Miltonz123:
I know majority of you will call me a simp but I have to pour out my mind.

I have been in a relationship with this girl in 2021. I met her through her brother, which was my friend and everything had been a blissful. I really love her even though I am 9 years older than her. I worked in the islands then while she worked in mainland and the relationship was OK.
I have a job that's not that paying much but I thank God I can eat and sleep in a 2 room flat I am managing as I haven't really furnish the apartment like that.
Back to my girl to be turn ex this morning g, we did plan to engage though and I have promised to marry her when I know the time it's right. I have introduced her to my family members and my parents that she's the one.
I never doubt her love and trust because she's very religious and caring to home. (my mom too is religious and she want me to marry her by force lol) . She's good and respectful that my landlord keep telling me I was lucky. She would make sure we pray together every morning and night and all. Because of all this, I trust her that a choir and prayer girl like this will not cheat.

One thing led to another, her phone was stolen this month.. And since I have a spare phone, I decided to lend her my spare android phone to use. She brought the phone to me that her WhatsApp chat need to be recovered. I told her the only way we can restore her chat is to restore through Google backup she did. So I took the phkne to my office and start using my work WiFi to do the restoration of her chat.

After restoring, I asked for her password a d lo and behold, what I saw break my heart.

She has been flirting wirh a particular guy since January this year because I decided to read all there chat from beginning. In January the guy was pressing her to see her. I saw the guy snap with his Honda civic car, and all that. And the chat was Consistent. March she has been sleeping at the guy place and it was in that March that we started cohabiting together because her work place is closer to me and she want to save in her transport. She was telling the guy that I am still struggling and all that, that she doesn't think she can wait for me. Around June, she was sack from her work, and she told me she want to be staying with her sister. I said ok since they live in mainland, she can be coming to island any time she's free. But it's a war to get her attention and when she comes, if I try to touch her she won't let me, citing we have to wait till we married and God will not like it.

And I don't like forcing my way.

So for 3 month till now, I haven't romance her. Only kiss

Lastly, In her chat, she has been seeing this guy steady and she had been collecting steady. So this end of September, she told the guy she's not seeing her period, and test came out she is pregnant.

I continued reading, and the guy told her he's not ready for the baby and that's how this my ex to be blocked the guy since last week after an heated argument... Looks like the guy Don clear her that he's not ready to settle down at all as he told her he doesn't have a dime in the bank and he Want to sell his car.

Well, this is 12:30am and I can't sleep and she's sleeping sheepishly be side my bed. 7:00am I am driving her out of my apartment for good and this is the end. I will explain everything to her brother and I hope he will understand.

I gave her phone two times and a laptop and this is the church manipulation she put me into. Because of my kindness and love.... I told her everything was going to fine between us but I thought as a prayer warrior person and someone that can't do without church will be faithful. She was a choir member self.

But I have had enough.

Goinf Back to single life again.

4teenblaq:
OP, if I were you.. It is nothing to think about.

Tomorrow morning, tell her that you really need to "consummate" the relationship that you can't wait any longer.

Oboy, she won't hesitate to give it to you. Since she is manipulative, she will been thinking finally, you'd fallen for another trap of her.

Oboy, as you dey Bleep am, Bleep the girl with all vexation. Give am message.

After the knacking, tell her to pack her bags and leave! Don't even allow her to argue, just show her the chat.

Trust me, the pain will be more than yours.
She would lose in three folds.
1.pregnant
2. You
3. The other guy.

She would make sure we pray together every morning and night and all. Because of all this, I trust her that a choir and prayer girl like this will not cheat.

Starz825:

Make he nak girl wey don get belle already for another man
Which kind rubbish be this...

Send her out that's all...

Everything na to nak nak for your side...
I pity you...

Miltonz123:
I know majority of you will call me a simp but I have to pour out my mind.

I have been in a relationship with this girl in 2021. I met her through her brother, which was my friend and everything had been a blissful. I really love her even though I am 9 years older than her. I worked in the islands then while she worked in mainland and the relationship was OK.
I have a job that's not that paying much but I thank God I can eat and sleep in a 2 room flat I am managing as I haven't really furnish the apartment like that.
Back to my girl to be turn ex this morning g, we did plan to engage though and I have promised to marry her when I know the time it's right. I have introduced her to my family members and my parents that she's the one.
I never doubt her love and trust because she's very religious and caring to home. (my mom too is religious and she want me to marry her by force lol) . She's good and respectful that my landlord keep telling me I was lucky. She would make sure we pray together every morning and night and all. Because of all this, I trust her that a choir and prayer girl like this will not cheat.

One thing led to another, her phone was stolen this month.. And since I have a spare phone, I decided to lend her my spare android phone to use. She brought the phone to me that her WhatsApp chat need to be recovered. I told her the only way we can restore her chat is to restore through Google backup she did. So I took the phkne to my office and start using my work WiFi to do the restoration of her chat.

After restoring, I asked for her password a d lo and behold, what I saw break my heart.

She has been flirting wirh a particular guy since January this year because I decided to read all there chat from beginning. In January the guy was pressing her to see her. I saw the guy snap with his Honda civic car, and all that. And the chat was Consistent. March she has been sleeping at the guy place and it was in that March that we started cohabiting together because her work place is closer to me and she want to save in her transport. She was telling the guy that I am still struggling and all that, that she doesn't think she can wait for me. Around June, she was sack from her work, and she told me she want to be staying with her sister. I said ok since they live in mainland, she can be coming to island any time she's free. But it's a war to get her attention and when she comes, if I try to touch her she won't let me, citing we have to wait till we married and God will not like it.

And I don't like forcing my way.

So for 3 month till now, I haven't romance her. Only kiss

Lastly, In her chat, she has been seeing this guy steady and she had been collecting steady. So this end of September, she told the guy she's not seeing her period, and test came out she is pregnant.

I continued reading, and the guy told her he's not ready for the baby and that's how this my ex to be blocked the guy since last week after an heated argument... Looks like the guy Don clear her that he's not ready to settle down at all as he told her he doesn't have a dime in the bank and he Want to sell his car.

Well, this is 12:30am and I can't sleep and she's sleeping sheepishly be side my bed. 7:00am I am driving her out of my apartment for good and this is the end. I will explain everything to her brother and I hope he will understand.

I gave her phone two times and a laptop and this is the church manipulation she put me into. Because of my kindness and love.... I told her everything was going to fine between us but I thought as a prayer warrior person and someone that can't do without church will be faithful. She was a choir member self.

But I have had enough.

Goinf Back to single life again.

Miltonz123:


How do you guy do knack someone you now see as nothing. I am sorry I can't even touch her. My heart is very heavy.. I need to relax. I wish she's not passing the night...

gulfer:
Please update with the part where you confront her in the morning abeg, it'll be good to hear her response/side of the story

Zonefree:
I have a feeling OP will forgive the girl so I'll save my advice.

Miltonz123:


How can I heal from this...

She's very manipulative and she pretend like everything is OK. Is this how secretive women can be....? Like right now she feels relaxed and like nothing happen. But here I am, perplexed by all I have read and seen. I saw there outing together in a restaurant and picture she snap In the guy place holding each other like couple 3 month ago in the chat history.

Miltonz123:


I don't expect everyone to believe me.there will be doubters. God know I speak my mind out and I never cheated on her. I have been looking at where I got it wrong. Is it because I didn't have a car? Its not like I can't afford a second hand car but i have bigger plan and I have been thinking of our introduction I wanted to surprise her. But God knows the best.

Persephone1:
Congratulations you are now a step baby daddy

4teenblaq:


Make e collect im own share na. At least there is evidence that she is already pregnant before the nacking.

Miltonz123:


How can I heal from this...

She's very manipulative and she pretend like everything is OK. Is this how secretive women can be....? Like right now she feels relaxed and like nothing happen. But here I am, perplexed by all I have read and seen. I saw there outing together in a restaurant and picture she snap In the guy place holding each other like couple 3 month ago in the chat history.

Miltonz123:


How can I heal from this...

She's very manipulative and she pretend like everything is OK. Is this how secretive women can be....? Like right now she feels relaxed and like nothing happen. But here I am, perplexed by all I have read and seen. I saw there outing together in a restaurant and picture she snap In the guy place holding each other like couple 3 month ago in the chat history.

Miltonz123:


How can I heal from this...

She's very manipulative and she pretend like everything is OK. Is this how secretive women can be....? Like right now she feels relaxed and like nothing happen. But here I am, perplexed by all I have read and seen. I saw there outing together in a restaurant and picture she snap In the guy place holding each other like couple 3 month ago in the chat history.

4teenblaq:
OP, if I were you.. It is nothing to think about.

Tomorrow morning, tell her that you really need to "consummate" the relationship that you can't wait any longer.

Oboy, she won't hesitate to give it to you. Since she is manipulative, she will been thinking finally, you'd fallen for another trap of her.

Oboy, as you dey Bleep am, Bleep the girl with all vexation. Give am message.

After the knacking, tell her to pack her bags and leave! Don't even allow her to argue, just show her the chat.

Trust me, the pain will be more than yours.
She would lose in three folds.
1.pregnant
2. You
3. The other guy.

Miltonz123:
I know majority of you will call me a simp but I have to pour out my mind.

I have been in a relationship with this girl in 2021. I met her through her brother, which was my friend and everything had been a blissful. I really love her even though I am 9 years older than her. I worked in the islands then while she worked in mainland and the relationship was OK.
I have a job that's not that paying much but I thank God I can eat and sleep in a 2 room flat I am managing as I haven't really furnish the apartment like that.
Back to my girl to be turn ex this morning g, we did plan to engage though and I have promised to marry her when I know the time it's right. I have introduced her to my family members and my parents that she's the one.
I never doubt her love and trust because she's very religious and caring to home. (my mom too is religious and she want me to marry her by force lol) . She's good and respectful that my landlord keep telling me I was lucky. She would make sure we pray together every morning and night and all. Because of all this, I trust her that a choir and prayer girl like this will not cheat.

One thing led to another, her phone was stolen this month.. And since I have a spare phone, I decided to lend her my spare android phone to use. She brought the phone to me that her WhatsApp chat need to be recovered. I told her the only way we can restore her chat is to restore through Google backup she did. So I took the phkne to my office and start using my work WiFi to do the restoration of her chat.

After restoring, I asked for her password a d lo and behold, what I saw break my heart.

She has been flirting wirh a particular guy since January this year because I decided to read all there chat from beginning. In January the guy was pressing her to see her. I saw the guy snap with his Honda civic car, and all that. And the chat was Consistent. March she has been sleeping at the guy place and it was in that March that we started cohabiting together because her work place is closer to me and she want to save in her transport. She was telling the guy that I am still struggling and all that, that she doesn't think she can wait for me. Around June, she was sack from her work, and she told me she want to be staying with her sister. I said ok since they live in mainland, she can be coming to island any time she's free. But it's a war to get her attention and when she comes, if I try to touch her she won't let me, citing we have to wait till we married and God will not like it.

And I don't like forcing my way.

So for 3 month till now, I haven't romance her. Only kiss

Lastly, In her chat, she has been seeing this guy steady and she had been collecting steady. So this end of September, she told the guy she's not seeing her period, and test came out she is pregnant.

I continued reading, and the guy told her he's not ready for the baby and that's how this my ex to be blocked the guy since last week after an heated argument... Looks like the guy Don clear her that he's not ready to settle down at all as he told her he doesn't have a dime in the bank and he Want to sell his car.

Well, this is 12:30am and I can't sleep and she's sleeping sheepishly be side my bed. 7:00am I am driving her out of my apartment for good and this is the end. I will explain everything to her brother and I hope he will understand.

I gave her phone two times and a laptop and this is the church manipulation she put me into. Because of my kindness and love.... I told her everything was going to fine between us but I thought as a prayer warrior person and someone that can't do without church will be faithful. She was a choir member self.

But I have had enough.

Goinf Back to single life again.

yad2eidi:
I hope you screenshotted it and saved together with all 5he chats? If not you are on your own o

Spy360:
You will be going through pains right now, and really feel like crying or doing something really dangerous. BUT YOU NEED RO CALM DOWN

Send her out. Go and stay with a good friend. You will get over this. Break of trust is not easy to deal with, but you will get over it. It's a lesson however harsh it is, it's still better now than later.

May God help you.

MikeofKd:
Bro ,call off the relationship ,tell her what she did ,show her brother too , send her packing

Work harder ,live very comfortable , trust me you would get better options when your doing very well financially , u would easily spot a hungry girl and a well to do one.
Be a man and do the needful.