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Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Goodluckzzz: 10:53am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Am not a good writer so forgive any grammar error or spellings. One thing I want to believe is that you have not poured your heart about how you feel about the betrayal. My suggestion is both of you alone in a room. Sit him down tell him to shut up and not say a word not even sorry when you are talking. Tell him how you grew to trust him, married him and how that trust was broken with his betrayal (cry � if you feel like crying or shout if you feel like shouting). Pour out every bit of grief, disappointment, betrayal, no forgiveness and even the hate you have in your heart. On this part you are responsible for your judgement. If he apologizes after you have said your heart I want to believe you'll be able to sense if he is remorseful or pretending. This is where you'll make your choice of either forgiving him or not. If you chose forgiving him then you'll let him know you he'll have start over gaining your trust like when he was asking you out. That means you have become insecure around him. Be sure to make him apologize specifically for everything he has wrong you word for word for example 'I am sorry for falsifying the price of the land and collecting you money' NOTE: TO GET PASS FORGIVENESS YOU MUST NEVER TALK ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED. If you chose to forgive, do it because of you alone and not for anybody. It helped while I was dating |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Exceed15: 11:03am On Oct 25, 2022 |
I applaud him admitting and humbling himself to ask for your forgiveness. He is good man. Accept him back and create that beautiful future for your children. Always Remember you have hurt people too and they forgive you. As for your father, assure him both of you are good. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Mahershalal: 11:05am On Oct 25, 2022 |
My sister, when your head clear, make you remember say na just because of 200k (money wey people dey go blow for club), na him wan make your marriage crash o! The 200k you lost, is it really worth all these troubles and more to come? My approach to life is that if things go wrong, the question should not be who is right or wrong. But the issue should be how do you find a solution to the challenge. If you like go follow the advice of all these unmarried people on nairaland telling you to leave your marriage. It's your marriage not theirs and you will bear the consequences of any decision you take. I suggest you both speak to an elderly couple you both respect! There is nothing that cannot be fixed. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by ozonechrome: 11:06am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest: You have an unforgiving spirit. What he did is bad but isn't hat big of a deal. How can you hold grudge for this long? What if he impregnated another woman you'll kill him Kill that pride in you before it kills you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Prazo1: 11:07am On Oct 25, 2022 |
All of you are ment…. Your husband oooo, You oooo alll of Una Dey ment…. You should be wearing pant and riding tyre inside rain than getting married…. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by BigMamaNaija: 11:11am On Oct 25, 2022 |
My daughter, sorry you hear. Wipe your tears. I understand that feeling of betrayal and lack of remorse afterwards. The good news is that he appears to be truly repentant and your two families are involved. He will think twice before betraying you again or deliberately misbehaving. Give love another chance sweetheart. What you both have is so beautiful and rare. Protect it. You'll be happy, your children will also be huge beneficiaries. May God heal you and your home. Hugs. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by maasoap(m): 11:16am On Oct 25, 2022 |
MufasaLion: She said she needs a father figure in her kids life, you can't just wave that aside if that's how she feels and want things to be. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by richie240: 11:20am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Good, and I will tell u what that conductor told me that day: let d 200k provide all d responsibilities dt d man would've provided as a husband. Let the 200k provide d father figure, mentorship and protection for her and her kidz! Shikena! missimelda01: |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Faposky95: 11:24am On Oct 25, 2022 |
MufasaLion: marriage is an achievement..........you learn that you could change and forgive. how many single moms know how to do that ............. single mums aint wives too......... look around you and try not to join the bulldozer to bring down its achievements. lastly, its voluntary..... ....keep its wins and losses to one's self. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by maasoap(m): 11:26am On Oct 25, 2022 |
MufasaLion: Trust had been breached, yes. It is either she forgives, reconciles and move back or she moves on. She can't have it both ways |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by emorse(m): 11:27am On Oct 25, 2022 |
advanceDNA:That's exactly my point. It's not a big deal. After all the money is still within. If na me, the marriage is over. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by ALFADOS(m): 11:32am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:how much is #200000 that you exchange you life time happiness with my sister, what ever a responsible Man does, is always come back to his family, am a family Man too, the money he duped you, he also spent on you too so why taking thing's too far for heavenly sake return back to him you shall have a happy home again. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by tdayoojo: 11:32am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Marriage comes with the good ,the bad and the ugly. You have just seen a bad side. You must have experienced the part before this bad situation. My advise will be: show your dad the reason you need to keep your home. Afterall, you father cannot play the role of husband in your life. Secondly, your disposition is well justified but you must give room for forgiveness for peace to reign and even for your mental health. This may be difficult without help. So l recommend for you a therapist who can help you to overcome your present emotional state. You also need to bring your hubby to join you in the therapy. Finally, don't make attempt to get him to refund the 200k. Let it go please but insist that he must higher the truck that will bring your belongings back home if indeed he wants you back in his life. Let him bear the cost of his misdemeanor. Don't forget to take your children into consideration in whatever decision you take eventually. Note also that your dad is angry about the whole senario but find means to persify him. Seek help to get healed first through a professional and other things will take shape. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Eprincess(f): 11:33am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Faposky95: Marriage is not an achievement. Whether you are married or single you can still be who God wants you to be. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by jc173(f): 11:35am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Abeg where una dey see land 400-600k buy.. am interested to buy biko |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by emorse(m): 11:35am On Oct 25, 2022 |
bestdudes:Bros. Women do this all the time and heaven does not fall. Some things are not worth the stress please. Worst case, spark, do small shakara and move on like nothing happened. I say again, if na me, the marriage don end be dat. I hate nonsense abeg. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by emorse(m): 11:36am On Oct 25, 2022 |
jc173:Be careful make your hubby no go chop your 200k make marriage no scatter o |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by emorse(m): 11:37am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Eprincess:No vex o. Who does God want you to be? Is that person different from who you want yourself to be? 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by maasoap(m): 11:37am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Weirdcamila: Lol. Like wives don't cheat their husbands all the time. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by maasoap(m): 11:43am On Oct 25, 2022 |
bdchange: When we have seen men who spent the entire money given to them by their wives for developments. This one who is supposed to simply ask for the return of her 200k is busy complicating things for herself, her kids and the silly husband. Life is too short to be suffering oneself because of little things like this. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Eprincess(f): 11:46am On Oct 25, 2022 |
emorse: Haven't you seen people die in marriages? Is that God's plan for them? You people are just taking marriage out of proportion. It is not an achievement. Yes, it is good to be married if you are married to the right person. Being married or single does not define who you are, it doesn't make you less or more. Marriage does not make you more important than a single person. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by stunning324: 11:46am On Oct 25, 2022 |
I guess the problem started when you decided to go solo in buying a land which both of you would have contributed. You didn’t consider his feeling before proposing such. Imagine he does that to you also, having things in his name only when you’rea family. It’ll hurt also. He acted dubiously though, and not should have taken your money without your consent. I don’t always subscribe to forgive without digging deep to why the person acted in such a way. Either you invite him to your new place or go to his place to discuss your hurts and his also, then you can decide on what next to do. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Eprincess(f): 11:51am On Oct 25, 2022 |
richie240: You seriously believe a man who can financially cheat his wife will be interested in protecting his wife and kids... |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by highness25(m): 11:59am On Oct 25, 2022 |
mkoabiola:Don't mind that self centered woman. She see person wey even beg her. She's luck she didn't meet me that's not emotional about issues |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Yankee101: 12:04pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
For 200k u no fit forgive qnd you want to be blessed with millions abi? |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by richie240: 12:06pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
Eprincess:If u and ur agemate cousin are accosted by rogues who tend to (for one thing or the other) roughhandle u both, who tends to step-in to challenge them, you or your cousin? If ur cousin tends to take d bull by d horn being the male species, how much more a man to his wife and kids. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Emmanuel30a: 12:11pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:First of all, how old is your husband? |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Divoc19(f): 12:20pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest: Return to your husband just fot the sake of your children now. You will leave him later. In few years time when your last born is a little grown. |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Abduljabba1342(m): 12:21pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
Cutehector:Chief you no go fall |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Sammy101111(m): 12:33pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
My sis na beg I beg you You no even thank God say he buy the land for you if he no even con buy the land like some men way thing you go do you go use police arrest your husband or sand and to jail so your baby father is in jail . Think we’ll some men will spend all that money on bet 9ja and not gain anything back .. Please forgive him oh and work with him again . Please this time claim he knows he as Bleep up and he will not want to do the same again na you go show say you sharp pass am now . Know you will handle your finance alone . So no be all your money paro you go tell your husband if you have 200k you go lie say na 50k they your hand see if he will do too .because my sister no serious men too much outside because woman done show them Pepe them done jar . So please stay with him he holy that way then letting another man into you and into your honey pot lol Men outside now are fu ckers of Africa They will use and dump Please be wise Stay with your husband Or your body and regret go worst pass this one This is and advice I can give my sister am giving you please like and comment under if you don’t understand |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Medunah: 12:38pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
Fahvvy:He sees them as a team and he indirectly stole from her?? Wow, colour me surprised |
Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by emorse(m): 12:41pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
Eprincess: I only asked what God's plan is for you and if it is different from your own plan for yourself. Did those that died in marriage, plan to? The point is, this is more of our problem and less of God's. You decide what you want and work towards it. Marriage is just like life itself. It comes with its ups and downs. You don't need God to teach you that. And if for whatever reason you cannot take the heat of marriage, you simply step out. Cheers! |
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