So last four month I met a girl that came to deliver eye drug for my boss one thing led to the other we exchanged contact and boom serious relationship started. It got serious that there was hardly a day we don't see each other she is egbira and I had no issue with it. 3 weeks to the relationship I was already proposing marriage to her I went to see her parent and she came to see mine.
I am a faithful Muslim and so she is, so she bought the idea of settling down since we had started having sex and we both agreed it is not proper enough.
We both brought our family together but because of internal family issues on my side( I don't want to bore you with details) My dad didn't allow the small wedding arrangements to take place and he insisted it was so soon that we should take our time so it was suspended till further notice

To cut the long story short, recently before she left for school we had a little misunderstanding but even before our ish I didn't find her fascinating again, there was a time she was robbed she lost her phone and all her money they stole her ATM and withdraw all the money she had for her school resumption. With a little help from me she was able to go back to school

But guys I barely call her again, I lost interest in her and I can't even explain why, she had begged me countless time but yet, I just find it difficult to vibe with her again, I am so confuse right now, one part of me says I should continue the relationship one the long run I would start liking her again another part is saying other wise, if it is just 4month to the relationship and I am already feeling like this what if we start living together

I need your advise guys should I continue or call it off, do you guys think I might later start liking her back, this is a girl I can't do without before I just can't explain why the sudden loose of interest

Lol...
Igbira girls wey dey bahave Luke sey the dey possess.


Your father knew what he was talking about.
That was y he said you should match brake first.

Why won't you lose interest in her when you don see everything finish ,when i tell girls not to open their legs for this so called men they won't hear,you never had the intention of marrying her,you just use that to get inbetween her legs,like you said you already lost interest in her there is nothing that will bring back that interest so just call it off.

Your brain just ran proper diagnostics and reset itself back to functional status. Don't mind that substandard virgin above me.

Your dad is an O.G

You rush in
You rush out

It's better to rush out of relationship than marriage

You were obviously lusting over her before now she no dey shark you again like Palmy

LOL


You guys have gone past the honeymoon stage successfully .

Hope it wasn't her curves, breast & look that attracted you to her in the first place?

You both need to be more open with each other; communicate more.

virginprincess:
Why won't you lose interest in her when you don see everything finish ,when i tell girls not to open their legs for this so called men they won't hear,you never had the intention of marrying her,you just use that to get inbetween her legs,like you said you already lost interest in her there is nothing that will bring back that interest so just call it off.

God's sees me I didn't use marriage to lure her we had sex because she wanted to and it was on a mutual ground. But even on the long run we got married before she opened her leg, wont I still loose interest

Nicepoker:
Your brain just ran proper diagnostics and reset itself back to functional status. Don't mind that substandard virgin above me.

Substandard virgin ... fire the vawlence well well comrade

virginprincess:
Why won't you lose interest in her when you don see everything finish ,when i tell girls not to open their legs for this so called men they won't hear,you never had the intention of marrying her,you just use that to get inbetween her legs,like you said you already lost interest in her there is nothing that will bring back that interest so just call it off.

poor mentality and poor level of reasoning. So couples don't lose interest?

virginprincess:
Why won't you lose interest in her when you don see everything finish ,when i tell girls not to open their legs for this so called men they won't hear,you never had the intention of marrying her,you just use that to get inbetween her legs,like you said you already lost interest in her there is nothing that will bring back that interest so just call it off.

You females always sound like y’all don’t enjoy sexx. The sexx was mutually benefited by both parties.

So if he’s lost interest in the girl, it’s better he cuts things off now before it’s too late. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Una just think say love dey on autopilot...

person when u wan marry small issue u dey blank.

u no ready u just dey enjoy d toto now toto dey far ur brain don reset

PerfectStranger:

You females always sound like y’all don’t enjoy sexx. The sexx was mutually benefited by both parties.

So if he’s lost interest in the girl, it’s better he cuts things off now before it’s too late. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

U are trying to make a woman rational?? Lol... thats a failed mission..

woman only see two out comes in any relationship they enter.... u marry them or they break up with you by themselves....

they assume once they sleep u its the ultimate favor ..so u muat stay......they dont ever think a man needs more than sex to make a relationship worth it...

She's not your wife. Go thank your dad. Move on.

How can you propose under three weeks, you de mad ni?

I think you are in love, which is emotionally based (also known as infatuation). You did not decide to love her, which is a decision. Emotional love always ends like this, where you will not find the other person fascinating anymore because your boiling emotions have been quenched with sex, romance, or perhaps, not quenched at all and you got used to not having her.

What you can do now is to reassess why you wanted to be with her in the first place. What got you attracted? Is it her character, how she treated you, or her morals/belief system? If yes, then there is hope. Even if the butterfly feelings have been lost, you can always live in peace with someone that wants the best for you.

But if you are attracted to her initially because of fleeting things like curves, yansh, light skin, accent, or because you were horney, then there is no hope. The foundation is messed up, nothing juicy will ever germinate from it. Let her go. You must understand love as not feelings only, but as a decision, as in, a verb, something you do, an action word. Like adopting a girl and loving her, which means, giving her your best.

If it happens that you loved her emotionally as described above, then call her and break it off in person. Not via a proxy such as text or telling someone else to pass the message, but face to face. It may be the hardest thing you will ever do, depending on her love for you, but it is the only way out if you have a healthy conscience. If you can spend time with her when things are good, then you must do it when things are not.

Be truthful and tell her that you want to call it off, that things went too fast and you were caught in the feelings of the moments and couldn't think straight. That you will not want to waste both of your time. She will cry, get angry and act in ways you may not expect, but after that, you will feel free and can look at yourself in the mirror with a clean heart. The truth will set her free, but it would first piss her off. Good luck.

Someone called someone SUBSTANDARD VIRGIN

it is never a good idea to propose marriage during the 'butterfly feeling' era of any relationship. It's always better to let the butterfly feeling die down first before making any serious decision.

You will definitely feel that way because she brought the idea of settling down because u guys have started having sex. Your dad understood that she was the one in control and that you are not yet a man of yourself to put a woman in the house.

When you are ready u will decide and take what u Want.

But let most women understand that sex is not a guarantee that u will be married.


And men realize that sex is dangerous, it blends the soul and confuse your judgment.

Crucialgem:
So last four month I met a girl that came to deliver eye drug for my boss one thing led to the other we exchanged contact and boom serious relationship started. It got serious that there was hardly a day we don't see each other she is egbira and I had no issue with it. 3 weeks to the relationship I was already proposing marriage to her I went to see her parent and she came to see mine.
I am a faithful Muslim and so she is, so she bought the idea of settling down since we had started having sex and we both agreed it is not proper enough.
We both brought our family together but because of internal family issues on my side( I don't want to bore you with details) My dad didn't allow the small wedding arrangements to take place and he insisted it was so soon that we should take our time so it was suspended till further notice

To cut the long story short, recently before she left for school we had a little misunderstanding but even before our ish I didn't find her fascinating again, there was a time she was robbed she lost her phone and all her money they stole her ATM and withdraw all the money she had for her school resumption. With a little help from me she was able to go back to school

But guys I barely call her again, I lost interest in her and I can't even explain why, she had begged me countless time but yet, I just find it difficult to vibe with her again, I am so confuse right now, one part of me says I should continue the relationship one the long run I would start liking her again another part is saying other wise, if it is just 4month to the relationship and I am already feeling like this what if we start living together

I need your advise guys should I continue or call it off, do you guys think I might later start liking her back, this is a girl I can't do without before I just can't explain why the sudden loose of interest

If you feel like you're no longer interested in the relationship or you're not attracted to her anymore than you should just break up. Because it's not fair on her for you to fake your feelings for her, pretending to still like her when you actually don't. It's easier to just end things than to ghost her by not calling or lead her on.

A girl that agrees to marriage less than three weeks of meeting a man is not for keeps. You dodged a bullet, don't run faster than sense that is currently chasing you. Slow down and embrace the sense, e get why.

pansophist:
How can you propose under three weeks, you de mad ni?

I think you are in love, which is emotionally based (also known as infatuation). You did not decide to love her, which is a decision. Emotional love always ends like this, where you will not find the other person fascinating anymore because your boiling emotions have been quenched with sex, romance, or perhaps, not quenched at all and you got used to not having her.

What you can do now is to reassess why you wanted to be with her in the first place. What got you attracted? Is it her character, how she treated you, or her morals/belief system? If yes, then there is hope. Even if the butterfly feelings have been lost, you can always live in peace with someone that wants the best for you.

But if you are attracted to her initially because of fleeting things like curves, yansh, light skin, accent, or because you were horney, then there is no hope. The foundation is messed up, nothing juicy will ever germinate from it. Let her go. You must understand love as not feelings only, but as a decision, as in, a verb, something you do, an action word. Like adopting a girl and loving her, which means, giving her your best.

If it happens that you loved her emotionally as described above, then call her and break it off in person. Not via a proxy such as text or telling someone else to pass the message, but face to face. It may be the hardest thing you will ever do, depending on her love for you, but it is the only way out if you have a healthy conscience. If you can spend time with her when things are good, then you must do it when things are not.

Be truthful and tell her that you want to call it off, that things went too fast and you were cut in the feelings and couldn't think straight. That you will not want to waste both of your time. She will cry, get angry and act in ways you may not expect, but after that, you will feel free and can look at yourself in the mirror with a clean heart. The truth will set her free, but it would first piss her off. Good luck.

Thanks man you actually cleared some of my confusion, I have question myself 1001 times about what might have brought this lost of interest but I actually got the answer from you

Crucialgem:


Thanks man you actually cleared some of my confusion, I have question myself 1001 times about what might have brought this lost of interest but I actually got the answer from you

Awesome. So can you tell what made you attracted to her in the first place?

It's nothing worst that what you haven't heard or seen before.

1;Maybe you found out something disinteresting about her.
2: You found out she wasn't special as she was in the past. Think about it. All are just the the same. Just a little different.
3: You're so unsure of her.

Check your maturity bro,maybe you are not matured enough, maturity is from the heart,not body

[quote author=orfegater post=118308104]Check your maturity bro,maybe you are not matured enough, maturity is from the heart,not body[/q]

Naah it is not about maturity, it is just about being a human, change is the most constant thing that can happen to us . We are created with the ability to love and unlove what differs is the condition that brought about it

Seeking the opinion of people has been sought of eye opener

Crucialgem:
So last four month I met a girl that came to deliver eye drug for my boss one thing led to the other we exchanged contact and boom serious relationship started. It got serious that there was hardly a day we don't see each other she is egbira and I had no issue with it. 3 weeks to the relationship I was already proposing marriage to her I went to see her parent and she came to see mine.
I am a faithful Muslim and so she is, so she bought the idea of settling down since we had started having sex and we both agreed it is not proper enough.
We both brought our family together but because of internal family issues on my side( I don't want to bore you with details) My dad didn't allow the small wedding arrangements to take place and he insisted it was so soon that we should take our time so it was suspended till further notice

To cut the long story short, recently before she left for school we had a little misunderstanding but even before our ish I didn't find her fascinating again, there was a time she was robbed she lost her phone and all her money they stole her ATM and withdraw all the money she had for her school resumption. With a little help from me she was able to go back to school

But guys I barely call her again, I lost interest in her and I can't even explain why, she had begged me countless time but yet, I just find it difficult to vibe with her again, I am so confuse right now, one part of me says I should continue the relationship one the long run I would start liking her again another part is saying other wise, if it is just 4month to the relationship and I am already feeling like this what if we start living together

I need your advise guys should I continue or call it off, do you guys think I might later start liking her back, this is a girl I can't do without before I just can't explain why the sudden loose of interest

I don't know who among you forced yourself to visit each other parents under the little period you have known yourself

Well don't tell her no yet, allow the relationship to grow, even if yt means that it will take another one year round

Your father may have seen what you didn't see

So relax and watch yourself and the relationship

So make your extensive research about people from that axis