ubunja:
remember as much as girls want something serious from a guy, if you offer something serious from the get go they get suspicious and pull back cause "why are you so easy?" " Why are you so eager?"
See, as a guy you will very much want a girl to give you sex, but imagine meeting a girl and she seems over-eager to sleep with you from the first moment. You'd serious be suspicious isn't it? Like why is she so easy? Is she trying to give you an STI? Is it a trap?

Same thing. Your commitment is very valuable to girls but if given too easy it loses value and instead becomes suspicious. Make a girl work for your heart. Make her put effort to get your love. People love what they fight for and win. Instead of you being the one looking for something serious let her be the one asking for a relationship. By this I mean keep things casual until the girl catches feelings. By casual I mean approach the situation like you're only interested in fun. Let her decide to want more.not you.

AstraDroid:


Truly, only few understand. I went through a 20yrs process of a quest to even the odds, but when I surrendered, I was matched by the useen, and since then, the strategy of surrendering has made life easy for me.

Infact, my wife searched for a nanny for our baby for months without finding a great mind until I stepped in and surrendered, within a week, a clever lady showed up and got hired and we realized she shared same birthday with my daughter. She is just perfect.

People must learn the act of surrendering. Now I just follow the dictate of Spirit.

Goodnigga:
I almost typed that so we still have intelligent men here, I said I should check the name and voila, it is the DON himself, welcome back Ubunja

ubunja:
thanks man,, appreciate this a lot.
But I've been around all this time on that Red Pill thread "Reality Every Guy Needs To Know. STRICTLY RED PILL".

AstraDroid:


Exactly, we are almost, always standing in the way. Avatars must give way to Spirit, just identify your needs and surrender then observe.

It is magic and miracle in a bundle.

Maximos7:



Simple.. Your future spouse may be waiting for you at the centre of the will of the Divine for your life. What is your skills. Embrace it and do what is expected. Your future spouse will meet you there. Adam met Eve at the garden. If you're a drama actor, simply go into your acting, your wife is there or husband whatever the case may. This one don smoke something aswear. So if I am an armed robber, I can only meet my life partner during robbery, right

Don't quote me again abeg

ubunja:
remember as much as girls want something serious from a guy, if you offer something serious from the get go they get suspicious and pull back cause "why are you so easy?" " Why are you so eager?"
See, as a guy you will very much want a girl to give you sex, but imagine meeting a girl and she seems over-eager to sleep with you from the first moment. You'd serious be suspicious isn't it? Like why is she so easy? Is she trying to give you an STI? Is it a trap?

Same thing. Your commitment is very valuable to girls but if given too easy it loses value and instead becomes suspicious. Make a girl work for your heart. Make her put effort to get your love. People love what they fight for and win. Instead of you being the one looking for something serious let her be the one asking for a relationship. By this I mean keep things casual until the girl catches feelings. By casual I mean approach the situation like you're only interested in fun. Let her decide to want more.not you.

Lagosanambra:
Growing up, I tried to concentrate in school even while at the university, to avoid distractions.

I had just few girls around.

I have since the past 3 years--- after relative success in my field--- had few flings, wooed and slept with a few girls too from all tribes; had like 3 living with me for weeks at some point.

Now in early 30s I feel like I should seek something serious.
I find myself picking phone numbers from girls but then I come home, initiate a chat introducing myself but I have no zeal to take it further than that.

I just get tired of the whole thing.

Again, some of them seem uninterested.

You notice this lack of interest from the way they respond with monosyllables, respond after several hours or days or even abandoning the chats outright.


This is more pronounced if you come off too as gentle, without bragging, showing off etc.

I have no difficulty giving girls things occasionally but I hate to feel used or feel a woman is interested in only what she can gain in the short term- immediate gratification.


Going on dates would have been a good option as many girls would hardly reject free food, drinks etc but I don't have the time or energy hence deem it otiose, that's beyond the financial implications as many of the girls are coming to the dates to access you, not necessarily to know you.

And I hate showing off.


How do you guys navigate around this conundrum please especially if you are looking for something serious and not just sex?

Lagosanambra:
Growing up, I tried to concentrate in school even while at the university, to avoid distractions.

I had just few girls around.

I have since the past 3 years--- after relative success in my field--- had few flings, wooed and slept with a few girls too from all tribes; had like 3 living with me for weeks at some point.

Now in early 30s I feel like I should seek something serious.
I find myself picking phone numbers from girls but then I come home, initiate a chat introducing myself but I have no zeal to take it further than that.

I just get tired of the whole thing.

Again, some of them seem uninterested.

You notice this lack of interest from the way they respond with monosyllables, respond after several hours or days or even abandoning the chats outright.


This is more pronounced if you come off too as gentle, without bragging, showing off etc.

I have no difficulty giving girls things occasionally but I hate to feel used or feel a woman is interested in only what she can gain in the short term- immediate gratification.


Going on dates would have been a good option as many girls would hardly reject free food, drinks etc but I don't have the time or energy hence deem it otiose, that's beyond the financial implications as many of the girls are coming to the dates to access you, not necessarily to know you.

And I hate showing off.


How do you guys navigate around this conundrum please especially if you are looking for something serious and not just sex?

Lagosanambra:
Growing up, I tried to concentrate in school even while at the university, to avoid distractions.

I had just few girls around.

I have since the past 3 years--- after relative success in my field--- had few flings, wooed and slept with a few girls too from all tribes; had like 3 living with me for weeks at some point.

Now in early 30s I feel like I should seek something serious.
I find myself picking phone numbers from girls but then I come home, initiate a chat introducing myself but I have no zeal to take it further than that.

I just get tired of the whole thing.

Again, some of them seem uninterested.

You notice this lack of interest from the way they respond with monosyllables, respond after several hours or days or even abandoning the chats outright.


This is more pronounced if you come off too as gentle, without bragging, showing off etc.

I have no difficulty giving girls things occasionally but I hate to feel used or feel a woman is interested in only what she can gain in the short term- immediate gratification.


Going on dates would have been a good option as many girls would hardly reject free food, drinks etc but I don't have the time or energy hence deem it otiose, that's beyond the financial implications as many of the girls are coming to the dates to access you, not necessarily to know you.

And I hate showing off.


How do you guys navigate around this conundrum please especially if you are looking for something serious and not just sex?

AstraDroid:
If you are scouting for a lifetime partner, make it a quest. Surrender your request to the Universe and you'd be guided.

Logic can only cause you pain.

LikeAking:


Op u no get problems. As for women they just love been chased. They also love to fall the guys hands during d chasing process.

If u want chase woman u most forget about respect and shame. Just kip on chasing on day u go off her pant.

demanuel:
@ Maximos7, @ AstraDoid
Greetings to you both.
Your conversation caught my interest and curiousity.

Please how do I "surrender" to get what I want be it anything I want such as my finance, life goals and ambition, and relationship? Any tips?
Thanks.

narite:

Your question is not directed to me but I just feel like saying something....To get whatever it is you want in life....you start by acquiring knowledge and directing those knowledge into Actions. Life is not unique; whatever it is you are going through, someone as gone through them. Whatever it is you are trying to achieve, someone as achieved it.

Don’t live life as if things are happening for the first time; try to tap into the knowledge of the people who have passed through those phase you currently are. Trusting your inexperience self to make decisions will only lead to needless sufferings. I really do hope you get the things I am trying to open your eyes to see.

Knowledge is like a Map; it guides you faster to where you are heading to. If you decide to go on a journey that you are not familiar with the terrain and you do not go along with a Map, there is a chance you will never get there.

Lagosanambra:


I have my dignity bro

ubunja:
hey bro,, still on the game as always. Blog is non existent at this point tho. How have you been man.

LikeAking:


Op u no get problems. As for women they just love been chased. They also love to fall the guys hands during d chasing process.

If u want chase woman u most forget about respect and shame. Just kip on chasing on day u go off her pant.

Lawstudent:


So you have to belittle yourself or suffer ignominy?


Seun, mynd44, lalasticlala

Please we need more views on this topic. It's salient.

Lagosanambra:
Rockstation farano

Please i need more views

LonelyLucifer:
It seems everyone have a word of wisdom to say ehn?


Bunch of jokers everywhere

toujurs:

@ 1 bolded - Most girls are introverts, they don't know what to say, or how to keep a relationship going, that is why guys Bleep them any how. And eiher stays or leave. Have sex with her, once you do. She will begin to take the relationship serious.

@ 2 bolded - Most guys that use an iphone, and work so hard to buy a car too, do you really think they wanted to buy an iphone, or the expenses of visiting mechanics, , it's because it attracts girls, imagine asking for a girl phone number with either an itel or an iphone, or to give her a ride. the difference in her character is clear. It's sure knacking or you. You better hustle o! Love from a woman is based on conditions. Unlike men to women.

@ 3 - Get used to a woman, being interested in you, for what you have, and decide if she is someone you can manage with, if you can't drop her, and get another lady, you have what women wants already.

@ 4 - Learn to show off a little, it's necessary. If you want to get what you want.