her sexually no matter how hard you try because she's is too expose & experience than you. Thank your creator that she disclose her true identity to you otherwise, you will have mistakenly marry someone who will destroy you. As for the second one who demand too much & giving a high condition before she can marry you. I wouldn't blame her but you. Yes you! I am sure you if you haven't give her the impression of big boy, she might not have said yes to you in the first instance.
Maybe your look, dressing or the way you the phone you use or the environment you stay..... Something must have tip her to believe that you can afford a car. But still, thank your dtaucas well that she also declare her intention to you as well that she is after material things.

The two of them shouldn't bother you at all but instead thank your stay for quickly brining you out conditional relationship.
Hold on to your faith, pray for God will, lean not on your understanding, remember the journey to marriage is a journey to the future & the future is clearly known by God alone. He will bring us & connect us with the right one.

Before dating the next one, ensure to pray first & listen to God advise. So many people who marry out of desperation are looking for ways out now.

May the Lord see us through

Good evening.

CaveAdullam:
1. To remain firm to your Christian faith, search for women within Christian religious centers. Telescope beyond your locality. Attend church programs, and be regular and attentive.

2. To make it easy, take a good position in the church. Or, join any position that has many women or that will make you interact with women.

3. The downside here is that you'll be tossed to and fro by women. Because these days religious centers are homes for women who have retired from their wh0ring or approaching the wall. It is left for you to scrutinize the woman you'll commit to.

4. Raising a family early is a good thing. But how strong are your business and finance? How solid are your permutations and combinations when it comes to sustaining a family through the good and worst state?

It is not a matter of getting married today, it is the journey that matters. How prepared are you? Don't hasten yourself into a misty journey. The economy at present is not suitable for raising a family if you are not buoyant as a man. And if the woman you're committing to is not submissive and brave, she may end up jettisoning you along the way when it gets tough.

5. What about your emotional and mental health? Are you strong enough to bear with a woman and children considering their melodramatic nature? Do you see yourself as a good leader? Have you led people before?

6. When things get sour, do you have people that you can rely on? How is your relationship with society, friends, and family? Because these are the people that will help you when things go south.

7. You need to score above 70% in all of these.

You don't lead marriage by empty faith and hope. You must be strong, brave, buoyant, attentive, and reasonable.

Don't deceive yourself, you can build yourself within a short time depending on your pace and style if you know you are deficient in some relevant areas. You still have 10 years between the ages of 30 and 40 to upgrade. Men shouldn't be clamoring for marriage, that's women's nature and job.

8. Don't fret. Stay calm. See this problem as an avenue to self develop.

Thanks.

rickleye:
Unless this is a false ad.
Your looking for love advice in the wrong place.
You don’t want to have sex before marriage that’s admirable. Yet your finding it hard to find a caste woman.
You can find a bunch of godly single women in every parish of the RCCG. There’s literally one at every junction.
Invest in the relationship- you ll find your wife.

Osashalom:

Oga just continue with your right stand with God, He will soon give you one of His daughters to marry and live in peace. Please don't compromise, I didn't have sex with my wife before I married her. 11years now and still counting, it has been heaven on Earth brother. it pays to serve Jesus.

Templee333:

it's rare but i can testify that it happens.Many years ago i was in the same situation.That's why i tried to find out the OP's church name. Anyway,there are people who take religion so serious.

Templee333:

it's rare but i can testify that it happens.Many years ago i was in the same situation.That's why i tried to find out the OP's church name. Anyway,there are people who take religion so serious.

rickleye:
Unless this is a false ad.
Your looking for love advice in the wrong place.
You don’t want to have sex before marriage that’s admirable. Yet your finding it hard to find a caste woman.
You can find a bunch of godly single women in every parish of the RCCG. There’s literally one at every junction.
Invest in the relationship- you ll find your wife.