So this lil mama i met in my area came all upset telling me she has had a crush on me since she 1st met me, giving me crap abt how i have been hiding my feeling for her, i got confused... She then started talks abt how she liked me from d 1st time she came across me and because i was nice to her but doesnt like the way i'm holding back on asking her out, so she had to confront me abt to know whats wrong with me..
I then explained to her that i never knew that was her intent cause i thought she was she just being exceptionally friendly.. The conversation kept on going while she was doing most of d talking... The conversation ended and she wanted me to eventually ask her out or take her on a date but i refused and told her she's actually the one that should ask me out 1st since she's d one developing feelings but nah, she countered saying i'm a guy and she's a female that i'm still d one that should ask her out regardless. I said no, she got upset and bounced.. What do u guys think?.. I'm on d right, right?

Like seriously princeofagore?

Doesn't matter who ever did the talking. We're African's and it's believed that men should make the first move.

AsomArchitectNG:
Doesn't matter who ever did the talking. We're African's and it's believed that men should make the first move.

Say it louder

She did the right thing. Most of the time when girls do the asking out it ends in a casual relationship, if she wants something more serious than just sex, which I think she does, she has given you a blinding green light.

If you feel same way she feels about you, you wouldn’t mind asking her out. You want to get her in a situation where she will start asking ‘what are we now’ after six months of knacks.

There is no such law that a man must ask a woman out, but if you look at it deeply, it's a man that is supposed to ask a woman out.

There is a saying that goes like this, "women know the value of love, but men know the cost of love". So since a man bears the cost of love (eg relationship, marriage), it's the man that should ask a female out.

A man is the one to sacrifices when in a relationship with a woman, that is what it means to bears the cost of love. For example, it is your responsibility to pay bride price, wedding expenses, and start providing and protecting when married unto eternity. She basically just move in. Her privilege is your responsibility.

So if you think she worth the sacrifice and for you to pay the cost of loving her, then you should go ahead and ask her out. From a traditional sense, a woman bear the cost of children. Hence they hardly allow any man sleep with them.

It is the buyer, not the seller, that determines if the goods is worth his hard-earned cash. Like an adopted child, it is the adopter that determines if he/should should adopt a child even if the child likes him/her, after all, the adopter bears the cost of loving the child.

So she is right. Asking you out because she likes you is not the point here, the point here is that a woman liking you doesn't mean she will carry the responsibility that belongs to you. A man can't escape bearing the cost of love, but he can decide which woman is worth loving.

I wouldn't ask her out if I were in your shoes, nahhhh there's too many red flags here to ignore ...

I believe that if you like someone and want to be with them, then you should make the move on them and see how it goes ...

Her expecting you to make the move and even trying to shame & gaslight you for not making the move all because she's a woman is a RED FLAG for me, a very big one at that ...

But alas! You're not me and I'm not you ...

Either ways sha...
If you don't feel the vibe, don't ask her out, but Las Las, the choice is yours ...

Wotoporiously speaking

We all know that any love that's forced doesn't feel the same, doesn't matter the condition of the love so if you ain't feeling her like that just let it go nigga.

its the guys job to ask a lady out...

ahnie:
Like seriously princeofagore?

what do you want??

Seems I’m the only person who can deduce OP’s age from the write-up. Go and read your books, child.

AsomArchitectNG:
Doesn't matter who ever did the talking. We're African's and it's believed that men should make the first move.

If woman no fit toast man my wer she dy die inside for, then how she wn take marry?
For this present generation na em u dy wait make person person wer u dy crush on come ask u out, person wer no even fit dy crush on u back. Shuu let out ur feels, guy man fit no carry any evil thoughts about u o, but em no give a fvk about u. Na she go cun ask d guy, Afa na say I don dy crush on u o( any how wer she wn take write am)

So my bro everything for relationship no be man first make she use her hand toast u, if she no fit then no ask her out no matter what. Except say u na cheap nigga.

gal say make u ask her out, u cun really ask her out (lamo ) why she no fit ask u out? Why coming this far just to stop at the middle of the journey?

That is how dey lose out on a man dey like,if OP come see anoda girl now, she go dey die inside let me tell u der is no time again o....make d move or die in silence.

pansophist:
There is no such law that a man must ask a woman out, but if you look at it deeply, it's a man that is supposed to ask a woman out.

There is a saying that goes like this, "women know the value of love, but men know the cost of love". So since a man bears the cost of love (eg relationship, marriage), it's the man that should ask a female out.

A man is the one to sacrifices when in a relationship with a woman, that is what it means to bears the cost of love. For example, it is your responsibility to pay bride price, wedding expenses, and start providing and protecting when married unto eternity. She basically just move in. Her privilege is your responsibility.

So if you think she worth the sacrifice and for you to pay the cost of loving her, then you should go ahead and ask her out. From a traditional sense, a woman bear the cost of children. Hence they hardly allow any man sleep with them.

It is the buyer, not the seller, that determines if the goods is worth his hard-earned cash. Like an adopted child, it is the adopter that determines if he/should should adopt a child even if the child likes him/her, after all, the adopter bears the cost of loving the child.

So she is right. Asking you out because she likes you is not the point here, the point here is that a woman liking you doesn't mean she will carry the responsibility that belongs to you. A man can't escape bearing the cost of love, but he can decide which woman is worth loving.

Why u come type pass d OP na u b d girl?