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Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Odebayo4010(m): 12:20pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Ejiakusmith: Since you had stamp it in your heart to live life with that mentality,have you get positive results? |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by bestdudes: 12:20pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Cheeryfeet:Well, it not kpekus I am after... I even made it known that we can hang out and visit places together. I am just being too overprotective cos a lot of Nigerian girls have a way they behave and I do not want to bring any kind of disrespect to my person or a case where it look like I am forcing myself on someone. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by bestdudes: 12:23pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
EdiskyHarry:lol...I used to be like you who think money and business is the koko... if you dont learn how women operate, you will suffer for it. Money is not everything... I dey hustle like mad... 5 Likes |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by bestdudes: 12:23pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Ogaonos:They are likely above 24. |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Thattallgirl(f): 12:26pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
bestdudes:Okay. Yea there is. Although it is obvious the ladies you mentioned aren't interested in you, not every lady "forms" when they want friendship before any relationship. I may be wrong but if some men are of the opinion that they want someone who hasn't had body counts before, then they shouldn't expect ladies to just jump into a relationship without getting to be friends first because the truth is that, unless a man is actually ready (within a year) to marry, it's hard to find men who will date a lady without having sex. I dunno if you understand Some will want to test the product before buying it. What now happens if they aren't compatible sexually? Shey that's how the lady will be jumping from one guy to another to find her match? In conclusion lol, what I'm saying is that friendship is the basis of every relationship. When love fades, friendship still stands. It doesn't mean you'll be friends for years or something before dating. It just in a way, helps you understand the person better than when you're dating and you're both putting your best foot forward and trying to hide your flaws. Again, I may be wrong lol. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by BobbieZion(m): 12:31pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
bestdudes: When it comes to Women forget about basic human decency, only your guys can acknowledge that. And stop been too kind....it makes you kind of too nice, women don't like nice guys. Be good, but be cocky and unapologetic, that will get you far. And never spend your energy and time on Women. I learnt this from experience...... 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by OvertheTop(m): 12:31pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
AbujaMenFashion: Although these features do not Guarantee Long Lasting Relationship, It is a Crime to look out for these features? 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by SPAMBOX7: 12:34pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
In all your experiences all I can deduce is you lack game. Women naturally take anything that has to do with their opposite gender for a game. So if you lack game you prolly gonna suffer in their hands whether you have good intentions or not. Like where you were asking her if she is another relationship already sold you out as someone who know nothing about game. You don't ask a woman you wanna smash or get into a relationship if she's in a relationship. A woman should be the one to ask you "what are we" "Are we in a relationship" or "what do we call this thing we are doing?" Not the other way round. Na why guys wey still dey ask girls out always losing or being taken for granted. Learn game 6 Likes |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Ogaonos: 12:36pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
bestdudes:i read thru ur write up.no b only u such as happen to.the truth is the1st girl is d i jux want to enter social platform because am bored.a guy wrote a thread about it on nairaland they are time wasters. 2nd lady is d normal money cautions lady which is common in ladies of nwadays which is caused by yahoo bois excessive expensive . 3rd lady is nt intrested maybe she has a bf or ecpnomic situation has make her focus on making money. NUTSHELL IS NIGERIAN LADIES DNT KNW HW TO CHAT ND HAVE LOW SENSE OF HUMOR.COMPARE TO WHITES OR NIGERIAN BAE WHERE JAKPA GO ABOARD ND CHANGE HER NIGERIA LADY MENTALITY. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by OvertheTop(m): 12:38pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Ekejoestar: It is normal for a Lady to do that: to Avoid the feeling of being too cheap to get. its called: Anti-Slut Mechanism ASD so as a guy, you need to be a little more persistent OR free am if you don't have time (which is a luxury) |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by MadarasBlade(m): 12:38pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
olabrinks: Then he did well to leave her alone, he shouldn't go about convincing people to pick up their phone, should he? 3 Likes |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by faithfull18(f): 12:40pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Divay2:Lol, okay na, let me help you loud it. |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by SIRTee15: 12:49pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
bestdudes: I don't think u really have a good understanding of women. That's the main problem I see. Except u be star like davido or your wallet is heavy like E-money. No naija girl will fall for you in an instant, u need to put an effort. Your case may be easier if u be correct handsome bobo or if u can engage girls in conversation and make them laff efortlessly- girls like guys that put them in that laughter mood. From your post it's obvious u don't have any of the above qualities, that automatically makes you an average Joe. In that case, hit and miss will be your relationship history. Nothing to be ashamed of, majority of men falls into same category. Forget what so call red pillers will come here to brag and teach about. That school is different from reality on the street. As some already said, u need patience and wisdom to navigate the complexity of a woman's heart without losing yourself. Let women know your intention but do not ask them out immediately unless you sure she's into u. Girls know when a guy is interested in them and will react accordingly. If they give u an outright cold shoulder, drop it and move on. If their face shout YES, then go for it if u like what u see. However, for your likes most women will take a cool and cautious approach. It means u are one of the many men approaching her, u not top spot but maybe u got potential she's considering. That's the simple truth. The way u play your game and her circumstances will determine the final outcome. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Ogaonos: 12:50pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
[quote author=bestdudes post=118463081] lol...I used to be like you who think money and business is the koko... if you dont learn how women operate, you will suffer for it. M my problem is dt we d male gender ignore male child nd iz causing problem.what bestdudes has outline is a big problem dt we guys are facing.nd no one is teaching we guys hw to solve d problem for example,hw to chatup a lady as a student nd as a graduate wrking hw to sustain conversation with a nigerian lady bcoz they cant bring up conversation what topic do ladies esp nigerian ladies love to gist about (for we guys is football english premier league to be precise ,while old men is politics is their favourite topic while women ( married /older women)na to gossip other pple family nd marriges.or marriages.but ladies nd bae i no knw don try find no fit get a single clue 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by bestdudes: 12:54pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Thattallgirl: Even if you are not interested in a person, is that a reason to lack basic human decency? I may be wrong but if some men are of the opinion that they want someone who hasn't had body counts before, then they shouldn't expect ladies to just jump into a relationship without getting to be friends first because the truth is that, unless a man is actually ready (within a year) to marry, it's hard to find men who will date a lady without having sex. I dunno if you understand I have ended up 3 relationships without sex. You can't even tie me down with sex cos I do not bond with women via sex. It is not about sex for me. It is how you engage me, how you communicate and you reciprocate. I do not even belong to guys who rate this virginity and that is because of my experience, Being a virgin does not mean you are a good person, Some will want to test the product before buying it. What now happens if they aren't compatible sexually? Shey that's how the lady will be jumping from one guy to another to find her match?I get but at least, maintain some good rapport with whomever you are interacting with, especially when they have not talked about sex or dating you but trying to know you on basic levels. There is something called courtesy, Maintain it. It does not cause a dime. In conclusion lol, what I'm saying is that friendship is the basis of every relationship. When love fades, friendship still stands. It doesn't mean you'll be friends for years or something before dating. It just in a way, helps you understand the person better than when you're dating and you're both putting your best foot forward and trying to hide your flaws. Again, I may be wrong lol. How can you be friends with people who have the kind of character that I described? For instance, I wanted a situation whereby I and the 3rd girl, cos she is my location, can visit places together, and have some interactions like friends would, which is something I have even told her and the best she can do to engage in with one-liners. Mind you I didn't ever mention she should visit my house, that is left to her. She is not ready. 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Aaaaarghmed(m): 12:54pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
I met a lady on fb ,we dey talk and I asked her what she studied,she said the question is unnecessary that wether I wan give her job.I just blocked her immidiately abeg,I cant shout. 5 Likes |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Parizz: 12:56pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
wirinet:it is people like you that make girls take men for granted. Simp. These liabilities have nothing to offer yet you work hard to have them. A girl who is serious will never play hard to get when there are millions of options for men. Dey there dey do reason like mumu 6 Likes |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by RealNiggaDee(m): 12:56pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Na you get time to dey impress women . Find am something, knack her once or twice and jejely move on , let other niggas chop too. Don't be selfish . Treat women as business 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by bestdudes: 12:59pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
SIRTee15: You have a point to some extent and I am not even talking about being perfect. I am talking about basic human decency which seems to be lacking in these girls. Let's forget about relationship or whatever. 3 Likes |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by EdiskyHarry: 1:01pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
bestdudes:Lol, if you have been in Nigeria for the past ten years, by now you should have known how women operate in this part of the world. |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by bestdudes: 1:01pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
wirinet:lol boss, na cos I know u for long sha... but you do not force things with women. Let the ones who return your energy be kept and let the others go. It saves everyone time. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by SPAMBOX7: 1:01pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
DoMeGood09:But if she's really ugly and you tell her that he no go work o 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by bestdudes: 1:05pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Ogaonos:You summed it up perfectedly, It is why I let the first one go because I know she has many dudes on queue. yeah, that second one is money driven and I didnt even waste time. the 3rd one is weird.... 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Boc007(m): 1:06pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Though I agree with op but I have one thing against you. Let’s say an ugly girl that you sense is crushing on you, texted you like you did. I guess you may look for a way to end the conversation instead of carrying her along. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by DoMeGood09: 1:06pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
SPAMBOX7:Hahaha. If she’s ugly, I would tell her that she’s pretty. I could recall some time ago, I met this pretty young lady, just told her that she looks ugly and that sparked her curious towards but unfortunately, she wasn’t a wife material. |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by JASONjnr(m): 1:07pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Basalt: You should try to be open.... She's not going to bite you.... |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by TheExclusive: 1:08pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Aaaaarghmed:Loool. I don laugh tire. Some ladies are very useless bro. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Dearlord(m): 1:11pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
I have just finished reading a story of a guy who is advertising his singlehood/bachelorhood . To all my single ladies, hurry up and grab your man asap |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by Thattallgirl(f): 1:21pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
bestdudes:I know. I wasn't against you ignoring those three. That's why I said it's obvious they're not interested in any form of communication with you. I have ended up 3 relationships without sex. You can't even tie me down with sex cos I do not bond with women via sex. It is not about sex for me. It is how you engage me, how you communicate and you reciprocate. I do not even belong to guys who rate this virginity and that is because of my experience, Being a virgin does not mean you are a good person,Cool. I was only telling you not all ladies who do not say yes to date a guy who showed interest is forming. I'm not talking about you rating virginity. I'm saying it's one of the many reasons some ladies decide to hold on before saying yes to any guy who probably in the next 5 years may not want to marry, and with no guarantee that they'll end up together. Every lady with her own reasons on why she wants friendship first but some guys are not patient enough to see if she's gonna be worth it after all. (again I'm not talking about the three ladies) I get but at least, maintain some good rapport with whomever you are interacting with, especially when they have not talked about sex or dating you but trying to know you on basic levels. There is something called courtesy, Maintain it. It does not cause a dime.I get. I like good communication too but I can't force anyone to also have basic human decency. If they don't, that's fine. It's up to me to leave or stay and give the person the benefit of the doubt. How can you be friends with people who have the kind of character that I described? For instance, I wanted a situation whereby I and the 3rd girl, cos she is my location, can visit places together, and have some interactions like friends would, which is something I have even told her and the best she can do to engage in with one-liners. Mind you I didn't ever mention she should visit my house, that is left to her. She is not ready.I wasn't talking about those three girls. I only mentioned them when I said they weren't interested. I'm talking about someone new that you guys are chatting and all that. I'm not saying you should be friends with someone who isn't even ready to have a conversation with you. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by jeromestarks: 1:21pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Odebayo4010: I went for test today. It came out negative |
Re: Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In. by OvertheTop(m): 1:25pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Indispensable85: Don't be Over joyous About all these ..... They have Inner, Deeper Meanings...... 1 Like 1 Share |
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